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It's not about being deep it's about psychology and automatic responses, people become happy when they see or hear happy people and it gives you an advantage.

So a kinda good example of this is canned or fake laughter in comedy shows, the audience tends to hate it and to be honest I don't think i know anyone who even likes it. But comedy shows put it in anyway, why? because it makes jokes funnier especially bad jokes, and if people think a show is funny they watch it more. I would give you evidence for this but i can't find it right now sorry. But it was brought to my attention via this book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/d/cka/Influence-Psychology-Persuasion-Robert-B-PhD-Cialdini/006124189X

(the audiobook is quite good too)

Often people find it easy to fake happy smiles, but the eyes require much more work and happy eyes are the key, in my opinion, to having a happy looking face. I try to think of something that makes me happy (my first kiss, maybe a good thing that's happened recently etc.) and that tends to take care of my eyes.

As in more defined vs more chubby but happy it depends, in a social situation more happy is better and in a situation where they can see by your body that you aren't fat then happy is better too. Only face close ups are when I'd think about maybe avoiding the round faced "issue". It's something you'll have to check in the mirror to see for yourself.

You're cool but you need to gain some weight and confidence.

So here's the plan:

1. Head over to /r/gainit, look at some progress pics from skinny dudes gaining weight for inspiration. Create a meal plan, pick a fitness program you like and head over to the gym. Stick with it. It's not about motivation, but about discipline.
   
   
2. Read this book. Despite the terribly cheesy title it's actually a great book about 'becoming the best version of yourself possible'.
   
   I'm in my 30s now and I wish someone would have told me these two things when I was younger.
   
   Ah also get a haircut. 6/10 for now but could easily become an 8/10.

Yeah, learn how to smile. I’m serious—practice in the mirror every day and lean in on having photos taken of yourself (not selfies—stop taking selfies). You can’t get better if you are not seeing yourself like others do.

Shave your head. And by shave I mean tell your barber to do a “1” all over. It WILL BE WEIRD at first, but you have an advantage in that it looks like you are in pretty good shape. Keep that shit up.

Straighten your back and stick your titties out when you walk, I can feel your confidence deficit through the photos. Walk confidently and your attitude and demeanor will change. Ladies will notice (I’m serious, it works!)

When it comes time, talk to women like they are people with dreams, hopes, insecurities, and other feelings. Don’t lead with the “virgin til 20” business. Act like someone a woman would like to have coffee with.

Read “Mate” by Tucker Max (yes, that Tucker Max). It’s also coauthored by an evolutionary psychologist. There are incredible insights in the book. It helped me be more attractive to women and also helped me understand how to treat them better. Good luck!!!

Mate: Become the Man Women Want https://www.amazon.com/dp/0316375365/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_dZXKAb4PXBKPW

You could do with losing a little weight, I think the problem is you don't carry it with confidence. Sounds idiotic but most girls don't care about a guys weight if he is a charmer. To improve your confidence shift a few pounds, do it for you not for the bullies. http://www.diabetes.co.uk/diet-basics.html

You're pretty average looking, which is a good thing, its better to look average than look like a monster. You can improve with confidence and a little styling. Try getting some hair product and play around with your hair a little at the moment it looks a little flat.

A combination of /r/seduction, /r/dating_advice and /r/relationship_advice could help with your approach to women. I also recommend this book its not a dating books its effectively a profiling guide and it goes through the steps for reading body language really well.

hush you. Half of being attractive is confidence! Get some you pretty girl you! :P (I'm going to hold any stronger compliments for the next 4 months... :P)

I understand... when I was 17 I wore far too much make-up too. It's easy to confuse excess/over the top with dramatic. Maybe let her practice more on you so she can get better at making-up pale girls! Less is more and using the eyebrow as the stopping point generally looks streetwalker-ish (of course you still looked lovely!) :P (Full Disclosure: I'm the straight boy who works in fashion and the former goth who taught my mother how to apply make-up. Sigh. Anyways Making Faces is great reference for making dramatic the pro way...)

cliques. yes. that is the word I meant. :P

Ok; boxer/dancer/Doctor Who/firefly girl... All I can say is; Nrrrd Girl I don't diserve you.... (Sorry... been holding that in since last night...)

Ok, final breakdown. You are cute. REALLY cute. Pretty/Quirky/Cute to be specific. You will get lots of boys, just relax. You're probably too much one of the guys for your females friends to compliment you (perhaps they are afraid their boyfriend would rather hang with you than go out with them) and as per the guys; you said it yourself:

>I think my school is too small... I go to a professional school... where everyone knows everyone, in every grade.

I guess what I've been saying all along is; Let me know if you're ever 18+, Single, and in NYC! :)

You can't tell what you look like because you haven't put any thought into it, apparently, ever. Is pretty something you want? It's ok to answer no. Beauty doesn't have to define you. But if you want it, you'll have to work for it like everybody else.

Diet, watch some makeup tutorials on Youtube, get your hair did, get new glasses, and buy some new clothes - preferably in color. I know it sounds like a lot, but believe me. If you start now, you could have a full dance card a year from now. Even just working on the things you can change immediately (hair, clothes, makeup) will have an enormous effect.

Beauty isn't entirely superficial- at least, the consequences aren't. Attractive people get better jobs with better pay, are judged to be more competent, are judged to be morally better people... the list goes on. It really is a game-changer. I can't explain to you how different, how much easier, it is to be a pretty girl. Everyone takes you more seriously. Everyone wants to be nice to you. People go out of their way for you constantly. It comes with its own set of challenges, but it's quantifiably worth it.

If you have any female friends or relatives, I guarantee at least one of them has been dieing to give you a makeover for years. Let somebody teach you the girl stuff. Also, if you're serious, I can't recommend this book by Bobbi Brown enough. Taught me everything I know.

I think you have an interesting look.

Your hair will make you stand out, but don't let it get too much longer. Be sure to always keep it clean since that is probably the first thing people will see when they look at you.

You have some really good cheek bones.

You may want to start to groom your eyebrows. Here is a good article on the subject. But whatever you do, do not wax/pluck underneath them unless you are going for a more effeminate look.

Are your teeth straight and white? If not, then most people appearance would improve after braces and teeth whitening at the dentist's office.

Here are the products to buy to help get rid of your acne. It will cost around $20.00 - $30.00 depending on if you need the shampoo. If you want information on how to use them, PM me. All the items can be purchased online through Target except the Acne Free Terminator which you can get through Amazon.

1. Formula 10-0-6/So Totally Clean Cleanser
   
2. L-lysine supplements
   
3. Acne Free Terminator 10 Acne Spot Treatment 4. And if you have hairline or forehead zit, purchase Acure Organics shampoo.
   
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Your biggest problem is your self esteem.

Self esteem sometimes sounds a bit lame because it was overused in the 90's, but it basically just means you are happy and content whether you are alone, with friends & family, or with strangers.

Here's a great book on improving your self esteem. The basic premise is that you end your negative self talk and start valuing yourself. If you learn to enjoy and value your time alone, you won't need other people. When you don't need other people, you won't come across as needy, so the normal people that you want to be friends with won't be put off by you. Eventually people will be attracted to you and trying to become your friend, instead of it always being the other way around.

FYI, you can probably find a pirated pdf of the book online if you look around so you may want to sample it that way, but it is a good book so I would recommend buying it as well.

Also, based on your dressing style I'm going to guess you have some sort of childhood trauma (abuse, divorce, etc.) that is the root cause of your self esteem issues. It's just my guess so I may be wrong, but if that is the case you should try working through those issues with a therapist, or good psychology/self help book.

Best of luck.

Fuck the surgery thing, that's crazy talk. I would just recommend losing the earrings (if that's what they are). I had a very similar problem as you when I was in high school. I had longer, thick hair, but I needed to find something that didn't look over the top, but still looked decent.

http://imgur.com/a/i0k7t

The top picture was me in high school (i know the picture is funny, but I didn't have a social media account back then) and the bottom is what I currently do with my hair at 22.

I found a product called American Crew Forming Cream
http://www.amazon.com/American-Crew-Forming-Cream-Ounce/dp/B000KEIPC6

I like it because it doesn't make your hair hard and you can restyle it throughout the day with no issue at all. It also doesn't have a wet or shiny look to it, so it doesn't look like you have anything in your hair (which I always thought to be douchy). I just take a shower, let it dry for like 10 mins and then i rub a very small amount between my index, middle finger, and thumb and part my hair off to the side. Very simple, low maintenance and it keeps the hair out of your face while looking pretty good. Ditch the bowl cut for christ sakes! Stop trying to be unique!!! :P

You are pretty attractive, If I were you, I would get rid of the earrings, get a trim and tell the barber you want it relatively short, but want to be able to part your hair off to the side, which will leave you with bangs to do with as you please. Also, start dressing more preppy, like khakis/boat shoes, northface/columbia, just dress very conservatively and it will definitely bump your numbers up on the attractiveness scale.

You look great. But get a piece of paper, man. A well stocked house is important (don't play on bluetooth speakers lmao, mildly nsfw).

Here's my advice:

Get a haircut that makes more sense for your head shape. You have a slightly big forehead. Not an enormous forehead, though! It's about normal sized, only slightly larger than average. But the hair style is really emphasizing that otherwise minor fact.

As for acne, here's the process I use and it pretty much got rid of all of my acne. I used to have acne exactly like you.

1. In the shower, use these three products: product 1, product 2, product 3. They need to be rinsed off, so it's easiest to do in the shower.
   
2. After your shower, apply a 10% benzoyl peroxide acne treatment, in a pea-sized amount. Get the good stuff-- it is very different from the cheap stuff. Trust me, i've tried both. And if you use a pea-sized amount once or twice daily, it'll last a few months. Don't rinse this stuff off. If you get skin irritation, keep doing it for a few days. If it doesn't go away, stop use.
   
3. Throughout the day, keep your skin clean! This is super important. Use witch hazel for this. It's cheap and it'll make your skin feel amazing.
   
   I'm sure some of these steps aren't nessecary, but this was the routine that I developed. Since it works crazy good, it's a "if it ain't broke don't fix it" kind of thing. If you don't want to invest in ALL of the aforementioned products, then you could probably get away with just 10% benzoyl peroxide scrub + 10% benzoyl peroxide treatment + witch hazel.
   
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   Anyways, you're like a 5.5 / 10 right now. 5 is average. So that puts you slightly above average. Deal with acne and get a better hair style and you're easily a 6.5 / 10, which means attractive.

Well thanks Mom for the 5'3" genes!

5'8" is right on the cusp, but you should still be fine. Just don't let it get to your self-esteem. But if that is not possible..... and option is to go with the Tom Cruise method. Buy Elevator Shoes or Elevator Shoe Insole Lifts. Of course, you wouldn't want to buy too tall (i.e. more than 2 inches), but that might help you.

Best of luck to you. And honestly you really are good looking.

Hey bro. (3.5/10)
Real Talk: Your clothes are way too big. You need to size down your clothes a bit, get trendier glasses for your headshape.
Do not listen to the person who likes your fashion - It's not working for you.
Next. Focus on your posture.
Next. You need to start lifting. You need to put on weight and add muscle. You have good bone structure and a little bit of size will make your clothes fit better and it will help get your head in proportion to your body. Your neck seems skinny in proportion to your head, that's because you lack muscle.

Good luck out there.

Depression sucks. I've had MDD with anxiety for decades. It can really keep you from going anywhere in life. I just take antidepressants everyday now. I probably will for the rest of my life. It's just a thing, like a diabetic who has to take insulin everyday. It's not a big deal at all. But talk therapy helps even more. Find a good (experienced - older is better) psychologist who does CBT, and have them teach you how to do it. It is amazing how well it works - if you do it. You just can't be passive about it.

Don't worry - there is nothing at all wrong with your looks. You are very pretty. You're just seeing life through the filter of depression, which turns everything dark. You could go through your school's guidance counselor, I'm sure, if you don't know where to turn. But it's easiest just to see your general practitioner (the doc you see when you have the flu), and get them to recommend you to someone.

If you want a head start, buy the book Feeling Good, the New Mood Therapy. It's what a therapist will have you read first thing. It's the instruction manual of cognitive behavioral therapy.

If you insist on keeping the hair (bad idea IMO, I think you would look great with short hair) then at least use a hair serum on it. This is a really good one, a little expensive, but it's great. This one is not quite as good, but it's a little cheaper. Another thing you could do to help is use a shampoo for body, or a mousse for body. These products will help your hair look healthier and fuller.

Not ugly. So you want curves? and /r/xxfitness

Stop plucking your middle brows They're too far apart. Let them fill back in a bit. (On second thought it might be the angles of the photos... They just seem a few mm too far apart. Just a little)

Go to /r/skincareaddiction or /r/asianbeauty

Most of us feel better and look better with some makeup. If you're really thinking you have wrinkles and bags then you should probably find a therapist and invest some time and effort into loving yourself. You deserve to love your body

You’re pretty cute. Don’t listen to anyone who doesn’t have curly hair. Your hair rocks, and what would help is if you shortened the sides and put a soft gel in the top to make the curls stand out without getting frizzy. I use Cantu Define & Shine gel - it’s like $5 or so, which is pretty cheap and you don’t need much at all so it’s worth a try.
As for skin care, you’re right, it’s hard. Your skin isn’t that bad though. You don’t seem to have scarring. Maybe try using an acne face wash with benzoyl peroxide (helps with whiteheads) and a hydrating tonerhydrating toner or a light, non-comedogenic lotion (won’t clog pores) . Only need to do it once a day, twice if your skin is oily. I think the mistake people make is doing TOO much. My skin looked similar to yours and that’s what helped me.

I'd suggest trying a few different products instead of the gel you're currently using. Play around until you find something you like. Most stores have great return policies, too. Here's some product suggestions: 1, 2, 3, 4

You are definitely not ugly. You have a great profile and a nice face.
BDD is s bitch. Fellow struggler here, so I feel ya.

I read this book called, ["The broken mirror"] (http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0195167198/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1381246235&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX110_SY165)
by Katherine Phillips over and over and found it very helpful, so you may want to give it a read :-)

I'm another dude, in a similar position like you and I wish I was at where you are now.

You're a young guy, just starting out life. Don't be down on yourself. Don't end up like me -- a lonely man in middle age, facing more years behind than ahead.

If you really are feeling low about yourself, could I suggest talking to a therapist? If that's not an option, here's a book that's helped me out over the years: http://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-The-Mood-Therapy/dp/0380810336

It's not an affiliate link or anything. Some people hand out religious books, I hand out this one. :) I'll even buy it for you over kindle if you want. I'm that serious.

I think you're adorable. I think that you may need to work on the flirting. I may recommend these books to try:

http://www.amazon.com/How-Attract-Anyone-Anytime-Anyplace/dp/0452270863/ref=pd_bxgy_b_text_y



http://www.amazon.com/The-Flirting-Bible-Ultimate-Language/dp/1592334210/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_z



I think this may help. It's not your appearance. I'd approach you based on the pictures.

Well you could take a picture and not look at it.

How short are you? You could do what Tom Cruise supposedly does..... wear Elevator Shoes or Elevator Shoe Insole Lifts ,which can make you 3 inches taller.

The fuckoff signal might be because she knows you aren't confident in yourself. True confidence (not fake bravado) in a guy is usually an aphrodisiac to women. That is what is usually happening when you see ugly men with drop dead gorgeous women. (Money helps too.)

That signal could be many things other than you are ugly as hell. You could be giving off a creepy vibe without knowing it. Honestly, unless a guy looks like Quasimodo, most can find someone to love them.

Speaking of money, do you have a good job? Security is important to women too. That is why ugly doctors/lawyers have no problem getting hot women.

Buy this, read it, and use it. It'll save you so much time.

5 is too long. You'd look sharp if you get a three on the sides and back and get scissors on top and blend. Ask for them to texture your hair and then add a little bit of gel or wax to style. This stuff will work well for you http://www.amazon.com/Garnier-Fructis-Style-Texture-5-1000/dp/B004ZWMDZ4

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00C4XI0QM/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?ie=UTF8&btkr=1

>world-renowned gluteal expert

lol

I'm a dude, I have similar hair to yours. Ever since highschool I would grow it out to 15-16 inches which is about 11 inches braided. I then donate it to locks of love. I've done this 4 or 5 times now. I also have issues with dandruff every once in a while. I find it is mostly due to low humidity, not washing enough, and wearing hats. Along with what the others recommended I would start using biosilk. It's a leave in conditioner for after you wash. Makes your hair shiny and smooth without making it oily. I'm a photographer and will have models throw this in their hair, depending on hair type and if the model needs it, right before a shoot. I can't recommend it enough.... yea i total sound like a shill....

Ninja edit: it only takes a drop or so. A bottle will last me over a month. I don't use it daily, though you can.

No, like texture paste or pomade.

Buy one of these https://www.amazon.com/Electric-Epilator-Portable-Painless-Included/dp/B07R1N1N9J/ref=mp_s_a_1_12?keywords=brow+trimmer&qid=1565418841&s=gateway&sr=8-12

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0982522738

I think you need this