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u/tossawwwy · 1 pointr/AskRedditAfterDark

Yeah man. and I think for me what's even more important than sex is learning how to give and receive emotional intimacy and communication. If you can be honest with yourself and others, even if that honesty includes fear and uncertainty, or whether it's confidence or closeness, those things will take you very far in having real interactions with people.

There are some things that I've read and listened to that have helped me to learn more what healthy relationships look like such as this book which is basically meant to be used when trying to mend a broken relationship, but that means it has so many good ideas about communication, and what it takes to make yourself, and by extension your relationships happy.

Basically take care of yourself. Make your life full, doing all the things you need and love to do and other things will flow naturally. be honest with yourself about your feelings too. (Frustration, elation, etc.) because ignoring them will only further disconnect you from yourself. You want to be a whole person and you are right now. There are things that whole you would like to do, yet you are not dependent on them or them on you.

Check out this post by /u/bombjoke about mindfulness meditation.

Check out this thread started by /u/bombjoke /r/theXeffect which has some great motivating tools for your life that may be helpful

This audio program is dope. I have it ripped to my computer and if you want I can send you the files in .rar form.

If you try even one of these things you'll be far ahead of the game.

Hope you have a good life man.


u/RoseyRadiance · 1 pointr/AskRedditAfterDark

Use lube. And not just shitty KY lube, but use a good, thick lube. Lube is one of those things you should be willing to spend a little more on. Silicone or oil based lube is ideal. But you actually need to use a water based lube if you're going to be using silicone toys, since oil or silicone will actually dissolve your silicone toys. I use this personally, but a lot of people recommend coconut oil.

Go slow... start with a finger and just ever so slightly ease it in (emphasis on ease), for the receiver to relax a little, then do a little more, wait for them to relax, and so on. When you're able to get that finger all the way in and slowly slide it back and forth while the receiver is comfortable, withdraw and add the second finger. Repeat until you can add the third, and once you've got 3 in most people can handle a penis.

Also lube will dry out, so apply a lot of it and remember to keep applying it through your play session.

When it's time for the actual penis to go in, it can help to let the receiver control the action until they're fully comfortable with the in-and-out motion.

u/parsifal · 5 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

I believe what you're experiencing is a well known psychological phenomenon. When people experience trauma, sometimes they repeat it over and over either in an attempt to understand it, "master" it, or whatever else. You can read about it here:

Once there was a school bus that got buried with children in it (who all survived), and this "repetition compulsion" occurred with them. You can read about it here:

I really, really recommend you find a therapist you like and trust and makes it easy for you to talk about it. Having recently gone through an incredible "round" of therapy, I can tell you from personal experience that you honestly don't know what you don't know: you may very well walk out of your initial session (with the right therapist -- feeling comfortable and that the therapist is making a difference is of utmost importance) feeling like the world has opened up. It's one thing to know a bit about psychology; to have a breakthrough in your own life is one of the most transcendent things you can experience. I understand you may not want to go to therapy now, or even soon, but I hope you'll remember this post some day and it will help boost your resolve. Because what you experienced was a major trauma, and that is not okay. I wish you the very best; please take care.

u/HeHootsHeWhores · 2 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

We also got this little wand from Amazon and it’s super awesome for the price. Flexible head, super strong vibe, and is great for her to use on her own as well as when we’re together!

Shibari Mini Halo 20X Multi-Speed...

u/OkGold6 · 96 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

> my best friends are naked

Is this maybe it?

Some of My Best Friends Are Naked

u/GingerSizeQueen · 3 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

You're welcome! This is my favorite lube for anal, and it's water based so you can use it with any type of toy and it's also much easier to clean up after.


u/wheresmyjam · 1 pointr/AskRedditAfterDark

I bought This to use with my gf and it's amazing. It's not to big and heavy like a Hitachi wand but just as good... And it's wireless!! Have fun! haha

u/demons8mybaby · 3 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

As a guy I highly recommend TengaEggs but I've found they're far more fun when used by a partner.

For women, my go-to recommendation is the Hitachi Magic Wand, you just can't go wrong with this thing. I've even supplied these to a number of women, mostly found here on Reddit. I kinda like being the Hitachi Fairy ;)

u/AutonomyForbidden · 1 pointr/AskRedditAfterDark

I use a water based lube it works great, wont stain sheets or clothing. Safe to use in my fleshlight, or with the S/O.

Edit: Its also approved by the FDA. IIRC , its the only lube to have received that approval.

u/Shadow_Man_75 · 2 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

I lucid dream on a regular and the number one thing that helped me get batter at it was a book called "How to lucid dream in 30 days".

Since then I've recorded around 65-70 dreams in my journal. Some of then orgasmic.

u/MrBunqle · 5 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

The Ethical Slut

Helped me get some perspective on a life altering path I knew I was heading down without the vocabulary to really discuss it properly. It's not the BEST book on ethical non monogamy, but it's a really good starting point...

u/SexTechGuide · 6 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

An oldie, but a goodie.

We won't be reviewing it, but I can tell you from personal experience (as a woman), it's my favorite.


u/Stealth_Cow · 1 pointr/AskRedditAfterDark

You do you. Be honest with your partners, and open with your preferences. Make choices, and surround yourself with people that reinforce the person you want to be.

Otherwise, maybe some suggested reading?

u/kapojinha · 2 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

I use a mattress protector and I've noticed that it'll prevent certain stains, but it's not 100% waterproof. Laying down a towel or two didn't help much either.

I recently bought this and it's been a game changer. It's waterproof and easily machine washable!

u/maryjanesandbobbysox · 10 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

We use the washable toddler mattress protectors. They hold up to 2 cups of fluid and are less than $20 usd.

Edit: (something like this)

u/Leporad · 2 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

Never tried a flesh light, aren't those things hard to clean? And it's $90 on, damn.

u/brother4youus · 9 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

Finish your degree, but don't think that it will define your future, unless you let it.

u/fordag · 2 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

Hitatchi Magic Wand

Get the plug in version. No matter how tempting the rechargeable version is don't get it. It has an automatic shut off after 20 minutes that can not be disabled.

u/thedruginfoguy · 0 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

Doubling down on the stupid? Take your fat, ESL-sounding ass to a library and do some research for fuck's sake. In the meantime, here's a book for you to read: