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> I'm otherwise quite a confident and happy person, so this issue seems unusual for a male at such a young age.

Here's where you're wrong. Psychogenic erectile dysfunction is actually quite common, and doesn't depend on your age. Experiencing this doesn't make you abnormal or broken. If you're concerned then by all means get checked out by a doctor, but if you think it's just anxiety causing it then that may be the case. Virtually all men will experience ED at some point in their lives - be it due to nerves, alcohol, whatever; it's nothing to be ashamed of. Men don't magically always have perfect erections - that's not reality. I dealt with the same issue around your age and eventually got some therapy to discuss it and that helped unpack the issues that were causing it for me. Basically, if you're having performance anxiety, it's the anxiety that's probably the main cause of your problem. The general approach to this problem that I've come across is to 1) talk to your partner about how you're feeling so that they're on board and understand you and can help, 2) work with your partner to make sex less goal-oriented or put temporary limits. E.g. first have a session where you're not allowed sex or genital touching so that you have 0 pressure to perform, and then gradually build up over time to sessions where you can add those elements back in.

This book is pretty good and has talks a lot about the role of anxiety in sexual dysfunction, and has an entire chapter on erectile dysfunction that may interest you:

http://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Healing-Complete-Overcoming-Problems/dp/0897934652/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1459011764&sr=8-2&keywords=sexual+healing

Another approach is to focus on pleasuring your partner first through something other than intercourse, and after they're satisfied the focus can shift to you - this takes a lot of the pressure off because you've already 'performed' and thus can't really 'fail' - although it's better to not view sex through a lens of success/fail, this can be a helpful way to solve the problem. This book below is all about oral sex, but the author explicitly talks about having sexual dysfunction that he solved by doing exactly what I just described, and may be of interest to you.

http://www.amazon.com/She-Comes-First-Thinking-Pleasuring/dp/0060538260/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1459012050&sr=8-1&keywords=she+comes+first

Best of luck!

Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, just someone who's had this problem and solved it for himself.

This is something that would be best discussed with a specialist in behavioral sleep medicine. See the provider search here. Working with an expert can help you sort out the minutiae you're looking for help with.

Or you can try sleepio or shuti online programs. Or you can go for a book, though I'll throw in a recommendation for Insomnia Answer, which was co-authored by Art Spielman, who developed SRT.

CBT-I is typically conducted over 4-8 weeks, with SRT starting in week 2, and adjusted every 1-2 weeks, based on weekly averages of sleep efficiency and need for additional sleep. A combination of high sleep efficiency and need for sleep result in increasing time in bed.

Stimulus control is older than SRT, well-supported, and a key component of CBTI. I can't say for you, but in general, it's a good idea. Some cognitive techniques would likely help with the anxiety you are experiencing too.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0738217859/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_dp_ss_2?pf_rd_p=1944687502&pf_rd_s=lpo-top-stripe-1&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_i=1452898057&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=17EJE8ADYQVEVC7WZ0X5

I am an intern working to promote Amit Sood's program in my local community. Our group is working diligently to spread his work as far as possible, including in local businesses and social centers. It really helps general happiness to pay more attention to details, embrace the moment, and get out of dark loops within ourselves.

Get a copy of the book Say Goodnight To Insomnia, it is a do it yourself version of a program developed by Harvard and verified over a decade. It integrates all non-drug modalities, including/especially CBT, into an insomnia reduction program.