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Hello ~ I'm Hmong, my husband is white, and we've been together almost a decade, married about 7 years now with one child. I just wanted to first and foremost, congratulate you on the biggest first step in the relationship! You probably might not think much of it and consider it "inevitable" but culturally, it is a huge step for the relationship if the woman introduces her boyfriend to her family. It means that she is seriously thinking you are the one, and want everyone's (or mostly everyone's) blessing/okay.

One of the big things about the culture is that word gets around fast within the community (because it's so close-knit), and the reason why it's such a huge step is because once a woman is married, she's completely cut off from her family as a "daughter." It's a little confusing, and I don't want you to get confused so I'll clarify it a little bit: her family will still consider her a daughter/sister (and love her all the same), but spiritually she will not be, so she cannot just go back to her parents.

Anyway, a good way to make a good impression is be open, don't be afraid to talk to the elders (most of them know English, and mostly all can still communicate effectively even with their broken English), ask a question if you do not know or do not understand!, and don't be afraid to be yourself.

Hmong events have a lot of drinking involved, so if you're not the drinking type, you can always make up good excuses, such as, "I take a specific type of medication that won't allow me to drink." Or as someone else mentioned, just keep holding that same first half finished beer can and sip here and there. My husband's favorite thing to do is holding a NOS can and say he already has a can of beer. Also, related to this, always finish your can/shot. It is viewed as highly disrespectful to not. Also, depending on if her family is "hardcore" about drinking, you might get away with "I'm not feeling well."

Each family/clan have their own rules about drinking, but a few good points/questions to ask:

• Ask which hand to drink with, which hand to pour from, and what direction (this last one is only relevant if you are sitting a table).
  
  
• If it is a shot, it is generally accompanied with some words. Ask who it is from, and why. Always, always keep track of who it is from, and who has drunk from it already because after you drink, you must pass the shot down so that it goes back to the person who first poured it. Note: Taking "shots" is about quantity, not the quality of the liquor in it (since there's so many people in one single event), so more than likely the shot will be some shitty beer like Coors, Bud, etc. However, with that being said, quality liquor does come out, but generally mid-end of an event or if there's not a lot of people.
  
  
• Very important - Do not fall into the trap of someone drinking for you! When the shots come out, it's about the mind games! So, if it is your turn to drink and someone goes, "bp1984, this shot is from XYZ because he blahblahblah. I will drink this shot for you because I want you to know that I now think of you as a brother." Cool, right? Makes you feel good because you aren't drinking, someone's drinking for you, and now they think of you like a brother, right? Wrong! Later on, when the real liquor comes out (and I'm talking about like, Hmong moonshine, not the beer they use to pour into the shot glasses), when it's their turn to drink, they will turn to you and be like, "bp1984, I drunk for you already, will you help me drink this?" and they will keep giving you their shots! They can go with, "bp1984, you are now my brother, and as my new brother, will you help me drink this?" Those are some sweet words that you can't turn down, amirite? Yep... it's all a trap! With that being said, you can't really refuse someone drinking for you, however you can at least prepare yourself for when they want to make you take their drink for them. You can go, "Thank you for viewing me as your new brother, but how about we drink this one together? You drink half, and I'll drink half," or "You drink as much as you can and I will finish the rest for you." It's all mind/words games.
  
  
• Always shake hand with every single man and say hello to them. It is a gesture of respect and acknowledgement from both sides. On your way out, try to shake hands with every single man before leaving; if you miss a few, it's okay.
  
  
• When you visit her parents, always acknowledge Dad and Mom when you first get there (no handshake for Mom). When you leave, always acknowledge them when you leave, again, handshake for Dad. You don't have to call them "Dad" and "Mom," but you can call them respectful titles such as "Niam Taiv" and "Yawv Txiv."
  
  
• Try to know who's who. I know remembering names are hard, so you don't have to try to remember everyone's name within one to two visits, but if you at least remember their face, and remember their title or how they're related to your GF, you'll get big points for this. Knowing titles means knowing their position in the family hierarchy, which is important within the Hmong culture. This is related to where they sit at the table when there's a big event going on, like a wedding.
  
  
• Ask a question if you don't understand something. This shows your interest.
  
  
  That's all I can think of at the moment. Feel free to PM if you want more details/have any more questions, or if you want to ask my husband any questions.
  
  I recommend reading An Introduction to Hmong Culture. It'll give you a good basis of the culture and history, and you'll be able to understand a lot of the idiosyncrasies that goes on within.

Replacing the sugar with something like erythritol instantly cuts all carbs associated with sugar and it tastes similar.

Also, cauliflower rice is a good replacement for regular rice. It's not exactly the same but it's way better for you diet-wise.

source: am white, gf is hmong, we eat low carb and cook a lot.

If you'er looking for resources, I'd recommend The Latehomecomer by Kao Kalia Yang.

It's ~$74 dollars on amazon. https://www.amazon.com/Chinese-Odyssey-Blu-ray/dp/B001L2I25G tho not hmoob dub, lol.