Top products from r/SexPositive
We found 19 product mentions on r/SexPositive. We ranked the 33 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
1. Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
2. The Art of the Hook Up: Your Straightforward Guide to a Successful Sex Life
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
5. CAD Audio USB U1 Dynamic Recording Microphone
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Dynamic microphone element designed for vocals and instrumentsCardioid pick-up pattern isolates the main sound source and minimizes background noiseSmooth, extended frequency response is excellent for singing, speech and instrumentsBuilt in pop filter minimizes "P-popping"On-Off switch for instant m...
6. Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Realities
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
7. Wild Side Sex: The Book Of Kink: Educational, Sensual, and Entertaining Essays
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
Wild Side Sex: The Book Of Kink
8. Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts: A CBT-Based Guide to Getting Over Frightening, Obsessive, or Disturbing Thoughts
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
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9. The PTSD Workbook: Simple, Effective Techniques for Overcoming Traumatic Stress Symptoms
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
The PTSD Workbook Simple Effective Techniques for Overcoming Traumatic Stress Symptoms
10. The Mindfulness Workbook for OCD: A Guide to Overcoming Obsessions and Compulsions Using Mindfulness and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook)
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
The Mindfulness Workbook for OCD A Guide to Overcoming Obsessions and Compulsions Using Mindfulness and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy New Harbinger Self help Workbooks
11. What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl's Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
12. Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
Sex at Dawn How We Mate Why We Stray and What It Means for Modern Relationships
13. Jane Sexes It Up: True Confessions of Feminist Desire
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
14. Get This Party Started!
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
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16. From Front Porch to Back Seat: Courtship in Twentieth-Century America
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
17. It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health (The Family Library)
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
18. Talk to Me First: Everything You Need to Know to Become Your Kids' "Go-To" Person about Sex
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
I love, love, love the book It's Perfectly Normal, and it's what my daughter and I read together. (I gave her the choice of reading it on her own, and she chose to read it together.)
It's not only sex positive, but it is very inclusive about non-heterosexual relationships. The section on masturbation is lovely. I appreciate that there's a two-page illustration of tons of naked people (pseudo-realistic cartoons), and it's every kind of body you can imagine—elderly folks, handicapped, various ethnicities, skinny, fat. It gives a great sense of how we're different, yet so much the same.
I also appreciate that it has a sense of humor while keeping it very real. The title says it all, really, and "It's perfectly normal" is a theme that runs throughout the book.
Edit: Wow, just checked out the one-star reviews on Amazon. The fact that people have their panties in a bunch about it should be proof enough that it actually tells the honest truth.
This book is awesome for what you're looking for: http://www.amazon.com/This-Party-Started-Frances-Hill/dp/0811848701/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1375875395
There are a ton of games ranging from mild to wild designed to get people in the sexy mood. Probably won't be able to get it by this weekend but check it out for next time.
Edit: I'm feeling nice and if you'd like, I'll scan a few of the games that have been more successful for me. Can't post them till this afternoon though.
Thats a bummer. Sorry about your friend. Those things sound convincing because they tell you that dating can be controlled with a little rationality.
Thing is, dating "rules" are just super variable. There will never be a universal guide because there's just too much variation by location, culture, and taste. Everything I've seen opposing this have been pseudo science. Sure, there are some assumptions that are safe bets, but there's just too many exceptions to every "rule" for them to be rules.
I really recommend the book From Front Porch to Back Seat. It wont give him a how-to guide, BUT it will knock down a bunch of Seduction Guide bullshit. Those seduction guides tend to frame their rules as based on "natural" and universal behavior between gender, usually rooted in some pseudo-science evolutionary psychology. This book will tell him how all those cultural conventions around dating that we think have always been there are actually very recent and therefore, unless human beings evolve like Pokemon, definitely are NOT coded by evolution into our DNA.
Dan Savage stuff also helped me out a lot when I first started dating, but honestly I haven't been following him for a while so I dont really know any particular link that would be most helpful.
What you are experiencing sounds really awful and yet it's entirely normal. The basic principle of the brain is "what fires together wires together". When you had that very intense experience combining orgasms and suicidal thoughts because of medication, it simply made a literal connection in your brain. You can break it, and any good therapist can help you (doesn't have to be a sex therapist).
This can be treated like an OCD symptom where you are having intrusive thoughts triggered by a stimulus. There are great books on how to do this and I highly recommend them:
https://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Unwanted-Intrusive-Thoughts-Frightening/dp/1626254346
https://www.amazon.com/Mindfulness-Workbook-OCD-Overcoming-Compulsions/dp/1608828786
Mind you, I'm not saying you have OCD, or any disorder. But your brain is "locked" in linking these two parts of your life in a very unpleasant way. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you and this could happen to anyone who was set off with nasty side effects of medication.
You may also approach this like an experience of Post Traumatic Stress, which can also show up with intrusive thoughts. Good resources for that exist too:
https://www.amazon.com/PTSD-Workbook-Effective-Techniques-Overcoming/dp/1626253706
https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748
You didn't do anything wrong and you can definitely get past this. The harder you try to fix a mental association the more you can strengthen it, so you need some techniques. Tools for OCD and PTSD are designed just for you in that regard.
I'd buy all 4 books and then find any good therapist to work through them with.
Good luck. I know with the right tools and practice you can separate these two aspects of your experience and get back to enjoying sex, which you deserve.
"Traversing Gender" is pretty general, but it does a good job of describing and honoring non-binary and fluidity.
https://www.amazon.ca/Traversing-Gender-Understanding-Transgender-Realities/dp/194273381X
Jane sexes it up (amazon link) was pretty well the only book I used on my journey to where I am today. It's really fantastic and offers a lot of different perspectives.
I have it on good authority that Sex For One by Betty Dodson is an excellent source: http://www.amazon.com/Sex-One-The-Joy-Selfloving/dp/0517886073/ref=pd_sim_b_1
If it is just you recording I would suggest http://www.amazon.com/CAD-U1-Dynamic-Recording-Microphone/dp/B000ULQTE0 a USB microphone. You get better control of the audio. A pop filter helps too. Context, I think about doing my own videos and did research on what equipment I would use.
Well, you might want to check out this book - it's aimed at women, but relevant to what you seem to want. This one is similar and very well thought of.
Have Fun!
https://www.amazon.com/Talk-Me-First-Everything-Go/dp/0738215082
https://www.amazon.com/Goodness-Sex-Changing-Sexuality-Values/dp/0062269518
Depends what kind of relationship you have and what you're into, but here are some of my favourites:
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The Art of the Hook-Up: Your Ethical Guide to a Successful Sex Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07SZCH4V2/
Disclaimer: it was written by a friend of mine, so I'm not unbiased 😉 but it was written to deliberately counter the shitty PUA one-size-fits-all advice that we see so much of, and actually gives some practical skills.
There is a lack of information in the scientific community, but a reasonable guess would be that male orgasm has some vagus nerve involvement. The vagus nerve is unique in that it branches from the brain stem, forks, and runs separate from the spinal cord.
The role of the vagus nerve in orgasms is a new discovery and there's still much that's unknown about it; until recently, researchers didn't know that it passed through the pelvic region at all.
In general, sexual feeling is transmitted by:
hypogastric nerve - the uterus and the cervix in women and from the prostate in men
pelvic nerve - the vagina and cervix in women and from the rectum in everyone
pudendal nerve - the clitoris in women and from the scrotum and penis in men
Since all of those nerves are associated with the spinal cord, it would stand to reason that a person with a severed spinal cord wouldn't be able to have an orgasm. And for a very long time, that's what people with these types of injuries were told.
Dr. Barry Komisaruk and Dr. Beverly Whipple of Rutgers University conducted a study on women with severed spinal cords in 2004. They used MRI to confirm that these women could feel stimulation of their cervixes and even reach orgasm, although there was no way their brain could be receiving information from the hypogastric or pelvic nerves.
They published a companion book in less technical language with additional content.
EDIT: formatting, also bad link