(Part 2) Top products from r/AskWomen

Bialetti - stove top espresso maker - you'll never need to buy an expensive coffee maker ever again.

Leuchterm 1917 journal for my bullet journal

6in Ruler to go with my journal - fits in the back pocket perfectly

Huhuhero Color Pen Set also to go with my journal -- has every color you'll need and has a really nice thickness. I use a finer tipped Staedtler for writing but these pens are perfect for titles and decorating and under $6 can't be beat

Customizable dog tag

Ahava Dead Sea Bath Salts - for a luxurious bath that won't dry you out

Ramekins for all of your baking needs. It's also fantastic to use for cooking (holding onto spices, separating eggs, etc.) and for serving dips.

Dog Toy Basket - adorable, holds a ton of toys, and looks really chic in my apartment.

Salt and Pepper Mill Grinders - pretty and functional

Bath Overflow Cover - get your water higher for a more satisfying bath

Bath Spa Pillow

Grippy Stand - the BEST stand for any size tablet.. I have two of them they're so good

Hotel Spa Cotton Towel 4 Pack - smallish bath towel with so many uses. I leave then by the front door to wipe the pup's paws.

Popin Cookin 9 Pack - the MOST FUN you'll ever have 9 times over

Tons and tons and tons of books - look under the "available for less money" links for "used" paperback versions that will make them super affordable and they usually come nearly brand new!

I read The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up and it was awesome for getting my living space in order despite having been written by someone I'd consider insane. The best advice I got from her was 1. to not have tolerance for ambiguous possessions (i.e. stuff you know you won't use and just leave there to take up space for no reason). I purged everything I wouldn't ACTUALLY use and donated it or gifted it. That was great for cutting down immediately on clutter and mess. 2. I assigned a proper place to each possession I had left after the purge. 3. I listened to her tips on efficient storage, so everything fit really well which was just incredibly satisfying to see.

So she recommends making the first tidying up a big event - like you take a whole day and go through everything and get your space just how you want it. Then, you have a goal to aspire to in the future for tidying up - and you'll love your tidy organized space so much you'll want to keep it that way. Now I just clean once a week. It's easy since I know where everything goes now and have a mental sorting strategy with clear rules of what I keep and how.

I'd really really recommend this book by Marie Kondo. In it she details how she completely declutters and reorganises, and it's SUPER useful. I've been really inspired by it, and it even has a (not very active) subreddit - /r/konmari.

I also basically put on the shows How Clean Is Your House or Hoarders or Obsessive Compulsive Cleaners off youtube and the fear makes me scrub harder. Ditto being subscribed to /r/NeckbeardNests. The fact is at some point clutter and uncleanliness becomes embarrassing and even potentially dangerous. I really got started when I realised the dust pooled behind my bed head was causing my boyfriend-at-the-times asthma to go crazy - He ended up losing 30% of his lung function to emphysema for unknown reasons a couple months after we split. I guess I'm also a social person and the thought of having my guests somewhere where they feel revolted isn't a nice feeling.

I'm not perfect, but I unbelievably better. Make a chores list, set an amount of hours per week for cleaning. I like to think a full sized house needs 4 hours of cleaning over the week - roughly 30 minutes a day. Just to do things like clean the toilet bowls or the kitchen hob or sweep. Whatever it is, list it, remind yourself of the consequences, bask in the glow of a job well done, reward yourself, enjoy!

Happy to help! What's your budget? I'm on mobile - let me see if I can grab links to what I would recommend based on what you want to spend


Edit: these are the markers I have and I love them. A bit pricy but worth it if it's in your budget: http://www.amazon.com/STD334SB20A6-Staedtler-Triplus-Fineliner-Pens/dp/B0007OEE7E
(There is actually a bigger set you can get from JetPens.com I think)

For a coloring book, I have a couple I like:
This one (and the other ones by this author/artist) is great: http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1780671067/ref=pd_aw_fbt_229_img_3?ie=UTF8&refRID=0C8DWW0SZ6WKWXY2EX4N


This one also looks nice. I don't have it but one of my friends does: http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1941325122/ref=pd_aw_sim_14_2?ie=UTF8&dpID=61DETogR%2BIL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL100_SR100%2C100_&refRID=1NJH3VAEG30BFHGYWTF4

I sure do! This book is a great resource and goes into quite a bit of detail about attachment science and how it can affect adult relationships. If I recall correctly, it also includes self-assessments (I read it a few years ago).

On a related note, I wholeheartedly and emphatically cannot recommend this book enough to anyone who is, has been, or might one day like to be in a romantic relationship. John Gottman is a researcher at the University of Washington and basically the Einstein of relationship science. His algorithm can predict whether any given couple will divorce with something like 90% certainty. Don't let the title fool you -- this book dispenses extremely helpful advice for dealing with people in close interpersonal relationships regardless of whether you're married, dating, or just good friends.

I have very oily sensitive skin which can be hard to deal with since you need some pretty intense astringent to deal with my oil problems. I found this on amazon and it has changed my damn life. It's suuuper nice for sensitive skin and helpful for oily skin. I also use this from Lush, I know it's expensive but it is what helps me the best.

Good luck!

To be honest I learned a lot from reading She Comes First, the first half of the book is about your anatomy and the second half is about potential approaches you might enjoy :)

Conversely, he made another book for pleasuring the penis called Passionista with a similar layout.


If you like reading about sex, this one is pretty damn good too: Bonk

Reading about sex is fun because you not only do you get to learn more about yourself and/or your partner, but also some fun mechanics and potential exposure to things you might like to try.

The Staedtler Triplus Fineliner is my all time favorite. I'm all about porous point pens because they don't smear and for whatever reason make my handwriting infinitely better than any other pen. I followed a bunch of study blogs on tumblr when I was in school and all the people that had the best handwriting and cutest notes swore by these pens. I especially love how many colors they have and the convenient carry case that turns into a stand.

My hooded eyes look awful with eyeliner applied above upper lashes/below lower lashes as is conventional, so I always/only use eyeliner on my waterline. To prevent raccoon eyes later in they day, here's the tips and tricks I've cultivated over the years:

1. Aim for the part closest to the lashes/avoiding the inner part closest to the eye, because the moisture from your eye can make it run. I use a pencil or pencil-like liner, but cone-shaped kohl kajal sticks are tailor made for this; you just have to stick it between your closed lids and rub back and forth, perfect if you're a little eye-squeamish.
   
2. Using a small firm brush (I use a $1 elf concealer brush, works great), set in place using a similarly-colored eyeshadow or, even better, brow powder. I use dark brown eyeliner instead of black, so I use the one from my brow kit (Milani Brow Fix, can even double as a contour/highlight palette; a true triple-threat). I've found that brow powder has much less fall-out, I suppose from the matte-ness and staying power.
   
3. Stamp loose (face) powder right up under the lower lash line. I've found this is the best defense against late-in-day smearing/smudging/tranfer! I also brush it on my brow bone, because my hooded eyes/curly lashes will paint little mascara lines on my brow bone without it. I don't wear often eyeshadow, so I'm not 100% sure if it's compatible with that; might mattify shiny/shimmery ones.
   
   Not eyeliner-related: Using chafing gel for primer. Cheap and effective

Same, even on cloudy days.

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I am 40 and no one believes me. Very little wrinkles. I have been taking care of my skin for years and always wear sunscreen.

In fact, I see women sunbathing with their face exposed, and I cringe.

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Edit for routine:

Look, I take extra precautions to take care of my face from the sun. When I drive in the evenings/golden hour and the sun is hitting the lower part of my face, I always wear this to protect my nose, chin, and cheeks. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B071HLFHX8/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1

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• I use sunscreen with zinc. https://www.amazon.com/Blue-Lizard-Australian-Sunscreen-Protection/dp/B00007FCPX?th=1 or this one https://www.neutrogena.com/sun/sheer-zinc-dry-touch-sunscreen-broad-spectrum-spf-50/6811080.html
  
  But always with zinc!
  
  
• If you have sun damage/spots already, I highly recommend going to a dermatologist and getting a spot lightener. Something to remove sun spots.
  
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  Here is my routine:
  
  Morning:
  
  
• Wash skin with this https://www.ulta.com/special-cleansing-gel?productId=VP12697
  
• Then I use a toner: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00016XJ4M/ref=as_li_tl?imprToken=glJJQhPDbHcr66KkQw7Mgw&slotNum=1&ie=UTF8&tag=bustle11957-20&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=w61&creativeASIN=B00016XJ4M&linkId=5bf01f335a90cf1e5d860068ba05a9fb&th=1
  
• Then I use a serum: https://www.lancome-usa.com/skin-care/collections/genifique/advanced-genifique-youth-activating-serum/1000302.html
  
• Immediately after applying the serum I use a roller on my face: https://www.sephora.com/product/jade-facial-roller-P436891
  
• Then I apply an eye cream: https://www.kiehls.com/skincare/eye-creams-and-eye-serums/creamy-eye-treatment-with-avocado/258.html
  
• And after that a good moisturizer, I just finished using La Prairie and about to start using this one: https://shop.nordstrom.com/s/chanel-hydra-beauty-creme-riche-hydration-protection-radiance/3690250
  
• After that I wear my sunscreen.
  
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  Nighttime:
  
  
• Wash skin with this https://www.ulta.com/special-cleansing-gel?productId=VP12697
  
• and then I moisturize with this thick cream I have which is this one:
  
  https://www.samsclub.com/p/genes-vitamin-e-creme-16oz/157674
  
  
• Then I apply an eye cream: https://www.kiehls.com/skincare/eye-creams-and-eye-serums/creamy-eye-treatment-with-avocado/258.html
  
  then I go to bed.
  
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  Lifestyle is also has a huge effect on your face and how well you age. Sleeping well, exercise, drinking water, eating healthy are all factors to that help maintain a youthful appearance. If you smoke, well, your skin is going to look like shit.
  
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  And please for the love of god, stop tanning/baking in the sun. My mother-in-law used to sunbath and tan all the time to get tanned and now she is in her 60's and her skin looks like shit. Her legs are all wrinkled af, her arms, and her back, her chest... wrinkles, so many wrinkles!
  
  Even if you are wearing sunscreen when you sit in the sun, your skin is going to look like shit in the long run. Just stop doing it.
  
  My mom is in her 70's and never sunbathed and took care of her skin, she looks like she is in her 60's. Sure her body looks older but not as bad as my mother in law that baked in the sun.

Toners are used to minimize the appearance of pores, and are usually of made from super harsh ingredients like alcohol. The witch hazel tightens the pores and smooths the skin without being harsh and drying. It is a natural toner. The rose petal ingredient moisturizes, and the aloe soothes/decreases redness. This is what I use, if you're interested in it. It is my favorite part of my routine! :) It smells great too

Here's a book by a woman that lived as a man for a year.

>Self-Made Man: One Woman's Year Disguised as a Man


After the experiment, she was institutionalized for depression, and stated that she never felt so glad for being a woman.

>"I really like being a woman. ... I like it more now because I think it's more of a privilege."

>"Living as a man taught me a lot about the things I most enjoyed about being a woman in the world, things I consider to be the privileges of womanhood—the emotional freedom, the range of expression, the sexual and social power we can exercise over men. Returning to my life as a woman was about reclaiming those privileges and taking greater satisfaction in them".

Not affiliated with the amazon link, but Shisheido Perfect Whip.

I have dry skin and it is strong enough to get sunscreen off while at the same time not tearing up my skin. I buy it in bulk.

You only have to use a pea sized amount so a tube lasts me four or five months with twice daily use. It is just the right mix of gentle/gets my face clean.

These marker/pens are really nice and much cheaper on Amazon than in a store
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0007OEE7E?ref=yo_pop_ma_swf

Also I got a silk pillowcase, it's fantastic
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01LWWTACZ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apip_bC3knUz3X1ttx

And these boots are pretty nice
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01MSJYJ75?ref=yo_pop_ma_swf

I had a very similar experience. The few exes that tried it weren't good at it and were not into it. I figured it wasn't something I really enjoyed. When my current partner and I first started dating, they read the short book [She Comes First](She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman (Kerner) https://www.amazon.com/dp/0060538260/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_jbEQybPY0B42K) . In previous relationships they never went down on their partner, I don't know what possessed them to read this book, but talk about a godsend. It's like the planets, stars and comets are all colliding at once when they eat me out. 😍

Check out this book: The Highly Sensitive Person. It's wonderful.

I think if it were valued, people would be taught to not be ashamed of their sensitivity, would learn tools to use it for its best results, and become incredibly productive members of society.

How I shave is detailed below. The most important thing to do is a pre-shave scrub and to 'treat' the skin by putting unscented anti-persperant on the shaved skin, and also not to wear tight clothing for some hours after shaving, although loose cotton underwear should be OK.

Safety razor, good razor blades, soothing shaving cream, shaving brush. See below.

Have a shower. Scrub your crotch with a lemon-sugar scrub to remove all the dead skin and oil.

While you're still in the shower, put a dab of shaving cream on your wet shaving brush and work up a good lather on your crotch. Shave with the grain. Learn to use your razor on your legs before you take it near your clit. This isn't a venus, if you make the wrong movement with this razor you can slice your most sensitive of sensitives wide open.

Watch some tutorial videos. Safety razor shaving isn't difficult and men manage to shave their faces every day using them without incident. Go slow and take your time to learn the techniques.

I've linked some good starting products below. Your mileage may vary.

http://www.amazon.com/Merkur-Model-180-Handled-Safety/dp/B000NL0T1G/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1374443612&sr=8-1&keywords=merkur+safety+razor

http://www.amazon.com/Feather-Hi-Stainless-Platimum-Double-Blades/dp/B0022R947O/ref=sr_1_1?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1374443626&sr=1-1&keywords=feather+razor+blades

http://www.amazon.com/Proraso-Shaving-Eucalyptus-Menthol-Formulation/dp/B00837ZOI0/ref=sr_1_1?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1374443646&sr=1-1&keywords=proraso

http://www.amazon.com/Escali-100%25-Badger-Shaving-Brush/dp/B003WR3QSG/ref=sr_1_1?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1374443659&sr=1-1&keywords=shaving+brush

I'm still working on this, but a book I have found helpful is The Four Agreements

At first I wasn't sure about it because it's based on the wisdom and spirituality of the ancient Toltec civilization's religion. I'm not religious or spiritual but the four agreements themselves make a lot of sense.

Have you heard of Outlander by Diana Gabaldon? Historical-Fiction-Fantasy-Romance-Intrigue novels, just started being made into a tv show this past month. It's probably the only series I have read as many times as Harry Potter.

I also just finished The Name of The Wind by Patrick Rothfuss. Great book. Fantasy, but a refreshing take on the typical tropes, and explores some cool themes.

I also love Johnathan Strange and Mr Norrell. It's kind of like Jane Austen meets Fantasy.

This is the one I have:

http://www.amazon.com/Philips-HF3520-Wake-Up-Colored-Simulation/dp/B0093162RM

You can adjust the light (starts out as a dark red than gradually gets brighter but it's adjustable) and also add radio or nature sounds. It's great!

Shiseido Perfect Whip. A tube goes a long way and cleans super thoroughly.

This is the best shaver i've used for my pubes. It makes things really smooth. It only cuts short hairs though, so you have to use a different trimmer first on longer hair to get it short enough. I use this every other day and it keeps things smooth, and it doesn't knick me or give me razor burn. I love it!
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B001IZZX1C/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1425735489&sr=8-1&keywords=personal+shaver&dpPl=1&dpID=31iYU-mktxL&ref=plSrch&pi=AC_SY200_QL40

Does it have to be electronic? I'm a big fan of dermablading and you can buy pretty inexpensive razors for that. Or you can use the dermaflash - Of course, I recommend doing a bit of research and deciding if it's right for you :)

I bought this one and it's great. It wakes me up smoothly, to the sound of birds chirping. My bedroom is very dark and is on the backside of my house, which never gets any sun, so it's really good since I don't get a natural sunrise in that room.

However, while this clock does wake me up it doesn't motivate me to actually get up and start my day.

A book I would recommend. The Four Agreements. Gives you some great perspectives on how to live a fulfilling life on your own terms.

this one is pretty awesome.
the light is wonderful warming and welcoming. you just feel good. but heavy sleepers would require their smartphone to sound an alarm because the integrated noises aren't that loud.

I got the Philips HF3531 but the HF3520 linked is fine if you don't need that night light to read in bed or something.
Also got it for a friend who was always stressed in the morning and waking up feeling crushed and with a headache.

Try reading this book, it sounded ridiculous to me that a book would help but a lot of people on reddit recommended it and it really did make it easy. It even tells you to keep smoking while you read it!

Yes! Ladies, I highly, highly recommend using a spring facial hair remover if you don't already. The amount of time I save using this thing was well worth the $20 I paid for it. There are also much cheaper options, but I haven't tried them out, so I can't vouch for their effectiveness.

I use Shiseido's Perfect Whip foaming cleanser (it's like slapping marshmallow whip on your face, the foam is so thick) and I use Queen Helene's Mint Julep Mask.

Allen Carr's Easy Way to Stop Smoking. I read the version that was called The Easy Way to Quit. He has a bunch of different versions now, but I've heard they are all pretty much the same. This helped me quit smoking after 18 years as a smoker. I'd tried multiple times before using a bunch of different quitting aids. Read this book and quit cold turkey almost four years ago.

So if you're looking for another top notch fantasy series, let me recommend The Name of the Wind, one of the best fantasy series I've read in a while. Similar to GRRM's series, we've been waiting for the next installment very impatiently.

I use this monistat chafing cream that really, really helps me! It’s available at Walmart next to the other monistat stuff. I think Lush carries something similar as well.

Question, since there is some discussion in here about razor use:

Have any of the women here tried using a safety razor, such as this one? I'm always trying to convert my fellow man friends, but not sure if these suit women's needs.

It's crazy inexpensive to refill these things with blades, and they provide a great shave. I can't imagine paying for commercial "Mach 3" type razors.

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love by Amir Levine et al.

ISBN-10: 1585429139

ISBN-13: 978-1585429134

Paperback

Kindle

This. also this. and this. also maybe some books? Ask for fancy ice cream? Lol or if you like who's asking tell them you wanna visit a soda jerk (old fashioned soda shop)

Bonus for a fantastic product name.

This is a great book : The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You

There are also companion books for relationships and parenting as an HSP

Nippies are my favorite, and are reusable https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001PU9A9Q

Male here. As a continuation of this I would like to suggest She comes first as a good place to start.

You should read this book if that comment was helpful to you.

http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00314WHW6 Worth every penny

Maybe the razors are too sharp? These are the ones I use, love them to death https://www.amazon.com/Tinkle-Eyebrow-Razor-Pack-6/dp/B014HNOXZS/ref=sr_1_2_s_it?s=beauty&ie=UTF8&qid=1495455925&sr=1-2&keywords=eyebrow+razor

Also, the book "The Four Agreements" It's a quick read but really reinforces the points he made. https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319

I think for me the most important rule is don't have clutter - it's a lot easier to keep your surroundings clean if it's not full of unnecessary junk. I dust off surfaces, change sheets and vacuum once per week, it takes no more than 10-15 minutes, if that - it's just so easy when everything is in place. I'm not a minimalist or anything, but I just don't have more stuff than I use. I have roommates and we do have a cleaning lady that takes care of the common areas, so this is only my room, but it was the same when I lived alone - don't have unnecessary clutter, wipe down surfaces after I'm done with them and vacuum once per week. Clean or put dishes in dishwasher immediately (life happens, so I have a 24 hr turnaround rule for myself here), a sink full of dirty dishes is disgusting and gives off an immature college kid who has never lived on their own-vibe. But yeah, most importantly, don't own and let unnecessary shit occupy space in your life. You can be the tidiest person in the world, but if you have a lot of useless shit, your place will look dirty because dust will coat itself everywhere no matter how much you try to stay on top of it.

And on a mental note, your home is the space where you live, relax and fuck, not a storage unit for unnecessary junk that you don't use, right? :) Buy or borrow Marie Kondo's book where she explains the process of decluttering and how doing so will make it easier to keep your surroundings clean and organized, and how that in turn will help you (in theory) keep your shit together. Besides, I obviously can't speak for all women, but fuck it, I love guys that keep a tidy and clean space, and the opposite can easily be a dealbreaker depending on severity (like seriously - everybody poops, but seeing lots of skidmarks in the toilet bowl isn't going to make me very turned on or make me want to come back again any time soon no matter how great a guy is otherwise...)

Patrick Rothfuss' Name of the Wind. The protagonist goes through a lot growing up. I lost so much sleep for that poor kid. And it's one of the best series I've ever read.

The Name of the Wind (Kingkiller Chronicle)
http://www.amazon.com/The-Name-Wind-Kingkiller-Chronicle/dp/0756404746

Apparently this book is fantastic.

I'm not a smoker but a friend of mine read this book while trying to quit, he said the book really helped him and he hasn't gone back on them since.

Get a deeper bath by covering up the overflow drain. A must have for my baths
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00314WHW6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_kc5zCbQR1FY4T

http://www.amazon.com/She-Comes-First-Thinking-Pleasuring/dp/0060538260/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&sr=&qid=

I use these Nippies - they're adhesive and reusable. I have several summer dresses that are incompatible with bras, so that's when I use them most - I've had my pair since 2014. They conceal both color and headlights.

Non-mobile: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B001IZZX1C/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1425735489&sr=8-1&keywords=personal+shaver&dpPl=1&dpID=31iYU-mktxL&ref=plSrch&pi=AC_SY200_QL40

^That's ^why ^I'm ^here, ^I ^don't ^judge ^you. ^PM ^/u/xl0 ^if ^I'm ^causing ^any ^trouble. ^WUT?

https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B001FXUTUM?psc=1&smid=A1O0A90IPQUR57

I upgraded and got this one recently.

I used men's razors before switching to this safety razor.

Changed my life.

Already done.

Have a read of Self Made Man

I suggest you read: http://amzn.com/0553062182

You might find this book helpful-

https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_sspa?keywords=attachment+theory&qid=1559238579&s=gateway&sprefix=attachmen&sr=8-1-spons&psc=1

Rose petal witch hazel as a post-facewash toner. I have sworn by witch hazel for years and will never buy the 'regular' stuff again after having used the rose petal kind.

I have been thinking about this forever, so I just impulse bought this one. Not cheap, but I'm a little desperate at the moment. I can't wake up on time for work :(

Mine is not noticeable at all but for some reason when my anxiety is out of control it drives me CRAZY and kind of pull/pick at it?? This has become necessary