(Part 2) Top products from r/addiction

I agree that SLAA is a good and helpful program for sex/porn addicts. Haven't tried SA, have friends who like SAA - just try all of whatever's in your area or that you can find online: the more help the better. Also sex addicts I've known have sworn by the books of Patrick Carne which I haven't read. Escape From Intimacy I have read, it's short and good and describes exactly what you're talking about in terms of sex addicts building up a tolerance and getting into darker things and more and more dangerous behavior. The addicts who do best according to research in this excellent book are those who can find an individual therapist as well as doing a group program (like SAA etc) so do both if you can - just make sure your therapist knows about addiction. You are not alone - there are others who understand and have faced and conquered this addiction. Get help before you cause irreparable harm. You don't need to tell your wife before you find a source of help - if you get help the people who help you may be able to show you the best way and time to talk to your wife about it. Good luck and start today while you have the willingness to quit - it can disappear.

Edit: The groups I mentioned are all free just in case you weren't aware of that fact - they're just addicts helping addicts.

I found this book and this concept to be very helpful in explaining to myself what is going on in my brain.

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1-Sentence-Summary: The Chimp Paradox uses a simple analogy to help you take control of your emotions and act in your own, best interest, whether it’s in making decisions, communicating with others, or your health and happiness.

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Here are 3 lessons that will help you exercise control over your emotions:

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1. There are two competing forces in your brain, so learn to recognize them.
   
   
2. Humans have four modes of communication and knowing which one you’re in will help get your message across.
   
   
3. The chimp’s sneakiest trick is wanting more. Since the chimp always wants more, it can become a fundamental obstacle to your long-term happiness.
   
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   The Chimp Paradox

Well thats the disease isnt it, that ur will is directed in the direction of drugs. Making a "choice" is based on "will" and addiction physically changes your brain (prefrontal cortex, amygdala, and the pathways between). When addiction has fully developed there is no free will. That said, the brain will heal and rewire with time, but outside support is absolutely critical until it does.

Edit: if you care about the actual Science behind addiction I'd recommend you read the book below. I could also recommend some more literature if you're interested.

https://www.amazon.com/Thirteenth-Step-Addiction-Brain-Science/dp/0231172362

The Neurobiology of We is a great book about the neuroscience of human interaction and how it shapes our lives. Not addiction specific but I found it incredibly useful in understanding the basic science behind WHY people behave the way they do and how addiction arises.

Having spent an entire year on a psychotic spectrum detail in 2014-15, and being intimately familiar with psychotic bipolar I as well as the schizopherniform disorders, I have to suggest that trying to take responsibility for the behavior of people with transient psychosis is beyond the capacity of most professionals, let alone those who haven't been through extensive and intensive post-graduate education and training. The very best you can do is a) do what you can to make sure she's on the local social services radar, b) stay on her about taking her oral meds, and c) see if they can get her to go on depot medication.

I would also get a copy of this book and this book... and read them cover to cover.

I really liked Change Anything. It has a lot of useful science behind it for ways to change your life. Of course, I haven't followed it long-term, but it was interesting.

http://www.amazon.com/Change-Anything-Science-Personal-Success/dp/0446573906

Do you have a therapist that you can talk to help you work through these feelings, ideally someone specializing in trauma and/or substance abuse? I was pretty resistant to pursuing therapy and just stuck to meds for my depression/adhd for way too long. Finding a counselor I can trust that really gets me has been a huge game changer for turning my mental health around. I also really recommend reading the book Healing the Shame That Binds You

I'm nearly finished this book and I love it. Honestly have only taken a few concepts on board but still felt a difference.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0671708821?pc_redir=1408677214&robot_redir=1

https://www.amazon.com.mx/dp/B07XVR61K9

Hope this link works!

Also the feelings of guilt are is called co-dependent. Do yours self a favor read up on it. Here is a good book:
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself https://www.amazon.com/dp/0894864025/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_hw3gzbAKFH85N

still recommend this book after just slamming the rehab this guy founded

http://www.amazon.com/Believable-Hope-Essential-Elements-Addiction/dp/0757317308

I suggest you read ADHD Does Not Exist by Dr. Richard Saul. The Book of Woe by Dr. Gary Greenberg is another enlightening book about mental illness.

Go tell your doctor that you’re crushing & snorting your Ritalin, and taking far more than you’ve been instructed to take. Your doctor could put you on Strattera, or some other non-stimulant medication. Or, you can try to manage your symptoms without medication.

I was diagnosed with ADHD, too. I also snorted my Ritalin. Today, my personal belief is that “ADHD” is a very much a bullshit disorder, and giving people stimulant medication does more harm than good, more often than not. People like us, who like to snort our Ritalin, should not be prescribed Ritalin.

I recall reading (somewhere) that stimulant drugs help with ADHD symptoms...very temporarily. After you’ve been taking methylphenidate or dextroamphetamine for six months, you’re no better than you were BEFORE you started taking it; you’re just drug-dependent.

> I know all addicts 'feel good' when they get what they are addicted to.

Then you know nothing, Jon Snow. It may start out that way, but it stops working and when it does, that's when the bad things happen. If the drugs always worked like they first did, not many people would stop.

Anyways, if you want something kinda science textbooky try The Addicted Brain.

I believe that if we began promoting the idea that quitting heroin isn’t actually THAT hard, it would be a lot easier for people to quit.

70-80% of people prescribed opioids for chronic pain DON’T misuse their medication, and 88-92% DON’T develop an opioid use disorder.

How is this possible? How is it that the vast majority of people prescribed “physically addictive” drugs, don’t go on to become drug addicts?

If you read In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, at one point Dr. Gabor Maté writes about how there are hospitals full of sick people taking HUGE amounts of opiates...and they have absolutely no problems quitting, when the doctor tells them it’s time to quit.

The “physical withdrawals” aren’t the issue.

The issue is psychological...it’s a issue of belief.

The heroin user on the street who believes, “I’m an addict, I can’t simply quit, quitting is too hard...” This person will have a hard time quitting.

The fentanyl user in the hospital who think, “I need to take this medicine for now, but I’ll be able to stop when the doctor tells me to...” This person will quit, and it won’t be a Major Life Struggle.

Yes, we should stop promoting the idea that “quitting is hard.” I’m sure it’s very uncomfortable/painful to go through opiate withdrawal. But the discomfort is entirely bearable. Anyone can go through it.