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Sorry brotha, but I can't allow you to do this. I'm not going to sit here and drop the usual cliche on how you can improve your life. I'm sure you heard it all before. I can only tell you that I know how you feel. My whole life I have been battling with mental health problems because of a fucked up childhood. I was only a kid when I first tried to end my life. I could never dream of a day where things would have gotten better for me.. but it did. There's no cookie-cutter solution I can give you that would immediately improve your life. We are all different and your particular outlook on life is a product of your own life experiences.

I know though my own experiences and interacting with others who were contemplating suicide that the main source of our angst is our own toxic mindset and loneliness. There is nothing wrong with you. Just to put it into context, if you were the same person you are now, but surrounded by many who adored and loved you, your outlook on life and yourself would be drastically different. In a way your validation of yourself and your life comes externally instead of from within. Because your life is void of many elements that you believe is needed to constitute a satisfying life you have come to the conclusion that it is not worth living.

If you believe race is a major contributor to your misery than remove race as a factor. Move to an Asian enclave where you are the majority and no one would give a second thought about your race.

If your dead end job is reinforcing this perception of yourself of being a person of little value than find something that will give you fulfillment. It doesn't have to be something that brings you a shitload of money, but just something that you can be proud of or you enjoy doing. Heck, if you're seriously thinking about ending your life, go balls to the wall and start your own business on the side! It can be anything that you have interest in. With outsourcing (cheap labor), cloud, and the wealth of information online, you can start many businesses without much capital. At my gf's workplace there's this doctor who didn't become one until he was 45. It's never too late to pursue whatever you want if you have the drive and willingness.

If past failed dating experiences have jaded your views on relationship than replace it with new experiences. The truth is, most of us have had bad experiences at one time or another. Most people in general make shitty partners. But don't let a few rotten apples prevent you from hopping on the horse and trying again. Download every dating apps you can think of, go on those dating meetups, or do whatever you have to do get your tip wet or find that true love if that's what you're looking for. There are just as many women out there who are single and nearing middle age/30s+ that are in desperate need of loving. For women it's even more difficult being single when you start getting older. Worst comes to worst, tap into the divorcee pool and get yourself a heartbroken hunny looking for a rebound.

If you have few close friends than it's time to make some more by opening yourself up and actively seeking some. A solid homie is not just going to pop up in your life. Good friends are hard to come by and takes work like any relationship. What are your interests or hobbies? It's easier to make friends when you have a common interest. There's a meetup, convention, local chapter, etc. for everything you can possibly conceive of. If being Asian is a big part of your identity and life, go join an Asian org or asian club sports team at your local community center. There's leagues for every age range, so you can find others similar to yourself. Once you graduate college, it's difficult for most to make new meaningful friendship. You're going to have to put in the effort. Finding that bromance is no different than find a great woman.

Ultimately, you don't have to be different to belong. You just have to find your place. For some it comes easy and natural, for others we have to work for it. The moment you adopt a defeatist attitude is the day you pretty much accepted that life is unfair and hard but it's not within your control to dictate. We both know that's not true. Yes, your cards may be stacked against you. Yes, being Asian is like playing hardcore mode in America, but it's not impossible. All you have to do is get more skilled at playing the game of life.

Ask yourself what you really want out of life. Make a list of short term/long term goals, things you want do, see, accomplish however big or small. Having a direction in life and something to work towards is very important because it gives our lives meaning.

And all it really takes is one person to really change our lives around. Whether it is yourself after finding that self-empowerment or through another, don't lose hope until the very end. We become discontent with our lives when our lives become stagnant. Progress is important. Keep working on yourself, read and watch a shitload of self-help books and videos. Start caring less about what other people think. Put yourself out there. Open yourself up to the world. Take risks. And after all this if you still feel the same than at least you have the satisfaction knowing that you didn't leave one rock left unturned and you lived your life to the fullest.

I recommend this book to you. It can help you on adopting a new outlook on life and replacing it with your current toxic views: https://www.amazon.com/Heart-Buddhas-Teaching-Transforming-Liberation/dp/0767903692/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1482592780&sr=8-3&keywords=buddhism

You deserve to be happy. You have to let yourself. Happiness is a state of mind. It truly is. Buddhist monks in Bhutan are considered the happiest in the world, yet they have none of the things you speak of. It's like if you took an exam for class that was hard af, and you just found out you aced it. Immediately, your whole day starts looking brighter and everything starts going your way. The exam itself did not give you the feeling of happiness or your newfound positive outlook on life, it's just a meaningless piece of paper.. you did. You created that sensation, that release of hormones, by perceiving things in a more positive lens. You have to become aware that your perception and reality is not actually reality. It is a sum of your own bias life experiences and exposures. Keep fighting for the life you want. We're all rooting for you brotha!

You're short, you have acne, you dress poorly, you're no fun to be around, you have no friends/squad, you're shy/introverted/won't approach, you look like a boy and have no authority, you have no sexual experience ... why do you think you should have a girlfriend again?

I know I'm being harsh, but the earlier you learn this the better: you must offer value. Otherwise why do you think anyone would be with you?

Work on the things you can, accept the things you can't.

Short - no solution.

Acne - eat better, sleep better, see a dermatologist.

Learn to dress better.

Finally, learn to socialize. This will have all kind of cascading effects. You will be more fun to be around, you will have a squad, you will have authority based on your friends' opinions of you. It definitely won't be easy, and sure, it goes against what you think is your fundamental nature, but right now, your fundamental nature is also to be girlfriendless. How badly do you want to change the situation?

Some tips for being more sociable: Be generous with your time and thoughts. Compliment people. Listen to them. Think about what they need and offer to help them. Again, you must offer value. Sometimes you won't get anything back. That's part of the pain of the learning process. Let that unrequited kindness go.

Here's a book that may help you with your introverted nature. In part, the author recommends faking it until you make it. Make it into a game, so you can step away, and you can reward yourself for small bit of progress:

https://www.amazon.ca/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153

Hey, sorry for replying so late. So which state are you in? I'm pretty sure you need a PTCB certification and a state registration to apply for a hospital job.

You need to study a book for the PTCB examination. Some people recommend going to school, but I only studied a book to pass the PTCB test. It's quite easy.

I recommend this book:

http://smile.amazon.com/Mosbys-Pharmacy-Technician-Certification-Examination/dp/0323113370/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1413195737&sr=8-1&keywords=mosby%27s+guide+pharmacy+technician

Pretty straightforward and easy to understand. Afterwards, just take the test. Make sure you are ready because it costs 150+ per exam and you can only have three tries per 6 months (or something like that).

When you get your PTCB certification, apply for the state registration. There's no requirements but your record must be clean.

Once you get both, apply for a hospital job. Always aim high, you never know where it'll get you. And never go for a retail pharmacy job.

Hope it helps.

I think one thing to do is not only get your kid into the athletic side of sports, but also to the career or academic side of it. Rather than encourage your kid to be an athlete, you should be promoting the concept of becoming an athlete/coach or athlete/trainer or athlete/manager, etc.

Just having your kid trying to become the best athlete is very short sighted, and you're limiting the potential success of your kid through sports. Let's be honest, your kid isn't going to be the next Pacquiao. But he could become a great trainer with a bunch of gyms in the area he lives in, well connected to the boxing industry. He could become an executive or manager or trainer within the industry. You could have your kid learn math through sports for example. There's plenty of nerdy analysis in all sports, since Moneyball came out.

Sorry but I have to disagree. I really think vegetarianism is extremely bad for Indians. First of all, those wrestlers are a small minority chosen from a very large Indian population. They most likely already had amazing genetics for getting huge and may have given up education in the pursuit of training. I'll bet they also drink loads of milk and would be even bigger if they ate meat. In general though, child malnutrition in India is on par with sub-Saharan Africa.

EDIT: Sorry, that image didn't work because of the way that website is written. Here is the original article. Scroll down to see the graph on meat consumed per capita: http://www.wsj.com/articles/how-to-satisfy-the-worlds-surging-appetite-for-meat-1449238059?mod=trending_now_2

This shows the amount of meat consumed per capita by country. India is among the lowest, while South Korea is relatively high up. South Korea has one of the highest heights among Asians if I'm not mistaken. India is one of the shortest, or equal to North Korea. Anecdotally, the pediatrician I used to go to told my mom that Indians raised in the US tend to be bigger and taller than Indians that grew up in India.

My parents would actually tell me to eat a lot of home cooked Gujurati food, like rotli saak, darbhat (dunno the proper romanization). Basically thin bread, potatos with spices that made me smell bad in high school, and rice in a lentil soup. And they'd let me drink all the soda I'd want as a 5 year old when we went to weddings and Indian social gatherings. They'd yell at my brother for not eating enough. So it might be a bit different than East Asian cultures that encourage not eating too much. But I think it makes Indians fat off of eating a diet with too much carbohydrates. East Asians tend to be a lot leaner and more likely to have abs in my experience. Also, Gujurati food is gross. I never liked it as a child and not one of my cousins really liked traditional Gujurati food growing up. It's really an acquired taste and I think this kind of diet stems from the colonial mentality of food scarcity and the remains of famine-era reliance on cheap sources of calories. Statistically, richer people start eating meat more often, but Indians are often held back by culture.

Churchill avoided sending much needed grain to India innumerable times during and before famines, some of which could have been prevented. He instead used a lot of the food budget to make sure the British back home were getting enough meat. And these days, the British still eat a lot of meat, and their country is pretty tall.

For more info, I recommend this book: http://www.amazon.com/Churchills-Secret-War-British-Ravaging/dp/0465024815/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1449519713&sr=8-1&keywords=churchills+secret+war

Before the British came to India, Hindus and Muslims lived in relative harmony. They would go to pray at mosques and temples without discretion in those times. Considering that and the fact that Hindus today are able to somehow mangle their beliefs so that they can eat chicken and fish, I'm sure Hindus in the past ate some meat while in contact with Muslim friends, if only occasionally. I think the real reason Indians don't eat meat is because of British-engineered famine, and the resulting poverty and reliance on cheap sources of calories such as grain. This became part of the culture over the 200 years of occupation and is still present even among immigrants.

Sorry, this post is a bit long and slapdash. Also, no disrespect toward you, just have to disagree. I appreciate you guys maintaining these boards and ensuring we have an outlet and a voice.

This is my carefully crafted list according to friends/reddit and other sources. enjoy

Skin Care (in order of application)

Hada Labo Rohto Gokujyn Hyaluronic Acid Cleansing Foam, 160ml

https://www.amazon.com/Hadalabo-Hyaluronic-Moisture-Foaming-Cleanser/dp/B01CE5P580/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_194_img_0?_encoding=UTF8&refRID=8BPEN2920DV06DVRDHW1&th=1

Klairs Unscented Toner

https://www.amazon.com/Preparation-Unscented-lightweight-essential-oil-free/dp/B07B65NJLV/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?keywords=Klairs+Unscented+Toner&qid=1563824014&s=beauty&sr=1-1-spons&psc=1

Time Revolution MISHA Essence

https://www.amazon.com/MISSHA-Revolution-Intensive-Treatment-Essence/dp/B01M0XSD38/ref=sr_1_7?keywords=MISHA+Time+Revolution+Night+Repair+AMPOULE&qid=1563824002&s=beauty&sr=1-7

MISHA Time Revolution Night Repair AMPOULE

https://www.amazon.com/Revolution-Science-Activator-Ampoule-MS04-Ampoule/dp/B01GVD228M/ref=sr_1_6?keywords=MISHA+Time+Revolution+Night+Repair+AMPOULE&qid=1563823988&s=beauty&sr=1-6

CNP Laboratory 50 SPF sunscreen (since it doesnt burn like others)- i bought in korea,

Also seems promising is La Roche-Posay Anthelios Cooling Water Lotion Sunscreen

https://www.amazon.com/Roche-Posay-Anthelios-Cooling-Lotion-Sunscreen/dp/B00TBJWP9K/ref=sr_1_2_sspa?keywords=CNP%2BLaboratory%2B50%2BSPF%2Bsunscreen&qid=1563824026&s=beauty&sr=1-2-spons&th=1

Belif The True Cream Aqua Bomb MOISTURIZER

https://www.amazon.com/belif-True-Cream-Aqua-Korean/dp/B00H4GOAZO/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=belief+aqua+bomb&qid=1563824165&s=beauty&sr=1-2

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Maintenance skincare masks:

Innisfree Jeju Volcanic Clay Mousse Mask Original (I only use twice a week)

https://www.amazon.com/Innisfree-Volcanic-Mousse-Original-100Ml/dp/B013K9METC/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_194_t_0?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=1ZWR6ZCQ7GFJK6TKKWSH

Innisfree skin clinic mask-Madecassoside(10 sheets)- Use like every other day

\^ hands down the best face mask

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01EDU19E8/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o06_s00?ie=UTF8&th=1

> War and brothels go hand in hand with emasculating of Asian male and hypersexualizing of Asian female that got enforced by 3 wars which consolidate it and because it wasn't challenged, its harder to break the stereotype because it is so entrenched.

I would like to take this opportunity to pull a great quote from Viet Thahn Nguyen's Pulitzer prize winning novel, The Sympathizer:

> I am merely noting that the creation of native prostitutes to service foreign privates is an inevitable outcome of a war of occupation, one of those nasty little side effects of defending freedom that all the wives, sisters, girlfriends, mothers, pastors, and politicians in Smallville, USA, pretend to ignore behind waxed and buffed walls of teeth as they welcome their soldiers home, ready to treat any unmentionable afflictions with the penicillin of American goodness.

well shane gillis did say chink, but more likely is that his Jewish producer pressured/encouraged/influenced him to try out an "edgy" comedy routine involving asian people. Shane is just a pawn for the media company.

also check out the book by Noam Chomsky: "Manufacturing Consent" - how the media companies have pretty much gotten it down to a science of how to influence the thoughts in people's heads. that is why i don't blame people for having negative views on asian people since they are being hypnotized all day by MSM.

Most people are not self aware to realize all the subtle micro suggestions from the media to influence our everyday actions. i know u are being facetious but i am confident you will see the truth soon :)

John M. Gottman P.H.D. writes excellent guides to relationships using actual studies that he conducts.. My therapist recommended me the following book,

https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Cure-Strengthening-Marriage-Friendships/dp/0609809539/ref=sr_1_3?crid=1RTXRQ6DQSGOI&keywords=the+relationship+cure+by+john+gottman&qid=1566217663&s=gateway&sprefix=the+relationship+cure%2Caps%2C177&sr=8-3

This book has been so helpful for me in recognizing social cues and maintaining relationships how I want.

The guy also writes other books on dating and marriage which I assume are just as high quality (They are on my to read list).

I wish you good luck!

Yes, I am very interested.

I meant self-improvement in academics/skill acquisition. Something like this book. Do you know any Chinese/Asian books on stuff like this?

Thanks for the write up!

I'm obviously a Trump supporter. You can look at my post history and see that easily. I don't know what you think there is no evidence for, but your understanding of the facts on the ground is incorrect.

AA admits don't benefit from attending schools they are not qualified to attend:
https://www.amazon.com/Mismatch-Affirmative-Students-%C2%92s-Universities/dp/0465029965?
What prompted this study is the authors noticed that although the admission rate of URMs fell in California after Prop 209, the graduation rate after four years did not. The same number of black and Latino kids were actually completing their degrees--because that is what standardized tests tell you: how prepared you are for a college education.

Non-Jewish whites v. Whites? Here you go. In the Ivy League white enrollment is around 40-50%, despite the fact that white people are still 60% of the US population. But what you never see is the breakdown of Jewish and non-Jewish white. Jews make up on average a little less than half of the white demographic at those schools, despite being less than 2% of the US population. This of course makes sense when something like 80% of the presidents of the Ivy League and innumerable administrators, including admissions officers, are Jewish. You never see those numbers:
https://www.theamericanconservative.com/articles/the-myth-of-american-meritocracy/

From my personal understanding, I think they're talking about archetypes of masculinity and it comes from this:

http://www.amazon.com/King-Warrior-Magician-Lover-Rediscovering/dp/0062506064

and you can get a primer of the book from this:

http://www.artofmanliness.com/2011/07/31/king-warrior-magician-lover-introduction/

and further more, you can listen to David DeAngelo / Dr. Paul talk about it on this:

http://www.last.fm/music/David+DeAngelo/On+Being+a+Man+%28Who+Naturally+Attracts+Women%29

how about comic books (Graphic novel)?

American Born Chinese by Gene Luen Yang:

A really simple, nicely drawn Graphic novel and poignant story of an ABC boy struggling with his identity, Asian American stereotypes, and guest starring the monkey king:

http://www.amazon.com/American-Born-Chinese-Gene-Luen/dp/0312384483

Adrian Tomine's "Shortcomings":

The protagonist is Japanese American but it's the same struggle of the Asian American male's identity, relationship and hankering of white women.

http://www.amazon.com/Shortcomings-Adrian-Tomine/dp/1897299753/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8

Why are white men so obsessed with penis?

...

because they are pedophiles and child molesters.

They need to be sterilized for the sake of the world.

My proof is this http://www.amazon.com/Unspeakable-Father-Daughter-Incest-American-History/dp/0801893003

The intellectual framework that explains many of the questions brought up in the podcast about the current state of American politics can be summed up
in two seminal books, A Conflict of Visions and
The Fourth Turning. After completing these two
volumes, Fox News will suddenly start making sense to you, since some of the language and terms used by the right wing are quite literally incomprehensible (what's "unconstrained vision"?) without these guides.

 

The first book in particular, about the distinction between people and processes, is very relevant today. Why does America tolerate a racist, misogynist, xenophobe? Because one won the election fair and square, while the other stole the
primary nomination from Bernie. So the right wingers are focused on the election process (regardless of candidate), and the left wingers are focused on the candidates (regardless of process). We are literally talking past each other when we don't
grasp this fundamental difference; no communication can take place.

 

About the creation of an Asian-American political voice, the right wing view is that more identity politics is NOT the answer. Again, the distinction between people and processes. We don't want to focus on Asian people (or Black people, or Green people...), instead we want to focus
on the process. BLM is an anger that exists because Obama didn't really make black peoples lives significantly better. Having a hypothetical Asian-American man in the White House wouldn't make our lives significantly better either. And having a racist, misogynist, xenophobe there won't make our lives
significantly worse either, and that's what processes are all about. Checks and balances built-in the system, as opposed to having a god-like dictator who's above the law.

 

If you are short on time, at least glance over the first 100 pages of A Conflict of Visions. The explanatory power of his thesis is profound, and reveals why we should fear the left much more (think 18th century French Revolution, which is what today's not-my-president protesters want).

Show Notes

• 1. State Shinto
     
• 2. Armenian Genocide
     
• 3. Japanese American labor struggles
     
• 4. More on Asian American farmworkers
     
• 5. Early Republic of China history
     
• 6. Meiji Restoration, Japan
     
• 7. Mexican American farmworkers vs white nationalist oligarchs in Orange County, 1930s
     
• 8. Operation Wetback
     
• 9. Anti-Mexican lynchings
     
• 10. Spanish Civil War, overview
      
• 11. Homage to Catalonia, by George Orwell
      
• 12. Government structure of Switzerland
      
• 13. Democratic government without a state in Rojva, Syria
      
• 14. Vice doco about Rojava
      
      

I think the target audience of the emasculation of Asian men in western media, such as Hollywood, is white women. There were many Chinese men and Irish women relations during the end of 19th century in Cali and NY, so the west started using the media as a tool to discourage AMWF relationships. It's all boil down to racism and "taking our women" mentality.

https://www.amazon.com/Chinatown-Trunk-Mystery-Turn---Century/dp/0691130485/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1376528408&sr=8-1-fkmr0&keywords=chinatown+steam+trunk+murder+mystery