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Hi, welcome to the club :) Do you have any questions in particular?

Ideally at this point you should be thinking about the best way to incorporate BPD treatment into your daily life. Whether it's actual therapy or researching it on your own, you would ideally want to set yourself up so that you inevitably have to think about it all on a daily basis. This ensures that, over time, you'll become more of an expert on the subject than a simple patient of the illness. By knowing how it came to be and how it works, eventually you'll be able to catch yourself and deal with yourself before getting into episodes.

Ultimately it comes down to being able to identify your emotions as they occur, and being able to diffuse the destructive ones before they take over any rational thought. Some helpful resources:

• Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), if you can afford it, has proven to be highly useful for BPD. BPD used to be considered an untreatable condition until DBT was put together. It is essentially a spinoff of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) that has incorporated elements from buddhist philosophy (thus the Dialectic part). DBT can be hard to grasp at first. Don't worry about it too much, just keep showing up.
  
• One of my favourite workbooks that teach DBT is The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook. The link I shared is to Amazon, but you can also go to r/dbtselfhelp and search for pdfs of many helpful books on the subject.
  
• You may be prescribed medicine. This is done in the hopes that it will help to take the edge off, not to cure you. The cure comes from actively training your brain to think differently under duress.
  
• There are many apps that can help you keep up with self-care. Some deal with symptom relief, some have diary cards. Here's a useful list. I personally really like an app called SuperBetter, very customizable and fun, created by this lovely lady.
  
  You will often read and be told that BPD is something you're going to live with for the rest of your life. This isn't exactly wrong, but it isn't as severe as it sounds. There are many success stories. There are even success stories that didn't require years of therapy. What cured people generally have in common is a keen interest in learning more about the condition, dedication, and compassion towards oneself when there are slip-ups. They are deemed success stories not because they no longer get triggered by silly things, but because their way of dealing with these triggers is no longer problematic most of the time.

I'm really sorry to hear about all of this.

I would strongly recommend (as others have said) looking into DBT. I'm somewhere where I can't get access easily to this kind of therapy, so I'm working with a therapist remotely and mostly doing the hard stuff on my own.

The things that have helped me most are these two books: The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook and Mindfulness for Borderline Personality Disorder.

As far as marriage goes, I also strongly recommend reading What Makes Love Last?, which goes into a lot of detail about trust in relationships and how to rebuild it when it has deteriorated.

If you like to use apps, there's a few I can recommend:

• Headspace for meditation and mindfulness
  
• Moodnotes for emotion regulation, CBT, and mindfulness
  
• Down Dog for yoga and mindfulness
  
• Lasting for strengthening your marriage
  
• Love Nudge also for strengthening your marriage
  
  I hope this helps some.

best DBT book according to my psychiatry friends: https://www.amazon.com/Skills-Training-Handouts-Worksheets-Second/dp/1572307811/ref=pd_sbs_14_1/139-5353406-3502968?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1572307811&pd_rd_r=4fb2861d-38c1-4afc-be43-6fae090049ac&pd_rd_w=Xf2WI&pd_rd_wg=bBImX&pf_rd_p=52b7592c-2dc9-4ac6-84d4-4bda6360045e&pf_rd_r=DX6BXR3YASDREKBZ4EBE&psc=1&refRID=DX6BXR3YASDREKBZ4EBE

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i'd recommend breaking up with him on fb, or even better, breaking up with facebook. life will be better that way.

i wish you way more than luck, be well!

I would recommend two books, and highly recommend to look for a few more.

This book has changed my life and several friends, all with varying disorders. Saved my best friend from bulimia, helped my husband greatly with BDP, and my brother come out of meth addiction.
Man's Search for Meaning https://www.amazon.com/dp/0807014273/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_RcS3CbEF3R10K

This is to work through BPD and I know it’ll help you define if that’s what’s going on:
Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder https://www.amazon.com/dp/0898620341/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_pbS3Cb2EDVHH8

You should definitely seek out a therapist. Be empowered to call places locally. It’s so great to figure out what’s going on, especially early.

Absolutely, yes: The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Borderline-Personality-Disorder-Survival-Guide/dp/1572245077 .

I have read quite a bit of BDP literature and I can't recommend this book enough. You will not regret getting it, some books are to "selfhelp-y", others too medical and alienating. This one is a perfect match.

Let me know if you ever get it and want to exchange thoughts.

Good luck!

I had the dialectical behavioral therapy workbookdbt workbook I got it at the California treatment center I was in and it’s amazing. Highly recommend it.

this one is great too

try this as well

Sure it’s on amazon.

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & ... (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1572245131/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_otWxCb7EEA0S5

I tried it for 4 weeks. I hated it. Every minute of it, including going there and leaving. Being in a room full of people I don’t know with the same condition and being taught how to meditate in a situation I’m already super uncomfortable in was terrible. I instead bought the book on DBT. ( The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & ... (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1572245131/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_9bh6Cb51RNZJZ )

for me and my anxiety and problems with being around unknown people, this has helped more than any of it. This is mainly what the dbt group I was in went over every week anyways and I feel like for the 180$ I wasted on that class, I got more out of this book for 10$