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u/ma2rten · 6 pointsr/AvPD

I will take a shot at answering your question. I think there are some strategies to make it better. Not everything is going to work for everyone.

  1. Mindfulness and Meditation (for example headspace app, mindfulness in plain english)
  2. Self-compassion and loving-kindness meditation
  3. Visualizing being confident
  4. Listing things you are good at
  5. Positive affirmations
  6. CBT
  7. Being in nature
  8. Exercise, Diet, Sleep
  9. Creative outlets, music
  10. Sharing the feeling (like this)

    None of these things are going to be a cure. The only cure is addressing the underling issue in therapy.

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u/NakedAndMasturbating · 1 pointr/AvPD

That's great!

Could I ask you a favor? Could you leave your success story that you just posted as a review on the Amazon page for my book? It would really help me out with getting some initial eyeballs on my book on Amazon.

u/AnonyL · 1 pointr/AvPD

So much of what you said is the same as myself. Though some I have managed to tone down to a degree.

One things that I'd like to share that helped me a lot, was attempting to drop perfectionism as a concept. It's flawed and completely self destructive.

Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David D Burns has a chapter on "Daring to be average" which was really insightful to me. Perfectionism is a trap - a desire that will never be sated, causing feel bad about whatever you do.

There is nothing wrong with average. You wouldn't expect someone else to be perfect, so why yourself? Your monetary value, your qualifications, your job, your achievements are not indicative of your worth. Perfectionism tells us otherwise. It is wrong.

I really recommend giving the book a read. Or even just that chapter.

u/nothingscathartic · 1 pointr/AvPD

Eyore, sometimes.

That chick from Welcome to the Dollhouse. I'm avoidant to protect myself from being like her, if that makes any sense. Deep down, I feel like a grade-grubber, self-centered, self-esteem-less, angry, humiliated, desperately lonely, homely little girl. It feels like the only good I ever do is when I manage to suppress my basic nature. I feel so ugly inside that I can't let myself get close to anybody.

I feel like the author's childhood friend from the memoir Songs from the Black Chair. Spoiler Alert--One of his friends ends up in his late twenties with a very low paying job (more than I could achieve) and all he does is endlessly write in his journal. That is one of my only hobbies, endless introspection.





u/rogue-seven · 5 pointsr/AvPD

OP, thank you for making an optimistic post, it always pisses me off that whenever this happens someone comes and tries to tank it as if all the work we have to do for not tanking ourselves wasn’t hard enough, as if good days and good perspectives aren’t allowed. Scientific approaches in the psychiatric field are always changing, no one is doing studies to see if our disorder has a cure like with schizophrenia or ADHD or EDs, but I think that if they can make relevant changes, we also can... I’d recommend you to read Back to Normal and Dante’s Cure

u/spruceofthemist · 1 pointr/AvPD

I’ve been going to group therapy and they differentiate the skills groups and the process groups, and to me the process groups is where most of the work happens. I think of processing as the self discovery and “why” part of healing. But for it to work you kind of have to be proactive and form an authentic connection with your therapist (or group). I totally recommend this book, as a guide on what to do in therapy.

u/insenceofporpoises · 8 pointsr/AvPD

40 here. Same place as you. feel exhausted by life. I'm considering going back to therapy. I recently read Running on Empty, a book about childhood emotional neglect which has reeeaallly connected a lot of dots for me. I highly recommend it. My hope is that armed with this information I can make more headway into positive changes, but I feel likeI need a therapist to direct me. At this point I've nothing left to lose by trying even if it is a lot of effort.

u/AviodaNinja · 3 pointsr/AvPD

I imagine many on this board are also introverts so I would recommend "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" by Susan Cain. It's a popular science book about introversion, that helped me understand and better accept that part of my personality. There is a lot of misunderstanding about what extro-introversion actually is, and this can really help you and people around you understand.

"Gandhi: An Autobiography - The Story of My Experiments With Truth" by (you guessed it) Mahatma Gandhi. I read this many years ago, and it is a honest book based around Gandhi's philosophy of truth. His struggles both inwards and outwards are quite inspiring.
Incidentally, a couple of years ago there was a lesser scandal about him being a sex addict (how dare you be a non-violent activist synbol with a sex drive!), but he discusses that part of his life quite openly in the book. No fuss. He got it under control by meditating and trying different diets, if I remember correctly.

u/wiseguy13579 · 5 pointsr/AvPD

There are not many books specifically about AvPD. Martin Kantor wrote two books about AvPD :

Distancing: Avoidant Personality Disorder

The Essential Guide to Overcoming Avoidant Personality Disorder

u/trek_wars · 3 pointsr/AvPD

>Just more violent reactions to small stimuli each day like breaking objects, yelling super loud, and self-loathing by spouting out suicidal thoughts in shower or bed.

Read Albert Ellis How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Anything--Yes, Anything!.

Get it used, borrow it from a library -- do whatever but read it. Do nothing else this week. Get through it. It is of major importance that you read this book and then read it again. Then take a few weeks to practice what he says.

No small (things that upset you, behaviors of other people I'm guessing) stimuli will illicit a reaction afterwards or you will be able to catch yourself doing it and calm yourself down.

I totally agree AvPD feels like a curse, voodoo or witches meddling somehow. But I prefer the Stoic mindset of rationality being able to conquer things, which seems to be lost in modern neurotic times. Ellis actually takes some Buddhist thought and enhances it without the herbal teas and detox mumbo jumbo, so you might connect to it.

u/BogusProfiterole · 3 pointsr/AvPD

This is a quick "screen" from the best book I've ever found on this subject;

"Are you the child of toxic parents?

When you were a child...

Did your parents tell you you were bad or worthless?
Did your parents use physical pain to discipline you?
Did you have to take care of your parents because of their problems?
Were you often frightened of your parents?
Did your parents do anything to you that had to be kept secret?

Now that you a€™re an adult...

Do your parents still treat you as if you were a child?
Do you have intense emotional or physical reactions after spending time with your parents?
Do your parents control you with threats or guilt? Do they manipulate you with money?
Do you feel that no matter what you do, it'€™s never good enough for your parents?"

Any of these things are toxic and abusive, and have a major influence on your sense of self-worth.

u/rutiara · 3 pointsr/AvPD

Yep, this is very relatable. When I read it I thought: 'Are you me?'. I'm a programming major so when I study new things on my own (because it's fun and interesting) I always find myself thinking I will make inexcusable mistakes or that I should easily understand that thing I'm having trouble with because it's my major.

Since I'm having the same problem I did a little research and found a post where someone recommended this book (I've barely started it so I can't really guarantee if it's worth your time)

About the art thing, I enrolled in my neighborhood association art class because I reached the conclusion that there's no other way out than go there and show people my crappy art. As a person with SA/AvPD I'm my worst critic, literally I don't even want to grab the pencil because I'm doing it wrong. I fear start a drawing because the ending result will demonstrate how bad I am at this (and therefore at everything in my life). Now, I'll have the obligation to go to the weekly classes and show my crap to more experimented people (and socialize yaaaaaay). Probably in your closest library there is a writing group. You could try it if you feel brave (I'm trembling just by imagining it so...)

I hope it helps. I feel you because your post is also my daily struggle. At least I want to tell you you're not alone in this.

Edit: typos