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Use reddit! There are subs for literally every tech niche you can think of. I recruit for DevOps, and had to learn DevOps from soup to nuts. I worked agency recruiting, and ranged from networking to Business Systems Analysis and back. You have to dive in and google EVERYTHING. I also really liked this book: http://www.amazon.com/Technology-Made-Simple-Technical-Recruiter/dp/1450216463/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1450223570&sr=1-1&keywords=technical+recruiting

I think it's only available in ebook now, but it's worth the download. Good luck, and feel free to post here with specific questions, there are REALLY smart folks hanging around these parts that I learn from all the time.

Time to have a come-to-Jesus talk with this man. Brush up on your "crucial conversations" skills, let him know your expectations of him, that you support him, and see if he's interested in development opportunities. Basically - be a good leader. He'll either come around or he won't.

Currently studying for an MSc in HRM, pretty much all our course is structured around the content of:

• Armstrong's Handbook of Human Resource Management Practice
  
• Human Resource Management: Theory and Practice
  
  The Bratton and Gold is great to pick up and consult topics.

http://www.amazon.com/Performance-Management-2nd-Herman-Aguinis/dp/0136151752

If you really want to design a comprehensive system I would pick up this book. It reads really easily and will give you the understanding of performance management that you need to craft a well designed software solution.

Use bricks under the desk legs to raise it to a normal height that is comfortable for sitting with normal chair height. That will solve the sitting thing. (I have seen it done and as long as the bricks don't stick out much it generally is not seen as a problem)

For the standing thing, you could bring in a platform or something and put the keyboard and monitor onto it when you want to stand, or get something like this: https://www.amazon.com/Workez-Standing-Desk-Conversion-Kit/dp/B00FCFT928

Getting the PHR certification is definitely worth it. You need to review the requirements to find out which one you qualify to sit for: https://www.hrci.org/our-programs/which-certification-is-right-for-you

The jobs you hold don't help or hurt your chance of passing. You need to review the body of knowledge required for the exam in order to be prepared to pass it. Check out this book (https://www.amazon.com/Professional-Human-Resources-Certification-Deluxe/dp/1119068134/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_t_0?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=E3ZQKV9CRWSB4ADQ78EV) and classes in your area if you need more structured learning tools.

I easily get distracted as well and have the same problem you do. These work wonderfully and are comfortable for long term wearing.

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A couple of books I'd recommend are below. They're written by an HR coach, but intended for a non-HR audience and seem to strike a good balance between solid advice and approachability. The latter one is older but it's the quickest link I could find.

A perk of both is they're a lot more reasonably priced than a lot of HR books too.

http://www.amazon.com/Documenting-Discipline-How--Mike-Deblieux/dp/1884926347/ref=la_B001K80XXU_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1454054969&sr=1-2

http://www.amazon.com/Supervisors-Guide-Employee-Performance-Reviews/dp/0820597864/ref=la_B001K80XXU_1_3?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1454054969&sr=1-3

https://www.amazon.com/Corporate-Confidential-Secrets-Company-Know/dp/0312337361/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1498958708&sr=8-1&keywords=corporate+secrets

That book seems to helpful

Hmmmmm for your specific situation, I recommend "the Secret Handshake"

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But for conflict resolution in general (where you are facilitating - not trying to save your own ass) I recommend Getting to Yes and Crucial Conversations

https://www.amazon.com/Dr-Martens-Oxford-Butterscotch-Medium/dp/B01N0VH32A/ref=sr_1_23?ie=UTF8&qid=1522762095&sr=8-23&keywords=doc+martens+men

something like this /u/i8acivic2000

https://www.amazon.com/Working-You-Killing-Me-Emotional/dp/0446698490

$10 USD on Amazon for paperback. !remindme 4 days

Here is the desktop version of your link

I carry this in my pocket book at all times

https://www.amazon.com/Calslock-Portable-Door-Travel-Lock/dp/B00GMPFCNC

aka "The No Asshole Rule" - https://www.amazon.com/Asshole-Rule-Civilized-Workplace-Surviving/dp/0446698202/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=no+asshole+rule&qid=1567703038&s=gateway&sr=8-1

Yeah. Have you read 3 Felonies a Day? Talks about we all break so many laws every day, the vast majority of us without meaning to. And the whole ' more prisoners per capita than any other nation' thing.

Well, if there's anything I've got in my toolbox, it's bluntness! HA!

When I mention the bitterness, I'm talking exactly about the self-determination mindset that you talk about a couple paragraphs later; that you believe in humanity's right to free choice without external interference. I would find that most people do, including the SJW's you mention. People just define 'external interference' differently.

So, if you view self-determination as a foundational core to your ability to be free, than any social construct (views on race or gender) runs counter to that and you may view 'compliance' as a direct violation of your liberty. However, if you are one of the people who is seeing external interference as a direct RESULT of systemic racism, you see self-determination in a very different way. (Not to go too far down that rabbit-hole, but individual autonomy is reliant upon social views and/or actions regarding your right to that autonomy- which has historically been denied to people of color aka. systemic racism).

You, then, may become bitter at the constant onslaught of 'SJW' forcing conversations and wonder why others don't do what you did, and 'hard-work' their way out of it, without recognizing that there are roadblocks that exist for others that you did not encounter by virtue of your race. Just because you may not see those roadblocks, or agree, doesn't mean they aren't there. This also doesn't mean people affected by racism are victims but again, diminishing a very real experience to victimhood status so that it can be dismissed is self-serving at best.

To follow that, defaulting to the 'empirical evidence' standard, to me, is an easy out. It seems to be an 'I can't smell the sunflowers, and no one can prove what they smell like, and I don't see them anywhere, so they don't exist'. In the meantime, your back is to the field of flowers and despite people trying to give you directions, you do not turn around.

To me, it's just not that easy or simple. Which is why, I urge you, if you are feeling defensive about some of what you heard, don't dismiss it out of hand. Figure out if there was some truth there that will be useful for you. If you feel dehumanized by the conversations you've been having, imagine how dehumanized the people who have experienced some of these struggles may feel, knowing that you categorically deny their reality as propaganda. (I'm referencing your comments on systemic racism).

To your point, it's hard to recognize someone else's humanity if you feel it's THEIR boot on your neck. For you, it's the SJW's, for everyone else- it's you (and not because you're white, but because you refuse to take your blinders off). The difference is, your boot causes actual harm, while an SJW's boot causes you inconvenience, anger, feeling of being unduly criticized, and potentially outward capitulation and/or withdrawal instead of an eyes-wide-open confrontation of the realities of racism.

I may not have said all of this in the right way, but hopefully the intention came across. With that, I'm exhausted!

Edited to add: This is a good read that you may be interested in. Ironically, it is actually called White Fragility. There's a review in The New Yorker on it here.

> “The most effective adaptation of racism over time,” DiAngelo claims, “is the idea that racism is conscious bias held by mean people.” This “good/bad binary,” positing a world of evil racists and compassionate non-racists, is itself a racist construct, eliding systemic injustice and imbuing racism with such shattering moral meaning that white people, especially progressives, cannot bear to face their collusion in it

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> As an ethical thinker, DiAngelo belongs to the utilitarian school, which places less importance on attitudes than on the ways in which attitudes cause harm