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I found this book to be really helpful When Young People with Intellectual Disabilities and Autism Hit Puberty: A Parents’ Q&A Guide to Health, Sexuality and Relationships for parents and teachers.

If your son has good use of language, the book Things Tom Likes is about precisely this issue. It's fairly graphic in showing exactly what it is that Tom likes to do, but it's not tittilating or eroticized. It's meant for a target audience that needs very concrete information.

And this site has a lot of resources.

Sometimes the solution is to get a shoebox full of "tools" (Tissues, lubricant, pictures that he finds sexy - not necessarily porn at this age, maybe just models) + some step-by-step instructions reminding him to clean up and wash his hands afterward and keep that in his room. This shows him that you're not shaming him, you're supporting him if he wants to do this, but you're putting some boundaries on it (at home, door shut, etc.). Then if he does it in public, he can be reminded to go to his room and, if necessary, given a very mild punishment, but when he's in his room, it's obviously being allowed and supported.

Lastly, while you're sorting this issue out, you might want to consider what he's wearing. Some clothes rub against the skin in an arousing way. Some clothes allow easy access to the genitals. There's nothing wrong with having him wear clothes that make masturbation less likely when he's at school (as long as he can still toilet, etc.) and having him change back into comfy sweatpants at home.

My only concern is if there are any safety issues with effectively locking a child into a pair of PJs.
(I can't think of any, but anytime you lock someone into something you have to think about it...)

There are a few options, depending on how strong, able, and determined the child is to getting out.

On the easy low-cost end you could get a grommet tool and put two grommets near the top of the zipper, then put something through the loop in the zipper pull and through the two grommets. This could be a simple spring clasp, a zip tie, whatever.

You could put grommets on either side of the opening all the way up the zipper line and run a cord up through the grommet holes shoelace style and then tie them in a knot at the top, or even use a lockable cable.

Alternatively, you could hire a seamstress to modify the PJs with one of several options depending on how dedicated the child is to getting out of the PJs.

You could replace the sliders only if the existing zipper is compatible with the new slider, such as:

https://smile.amazon.com/YKK-Nylon-Zipper-Slider-Locking/dp/B07G72X9DX/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=zipper+lock&qid=1572287728&s=arts-crafts&sr=1-5

You could buy also buy a lockable zipper that is much stronger and intended for luggage, then have the seamstress swap out the zipper completely. Then the zipper could be locked with a miniature padlock at night. https://www.ebay.com/itm/26-HEAVY-BROWN-BRASS-HOLDALL-TWIN-SLIDER-LOCKABLE-ZIP-no8/351080518584?hash=item51be0793b8:g:1kEAAOSwWTZckO8x

I'm wondering, could the child be taught to press a button when they need to use the restroom? Then you could have a wireless doorbell?

Does the child turn on the lights when he/she wakes up? Could you rig up some sort of alarm that goes off if the light is turned on?

If you're looking for a book for special needs parents, this is a gift book specifically to encourage parents with children with special needs. It's short and meant to encourage parents and bring hope in every situation and emotion they will encounter on their journey.

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My kid is the same age with the same mental ability but she isn’t blind here are some things that she likes and I think can work when being blind

tangle , there are many versions that feels different.

Koosh balls , my kid has one on the zipper of her favorite hoodie.