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I would love some sort of reading discussion or book club on relevant books, articles, research, aimed at helping to parent with the values of inclusion, diversity and equality. There’s a lot of outdated “advice” and “wisdom” that is out there in the form of parenting advice books. I have found it challenging to find resources that align with the kind of post-toxic masculinity, pro-feminism values that speak to me and that I see discussed on r/MensLib. With my kid quickly reaching the end of the toddler age, it almost feels like being a first-time parent again with all the new things to figure out. Just as I finally have mastered everything there was to raising a baby and toddler, and now there’s this kid in the house who is strong, and loving, but has opinions and a fierce will, and I don't know how to nurture that yet.

There's a book called Boy Crisis that I heard a talk about at my UU church, and I’ve been meaning to read it. Might be a good start, although it doesn’t seem like light reading!

The best children's book ever is The Monster at the End of this Book (Starring lovable furry old Grover).

However, the books I must recommend are

• How Full is Your Bucket (For Kids) which is based on some proper grown-up self-help book I have not read. It teaches kids to think about how they are making others feel and be aware of how they are feeling and most importantly how those two things interact. How people can lash out when they are emotionally drained and how helping others makes you feel better too.
  
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• Each Kindness This is pretty heavy and it will leave everyone feeling pretty sad at the end. I still can't read it without getting teary. However that's the point. It's meant to make children reflect on how they treat people. The story is told from the point of view of a girl at school. A new girl joins the class and it's clear she comes from a family which is struggling financially. The new girl tries to make friends but the main character and other girls snub her until she's forced to reflect on how she's been treating the new girl but before she can do anything to make things right, the new girl moves to a different school and the main character is left to deal with that regret.
  
  These were both great ways to start discussions with my 5-year-old daughter. Another one which was good for talking about feelings was a picture book adaptation of Inside Out (the Pixar movie). She's found "who is driving the console?" a good way to frame what she and other people are feeling.