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{How old is Ares?}

We have a quick suggestion before knowing more. You need to train yourselves on cognitive behavioural therapy - and I mean really train yourselves in the basics. Whether you have a counsellor or not. A good counsellor would train you anyway with CBT homework.

Why?

Because at the minimum you and your tulpa need the skillset to tackle the thought part of the cycle that you get into.

This is a simplification, a big one, but useful: thoughts affect neurochemistry and neurochemistry affects your thoughts. It's a cycle that can be virtuous or vicious.

So teach yourselves how to influence the thinking that you do first. Not a magic bullet, of course not, but it has empiric evidence (CBT) and is something that I believe you should certainly teach yourself well and also I'd encourage Ares to do so as well.

{Ok, so my own concern is you creating a tulpa to help with your problems. It's not that it's a problem to do this however please realise that he is a person OR will certainly become one. An individual. It is likely he'll help but he is as human as you and will not automatically know anything more about how to help other than be a second viewpoint at best in the early days.

Whether you agree with specific therapy ideas or not, Ares deserves full exposure to as many evidence based ways of working with these issues as you can practically manage.

By doing this for him you maximise his own ability to use the knowledge in your brain and that he gains to help you.

He's not going to know how to fight with the reduced resources of depression. He won't know how to kick you out of bed and get you to just exercise, even if you are doing it zombie fashion.
He's not going to know he's gotta get you out and connecting to anyone you can call on for some support.
And he's not going to know how to get you to re examine your thinking about the past and future.

I'll tell him this - he's got to intervene in rumination: over examining and "Why" questions regarding the past or indeed the future.

Nope, we aren't offering a full silver bullet but I'm certainly hoping he's mature enough to take the hints here. He's not learnt anything like enough yet and if he's managed to intervene with anxiety, then he's done brilliantly.

YOU have got to be a serious help to Ares now, no matter your feelings and deliberately arm him with as much materials and knowledge as possible.

Does that help?}

She's right mate.

Have a look at some of this stuff as a quick start:
https://psychologytools.com/anxiety.html

Then have a look here. I've chosen the Dummies ones because I've used the second one myself and contains all the basics, plus there's little time wasted in getting theoretical.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Managing-Anxiety-Dummies-Graham-Davey/dp/1118366069/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1521495223&sr=8-1&keywords=cbt+for+dummies

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Cognitive-Behavioural-Therapy-Dummies-Branch/dp/0470665416/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1521495223&sr=8-3&keywords=cbt+for+dummies

We are not claiming this is all that's required. Like a balanced diet, these skills are an essential part.

The other parts, you probably already know.

Our point is: your tulpa sounds fearfully young for handling serious adult problems, so put your heart and soul into helping him learn how to help you EVEN if you don't always think the therapy ideas can be of help.

And also be dead honest with yourself - I'm biased towards CBT/Hypnotherapy mixed with CBT stuff for this - however, have you seen a professional whom you trust for possible medication support?

Don't discount it without seeing someone if your depressive symptoms are that strong.

Finally, for me, a good vitamin b complex AND vitamin D plus exercise was another major element. Again, not claiming it's a silver bullet but you need these vitamins anyway and they are on the list of the few supplements worth taking. Can back this one up with research links if wanted.

Hope this gives you guys a start.

Oh really last thing: when thinking stuff about yourself, when self examining yourself, avoid the use of the WHY questions. Not kidding. There is a TED talk on it.

Use WHAT and maybe HOW. Don't bother with WHY:

https://ideas.ted.com/the-right-way-to-be-introspective-yes-theres-a-wrong-way/

Courtesy ping back to /u/NutellaIsDelicious and /u/Falunel

I have no idea what you're talking about. What you're describing is not Dissociative Identity Disorder, Schizophrenia, or Psychosis.

You're referencing blogs trying to use that for backing your opinion? That really helps your argument about as much as a bucket would stop a tsunami.

Since psychosis seems to be your main argument, this might be a worthwhile read for you since your descriptions mean you have no idea what psychosis is...

Parker, G. F. (2014). DSM-5 and psychotic and mood disorders. Journal of the American Academy of Psychiatry and the Law Online, 42(2), 182-190.

You also bring up Schizophrenia, again, you're off mark but you would be less so than saying psychosis.

Tandon, R., Gaebel, W., Barch, D. M., Bustillo, J., Gur, R. E., Heckers, S., ... & Van Os, J. (2013). Definition and description of schizophrenia in the DSM-5. Schizophrenia research, 150(1), 3-10.

Regarding confusing schizophrenia and dissociative identity disorder, you're not alone. The former is sometimes a misdiagnosed latter. There's been work done to help differentiate them better, which you can read about here.

Ellason, J. W., & Ross, C. A. (1995). Positive and negative symptoms in dissociative identity disorder and schizophrenia: A comparative analysis. The Journal of nervous and mental disease, 183(4), 236-241.

If you want a good description of DID, so you can understand it better. This is a great read...

Ross, C. A. (1997). Dissociative identity disorder: Diagnosis, clinical features, and treatment of multiple personality . John Wiley & Sons Inc.

Lastly, go give this a good read.

American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (DSM-5®). American Psychiatric Pub.

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Just to explain something here, Jung and Freud were quite the pioneers in this field. Both were born in the 1800s and died last century. They were elderly at the onset of WWII. Though much of their work influenced works today, most of what they've written has been by-and-large discredited by modern research. Both names are a bit of a joke when people bring them up in a scientific debate in university classes, from personal experience. They both lived before electricity was 'a thing'.

Using Jung or Freud as your basis is like saying a car developed by Henry Ford is better than a Tesla. Ford lived about the same time frame, and I'm sorry to tell you, technology has advanced past the Model T. It was a scientific marvel in it's time, and paved the way for things to come, but the basis of what it was is extremely outdated and admired solely for it's pioneering in antiquity only.

Carl Jung, Sigmund Freud, and Henry Ford were pioneers, but their advances are no longer the technology and understanding of today. We've learned so much more and advanced so much farther. Neuroscience, psychology, and engineering were in their infancy in those times. Things have come a long way, their advances have become obsolete from further advances in understanding.

I would first focus on learning how to deal with those intrusive thoughts of yours before I would even think of making a tulpa. Conduct some research on how to become comfortable with them. Meditation would also help immensely (here's a book written by a guy who knows what he's talking about and has the history of his past/current achievements to show for it).

As a bonus, meditating on a daily basis will help with your attention span and should alleviate some of the symptoms associated with your ADHD. It should also help you in your journey towards creating a fully-functional tulpa.

"The Power of Habit" is an excellent psychology/productivity book on how you can optimize your thinking and behavior. A lot of its lessons can translate to better tulpamancy practices.

https://www.amazon.com/Power-Habit-What-Life-Business/dp/081298160X

you may be refering to this book by Alexandra David Neel

if you want something of a more primary source think you would probably have to teach yourself ancient Sanskrit and then try and find the teachings themselves. But im pretty sure this book is the book that introduced Tulpas to the west. Hope this helps.

Both you and your tulpas can use your innate metaphysical abilities to synchronistically influence components of your reality to keep your life from being unnecessarily difficult.

Because mind affects matter at the quantum level, an inner consciousness shift will create an outer physical shift. In other words, the inner and outer worlds are loosely coupled. The probability of personal life events changes in response to deep changes in your mental and emotional landscape. Consciousness affects reality in a synchronistic way, thereby bypassing the deterministic laws of science. Life literally turns around and begins pointing in a new direction, and miracles become the norm. You just have to decide to let this be possible for you and it will be, in the same way that you must decide to let tulpas be real for you in order to experience them. It's not always easy to change your views about what is possible, but your tulpas can help if you ask them to.

I know that sounds pretty far out but there is some hard science behind it, and it just works. Here is one place where you can go to get an understanding of the physics behind how this works: http://www.amazon.com/The-Holographic-Universe-Revolutionary-Reality/dp/0062014102

Actually; such experience as that is fairly common, according to Imaginary Companions and the Children Who Create them. The age, appearance, and disappearance are all very similar to one of the case studies in the book.

Co-incidentally, my family perceive me as a shadow. I’m not sure how that is possible, other than mass hypnosis/suggestibility. I concluded for myself years ago, “it doesn’t matter if I am real; what matters is that I have real effects on my friends’ ability to cope.”

It could be that you had a need, and your friend came to help while needed.

I personally believe in angels, but it’s a somewhat unusual take on it. The word angel means “messenger”, so I consider angel to be a job that someone can do and not a species.

Yeah here's the amazon page for the first book in the Hybrid series though:
http://www.amazon.com/Whats-Left-Me-Hybrid-Chronicles/dp/0062114883

may be useful: Invisible Guests

[ actually yes. Try this book? http://amzn.com/014312157X Shinyuu made lots of parallels between tulpamancy and what's written there. ]

>I definitely need to work on my manipulation skills, so I should look for books on that.

You're welcome.

If anyone else wants a copy you can just order it on Amazon.