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Not an audio book, but Connirae and Steve Andreas' Heart of the Mind: Engaging Your Inner Power to Change with Neuro-Linguistic Programming is a classic and a great starting point. If you get the Kindle version, I believe you can have Alexa or some screen reader software read it for you.
https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B001BEXDQW?pf_rd_p=b4b36b89-db1d-45ae-9084-4fd14a329395&pf_rd_r=ZRG83WDW14CF72HRTASM


Otherwise, below are the Amazon audiobooks on NLP ranked by reviews. That might give you some ideas if you take a look.
https://smile.amazon.com/s?k=nlp&i=audible&s=review-rank&qid=1574794706&ref=sr_st_review-rank

It's Free now Best wishes, hope it's helpful.

It sounds like you are an Empath. Here’s a good book that I would suggest which could be helpful. Not NLP related, I sort of just stumbled on to this post.

Not NLP but 'transactional analysis...may help (chapter 4 , handle feelings through trackdown):

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Staying-Ok-Amy-B-Harris/dp/0099552515/ref=pd_sim_14_3?ie=UTF8&dpID=41E699kQa%2BL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL160_SR100%2C160_&refRID=RY4RW490T8XHQT5VG2KT

also a book called 'I'm ok you're ok'.

As an additional reasource, get this Kindle book. It is very cheap but surprisingly readable. Covert Hypnosis: Easily Sneak Your Ideas Into Their Mind. It is a listing of Milton's Model Patterns and Presuppositions with examples of each pattern/presupposition.

This one is a really good primer. Recommended by a decent handful of NLP-literature-knowledgable people I've known. Great balance of breadth and depth. no audio book version that I know of.

https://www.amazon.com/Introducing-NLP-Psychological-Understanding-Influencing/dp/1855383446

> follow perhaps the wrong school and place faith in a author who has at best no authority and at worse speaks rubbish.

heh. with a little NLP active in your brain, most of that will, I'd bet, lose a lot of relevance to you.

This book, healing ADD, has a foreword and a recommendation by NLP co-founder Richard Bander.

I´ve worked with kids with ADD, and used principles from this book. I recommend that, and also, while we´re on the track, "The Gift of Dyslexia". Both books use a lot of reframing; in "healing ADD", people with ADD are described as hunter/gatherers in a society of farmers, which to me is a pretty accurate description.

Best book you'll ever read: The Rainbow Machine: Tales from a Neurolinguist's Journalhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/0911226443/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_U_wLU6CbXEKJJWC

The biggest mistake I notice many people make is to reduce NLP to patterns and techniques. NLP is not a science, it's an art. I would suggest reading as much of Richard Bandler's writings as you can, to understand the underlying concepts and use books, like this one, as a reference for the traditional patterns you'd like to utilize:

https://www.amazon.com/Sourcebook-Magic-Comprehensive-Change-Patterns/dp/1904424252/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=the+sourcebook+of+magic&qid=1569803521&sr=8-1

I recommend this book: https://www.amazon.com/Clinical-Effectiveness-Neurolinguistic-Programming-Appraisal/dp/0415635152

The R&R Project is taking an NLP technique for PTSD through the studies necessary for VA approval... they are getting cure rates in the >90% range. http://www.researchandrecognition.org/research.html

How can you not use NLP in self development?

What you want to do for your client is to create change as easy and effectively as possible.

Generate resourceful states by manipulating submodalities, then anchor those states into your clients so they can produce certain states when needed.

Also, you might want to destroy limiting beliefs and install new beliefs.

NLP is a vast topic, and there are hundreds of patterns availible. You have to use the right tool for the right job.

Elicit the clients obstacle, present a solution/goal/outcome, then you may use a combination of patterns to generate change.

http://www.amazon.com/The-Big-Book-NLP-Techniques/dp/9657489113

There is a book on the topic by a B-actor from Hollywood who is also a student of Richard Bandler, the creator of NLP:

Acting FOR REAL™ - Thom McFadden
Richard Bandler writes: “Thom has uniquely mastered NLP to the art of 'acting for real.' Brilliant!”

https://www.amazon.com/Acting-Real-Star-you-life-ebook/dp/0978821408/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1472973844&sr=8-2&keywords=Thom+McFadden

Users manual for the brain https://www.amazon.com/Users-Manual-Brain-Vol/dp/1899836322

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001OD41PC/