(Part 2) Top products from r/SocialEngineering

I would suggest a few great books that have helped me along in this fun little journey of mine. I dont believe these where mentioned in the links, if they were my apologies.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0061438294/ref=oh_details_o00_s00_i01

Along the same lines as the first but a more fun read if you enjoy poker.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0061198595/ref=oh_details_o00_s00_i00

Also this one is Fantastic!

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0151012792/ref=oh_details_o01_s00_i00

Dood, my best advice is to keep quiet and LISTEN. Most of the time "difficult" people just want to bitch, just let them rant and quietly agree by nodding your head and reply with "..I totally understand where you're coming from". "I will do my best to resolve it and i apologize for any inconvienence". You know just because you say you are sorry, doens't mean you are WRONG or that will you go beyond the call of duty to FIX it. I like this book. Good luck and you have to master the art of giving something to your client without giving them anything. For example, "You know what I'm going to wave the set up fee this time okay?" (Client happy!), then you bill an extra hour somewhere else to get that money back. Sometimes you have to play car sales man, I'll fuck you in the trade-in, or the interest or the sticker price, you bitch at me at which one you want to be the lowest and I'll off set it by jacking up the other two to compensate. Also, if you can master the art of making your worst customer like you, trust you, respect you and do business with you, then the sky is the limit. =)

Newp. Amazon referral links always have "-20" somewhere in the link. The entire string will be something like "tag=repulsor-20" but scanning for the "-20" is easy.

Here's an Amazon tip for linkers, too. Everything after the long strong of numbers is fluff. So the OP's link, which starts as:

http://www.amazon.com/Influence-Science-Practice-5th-Edition/dp/0205609996/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1377360710&sr=8-1&keywords=influence+science+and+practice

Also works as:

http://www.amazon.com/Influence-Science-Practice-5th-Edition/dp/0205609996

or even:

http://www.amazon.com/dp/0205609996

But you don't really have to go that far.

This may also help avoid confusion regarding referrals.

Don Thompson wrote an excellent book on the topic: The $12 Million Stuffed Shark: The Curious Economics of Contemporary Art.

TL;DR: contemporary artists (and the prices the successful ones' work commands) aren't discovered, they're manufactured.

You will enjoy this book, it may help clarify some things for you: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0307352145/

As a fellow introvert it definitely helped me realise some things. I could try and explain it to you, but like you I prefer not to talk when I don't know enough to back up what I'm saying.

If you would like to present a professional written voice, you should check out Strunk and White's excellent Elements of Style.

Here's a link to the The 48 laws of Power book on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/The-Laws-Power-Robert-Greene/dp/0140280197/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8

Hope that helps

If you can get this textbook used it's pretty good. Maybe you've heard of it already.

So I just posted this a while back but you may want to start from the first post (it's a series).

Also - this book might help. PDF

I want to help, but because of lack of time, i will give you an incomplete answer

I have recently written an MSc thesis related to Social Engineering, where i had to review a number of books / papers / articles. One starting point for you would be to start by looking at the reference section of the thesis [here] (http://pure.ltu.se/portal/en/studentthesis/social-engineering-and-influence\(0d61b8aa-30ad-4cb0-9039-e04832f250a7\).html).

In general, anything from Kevin Mitnick is a good start, together with Chris Hadnagy's book

If you are to read only one book, start with Carnegie's book.

If you need more information information, let me know

> CISSP

This one maybe? http://www.amazon.com/CISSP-All---One-Guide-Edition/dp/0071781749/

Also, Blizzard states having CISSP is a plus - so thank you very much for this suggestion!

EDIT: do you know anything more specific or any other good cert?

There are a few books on spin selling, but I only know of one that bears the title. I'll search for it on Amazon and post a link.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0070511136/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1369973846&sr=8-1&pi=SL75

Getting To Yes. Others may recommend other resources, but I think this is a great one!.

This book was read by Charles Manson himself so he learnt few things from it and I actually prefer an audiobook and that's what I am listening to sometimes ;) https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/0091947464

Robert A. Glover

Source: http://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/0762415339

http://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/0671027034

http://www.amazon.com/Start-Why-Leaders-Inspire-Everyone/dp/1591846447

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0143124986

http://www.amazon.com/How-Archer-Ultimate-Espionage-Cocktails/dp/0062066315

http://www.amazon.co.uk/The-Definitive-Book-Body-Language/dp/0752858785

This book had a lot of pictoral examples and I found it very eye opening. If you don't want to buy it, remind me after the weekend and I'll show you some pics of my copy.

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Well, it's hard to do this over facebook/online, especially if the other people are already feeling defensive. "Once you engage the psychology of teams, it shuts down open minded thinking" J. Haidt.

But in general:

First, you have to understand the other person and your own beliefs. And you have to appeal to intuition (emotion) as much or more than to reasoning.

This article is a good introduction to understanding this approach: Reasons Matter (When Intuitions Don’t Object)

Haidt wrote a book, The Righteous Mind, that covers this topic in depth. What's good about his approach is that he uses experiments in Sociology and Psychology to explain and understand ourselves and each other.

He did a TED talk before he finished the book so it's not as complete, but it's also a good introduction: The moral roots of liberals and conservatives


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Here's a review of The Righteous Mind:

You’re smart. You’re liberal. You’re well informed. You think conservatives are narrow-minded. You can’t understand why working-class Americans vote Republican. You figure they’re being duped. You’re wrong.

This isn’t an accusation from the right. It’s a friendly warning from Jonathan Haidt, a social psychologist at the University of Virginia who, until 2009, considered himself a partisan liberal. In “The ­Righteous Mind,” Haidt seeks to enrich liberalism, and political discourse generally, with a deeper awareness of human nature. Like other psychologists who have ventured into political coaching, such as George Lakoff and Drew Westen, Haidt argues that people are fundamentally intuitive, not rational. If you want to persuade others, you have to appeal to their sentiments. But Haidt is looking for more than victory. He’s looking for wisdom. That’s what makes “The Righteous Mind” well worth reading. Politics isn’t just about ­manipulating people who disagree with you. It’s about learning from them.

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To the question many people ask about politics — Why doesn’t the other side listen to reason? — Haidt replies: We were never designed to listen to reason. When you ask people moral questions, time their responses and scan their brains, their answers and brain activation patterns indicate that they reach conclusions quickly and produce reasons later only to justify what they’ve decided. The funniest and most painful illustrations are Haidt’s transcripts of interviews about bizarre scenarios. Is it wrong to have sex with a dead chicken? How about with your sister? Is it O.K. to defecate in a urinal? If your dog dies, why not eat it? Under interrogation, most subjects in psychology experiments agree these things are wrong. But none can explain why.

The problem isn’t that people don’t reason. They do reason. But their arguments aim to support their conclusions, not yours. Reason doesn’t work like a judge or teacher, impartially weighing evidence or guiding us to wisdom. It works more like a lawyer or press secretary, justifying our acts and judgments to others. Haidt shows, for example, how subjects relentlessly marshal arguments for the incest taboo, no matter how thoroughly an interrogator demolishes these arguments. ...

Do you find it a little odd that we illegally bombed ISIS inside of Syria without Assad's approval for months while they slowly grew in size and power. Suddenly Russia shows up and starts dropping bombs and ISIS starts losing ground? Do you find it a little odd that the news as reported in the US often paints the anti-Assad fighters as the good guys while Assad is battling against ISIS. So if we're supporting the fight against Assad's army, but not supporting ISIS, but Assad is fighting with ISIS to keep his country... then who exactly are we supporting? Do you find it at all odd that as Assad started their assault on Alleppo that the news portrayed the killing of fleeing civilians as if it was Assad who was doing the killing, when in reality it was the "freedom fighters" (read ISIS) who was killing them as the fled town.

I am by no means pro-Assad, and if anyone is they should look into the wholesale massacre he participated in during the initial uprisings... I'm not convinced that those uprisings weren't covert operations organized by our Government riding the revolutionary wave of the Arab Spring. Just like we did in Libya.

You show me the line in the sand that differentiates being pro-terror vs simply arming and supporting groups that promote terror.

edit: downvotes, huh? Here, have some links.

http://www.cnn.com/2015/12/08/politics/amnesty-international-isis-weapons-u-s-/

http://www.aljazeera.com/news/2016/12/russia-turkey-syria-161228050019245.html

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/daniel-wagner/dark-side-free-syrian_b_2380399.html

edit2: here, read a book on how we roll, you might learn something.

https://www.amazon.com/Ghost-Wars-Afghanistan-Invasion-September/dp/0143034669