(Part 2) Top products from r/NoFap

I found Jordan Peterson's future authoring program helpful. It's nothing too complicated. It just helps you make a vision for what you want your future to be like and set about 8 specific goals for the next few years. It's $15 to use online which I think is a little more than its worth, but overall I think it's worth it. It will probably take about a few weeks to complete, but I think it's time well spent.

https://www.selfauthoring.com/future-authoring.html

Jordan Peterson is a psychologist that posts a lot of lectures and interviews on youtube. A lot of No Fappers find his perspective helpful. Here's his channels if you're interested.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCodkb-qBktJI5NrUsPYpf7g

https://www.youtube.com/user/JordanPetersonVideos

Learning Acceptance and Commitment Therapy was helpful for me too. There are lots of therapists that use this method, but the book I read was, "The Happiness Trap" by Dr. Russ Harris.

https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Trap-Struggling-Start-Living/dp/1590305841

It's a pretty simplified approach, that teaches you the thinking patterns and habits that allow you to live more in the present and future oriented towards action in the direction of your values, rather than stuck in habits of escapism and avoidance whenever you feel uncomfortable from things like boredom and loneliness.

I also think is very helpful to set habits that put your daily life into a healthy rhythm and balance. Simple things like waking up early and going on a walk in the sunrise can make a big difference. Circadian rhythm plays a huge role in balancing hormone and neurotransmitters, so the more time you can spend outside in the brightness of the day the better especially in the morning.

Making sure you have regular positive social activity is extremely important for satisfying the brain's need for oxytocin. If you don't get it through healthy social experiences, the brain can sometimes come up with some dysfunctional ways of obtaining oxytocin release like preoccupation with porn and fantasy. So whatever you can do to make your life social. Do it. It's really not optional for humans.

Ok – some thoughts and ideas about meditation from me.

First and foremost when wanting to start meditation I think it is helpful to think of the essence of meditation as sitting down with your eyes closed for a period of time. There is a million ways to do meditation and a million (at least) different opinions about how NOT to do meditation, so it is very very easy to get lost in the discussion about how it should be done. So as a start just think at any activity that involves sitting with eyes closed for a period of time as meditation (actually some meditate with open eyes or partially open eyes – and some meditate while eating or walking – but as you see we are already getting swamped by different ways to do it :)).

Second – think of meditation as a form of exercise in the way that it can be really great to do some kind of exercise once but that the real benefits only starts showing when you do it regularly. So if you start trying a couple of meditation sessions and think that you might keep doing that, seriously consider trying to make it a daily habit. I meditate 30 minutes every morning just after getting up from bed (actually I have started doing some yoga when I get up, so right now it is after my yoga routine). It can very much feel like a waste of time (“I am just sitting here doing nothing!”) and so it can be hard to make it a daily thing – but my experience is that it is so much worth it, so I have chosen to make it a daily priority. And please be aware that 30 minutes is just the amount of time that works for me – if you can only do 5 minutes every day that is perfectly fine!

Thirdly – how to sit and what to do when you sit there.
As I said earlier there is a million opinions about how to do meditation. One of the often-said things is that you have to sit with an erect back/spine when you meditate. But I believe that the most important thing is to get a rutine going and if that is easier sitting more comfortable with a slouching back, then one should just do so! I am myself sitting in a very comfy chair without any kind of erect spine. Could my meditation be “better” if I sat up straight. Maybe so and maybe I will change it one day, but until now it has been fine for me.
So what about what to do when you sit there. Well… Again there is a lot of different ways to do it. Some count the number of breaths, some have a so called mantra they silently repeat. I actually started counting my breaths (1+ for every breathing out) and have changed it many times since. There is also the discussion about what to do when finding yourself lost in thought – because you very very very often will find yourself lost in thought. Some say “imagine that you are brushing your thoughts aside”. I have done different things – in the beginning when I found that I have drifted into thoughts, I silently “labelled” them (as in “oh… thoughts about working”) them and returned to counting.

Anyway… My post is getting out of hand :) I would like to recommend Deep Meditation by Yogani (http://www.amazon.com/Deep-Meditation-Pathway-Personal-Freedom/dp/097646554X) It is a very easy introduction to meditation and is very pragmatic. Hope you can use some of it :)

I'm glad you feel helped. Some more quick thoughts -- focus on the improvement but don't forget to continue to continue to improve and refine your practices. The ability to focus your thoughts and change your patterns is a skill, like any other. Don't expect to be great at focusing your thoughts on your progress right away, but with sustained & deliberate effort you can change yourself for the better. Just as you HAD a habit of PMOing you have a habit of negative thinking. You can change it. I found The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg (Amazon) (YouTube) to be extremely helpful here.

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Also, the idea is not that you write a million contingency plans for PMO but that you make sure you have alternatives that are easy to remember, easy to do, easy to see the inherent value of, and easy to enjoy. Then you've really primed yourself every day for success.

The Shallows: What the Internet is Doing To Our Brains

I think NoFap is really just a niche part of a bigger drive to get away from the internet (or at least use it differently), and I completely agree with all of it. The internet (if used without taking precautions) and porn both change the physical structures of our brains in ways that preclude having a fulfilling life with longterm satisfaction. Fortunately our brains are very plastic and it's not too late to fix them.

I've tried quitting the internet cold turkey, and it's haaaaaard. The problem is that it's a global addiction that's deeply intertwined with our social and work lives. You can't really get away from it without totally alienating yourself, so quitting all of the internet is not viable. It's very difficult to draw the line between useful or necessary internet usage and bad internet usage, so moderating your own internet usage can be tough.

Here's my attempt at drawing that line, though:

• If you're using the internet for data acquisition or communication, you're using it right.
  
• If you're using the internet for education or entertainment, you're using it wrong.
  
  Obviously education and entertainment are important, but the internet is just not the place to do it. With respect to education, the internet will promote distractedness and a habit of multitasking, and ultimately your learning will suffer (the book I mentioned focuses on this). If you want to learn, try to use the internet to find books, and then use those books to learn (or take a class, etc).
  
  There are, of course, certain things you can learn only through the internet. Tutorials, for example, are online, as is the vast majority of modern journalism. You need to be careful with either of these. When it comes to reading the news, I like to use my tablet and the Pulse application, and I'm only subscribed to longer-form journalism like the type you'd see in The Atlantic. When it comes to tutorials, do whatever you can to not open additional browser tabs. In either case, you should at the very least read these things like you would read a book. Don't allow yourself to get distracted by hyperlinks, and if some topic confuses you, usually it's okay to just ignore it (or mark it) and press on, rather than try to immediately learn about this other topic through outside sources.
  
  As for entertainment, that's something you can do in real life with real people (or again, with more reading, which is always healthy). Entertainment online is a process of overstimulation and isolation. Porn falls into this, but so do videogames and even mindlessly clicking pictures on reddit. In general, if you get on the internet without a clear purpose, you will probably be using it for entertainment, so always try to tell yourself why you're getting online before you do it.
  
  The first good use for the internet is data acquisition, by which I mean it's a good place to go to find a fact or set of facts. For example, if you want to go see a movie it makes perfect sense to get on the internet and look up movie times. In these situations, you'll get online, find the information you want, and then quit.
  
  Communication is a bit iffier, and maybe it should come with its own set of restrictions. Email and social networking are great, insofar as we don't use them for entertainment. I don't really suffer from this problem, but when I get on facebook it becomes pretty clear that many people are sort of addicted to self-posts and being heard. This might be absolutely fine for all I know (you could liken it to journaling), so for now I'm going to just assume that social networking, love or hate, is something we're going to have to live with if we want to partake in the 21st century.
  
  This might warrant its own post, since I've got quite a bit to say on it (I've kept most of it inside my head, so it might be totally rubbish for anyone else as far as I know).
  
  

>I'm expecting this to be ignored, because people DON'T want to hear this. But I'm hoping, deep down, that this issue will be addressed, because this problem is VERY REAL, and it's happening to me RIGHT NOW.

C'mon dude, I think you gotta accredit more to this sub :P

There is all sorts of inconvenient information upvoted on this subreddit that people don't wanna hear deep down. How about the very fact that we are all PMO addicts? That's a pretty unpleasant truth if you ask me.

But regarding your very problem:

Look, sometimes it's perfectly fine to not feel any motivation to do anything. If you say you are a few days in, what do you think it is you are experiencing right now? It might be very well the flatline. The first indicator that you are distancing yourself from hypercharged material that corrupts your reward system. Sex/Porn spike your dopamine the most from any activity out there. Once you abstain long enough, you will find new hidden pleasure and motivation behind the seemingly mundane and tedious tasks. You will find new passion for life, you can be DEAD SURE about that!! Just keep moving forward.

It is very commendable if you still manage to pick yourself up and push through, but it is important to not beat yourself up too much. When you are trying to build a new life, you should not pick up too many new goals and habits. Because at first you will rely on nothing more other than willpower until you have repeated those actions often enough to build a new habit. It is only then that it does not require any more thought and effort. The thing is that willpower is a limited resource; a well that runs dry at a certain point of continuously forcing yourself to get stuff done.

You feel like crap? Then rest and take a nap or something. Do something relaxing for a limited amount of time. Incorporate a conscious break within your daily routine in which you allow yourself to absolutely nothing for a change. Now that does not include or mean that you should cultivate other easily identifiable dopamine addictions like surfing the net for countless hours, using websites with endless scrolling and novelty mechanisms or video games. Forbid yourself to use the computer in those times if you must and just lay on your bed like a corpse. Use the time to think and to reflect, not to fantasize about a better or easier life.

>.. but I still feel very inefficient - in complete contrast to my usual self.

Instead of beating yourself up and comparing yourself ( even if it is your own self you compare yourself against ), take the positive view point (there is always one, no matter what). Instead of saying your are inefficient in contrast to your former self see it like this: You are back, somewhere at the start of the journey and you are forcing yourself to make the best out of it. Tell yourself: You are currently doing the best you can. You are working to the best of your own capabilities in the PRESENT TIME. Forget about past and future, because all that counts is the present moment and your current self.

You wanna hear an anecdote from my own life? When I first started out this self-improvement journey back in 2015 I was doing nothing more in my life other than: waking up - wasting some time - hitting the gym - wasting some more time and going to bed. Rinse and repeat. I felt so DEAD, as you put it yourself, once I got back home from the gym. It was that period at the start of my new habit that required an immense amount of willpower and pushing myself to get going. I remember this one image very vividly lying on my bed, trying to read a couple of pages in my new e-book, I barely managed to read something between five to ten pages, because I was just not used to reading regularly. Sounds very unspectacular on paper and summed up like that, of course there were more thing going on surrounding that, but the very core was that. I had that one goal I set for myself and I went after it with no excuses, nothing fancy.

Looking back I would not say that any minute of that year was wasted, even though I had so little going on for myself. A precious year of the prime of my youth in my early 20s. Who cares? I don't regret it one bit, because I know that even though I took very small steps, I lay the foundation for something greater. Sacrificing a year for it it close to nothing.

But YOU!!! Who are YOU trying to impress? Who is the judge of you? It is about time to realize that there is NONE! You mustn't, you must NOT compare yourself to anybody or anything other than your present self. Ask yourself genuinely: Can I do better than this? Or am I scratching the borders of everything that possible. Give yourself a break sometime.

I often like to imagine that I am under IMMENSE time pressure. Sometimes, I feel like the world is going to end in a couple of days, and its very existence depends on me getting work done within an abstract, inconceivable and unknown timeframe. I fear not only that but also about my fading youth and death. Maybe some of these thoughts occurred to you as well!

Those fears and thoughts are just as much nonsensical. Dude, you got your whole life ahead of you. If make sure of ONE thing, then make sure that you go one small step in the right direction, no matter what. This entire essay is in no way an easy excuse for someone to postpone his duties until the day after tomorrow. Neither do I try to say that you can go on happily fapping because you still got every opportunity to start over another time. NO!! Every relapse equals to three steps in the opposite, and thus wrong direction of your life goals. Keep that in mind.

Instagram, Television, Internet, computers, Iphone, magazines. All of these are triggers. Everybody is bombarded by sexual images which will tempt you to cave in. Even your brain is programmed and is going "dude!!! Where is my porno!!!" Don't give in. You probably feel like junk right now. It gets better!

5 minutes - heart rate returns to normal.
2-3 days - guilt and shame seems to decrease.
7 days - brain fog lifts.
14 days - prolactin starts to drop.
14 - 21 days - due to drop in prolactin, dopamine sensitivity increases, you can start to enjoy the little things in life again, no longer emotionally numb, energy levels start to increase big time, confidence also increases.
30 days - cravings and flashbacks noticeably reduce.
30-60 days - PIED symptoms disappear or improve. Erections become rock solid, unless you're PIED symptoms are severe. Confidence keeps rising
42 days - ΔFosB (DeltaFosB) that has accumulated around the nucleus accumbens starts to remove itself. This makes it possible for the neurons in the porn-addicted pathways to now start to slowly break up over time without use.
90 days - considered a full reboot for most people, however people with severe PIED will need longer. Confidence still rising
120 - 150 days - symptoms of severe PIED disappear or improve.
So, as you can see, 1 week without fapping is NOT a long time, in fact it's nowhere near long enough. If you're struggling to make it past 1 week like a lot of people on this sub, I hope this gives you motivation to push past your barriers and achieve the long-term benefits that nofap has to offer.

I highly recommend this book:
The Tao of Sexology: The Book of Infinite Wisdom
https://www.amazon.com/Tao-Sexology-Book-Infinite-Wisdom/dp/0942196031/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1469647806&sr=8-1&keywords=the+toa+of+sexology

You don't know your REAL self while your under the influence of porn. Become your greatest version :) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x8D10s6eNDU

There is a great book about the TAO by Daniel Reid who puts in Western words for us to understand clear practices, advices and reasons for the fundaments of ancient chinese philosophy. Great book, and he makes a big point of saying that men have to abstain from ejcaulating as much as possible. Not from having sex, but from cumming basically. Having sex without waste of semen is the best thing we can do as in theory we absorb from the "magical juices" that women secrete when excited: Very powerful juices which are absorbed through the penis, but should also be ingested whenever possible :)

https://www.amazon.com/Tao-Health-Sex-Longevity-Practical/dp/067164811X

We're under no obligation to be the same person we were yesterday"

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Hello, traveller!

I've read Models by Mark Manson, but haven't gotten to "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" yet.

During my journey here, I read 2 additional books that may be good for you since they stemmed from some of those teachings


No more mr. Nice guy (Glover)

The road less traveled (Peck).


I was also having issues with an obstacle but reading your post made me realise what i have overlooked and may be beneficial in aiding me in my own journey as well.

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate it.

This book is for you: http://www.amazon.com/Slight-Edge-Turning-Disciplines-Happiness/dp/1626340463/

It teaches a method that will enable you to get out of your situation with 100% guarantee if you follow it (yes, guarantee - literally). It's nothing magical, but in fact simple and easy to do. The only catch is that you need to do it, you need to read it and apply it. I did it (but honestly, forgot about it once I reached my goal - I need to read it again!). This is one of the books that can really change your life. Good luck!

Well, young Mantak Chia was one funny, charming dude. I followed along with the videos a couple times, but I really only practice The Deer Exercise on a regular basis. They're all similar: they involve some PC muscle/butt squeezing with some variations on breathing and stuff.

The Deer should suffice. I read about it in the book The Tao of Sexology and it was the only exercise given there. By the way, Stephen Chang, the author of that book, has been trained in both eastern and western medicine, has an M.D., a Ph.D. in philosophy, a Ph.D. in theology and two law degrees. Pretty impressive record if you ask me. He clearly states in the book where things are just legends or should be taken with a grain of salt. Yet he still advocates The Deer Exercise and the taoist practices.

>reorient sexuality to focus on a more sensational sex approach (read trantric sex for men)

>Practicing breathing techniques to help trigger full-body sexual energy circulation (read parts of the multi-orgasmic man)

Y'know, I feel like my arousal process has been changing/has changed and I don't understand it anymore. I really resonate with your post(s) and you have captured my attention. Could you give me links to these books/posts? I tried looking on Amazon, but I wasn't sure which one you'd recommend. Thanks! I'd appreciate it



EDIT: Are these the books?

Tantric Secrets

Multi-Orgasmic Man

Interesting note about not tying NoFap to other self improvement goals. I've found the same thing. You fail at one, you figure, "What the hell", and let yourself slide in the others. But... the opposite can also be true. You succeed at one, and you reward yourself with some slack in the others, and the slide starts. Your brain will seek ANY rationalization to give in. Kelly McGonnigal talks about both kinds of relapse in THE WILLPOWER INSTINCT. Good book.

http://www.amazon.com/The-Willpower-Instinct-Self-Control-Matters/dp/1583335080

Already on a 5-day streak and don't plan on stopping at all. Probably the next time I'll fap is maybe in 10-20 years for fun. But anyway, a little bit of myself and why I'm doing this.

A while ago I purchased a book called The Daily Stoic which gives daily quotes on how to live life in accordance to Stoicism philosophy. I've always wanted to become a Stoic and so I quickly picked up this book with almost no hesitation.

Every page begins with a quote from a Stoic philosopher e.g. Marcus Aurelius, Epictetus, Seneca, etc.

It wasn't until I came to the quote of February 13th, Pleasure Can Become Punishment, when I was really struck:

"Whenever you get an impression of some pleasure, as with any impression, guard yourself from being carried away by it, let it await your action, give yourself a pause. After that, bring to mind both times, first when you have enjoyed the pleasure and later when you will regret it and hate yourself. Then compare to those the joy and satisfaction you’d feel for abstaining altogether. However, if a seemingly appropriate time arises to act on it, don’t be overcome by its comfort, pleasantness and allure - but against all of this, how much better the consciousness of conquering it.”

~Epictetus, Enchiridion, 34

After reading this particular quote, I suddenly reflected back on the days I would jack off and realised that I was not a very energetic person. I also came to realise that I was not reaching my full potential as a student and I could not get in the university that I truly wanted. Then I suddenly thought of another thing: there's a subreddit called NoFap.

I went on my computer and read about as much as I could on NoFap. Once I began to find out about the benefits of NoFap was when I soon started to see how all of this made sense. I was drained of energy, tired all the time, had trouble getting up in the morning, had minor social awkwardness, barely studied eventhough I knew I had to, received sort of mediocre grades, among many other things that I felt was wrong with me. I decided at that point that fapping was the main culprit of most if not all of my life's problems and decided to abstain from PMO altogether.

Note that everything I've said above was during my holidays. Later towards the end of this month, I'll be joining a new college with another chance to enter the university of my choice which I previously failed to. I'm gonna have a better social life there and I'll have much more energy to study and become a better person in general.

I've relapsed twice so far and 5 days ago was the last one for as long as I live.

That's why I'm here.

Yes , it is bad because you may become an addict too. Just google 'sexual addiction' and you will find what you may become. Instead, you need to learn how to manage your emotions in a better way. I have read the book 'breaking an addiction' that help me to understand that the only exit from all this shit is to work in yourself and stop depending on external stimulus to feel good. In fact, the author explains how easy can be to switch from one addiction to another because the addict looks constantly for relief. https://www.amazon.com/Breaking-Addiction-7-Step-Handbook-Ending/dp/0061987395

I'm navigating the same territory as you. All I can say is stay strong. Don't give up. you'll only regret it.

I wish I could be of more help than just kind words.
Consider reading up on habit and addiction:
http://www.amazon.com/dp/081298160X
something like this or similar could help you understand your brain.

It's a book with quotes from Stoic philosophers and commentary, in the form of a daily devotional. It's excellent material for addicts.

The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living

• Start going for long walks daily
  
• Look into hiking (perhaps getting into /r/BarefootHiking)
  
• Start working out
  
• Begin reading, either fiction that's interesting, or non fiction to learn or improve yourself. I highly recommend The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck
  
• Pick up a second part time job (or get one if you don't have.)
  
• Start working on new skills that have always been of interest you you (great to have for future jobs, and working towards becoming freelance)
  
• Meditate
  
• Serve/help others - volunteer time for causes and events (also good for connections)
  
  I can't even get to half that stuff I'm so occupied. You should not be 'bored' because if you're bored, you're doing lit wrong.

these are books on the subjects you seem interested in


Tao Of Sexology

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The secret of the golden flower

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The multi orgasmic man

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I havent read the last one but a buddy of mine recommended it to me

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cheers

Check this out man. I think it will help you put yourself in a position to succeed. You don't have to be an invincible superhero with perfect willpower. Put yourself in a position to succeed and that tank will become something a lot less intimidating. And then you can do what you need to do. In concrete terms, my invitation is to study nutrition, and make sure you are eating as well as you can in this difficult time.
In my limited experience though, this book is awesome. It's a long read, but incredibly fascinating and elucidating. Alternatively you could check out Mark Hyman's (the author) videos on Youtube. You asked for a weapon, and this is a weapon. Not motivation or sympathy. I think it can help you out
http://www.amazon.com/The-UltraMind-Solution-Broken-Healing/dp/0743570480.
I know the subtitle says ('the way to beat depression, anxiety, etc.). I think that's misleading. Everyone needs to know this stuff, and it can help everyone. Even if you don't identify with those labels

Oh yea, those are also great recommendations.

By the way Mark just released a new book that's pretty fucking awesome. I haven't finished it yet but so far it is basically a compilation of all of his ideas.

https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive/dp/0062457713/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1483378133&sr=8-1&keywords=the+subtle+art+of+not+giving+a+f---+mark+manson

Did you know Amazon will donate a portion of every purchase if you shop by going to smile.amazon.com instead? Over $50,000,000 has been raised for charity - all you need to do is change the URL!

Here are your smile-ified links:

https://smile.amazon.com/Happiness-Trap-Struggling-Start-Living/dp/1590305841

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Small things does not show right away. Small things + time = huge improvement. Your comment above reminds me of the content of the book: http://www.amazon.com/The-Slight-Edge-Disciplines-Happiness/dp/1626340463

Keep it up!

I would do your research on getting hormone replacement therapy, many doctors are very quick to follow protocol that has been designed by major drug companies so a lot of them are quick to push quick fixes like this as well as other medications.

3 Common factors of low testosterone in males from a natural standpoint are:

1. High Sugar/Carbohydrate Diet
   
2. Low Amount of Exercise
   
3. Lack of optimal amounts of nutrients/minerals/enzymes/macro nutrients
   
   Start taking baby steps to cut out any refined sugars from your diet. From there, try to get most of your carbohydrates from vegetables and eventually even limit things like fruit. This also means cutting back drastically on alcohol (like a couple times a month have a couple drinks)
   
   Go for short duration but intense exercise.
   
   Give your diet a complete makeover, taking baby steps to get there.
   
   Dr. Mark Hyman "The UltraMind Solution"
   http://www.amazon.com/The-UltraMind-Solution-Broken-Healing/dp/0743570480
   
   Stephen Harrod Buhner "The Testosterone Plan"
   http://www.amazon.com/Natural-Testosterone-Plan-Sexual-Health/dp/1594771685/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1410570863&sr=1-2&keywords=the+testosterone+plan
   
   Read this too:
   http://www.dynamicchiropractic.com/mpacms/dc/article.php?id=56899
   

The Tao of Health, Sex, and Longevity

Edit: I would also add that if you actually get blue balls, actual soreness and/or pain in your balls from delayed ejaculation, then masturbation is a great response. I have no idea what would happen if you don't masturbate but it seems like a bad idea. You're only supposed to get blue balls when you expect to ejaculate and then don't get to for whatever reason. Barring coitus interruptus, you are probably experiencing a disconnect between body and mind, i.e. you are getting horny and you don't know how to deal with it. Over time you will learn how to deal with it and the fapping will decrease in proportion to the improved body/mind harmony.

Edit edit: Read this little rant I posted on r/seduction regarding porn. Sorry I'm new to this subreddit so I don't know what the attitude around here to porn is, but personally I'm more anti-porn than I am anti-fap (of course too much of either is bad).

The research is there. You can:

• Watch the Ted Talk
  
• See how excessive masturbation destroys willpower
  
• Read about how the way we surf the internet/porn literally changes our brain's structure.
  
• Research how excessive masturbation contributes to adrenal fatigue
  
  And many other benefits. I'm sure if you google around you'll find the relevant research. Not having it shoved in your face by advertisements or school like smoking was doesn't mean you can ignore what's out there.
  
  Saying it's bad makes us look like a cult? I think it would be worse if we DIDN'T have this research but everyone was around chanting the praise of not fapping.

okay, now, it's a ton of information so you will have to make sense of it yourself :)
Youtube:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HqSoxMOrVeE&t=0s&index=232&list=PLC63830ABE800BA55
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aAVPDYhW_nw&t=0s&index=233&list=PLC63830ABE800BA55
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o0GN4urbA_c&t=0s&index=234&list=PLC63830ABE800BA55
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFan0KqqJjs&t=402s&index=238&list=PLC63830ABE800BA55
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ls_VFIU1Dv4&t=2s&index=239&list=PLC63830ABE800BA55
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZWI4_Oe-Qbs&t=0s&index=240&list=PLC63830ABE800BA55
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Lz0VOltZKA

Some of videos have scientific articles attached to them, so if you want to analyze in detail don't forget to view them below the videos.

Books:
https://www.amazon.com/Power-Now-Guide-Spiritual-Enlightenment/dp/1577314808
https://www.amazon.com/Mans-Search-Meaning-Viktor-Frankl/dp/080701429X
http://shynesssocialanxiety.com/system/social-anxiety-1a/ - you can get his book, even though it's about shyness, and social anxiety, he talks very simply about the power of controlling your thoughts.

I'd strongly recommend a book called "The UltraMind solutions" to you.

All in all, eat organic if you can afford it, lots of greens, vegetables. Nothing processed. Whole foods etc

http://www.amazon.com/The-Power-Habit-What-Business/dp/081298160X
This book helped me immensely, Habits come in a sequence. Your habit may be C, what you do before it is A and B. A and B will lead to C. so find out what A and B is and don't do that thing!! its much easier than cutting out C! Read, workout, buy a step-moniter and try to get 20,000 steps a day. (you will be busy)

No more mr nice guy - Robert Glover

The Game - Neil Strauss

Been reading a book right now that talks about all of this - you guys should check it out (because we should all ALWAYS be reading something during our transformation :) )

https://www.amazon.com/Shallows-What-Internet-Doing-Brains/dp/0393339750

This is the slight edge. There's a book about it: https://www.amazon.com/Slight-Edge-Turning-Disciplines-Happiness/dp/1626340463

It's not about getting better in a day, it's about getting better over the course of days.

https://www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets-Should-ebook/dp/B000FC12XM/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1466795332&sr=8-4&keywords=multi+orgasmic+man

here orgasm all u want

this? http://www.amazon.com/Mans-Search-Meaning-Viktor-Frankl/dp/080701429X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1450424216&sr=1-1&keywords=a+mans+search+for+meaning

48 laws of power.

https://www.amazon.com/48-Laws-Power-Robert-Greene/dp/0140280197

Hey Jernest,

Whenever you get the time, you should buy this book from your local store and read it. Its a life changer.

http://www.amazon.com/The-Laws-Power-Robert-Greene/dp/0140280197

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Deep-Meditation-Pathway-Personal-Freedom/dp/097646554X/ref=sr_1_13?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1418941465&sr=1-13&keywords=meditation

this is how I learnt

OP, did you mean The Willpower Instinct?

Here's a relevant quote from the book The Game (said/written by Mystery):

> ...If you regularly masturbate, you can easily become addicted. This addiction comes in the form of daily regularity that curbs your desire to go out. It also does not allow you to harness your sex drive, which can be used to motivate yourself to work on wealth-building projects.

> If you aren’t getting laid on a regular basis (which happens to all of us from time to time), then don’t just choke ’til you’re broke. Set a date with yourself. Only jerk it once a week. If you jerked it today, set the jerk date for seven days from now. If you don’t get a girl between then and now, you’ll have something to look forward to. Make it a good jerk! Use the best porn and hand lotion. Look forward to it and this will keep you from wasting your life away jerking it daily and focusing constantly on the pain of not having a girlfriend.

> In the meantime, harness your sex drive and build something.


Strauss, Neil (2012-05-01). The Game (p. 187). Harper Collins, Inc..