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Sure. It’s different for every couple.

From 18-29 I was in a shit relationship who acted like my money was mine... but he could tell me how to spend it, wanted to see every receipt every credit card bill, I brought in more money than him. Once I got out of that relationship I vowed to never: “play house,” I’m unwilling to make any large financial purchase with someone I’m not married to. No houses no car. Etc.

In this relationship (engaged after 3 months, married after 1 year total)


It was “his” money and “my” money until the day we got married.

In fact, 2 months before we got married, my old reliable car went through my entire 3,500 of savings for fixing the car. And then it still needed more work. We went to a dealership. I couldn’t afford a down payment (I spent my car budget on fixing my car), and so I offered for him to put the payment down, and I’d just make the payments. In front of the finance guy he was like “I love you babe, but I’ve seen enough judge Judy to know that’s a bad idea.” So he bought me a car... for 2 months. Now the monthly payment comes from our joint account. In a turn of events, since the dealer offered to give me $800 for my car (1 owner, no accidents, 200k miles, CLEAN, 2004 CR-V, with maybe $1000 more in work needed and me just putting in 3,500 I called a friend who’s dad is a mechanic. His growing family needed a second car, I said will you buy it for $800... now he’s sat every day and listened to me complain and dump money into it. He laughed and said I’ll give you a grand. SOLD. On the way over to drop the car at his place... some guy fell asleep and slammed into me... totaling my car. Insurance gave me $6,000 for the car + some money for pain/suffering. I walked away sore and frustrated.

We were married by the time those checks cleared. The funds went to actually pay off his car (higher payment than the one he bought “me”)

He came to the marriage with more debt than me... (fancy car, big ass RV)... but we paid them off together and saved together for our first house.

But we believe that we are a team. We are both responsible and respect money. We both like to spend, but we both can save with no issue.


We discuss / let each other know if we are going to spend more than $200 (an amount he set— I didn’t care, I basically tell him what I spend all the time- and we get alerts on our phones so it’s not like I don’t know). We have a little wiggle room for gifts (he just got me a nugget ice maker that I’m in love with!)...and I don’t check with him on groceries / clothes. I’m not a clothes person so I buy most things from Walmart... I’m not allowed unsupervised in Home Depot or Hobby Lobby. But I don’t have to “ask” to spend money.

We are on the same page with our saving goals.

He contributes roughly 70% of our combined income. We topped out pretty close to 200k combined. So we are definitely not struggling and have lifestyles and spending habits that are well below our means. So money for sure is not a stressor.

In a marriage I feel like my job is to bring in as much money as I can... and if it’s not enough, my job is also to keep from spending as much money as possible. I do this by being a damn good cook and making 98% of our meals from home and scratch. I don’t spend money on frivolous things. I make sure I want things. He doesn’t think it’s far for all the house chores to land on me.. so he usually washes all the dishes that don’t go in the dishwasher and does laundry (we fold and put away together). I do most the house cleaning, but since I’m pregnant he doesn’t let me do the bathrooms with chemicals. He does 95% of the yard and pool maintenance.
I wake up to take the puppy out to potty in the middle of the night.

He picks up the slack when I have a rough week, and I do more of his chores when he’s had a long week.


As far as your GF saying “our” money... I’d have a problem with that. Harder if you are living together and splitting bills, etc. don’t live together because it makes financial sense.... I’m old fashioned. I believe in marriage. It’s what I wanted. Not for everyone.

As far as never getting married because of the joint account. Find a girl who respects her money. She will respect yours. You just need to be on the same page. There are other ways couples do it... say they each put 75% of paycheck into joint account and that money goes to all the bills. Then you have the rest of your paycheck to do whatever you want. It doesn’t matter. I have an Aunt who has no idea what her husband of 35 years makes. It works for them. An old coworker said she paid the electric bill with “her money” because she liked it cold and never wanted to get hassled for the bill.

Girls DO like feeling financially stable. I wasn’t looking for a high income man. I wanted a man that would actually be nice and not treat me like shit. I got extra lucky when he not only has DRIVE but actually likes his job and makes excellent money. But at the end of the day he makes me smile all day everyday and does kind things for me. Find a low maintenance girl, one who feels spoiled when you “let” her get the guacamole. Hahaha. I don’t feel like I NEED 10 designer bags, nails done every 2 weeks, designer clothes. I like simple things. My one designer bag (not even that fancy- just a coach bag) was a hand me down from a friend. I do my own nails, and get glue on ones from Target that last a week for special occasions. Most my everyday clothes come from Walmart/Target.



But my husband has bought some pretty dumb things with “our money”.... a $125 Belgium coffee maker when he didn’t even really drink coffee... I mean now it’s pretty sick and a conversation starter.. but it only makes 2 cups at a time and I needed a coffee pot for guests. Now I love it because it brings him so much joy to make coffee (that he now does drink). https://www.amazon.com/Nispira-Belgian-Belgium-Luxury-Balance/dp/B077VXKZVW/ref=asc_df_B077VXKZVW/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=242014345584&hvpos=1o1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=17130655509831553681&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9026867&hvtargid=pla-441138078185&psc=1

He had to buy me a $20 Mr. Coffee... lol.

He travels a lot for work, i have no problem with his $100 anti wrinkle shirts and $350 dollar suits (after the sale!) because he walks around the house in flip flops and $7 basket ball shorts from Walmart and a cut off shirt from 2008. And I don’t want to iron.

TLDR; you can get married without joining your accounts but you need to set up a respectful agreement LONG before wedding bells! Do what works for you! Who knows, maybe you marry some girl with family money and all of a sudden that joint account doesn’t look too bad!

>It had nothing to do with sexual preference of the period.

I would contend that this is incorrect, according to most evidence from the period. The small penis was viewed as the ideal of male beauty in Greek society. Big penises were, as I noted, considered to be vulgar and a depiction of a man as being more beast than man, or as belonging to a barbarian. This was a matter of sexual culture, as well.

It's well-documented that the ideal male penis, according to the ancient Greeks, was "small, thin, and had a pointed foreskin," as noted by McLaren (2007).

Good sources which discuss this matter are:

Garland, Daily Life of the Ancient Greeks, 1998.

Hodges, The Ideal Prepuce in Ancient Greece and Rome: Male Genital Aesthetics and Their Relation to Lipodermos, Circumcision, Foreskin Restoration, and the Kynodesme, 2001.

>Here, the allusion to the posthe clearly, although humorously, summons up an image of the entire penis, albeit one that conforms to the aesthetic ideal seen in artistic depictions of gods and heroes. The imprecise use of the word posthe serves the humorous context because, as others have shown, the Greeks valued the longer over the shorter prepuce in relation to the length of the entire penis, and the smaller over the larger penis as a whole. Even if one were to argue that the word posthe was being used precisely here, the rules of proportion, as deduced from art, would require that a petite posthe be part of a proportionally even more petite penis. (Hodges, 2001)

McLaren, Impotence: A Cultural History, 2007.

McNiven, The Unheroic Penis: Otherness Exposed, 1995.

>Most nude male figures in Athenian vase painting are standard types: handsome, slim, and well muscled. With few exceptions, the penis is small. That this was associated with the ideal in ancient Athens is clear from Aristophanes' Clouds (l.l0l4).

You may also read Kenneth Dover's book, Greek Homosexuality.

> ignorant if you think going vegan is easy for everyone

True, going vegan is not easy for everyone.

> I live in the Caribbean where practically all dishes contain meat

I became vegan in a small town in the US, where practically all the dishes contained meat.

> I’m not throwing away my childhood like that.

My grandparents were racist. Some parts of your childhood are okay to throw away, part of growing up.

>Am I going to ask my mother to make vegetarian pelau? Hell no!

I don't think anyone expects you to ask other people to feed you different food. Personally, I make my own food and have never asked anyone to prepare vegan food for me. That said, some members of my family are supportive and occasionally prepare vegan versions of their food. That is what good families tend to do, support each other.

>Also there are literally no vegan substitutes in any of my local supermarkets and the ones you do find in the “fancy” food stores are too bloody expensive.

They are expensive where I am too. But very few vegans actually eat substitute meats and manufactured products after being vegan for awhile, at least not very often. The foods we actually eat to replace the protein in meat, like beans/rice, hummus/pita, tofu, peanut butter/bread, are actually far cheaper than meat in most circumstances. Even the fad grains like quinoa and chia are often comparable to meat on a calorie/calorie and gram/gram of protein basis, depending on the location.

>Vegan diets are also high maintenance, you have to make so you're getting the right amount of everything

If you want to be a healthy vegan it is high maintenance. But the same is true of any diet. Millions of people die every year from preventable diseases because they don't "get the right amount of everything" when they eat diets loaded with too much salt, saturated fats, refined sugars, not enough fiber, etc.

>might also have to take supplements like B12

A single pill once a week that is extremely cheap. Supplementation is also the source for B12 in a lot of factory farmed animals who are confined much of their lives, so supplementing it directly just cuts out the middle man.

>There are also people that lived way over 100 and they weren’t vegan

There have been people who lived over 100 and smoked everyday. Statistics are like that, it doesn't mean smoking is healthy. That said, eating meat can be relatively healthy if done right. Not for the animal, mind you, just for the human.

>I’m going to have to find products that will give me not just enough but more calories and as I stated we have a lack of those here

It is pretty easy to find calorie dense vegan food, like the aforementioned peanut butter. Most of the depend on the region, but coconut cornbread, chickpea curry, various pastas, can all be quite calorically dense. When I first went vegan I got a copy of Hot Damn and Hell Yeah a cookbook full of Southern US comfort food for vegans.

>So why can’t I eat both.

You can, that is up to you. But a lot of the arguments you've presented for why you ought to continue to eat both are based on misunderstandings that are easily corrected.

I found a vanilla and strawberry herbal tea that I LOVE for cold nights or hard days at work. Link here.

Nah mate, there is that swiss army knife that must have a least a thousand. Have fun with it

There is a bed wedge designed for shagging the short.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Liberator-Purple-Wedge-Positioning-Pillow/dp/B003NTV2LQ#