(Part 3) Top products from r/AsianMasculinity

Sorry brotha, but I can't allow you to do this. I'm not going to sit here and drop the usual cliche on how you can improve your life. I'm sure you heard it all before. I can only tell you that I know how you feel. My whole life I have been battling with mental health problems because of a fucked up childhood. I was only a kid when I first tried to end my life. I could never dream of a day where things would have gotten better for me.. but it did. There's no cookie-cutter solution I can give you that would immediately improve your life. We are all different and your particular outlook on life is a product of your own life experiences.

I know though my own experiences and interacting with others who were contemplating suicide that the main source of our angst is our own toxic mindset and loneliness. There is nothing wrong with you. Just to put it into context, if you were the same person you are now, but surrounded by many who adored and loved you, your outlook on life and yourself would be drastically different. In a way your validation of yourself and your life comes externally instead of from within. Because your life is void of many elements that you believe is needed to constitute a satisfying life you have come to the conclusion that it is not worth living.

If you believe race is a major contributor to your misery than remove race as a factor. Move to an Asian enclave where you are the majority and no one would give a second thought about your race.

If your dead end job is reinforcing this perception of yourself of being a person of little value than find something that will give you fulfillment. It doesn't have to be something that brings you a shitload of money, but just something that you can be proud of or you enjoy doing. Heck, if you're seriously thinking about ending your life, go balls to the wall and start your own business on the side! It can be anything that you have interest in. With outsourcing (cheap labor), cloud, and the wealth of information online, you can start many businesses without much capital. At my gf's workplace there's this doctor who didn't become one until he was 45. It's never too late to pursue whatever you want if you have the drive and willingness.

If past failed dating experiences have jaded your views on relationship than replace it with new experiences. The truth is, most of us have had bad experiences at one time or another. Most people in general make shitty partners. But don't let a few rotten apples prevent you from hopping on the horse and trying again. Download every dating apps you can think of, go on those dating meetups, or do whatever you have to do get your tip wet or find that true love if that's what you're looking for. There are just as many women out there who are single and nearing middle age/30s+ that are in desperate need of loving. For women it's even more difficult being single when you start getting older. Worst comes to worst, tap into the divorcee pool and get yourself a heartbroken hunny looking for a rebound.

If you have few close friends than it's time to make some more by opening yourself up and actively seeking some. A solid homie is not just going to pop up in your life. Good friends are hard to come by and takes work like any relationship. What are your interests or hobbies? It's easier to make friends when you have a common interest. There's a meetup, convention, local chapter, etc. for everything you can possibly conceive of. If being Asian is a big part of your identity and life, go join an Asian org or asian club sports team at your local community center. There's leagues for every age range, so you can find others similar to yourself. Once you graduate college, it's difficult for most to make new meaningful friendship. You're going to have to put in the effort. Finding that bromance is no different than find a great woman.

Ultimately, you don't have to be different to belong. You just have to find your place. For some it comes easy and natural, for others we have to work for it. The moment you adopt a defeatist attitude is the day you pretty much accepted that life is unfair and hard but it's not within your control to dictate. We both know that's not true. Yes, your cards may be stacked against you. Yes, being Asian is like playing hardcore mode in America, but it's not impossible. All you have to do is get more skilled at playing the game of life.

Ask yourself what you really want out of life. Make a list of short term/long term goals, things you want do, see, accomplish however big or small. Having a direction in life and something to work towards is very important because it gives our lives meaning.

And all it really takes is one person to really change our lives around. Whether it is yourself after finding that self-empowerment or through another, don't lose hope until the very end. We become discontent with our lives when our lives become stagnant. Progress is important. Keep working on yourself, read and watch a shitload of self-help books and videos. Start caring less about what other people think. Put yourself out there. Open yourself up to the world. Take risks. And after all this if you still feel the same than at least you have the satisfaction knowing that you didn't leave one rock left unturned and you lived your life to the fullest.

I recommend this book to you. It can help you on adopting a new outlook on life and replacing it with your current toxic views: https://www.amazon.com/Heart-Buddhas-Teaching-Transforming-Liberation/dp/0767903692/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1482592780&sr=8-3&keywords=buddhism

You deserve to be happy. You have to let yourself. Happiness is a state of mind. It truly is. Buddhist monks in Bhutan are considered the happiest in the world, yet they have none of the things you speak of. It's like if you took an exam for class that was hard af, and you just found out you aced it. Immediately, your whole day starts looking brighter and everything starts going your way. The exam itself did not give you the feeling of happiness or your newfound positive outlook on life, it's just a meaningless piece of paper.. you did. You created that sensation, that release of hormones, by perceiving things in a more positive lens. You have to become aware that your perception and reality is not actually reality. It is a sum of your own bias life experiences and exposures. Keep fighting for the life you want. We're all rooting for you brotha!

Just snagged a copy on amazon. I have a huge backlog on books to read but I'm excited. Any thoughts on this book other than a quote? What do you think about it? Also Eddie Huang's new book is coming out: "Double Cup Love: On the Trail of Family, Food, and Broken Hearts in China".

http://www.amazon.com/Double-Cup-Love-Family-Broken/dp/0812995465/

>In the follow-up to his bestselling coming-of-age memoir Fresh Off the Boat, now a hit show on ABC, celebrity chef Eddie Huang tells a powerful story about love and family and what really makes us who we are. After growing up in a wild first-generation immigrant family in the comically hostile world of suburban America, Huang begins to wonder just how authentic his Chinese identity really is. So he enlists his brothers Emery and Evan and returns to the country his ancestors abandoned. His immediate goal is to sample China’s best food and see if his cooking measures up to local tastes—but his deeper goals are to reconnect with his homeland, repair his frayed family relationships, decide whether to marry his all-American (well, all-Italian-American) girlfriend, and figure out just where to find meaning in his life.

My go-to book for a reference on discrimination against Asians and the construction of Asian masculinity within a white supremacist society is "Asian American Sexual Politics: The Construction of Race, Gender, and Sexuality" by Chou http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/14366163-asian-american-sexual-politics

There are tons of other brilliant books but I have yet to find one as eloquent as this piece.

In the book, Chou stresses that the construction of Asian masculinity is intrinsically tied to construction of masculinity for other people-of-color, like black people. Therefore, there are many overlaps between the social troubles that Asian folks face in Western countries with other people-of-color, even though not all of them are the same.

I am very interested in the African-American experience, because I feel that they experience racism much more deeply and appreciates the perniciousness of white supremacy more viscerally.

Many excellent books have came out this past year, such as:

Tears we Cannot Stop: A Sermon to White America by Michael Eric Dyson
https://www.amazon.com/Tears-We-Cannot-Stop-America/dp/1250135990

Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates
https://www.amazon.com/Between-World-Me-Ta-Nehisi-Coates/dp/0812993543/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8

And some classics:

White Like Me: Reflections on Race from a Privileged Son - Tim Wise

What does it Mean to be White - Robin DiAngelo

The Heart of Whiteness - Robert Jensen

I am not your Negro - James Baldwin

Any speech by Martin Luther King and Malcom X is just as good as any of these books. For a brief review on the history of racism and white supremacy in the United States with actual footages, I have found "Eyes on the Prize" series on YouTube offer a more than excellent recount https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ts10IVzUDVw

There are many African Americans who see parallels between their own struggle with those of Asian folks Why Black America should care about the Death of Danny Chen, therefore we must return the favor and stand with them and not against them in their struggle for human rights. And on the global scale, China and other countries in Asia must stand with African nations, we might fight the battle against white supremacy. We either rise together or we both get destroyed by this white supremacist world, there is literally no other way

Hey man, before you embark on these books and videos, I implore you to read The Effective Engineer by Edmond Lau

>I am trying accelerate my mental, spiritual, and physical growth

The book talks about high leverage activities as ways to maximize and optimize growth.

Basically, you just do the most productive task you can think of, in the least amount of time possible, and you're just constantly finding chunks of time to do more high leverage tasks.

And it's written sooo good. I fucking love his word economy, makes reading it so smooth.

Highly recommend it.

Sorry but I have to disagree. I really think vegetarianism is extremely bad for Indians. First of all, those wrestlers are a small minority chosen from a very large Indian population. They most likely already had amazing genetics for getting huge and may have given up education in the pursuit of training. I'll bet they also drink loads of milk and would be even bigger if they ate meat. In general though, child malnutrition in India is on par with sub-Saharan Africa.

EDIT: Sorry, that image didn't work because of the way that website is written. Here is the original article. Scroll down to see the graph on meat consumed per capita: http://www.wsj.com/articles/how-to-satisfy-the-worlds-surging-appetite-for-meat-1449238059?mod=trending_now_2

This shows the amount of meat consumed per capita by country. India is among the lowest, while South Korea is relatively high up. South Korea has one of the highest heights among Asians if I'm not mistaken. India is one of the shortest, or equal to North Korea. Anecdotally, the pediatrician I used to go to told my mom that Indians raised in the US tend to be bigger and taller than Indians that grew up in India.

My parents would actually tell me to eat a lot of home cooked Gujurati food, like rotli saak, darbhat (dunno the proper romanization). Basically thin bread, potatos with spices that made me smell bad in high school, and rice in a lentil soup. And they'd let me drink all the soda I'd want as a 5 year old when we went to weddings and Indian social gatherings. They'd yell at my brother for not eating enough. So it might be a bit different than East Asian cultures that encourage not eating too much. But I think it makes Indians fat off of eating a diet with too much carbohydrates. East Asians tend to be a lot leaner and more likely to have abs in my experience. Also, Gujurati food is gross. I never liked it as a child and not one of my cousins really liked traditional Gujurati food growing up. It's really an acquired taste and I think this kind of diet stems from the colonial mentality of food scarcity and the remains of famine-era reliance on cheap sources of calories. Statistically, richer people start eating meat more often, but Indians are often held back by culture.

Churchill avoided sending much needed grain to India innumerable times during and before famines, some of which could have been prevented. He instead used a lot of the food budget to make sure the British back home were getting enough meat. And these days, the British still eat a lot of meat, and their country is pretty tall.

For more info, I recommend this book: http://www.amazon.com/Churchills-Secret-War-British-Ravaging/dp/0465024815/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1449519713&sr=8-1&keywords=churchills+secret+war

Before the British came to India, Hindus and Muslims lived in relative harmony. They would go to pray at mosques and temples without discretion in those times. Considering that and the fact that Hindus today are able to somehow mangle their beliefs so that they can eat chicken and fish, I'm sure Hindus in the past ate some meat while in contact with Muslim friends, if only occasionally. I think the real reason Indians don't eat meat is because of British-engineered famine, and the resulting poverty and reliance on cheap sources of calories such as grain. This became part of the culture over the 200 years of occupation and is still present even among immigrants.

Sorry, this post is a bit long and slapdash. Also, no disrespect toward you, just have to disagree. I appreciate you guys maintaining these boards and ensuring we have an outlet and a voice.

> War and brothels go hand in hand with emasculating of Asian male and hypersexualizing of Asian female that got enforced by 3 wars which consolidate it and because it wasn't challenged, its harder to break the stereotype because it is so entrenched.

I would like to take this opportunity to pull a great quote from Viet Thahn Nguyen's Pulitzer prize winning novel, The Sympathizer:

> I am merely noting that the creation of native prostitutes to service foreign privates is an inevitable outcome of a war of occupation, one of those nasty little side effects of defending freedom that all the wives, sisters, girlfriends, mothers, pastors, and politicians in Smallville, USA, pretend to ignore behind waxed and buffed walls of teeth as they welcome their soldiers home, ready to treat any unmentionable afflictions with the penicillin of American goodness.

John M. Gottman P.H.D. writes excellent guides to relationships using actual studies that he conducts.. My therapist recommended me the following book,

https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Cure-Strengthening-Marriage-Friendships/dp/0609809539/ref=sr_1_3?crid=1RTXRQ6DQSGOI&keywords=the+relationship+cure+by+john+gottman&qid=1566217663&s=gateway&sprefix=the+relationship+cure%2Caps%2C177&sr=8-3

This book has been so helpful for me in recognizing social cues and maintaining relationships how I want.

The guy also writes other books on dating and marriage which I assume are just as high quality (They are on my to read list).

I wish you good luck!

I'm obviously a Trump supporter. You can look at my post history and see that easily. I don't know what you think there is no evidence for, but your understanding of the facts on the ground is incorrect.

AA admits don't benefit from attending schools they are not qualified to attend:
https://www.amazon.com/Mismatch-Affirmative-Students-%C2%92s-Universities/dp/0465029965?
What prompted this study is the authors noticed that although the admission rate of URMs fell in California after Prop 209, the graduation rate after four years did not. The same number of black and Latino kids were actually completing their degrees--because that is what standardized tests tell you: how prepared you are for a college education.

Non-Jewish whites v. Whites? Here you go. In the Ivy League white enrollment is around 40-50%, despite the fact that white people are still 60% of the US population. But what you never see is the breakdown of Jewish and non-Jewish white. Jews make up on average a little less than half of the white demographic at those schools, despite being less than 2% of the US population. This of course makes sense when something like 80% of the presidents of the Ivy League and innumerable administrators, including admissions officers, are Jewish. You never see those numbers:
https://www.theamericanconservative.com/articles/the-myth-of-american-meritocracy/

A good book to read about the Olmec Shang hypothesis is Gunnar Thompson's Nu Sun: Asian-American Voyages 500 BC

From my personal understanding, I think they're talking about archetypes of masculinity and it comes from this:

http://www.amazon.com/King-Warrior-Magician-Lover-Rediscovering/dp/0062506064

and you can get a primer of the book from this:

http://www.artofmanliness.com/2011/07/31/king-warrior-magician-lover-introduction/

and further more, you can listen to David DeAngelo / Dr. Paul talk about it on this:

http://www.last.fm/music/David+DeAngelo/On+Being+a+Man+%28Who+Naturally+Attracts+Women%29

Oops. Meant Brandeis and Yeshiva University as major Jew schools. Not tufts.

In the early 1900s the biggest competitors was CCNY that had lots of Jewish enrollment.

edit - so I am still researching, it seems that not much was written about how the Jewish Quotas were dropped.

best i could find was this book: The Half Opened Door - Discrimination at Harvard, Yale, and Princeton

I think if we look at the history, we can find out how did Harvard lose the Jewish quotas? most articles on web do not explain it - this requires more research/ conjecture.

• from another article, it appears that the elites post-ww2 took over the protestants (globalist bankers / the people who dragged the US into WW2 in Europe)
  
  >By the 1960's, a new elite was displacing the Protestant Establishment across American society. And the elite university presidents behaved like "intellectual investment bankers," in the words of Geoffrey Kabaservice, the author of "The Guardians," a book about Yale. They realized, as Karabel writes, that they would profit in the long run if they dumped "stocks that showed signs of slipping" - the old Protestant bluebloods - and invested "in an array of newer stocks that, while perhaps riskier, promised higher rates of return": the rising meritocrats.
  
  https://newrepublic.com/article/67613/the-end-elite
  
  it seems that the end of jewish quotas came with the rise of the liberal establishment, but from our own experiences, I find that liberals were the most racist towards asians.
  
  https://www.amazon.com/The-Chosen-Admission-Exclusion-Princeton/dp/061877355X?tag=bisafetynet2-20
  
  >Many of Karabel’s findings are astonishing: the admission of blacks into the Ivy League wasn’t an idealistic response to the civil rights movement but a fearful reaction to inner-city riots; Yale and Princeton decided to accept women only after realizing that they were losing men to colleges (such as Harvard and Stanford) that had begun accepting “the second sex”; Harvard had a systematic quota on “intellectuals” until quite recently; and discrimination against Asian Americans in the 1980s mirrored the treatment of Jews earlier in the century.
  
  ^ I would read Karabel's book - it follows my own hunch that it is all a power play by the institution. If we believe that institutions exist to perpetuate themselves and to keep the existing power structure, I would surmise that only existential threats would be able to spur the necessary changes. That is why I strongly believe that as China gets stronger, Harvard will open more doors to asians, otherwise they will lose out to other rival institutions, We can see this happening slowly as Harvard and other schools open China campus in order to stay competitive.
  
  https://washingtonpost.com/outlook/five-myths/five-myths-about-the-ivy-league/2019/03/22/13fdb0da-4bf0-11e9-93d0-64dbcf38ba41_story.html
  
  It is because Harvard does not see Asian Americans as leadership material - thus the low admit percentage. The only way to be seen as leaders is to give it time and see if the limited number of 20% asians end up becoming leaders in industry. if not, they do not want to sacrifice their class size to create followers. So the previous graduates of these Ivy League schools must fight to positions of prominence before Harvard would be willing to increase the admit numbers. Thus why the cap continues

Why are white men so obsessed with penis?

...

because they are pedophiles and child molesters.

They need to be sterilized for the sake of the world.

My proof is this http://www.amazon.com/Unspeakable-Father-Daughter-Incest-American-History/dp/0801893003

The intellectual framework that explains many of the questions brought up in the podcast about the current state of American politics can be summed up
in two seminal books, A Conflict of Visions and
The Fourth Turning. After completing these two
volumes, Fox News will suddenly start making sense to you, since some of the language and terms used by the right wing are quite literally incomprehensible (what's "unconstrained vision"?) without these guides.

 

The first book in particular, about the distinction between people and processes, is very relevant today. Why does America tolerate a racist, misogynist, xenophobe? Because one won the election fair and square, while the other stole the
primary nomination from Bernie. So the right wingers are focused on the election process (regardless of candidate), and the left wingers are focused on the candidates (regardless of process). We are literally talking past each other when we don't
grasp this fundamental difference; no communication can take place.

 

About the creation of an Asian-American political voice, the right wing view is that more identity politics is NOT the answer. Again, the distinction between people and processes. We don't want to focus on Asian people (or Black people, or Green people...), instead we want to focus
on the process. BLM is an anger that exists because Obama didn't really make black peoples lives significantly better. Having a hypothetical Asian-American man in the White House wouldn't make our lives significantly better either. And having a racist, misogynist, xenophobe there won't make our lives
significantly worse either, and that's what processes are all about. Checks and balances built-in the system, as opposed to having a god-like dictator who's above the law.

 

If you are short on time, at least glance over the first 100 pages of A Conflict of Visions. The explanatory power of his thesis is profound, and reveals why we should fear the left much more (think 18th century French Revolution, which is what today's not-my-president protesters want).

Show Notes

• 1. State Shinto
     
• 2. Armenian Genocide
     
• 3. Japanese American labor struggles
     
• 4. More on Asian American farmworkers
     
• 5. Early Republic of China history
     
• 6. Meiji Restoration, Japan
     
• 7. Mexican American farmworkers vs white nationalist oligarchs in Orange County, 1930s
     
• 8. Operation Wetback
     
• 9. Anti-Mexican lynchings
     
• 10. Spanish Civil War, overview
      
• 11. Homage to Catalonia, by George Orwell
      
• 12. Government structure of Switzerland
      
• 13. Democratic government without a state in Rojva, Syria
      
• 14. Vice doco about Rojava
      
      

You're entirely missing the point of Miss Saigon.

This is what happened

This is what they show you

It's brainwashing.

She also wrote a book titled [In Defense of Internment: The Case for Racial Profiling in World War II and the War on Terror] (http://www.amazon.com/Defense-Internment-Racial-Profiling-Terror/dp/0895260514/ref=sr_1_7?ie=UTF8&qid=1449718002&sr=8-7&keywords=michelle+malkin) in 2004. Here is the description of the book on Amazon:

Everything you've been taught about the World War II "internment camps" in America is wrong:

They were not created primarily because of racism or wartime hysteria
They did not target only those of Japanese descent
They were not Nazi-style death camps

I see what you guys meant by the term "mental colonized".

Here are some examples, you dumb fuck.

● House Negro vs Field Negro

● Hong Kong vs mainland China

● FBI sent white woman, Gloria Steneim, to sabotage the Black feminist movement to pit Black women against Black men. In fact, the the FBI has an entire system for this. https://www.amazon.com/Agents-Repression-American-Movement-Classics/dp/0896086461/

● fake Asian 'feminists' / activists vs Asians and especially Asian men - supports affirmative action, hates Asian culture, hates Asian men, etc.

● Scapegoating rookie, Peter Liang, for white police brutality instead of punishing white cops and simultaneously getting Blacks to hate Asians.

● 1% blaming socioeconomic ills on Asians/China [this also happened during the Chinese coolie era] to [edit: prevent] solidarity among the 99%