(Part 3) Top products from r/AskRedditAfterDark

Yeah man. and I think for me what's even more important than sex is learning how to give and receive emotional intimacy and communication. If you can be honest with yourself and others, even if that honesty includes fear and uncertainty, or whether it's confidence or closeness, those things will take you very far in having real interactions with people.

There are some things that I've read and listened to that have helped me to learn more what healthy relationships look like such as this book which is basically meant to be used when trying to mend a broken relationship, but that means it has so many good ideas about communication, and what it takes to make yourself, and by extension your relationships happy.

Basically take care of yourself. Make your life full, doing all the things you need and love to do and other things will flow naturally. be honest with yourself about your feelings too. (Frustration, elation, etc.) because ignoring them will only further disconnect you from yourself. You want to be a whole person and you are right now. There are things that whole you would like to do, yet you are not dependent on them or them on you.

Check out this post by /u/bombjoke about mindfulness meditation.

Check out this thread started by /u/bombjoke /r/theXeffect which has some great motivating tools for your life that may be helpful

This audio program is dope. I have it ripped to my computer and if you want I can send you the files in .rar form.

If you try even one of these things you'll be far ahead of the game.

Hope you have a good life man.

Peace.

The best tip I have about the Wand (no matter how you use it) is to attach it to a dimmer cord. Something like this: https://www.amazon.com/Lutron-Credenza-Halogen-Incandescent-TT-300H-WH/dp/B0000BYEF6/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1523382674&sr=8-3

There are only two settings on a Wand. Strong and STRONGER. With the dimmer, you can take it from zero to STRONGER.

> my best friends are naked

Is this maybe it?

Some of My Best Friends Are Naked

https://www.amazon.com/Some-Best-Friends-Are-Naked/dp/0963446606

I've read only good things about Mr-S-Leather's Large butt plug.

> We think we want girth over length.

You're on the right track. My first and only butt plug was a Medium size Doc Johnson. I liked the 1 1/2" (4cm) bulb, but it was hard to sit down because of it's length.

> We want something simple but that won’t fall out.

It's also important that the base is wide enough, so that you won't lose the plug inside your ass! The Pipedream Icicles 25... for example. Amazing design on the top, but the base is so narrow! Many customers have asked for a flared base, but the they don't give a damn about our feedback.

https://www.amazon.com/Little-Black-Book-Sex-Positions/dp/1620876116

Treat yourself!

This book may help: https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090

Do your homework. I like The New Topping Book

If you use handcuffs make sure you have a spare set of keys, or a universal key.

YES. No shade against being each others' firsts, but we did it because of religious guilt. This is just one of the many ways I regret being brainwashed by my childhood fundie baptist church.

https://www.amazon.com/Kissed-Dating-Goodbye-Joshua-Harris/dp/1590521358 was very popular in my circle. You can find a lot of blog entries about people who have been profoundly hurt by it.

We married young because that's what everyone else was doing to escape. Escape we did, and now no one taught us how to be anything other than an unhealthy codependent Christian couple, so we're figuring out what we want to reclaim from our wasted youth and what we want to mourn and move past while learning how to have a healthy relationship from scratch. Therapy helps.

Our marriage is slowly opening now (it's something both of us want), but obv polyamory has way more rules and communication attached. I hate rules but respect my partner's need for security. Once in a moment of childishness I complained to a mutual friend about it being similar to closing on a house and said I was waiting for the preapproval paperwork to get processed before I was able to do anything, as opposed to having sex within hours of meeting I could have done when I was single (and have had opportunities to do even now at 35yo, but had to turn down).

My partner is a very cautious/risk averse person and I am more of a "trust my intuition and jump" kind of person, which makes partner feel hella uneasy. This mindset has done wonders for my career and pretty much every other part of my life, so we'll see... We're slowly meeting in the middle.

Not really. The latex is pretty "grabby" without lube. You could use lotion, conditioner or whatever. I recommend a hair product called "blue magic" its just cocount oil, but thick. Feels and smells amazing and it's cheap as hell.

https://www.amazon.com/Blue-Magic-Coconut-Conditioner-12-Ounce/dp/B000KOK0JC

The funnels are $2.20 for a set of 3

I mean, the Carponizer already exists ... https://www.amazon.com/Carponizer-carp-fishing-wall-calendar/dp/3981747267

Best lube ever.

https://www.amazon.com/Book-Erotic-Fantasy-Gwendolyn-Kestrel/dp/097420451X

Maybe you could find a PDF...

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I like Sliquid H2O. It's water based, is pH balanced (helps avoid UTIs and yeast infections), and it's food grade with no taste (great if you're switching things up within a session).

Doubling down on the stupid? Take your fat, ESL-sounding ass to a library and do some research for fuck's sake. In the meantime, here's a book for you to read: https://www.amazon.com/Do-You-Want-Play-Balls/dp/098594871X