(Part 2) Top products from r/AskFeminists
We found 21 product mentions on r/AskFeminists. We ranked the 185 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the products ranked 21-40. You can also go back to the previous section.
21. The Hidden History of the Korean War, 1950-1951: A Nonconformist History of Our Times
Sentiment score: -1
Number of reviews: 1
22. Ella Enchanted (Trophy Newbery)
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
HarperTrophy
23. Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
HarperTorch
24. Communion: The Female Search for Love (Love Song to the Nation)
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
25. Snakes in Suits: When Psychopaths Go to Work
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
ReganBooks
27. Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
HarperTorch
28. Animal Liberation: The Definitive Classic of the Animal Movement (P.S.)
Sentiment score: -2
Number of reviews: 1
Harper Perennial Modern Classics
29. Girls & Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
HarperCollins
30. I Am Not a Slut: Slut-Shaming in the Age of the Internet
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
32. The Creation of Patriarchy (Women and History; V. 1)
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
33. Privilege, Power, and Difference
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
McGraw-Hill Companies
34. An Introduction to Women's Studies: Gender in a Transnational World
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
35. Patternmaking for Fashion Design (5th Edition)
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Hardcover with DVD
36. Modern Sexism: Blatant, Subtle, and Covert Discrimination (2nd Edition)
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
37. The Power of the Purse (paperback): How Smart Businesses Are Adapting to the World's Most Important Consumers-Women
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
38. The Better Angels of Our Nature: Why Violence Has Declined
Sentiment score: -1
Number of reviews: 1
The Better Angels of Our Nature Why Violence Has Declined
>1) Feminists constantly put out the idea of a 'rape culture', yet they ignore male victims of rape.
Funny, seeing as a huge indicator of rape culture is how male rape victims are ignored and marginalized by society at large. This has been part of feminist discussion pertaining to rape culture for a while, but continues to be conveniently ignored by male opposition.
>And affirmative consent is a major recent 'success' for feminism despite the fact that it would be almost impossible to prove consent was given. Plus, I don't hear a lot of feminists arguing against withdrawing consent after the fact.
Frankly, I think affirmative consent can be a wise precaution when engaging in sexual activity with someone you don't know very well, and you aren't very in tune with their habits, disposition and predispositions, likes and dislikes and how they display this via body language, etc. And even if you do know them, checking in once in a while is always a respectful and can never hurt.
As for withdrawing consent after the fact...I just really don't think this is as huge of an issue as dudes on Reddit make it out to be. Consent is something that is given or retracted in the moment. It doesn't travel through time like that.
>2)Events that focus on men are constantly being shut-down for the fear of 'misogyny', and yet those actions that silence those who focus on men are not declared as being against what feminism stands for.
Plenty of events that focus on men are extensions of beliefs or spheres which perpetuate misogyny and misinformation. You haven't given any specific examples, but feel free.
>3) Pointlessly gendered items (razors, toys, pencils) are said to be sexist, yet 'mansplaining', 'manspreading', 'manterrupting', and other like words are perfectly acceptable and not at all simply a way to shut down conversation and vilify men for being men.
"Mansplaining" and "manterrupting" have a rich and sordid history in the US. Rebecca Solnit, a historian and an activist, wrote an entire book on the subject. The term is new, the thing it describes is not.
>4) Dissent always seems to eventually be met with famous buzzwords like 'rape apologist', 'victim blamer', 'misogynist', 'toxic masculinity', and, again, these words absolutely aren't used to silence anyone who disagrees.
Sometimes these accusations are perfectly apt.
>5) The 'negative' portrayal and under-representation of women in movies, politics, sports, and music are major feminist issues while there's never any acknowledgment to the negative way men can be portrayed. A handsome, tall, fit, not too muscular, charming, confident, funny, smart, open, sexually appealing leading man in every movie isn't a problem at all.
No, it isn't. It's the frequency, coupled with the blatant objectification and sexualization of women's bodies, which make it a pressing feminist issue. Just as a single example; there's no real equivalent of a "dad bod" craze in terms of women's body types.
>6) Society is blamed for personal issues such as 'body-shaming', 'slut-shaming', 'fat-shaming', not encouraging women enough, and not providing women with enough idols to look up to.
...That's because this happens all the time. Slut shaming is real, fat-shaming is real, and body shaming is real. Doesn't take too much effort to look into these issues.
>Also, the idea that a woman can only idolize other women is pretty sexist, yet never challenged.
No one believes that girls can only idolize women, the pushback comes from the fact that there are representation issues in just about every facet of our culture (speaking from a US perspective). If there are relatively few women role models in any given career path, for example, then girls can internalize the idea that women aren't wanted or just aren't good at X thing, which becomes discouraging very early on in development.
>if a woman's uncomfortable with a scantily clad, thin woman in a bikini on a billboard, that that issue might be her own and not society secretly 'shaming' her into feeling bad.
Okay, but how many billboards have very thin, scantily clad women on them, and how many billboards have average or above average weight women in bikinis on them? Ever wonder why that is? Ever wonder why a person who is overweight might be distressed by the constant bombardment of often attainably thin body types, considering the immediate cultural association of "not thin" with "bad" (and not only "bad", but morally corrupt, stupid, and lazy?
>7) Men are disproportionately put in prison, victims of violence, punished more harshly when it comes to sentencing, and homeless to name a few, and those things are easily explained away by feminism.
Yes, feminism does have explanations to all of these things. Generally speaking, it can be boiled down to a mixture of classism, racism, and the implications of sexism and misogyny. Sexism against women affects men as well.
>Yet the idea of a 'pay gap' can only be the result of sexism and nothing more.
I've provided you with links on this subject in your prior thread. The wage gap issue is complicated, but a large part of it comes down to gendered socialization and expectations.
>8) Women are treated like children by feminists by saying that without encouragement, a woman won't want to work in a STEM field.
This isn't treating women like children (this line of thinking reeks of concern trolling), it's treating people like what they are: the product of their surroundings and socialization, filtered through individual character traits and a genetic code. Everyone needs encouragement, but encouragement can look like a lot of things. Sometimes, the encouragement manifests as the prevailing unquestioning assumption that you're "built" for it, that you're brain is just "geared towards it naturally", sometimes this encouragement needs to be more literal.
>The possibility of hearing a sexist remark is enough to excuse a woman for not even trying to enter the field that she wants.
A sexist remark? Where there's one, there's many. Women have spoken out a lot about gendered opposition and sometimes blatant sexism in STEM fields.
The study "Professional Role Confidence and Gendered Persistence in Engineering" follows 288 randomly selected students who began their engineering degrees in 2003 at four universities, following their progress at 2007. The universities included: MIT, the University of Massachusetts at Amherst, the Franklin W. Olin College of Engineering and Smith College. The findings of this study are consistent with other empirical research, finding that men are more likely to persist in engineering than women.
However, women are twice as likely to switch to a different STEM major than men. Interestingly, amongst the small proportion of men who switch out of engineering, they're more likely to go into a non-STEM major. This suggests that women's interest and proficiency in STEM is not the reason why they leave engineering, while this may be true for the men who leave engineering courses.
From the study:
>Professional Socialisation
The study argues that becoming a successful professional requires more than just technical skills. It also depends on professional socialisation. That is, how we learn both the practical and unspoken (tacit) expectations of what's required of us in our fields. We also need to be able to identify with the values and norms of our profession. This includes adopting the types of mannerisms, demeanour, and self-presentation (including dress) that's expected. The researchers write:
>"If a profession’s norms of interaction are highly masculine or perhaps even antifeminine... it may be more difficult for women to gain this type of confidence....
>Present findings show that early professional role confidence predicts persistence measured three years later. If women develop less confidence about their abilities to be successful professionals and express more ambiguity about their fit or comfort within the discipline, then women will remain in engineering at lower rates than men."
>Engineering still relies on, and rewards, stereotypes of masculine behaviour. Women not only have to navigate this culture, but they have the additional burden of "proving to others that, despite gendered expectations, they are skilled engineers."
And here's some anecdotal icing on that cake, just for funsies.
EDIT: Gold? Well, shucks. Thanks, stranger!
Tinder =/= promiscuity. It's just another tool to find partners, it's no different from finding someone in a bar or nightclub. If anything, it's less shallow because you can spend some time screening a person a bit more to make sure everything's kosher first.
I'm not a fan of hook-up culture, but for different reasons. Women generally don't get a lot of satisfaction from casual sex because their partners are less invested. Peggy Orenstein actually just wrote a book about this.
That being said, loving relationships are great, and so are hook-ups for the people who find satisfaction engaging in them. With the right partner, they can be a good way to figure out what you like.
The only things I would really discourage with a hook-up is snagging a hot person to pump your own ego, being a selfish lover, or using casual sex to gain validation. Being sex-positive doesn't necessarily mean being uncritically pro-promiscuity. It's just anti-shame.
Edit: ditched redundancies
So I've been trying to track down the source for this claim for almost an hour now, because I'm a sucker for econometrics and I would love to see a breakdown by asset class. Business Insider cites this report, which cites this presentation, which in turn cites this book. I can't track down an online copy, so if anyone can tell me where the author got the information from, do let me know. I couldn't find any source for the suggestion that the percentage of wealth held by women is expected to rise to a much higher percentage in the coming years -- Warner only claims that the total amount held by women will rise, but so will the total for men (meaning that the percentages could stay the same, or change in either direction).
With that said, I'd be cautious with an analysis that looks purely at wealth without any accompanying explanation. About half of all wealth is home equity, which is jointly owned and as such most likely counted under both genders. Moreover, women live on average four years longer, meaning that four additional years of compound interest on pensions and home equity. On the other hand, women earn less than men on average and as such end up with fewer assets to earn interest on. However, there is a fairly well-documented effect by which male pensioners deplete their savings much faster than female pensioners. As such, it is not at all clear where we should expect the distribution of asset ownership to end up resting, and we don't really know what a 51% split even tells us.
I think part of it is that I’m not aware of this being taught in trade schools. Take this with a grain of salt, because my experience is with theater costuming in middle, high school, and college (including designing costumes for a play), home sewing, and historical re-enactment, but my major was neuroscience in college, so my knowledge is less extensive than a fashion major.
I have been sewing; however, for more than two decades.
That being said, Rosika Parker’s The Subversive Stitch makes a pretty good argument for the historic devaluing of sewing during the Middle Ages with concurrent social movements to restrict female power.
Here’s my perception of the hierarchies in the different careers and the education requirements (see further down)
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Here’s what I’m aware of for schooling (skewed because my experience is at a four year university)
You might have better luck hunting down your local theater (you might be able to do this with fashion designer houses too; no idea) and asking for the required qualifications to be hired.
For historical costuming, try an apprenticeship or membership with your local re-enactment society or SCA
For learning how to sew (may not include pattern drafting, rendering patterns digitally, or concept art generation) try your local sewing machine service shop (search vacuum service shops too because they overlap).
Here are some books to recommend:
Fashion:
For someone who already sews
Here are ones I feel I have to include, but they’re kind of impractical:
Here are cheaper options
For learning to sew
Historical Reconstruction
For someone who already sews:
hey, not sure if you're trolling or being inflammatory while also ignorant.
> I think that this generalization is exaggerated to a level that is beyond ridiculousness. Where is the evidence to support this?
this is what makes me think you are trolling. you 'think' it's exaggerated, but why don't you show me some evidence to back up your opinions? let me give you quite a bit of evidence to support the feminist argument (aka, the truth):
The Second Sex
Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center
Women's Suffrage: A Primary Source History of the Women's Rights Movement in America
Modern Sexism: Blatant, Covert and Subtle Discrimination
I can give you a LOT of further recommended reading. This is absolutely an issue you should read a lot about before attempting to come into a safe place for feminist discussion and poison the conversation with ignorant, defensive and ultimately pathetic 'questions.' You are not here to be enlightened. You think women are the enemy. We are all humans, we all deserve to be equal.
Out of the goodness of my heart, here is a primer on male privilege, although until you open your heart, mind and eyes to equality, I won't hold my breath for you to take this seriously: How to Talk to Someone about Privilege
I don't want to infer anything about your relationship, but there is a book I'd like you to find: Communion: The Female Search for Love, by bell hooks (check your local library). She does a fantastic job explaining society's role in creating relationships - specifically those in which the males "don't believe" in feminism.
I once had the pleasure of hearing the feminist biologist, Marlene Zuk, speak. She was fantastic and I think you should check out her book [Sex on Six Legs] (https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Six-Legs-Lessons-Language/dp/015101373X)
Also, if you're not afraid of delving into psychology and neuroscience. I'd also recommend Cordelia Fine's [Delusions of Gender] (https://www.amazon.com/Delusions-Gender-Society-Neurosexism-Difference/dp/0393340244/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1494261794&sr=1-1&keywords=delusions+of+gender)
Skip the organizations.
The personal is political. Change yourself first.
Read books. Apply the knowledge you gain to your everyday relationships and interactions.
Analyze media. Gain an awareness of how women are portrayed in media (TV, movies, magazines, newspapers, social media and the internet, etc.). There are stark differences in the way males and females are developed, displayed, and interact with each other.
Study the social construction of gender and difference. Understand the separation of gender from sex.
Learn about the intersections of social identities and the matrix of domination.
Always ask questions. Never be shy - we are all here to learn, and help each other learn.
Gerda Lerner's text The Creation of the Patriarchy is an excellent read. I highly recommend picking up a copy and reading the whole thing.
Instead of just getting rid of them, I think we should supplement them with stories like Dealing with Dragons, Ella Enchanted, and other books with positive messages.
http://www.amazon.com/An-Introduction-Womens-Studies-Transnational/dp/0072887184
This is my textbook for my intro class; there are a lot of interesting articles pertaining to history which should help you out
Mating in captivity is a great book!
psychopaths make up 1 percent of the population-yeah that's scary stuff. I speculate that the only reason why you don't hear more about them in the media is because they disapporinately makeup the top one percent of society. In fact the guy wrote the first psychopath test wrote a book on the topic. People should be far more concerned about the fact that the people running our have a mental illness,especially this one rather then the fact they have a penis like feminists do. Yeah there are more ceo's then there are psychopaths however just take a look at north korea to see what a society run by a mentally ill looks like. I'd rather have all our ceo's be women then have even 1% of our leaders be psychopaths.
Sex at Dawn! More about sexuality and evolutionary biology (is that a thing?) but way relevant.
There are many more that exist, of course, but here are some of my favourites:
Bitchfest - A collection of essays from Bitch magazine
Female Chauvanist Pigs: Women and the rise of raunch culture by Ariel Levy
Men explain things to me - Rebecca Solnit
Backlash - Susan Faludi
Bad feminist by Roxane Gay - I'm just in the middle of reasing this now, really enjoying it.
Sccording to Kate Millett’s “Sexual Politics,” Germaine Greer’s “The Female Eunuch,” and Shulamith Firestone’s “The Dialectic of Sex, the institution and practice of marriage and the nuclear family is awful and should be dismantled. And since these books were written the number of two parent households has indeed plummeted. Forty percent of American children are now born to single mothers. This rate of non-marital births, combined with the nation’s high divorce rate, means that around half of all American children will spend part of their childhood in a single-parent home.
So a couple of things:
1.) Just because something happened out of necessity, doesn't mean we should KEEP DOING IT.
2.) In a way you are saying male aggression makes male aggression necessary. I don't say this flippantly or to blame the victim. I am pointing out how this is a self reinforcing cycle that can only be disrupted by outside forces, namely the criminal justice system. There is a strong correlation between how much of the population can rely on the governement for justice, and how much inter-personal violence there is in that society.
Peter Singer is amazing. I remember having a 2-week breakdown and existential crisis when I read Animal Liberation. I just didn't know how to handle and accept the mind-blowingly immense suffering happening every second; I couldn't figure out how to go about my life with that fact existing. How could I simply turn my back on that fact, and not fight it every second? How could I possibly forget those animals and go about my life as if it weren't true?
Ultimately I had to make the conscious choice to forget. I could only do what I could do - become vegan, evangelize, be an advocate, protest, boycott, take part in everyday activism. But beyond that, what can I do for the billions of animals suffering unimaginable horrors every second?
There are facts and images seared into my brain that I cannot and never will forget - pigs snouts being sliced off and salt rubbed in the wound, cats being boiled alive in cages, raccoon dogs skinned alive and thrown in a pile of agony, animals caught in unbearable suffering in steel traps, others anally/vaginally/orally electrocuted to death for their furs, pigs boiled alive, chickens trampled and pecked to death in too-small to move cages, cows beaten and prodded to walk on broken legs, the heartbroken wail of a pig or cow whose baby is stolen away, male chicks ground up alive... I have SEEN these things. And it is unbearable.
I think these things should be shown to everybody. How anybody could bite into the flesh of a chicken after that is beyond me.
Edit: for those who may be interested in learning more:
I can't remember the other videos I've watched, and frankly, I can't deal with finding them right now. But they're on Youtube, or at least they were a few years ago.
Calling out systemic white racism = hate sub now? Stop lying.
 
www.halfasian.org
http://www.zakkeith.com/articles,blogs,forums/anti-Chinese-persecution-in-the-USA-history-timeline.htm
http://www.zakkeith.com/articles,blogs,forums/chinese-in-britain-history-timeline.htm
http://www.zakkeith.com/articles,blogs,forums/hollywood-asian-stereotypes.htm
http://www.zakkeith.com/articles,blogs,forums/not-racist-just-goofy-squint-eye-faces.htm
http://www.kulturemedia.org/
 
Cambodia
http://www.amazon.com/Sideshow-Kissinger-Nixon-Destruction-Cambodia/dp/0671835254/
 
Laos
Hiding America’s War Crimes in Laos | http://thiscantbehappening.net/node/2715
 
Vietnam
● http://www.amazon.com/Kill-Anything-That-Moves-American/dp/1250045061/
● http://www.amazon.com/Phoenix-Program-Americas-Forbidden-Bookshelf-ebook/dp/B00KGMIW6Q/
 
Korea
http://www.amazon.com/Hidden-History-Korean-1950-1951-Nonconformist/dp/0316817708/
 
Philippines
http://www.amazon.com/Benevolent-Assimilation-American-Philippines-1899-1903/dp/0300030819/
 
China
● China’s Rise, Fall, and Re-Emergence as a Global Power | http://dissidentvoice.org/2012/03/chinas-rise-fall-and-re-emergence-as-a-global-power/
● USA’s warfare against China ½ | http://www.voltairenet.org/article177063.html
 
India
http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2012/apr/23/british-empire-crimes-ignore-atrocities
 
I know it sucks that we're educating Asians about systemic white racism, but you can't do anything about it. So cry yourself to sleep.