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It's not about being deep it's about psychology and automatic responses, people become happy when they see or hear happy people and it gives you an advantage.

So a kinda good example of this is canned or fake laughter in comedy shows, the audience tends to hate it and to be honest I don't think i know anyone who even likes it. But comedy shows put it in anyway, why? because it makes jokes funnier especially bad jokes, and if people think a show is funny they watch it more. I would give you evidence for this but i can't find it right now sorry. But it was brought to my attention via this book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/d/cka/Influence-Psychology-Persuasion-Robert-B-PhD-Cialdini/006124189X

(the audiobook is quite good too)

Often people find it easy to fake happy smiles, but the eyes require much more work and happy eyes are the key, in my opinion, to having a happy looking face. I try to think of something that makes me happy (my first kiss, maybe a good thing that's happened recently etc.) and that tends to take care of my eyes.

As in more defined vs more chubby but happy it depends, in a social situation more happy is better and in a situation where they can see by your body that you aren't fat then happy is better too. Only face close ups are when I'd think about maybe avoiding the round faced "issue". It's something you'll have to check in the mirror to see for yourself.

You could do with losing a little weight, I think the problem is you don't carry it with confidence. Sounds idiotic but most girls don't care about a guys weight if he is a charmer. To improve your confidence shift a few pounds, do it for you not for the bullies. http://www.diabetes.co.uk/diet-basics.html

You're pretty average looking, which is a good thing, its better to look average than look like a monster. You can improve with confidence and a little styling. Try getting some hair product and play around with your hair a little at the moment it looks a little flat.

A combination of /r/seduction, /r/dating_advice and /r/relationship_advice could help with your approach to women. I also recommend this book its not a dating books its effectively a profiling guide and it goes through the steps for reading body language really well.

hush you. Half of being attractive is confidence! Get some you pretty girl you! :P (I'm going to hold any stronger compliments for the next 4 months... :P)

I understand... when I was 17 I wore far too much make-up too. It's easy to confuse excess/over the top with dramatic. Maybe let her practice more on you so she can get better at making-up pale girls! Less is more and using the eyebrow as the stopping point generally looks streetwalker-ish (of course you still looked lovely!) :P (Full Disclosure: I'm the straight boy who works in fashion and the former goth who taught my mother how to apply make-up. Sigh. Anyways Making Faces is great reference for making dramatic the pro way...)

cliques. yes. that is the word I meant. :P

Ok; boxer/dancer/Doctor Who/firefly girl... All I can say is; Nrrrd Girl I don't diserve you.... (Sorry... been holding that in since last night...)

Ok, final breakdown. You are cute. REALLY cute. Pretty/Quirky/Cute to be specific. You will get lots of boys, just relax. You're probably too much one of the guys for your females friends to compliment you (perhaps they are afraid their boyfriend would rather hang with you than go out with them) and as per the guys; you said it yourself:

>I think my school is too small... I go to a professional school... where everyone knows everyone, in every grade.

I guess what I've been saying all along is; Let me know if you're ever 18+, Single, and in NYC! :)

Ok, so, initially, I had a bunch of advice I was going to give, since, as you may or may not know, girls are makeup/hair wizards, but instead, I thought I'd just show you:
http://i.imgur.com/idVkk.jpg

Created using this:
http://www.ivillage.com/virtual-makeover#

You don't need an account, and as their privacy note states, they won't share any pictures with the public unless you create an account/allow them to.

Also, have you thought about joining a running group/club? You have the perfect body type for it and you could meet some new people. If I ever run into you, trust me, I'll say hi and try to be friends. I think it takes a lot of courage to put your picture on the internet and ask people for advice.

If you make changes, do it for you, not for anyone else. Actually, I almost want to edit the hairstyle with that makeover thing again and give you an edgier look that says "hey, I look a little different, and do you know what? I own it, so don't waste your time pitying me, my life is awesome. You'd be lucky to be my friend."

Have you heard of this girl? Perhaps you could try to contact her, more than anyone else here, I think she'd know what you're going through.

Oh, and since you mentioned reading stuff to improve your social skills, I'd recommend starting with this, it really helped me:
http://www.amazon.com/The-Introvert-Advantage-Thrive-Extrovert/dp/0761123695/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1331924861&sr=8-1

That's all I can think of for now, I hope at least some of it was useful!

You can't tell what you look like because you haven't put any thought into it, apparently, ever. Is pretty something you want? It's ok to answer no. Beauty doesn't have to define you. But if you want it, you'll have to work for it like everybody else.

Diet, watch some makeup tutorials on Youtube, get your hair did, get new glasses, and buy some new clothes - preferably in color. I know it sounds like a lot, but believe me. If you start now, you could have a full dance card a year from now. Even just working on the things you can change immediately (hair, clothes, makeup) will have an enormous effect.

Beauty isn't entirely superficial- at least, the consequences aren't. Attractive people get better jobs with better pay, are judged to be more competent, are judged to be morally better people... the list goes on. It really is a game-changer. I can't explain to you how different, how much easier, it is to be a pretty girl. Everyone takes you more seriously. Everyone wants to be nice to you. People go out of their way for you constantly. It comes with its own set of challenges, but it's quantifiably worth it.

If you have any female friends or relatives, I guarantee at least one of them has been dieing to give you a makeover for years. Let somebody teach you the girl stuff. Also, if you're serious, I can't recommend this book by Bobbi Brown enough. Taught me everything I know.

Your biggest problem is your self esteem.

Self esteem sometimes sounds a bit lame because it was overused in the 90's, but it basically just means you are happy and content whether you are alone, with friends & family, or with strangers.

Here's a great book on improving your self esteem. The basic premise is that you end your negative self talk and start valuing yourself. If you learn to enjoy and value your time alone, you won't need other people. When you don't need other people, you won't come across as needy, so the normal people that you want to be friends with won't be put off by you. Eventually people will be attracted to you and trying to become your friend, instead of it always being the other way around.

FYI, you can probably find a pirated pdf of the book online if you look around so you may want to sample it that way, but it is a good book so I would recommend buying it as well.

Also, based on your dressing style I'm going to guess you have some sort of childhood trauma (abuse, divorce, etc.) that is the root cause of your self esteem issues. It's just my guess so I may be wrong, but if that is the case you should try working through those issues with a therapist, or good psychology/self help book.

Best of luck.

You are good looking, maybe can change your haircut, but definitely are handsome and will get more handsome as time goes on. What is probably pulling you back right now with the ladies is posture and body language. May I recommend this book: http://www.amazon.com/Definitive-Book-Body-Language/dp/0553804723

It gave me great confidence and made me think about what I look like to others. It helped a LOT with the ladies.

Nothin wrong with how you look, man. But I would suggest workin on your style. I would recommend this book: http://www.amazon.com/AskMen-com-Presents-The-Style-Bible/dp/0061208507/ref=pd_sim_14_6?ie=UTF8&refRID=0K3SNGZ77Y465XNJH3H0

Or you could just start checking out some mens style website like AskMen.com, Mens Health or something. Ladies love a guy that dresses well. I also think its easier to be confident when your outfit is on point.

Very good looking. Like quarterback good-looking. You don't need to change a thing except your brain. Put on a few lbs of muscle, you would be a god. It's the confidence, dude. That's all. http://www.amazon.com/How-Succeed-Women-Louis/dp/0130950912

On that subject, have you read this? (Not a critique, cause I love your curls.) Just a recommendation, since that book taught me how to properly care for my hair.

I think you look nice. I second the makeup, though. Just for a level of polish. Most of us need it.

You NEED this book. You look like a very nice "safe" guy that gets put in the friendzone almost instantly.

http://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/0762415339

Good Luck.

the bangs are really great. wear some more makeup. try different looks. bobbi brown has some great books for makeup advice:

http://www.amazon.com/Bobbi-Brown-Beauty/dp/0060929766

There’s actually a lot of evidence that suggests that beauty standards for women are universal.

For the most part, there’s gonna be a lot of accordance on expected hip:waist ratio, hair length, and more (for women).

There’s greater variance for dudes, but only because there’s different signaling across cultures for wealth and power —things that are traditionally sought after in mates.

You are definitely not ugly. You have a great profile and a nice face.
BDD is s bitch. Fellow struggler here, so I feel ya.

I read this book called, ["The broken mirror"] (http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0195167198/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1381246235&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX110_SY165)
by Katherine Phillips over and over and found it very helpful, so you may want to give it a read :-)

I think you're adorable. I think that you may need to work on the flirting. I may recommend these books to try:

http://www.amazon.com/How-Attract-Anyone-Anytime-Anyplace/dp/0452270863/ref=pd_bxgy_b_text_y



http://www.amazon.com/The-Flirting-Bible-Ultimate-Language/dp/1592334210/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_z



I think this may help. It's not your appearance. I'd approach you based on the pictures.

http://www.amazon.com/Posture-get-straight-Janice-Novak/dp/0399525009

I think you need this

>I challenge you to go make an instagram account using photos of a slightly above average female and follow some people from your local university, check how many messages you'll get from dudes attempting to sleep with you. In modern society, women are given the choice of men and men are meant to pursue, it's just how society is structured and honestly, I don't have any issues with it.

I don't have to. I've seen the "men" from my sister's Tinder. The men on Tinder are complete dog shit and it took her years to find a guy who didn't want to bang her in the first 2 weeks. You probably wouldn't call it sexist if I started pointing out how men act as well. Obviously things are to be taken by a case by case basis, but stereotypes exist for a reason and it baffles me when people ignore factual evidence just because it doesn't sound nice.

>If you're a male who knows they're attractive or at least average, you shouldn't have any issues with it either, the system is designed for you.

I do have issues with it because everything feels superficial. I hate the concept of attraction. I hate falling prey to biology by only being able to date women I find attractive. I don't like knowing I could be with a girl who wouldn't consider me viable if the bone on my face grew a little differently, and that it applies vice versa as well.

>As for women who respond to the messages of men attempting to sleep with them, I don't think it's very classy, I won't refuse a date with them or not pursue them for a relationship but casual sex has never been a focus of mine and I don't want it to be a focus of my partners at any point.

It disgusts me because I was raised that sex had value to it and you should really save it for someone you think you'd be with. I know that this view is probably retarded, but I'm unable to let go and get over it.

>As the video progresses past that point, it becomes really horrible towards women. The video essentially objectifies women and assumes they all act this way because it's something hard-wired into their biology.

These things are hardwired in our biology. There are studies that people just don't even bother with because it's not "nice". I recommend actually reading books/studies instead of virtue signaling. Here's a great one pertaining to this very subject:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0679763996

Obviously we don't all act a certain way or I would literally be fucking as many women as possible rn as my biology demands.

>I thoroughly disagree with a majority of that video, it's almost complete B.S, uses data which is highly criticized and generalizes women as not humans but robots or predictable objects.

Yeah highly criticized because it's not a nice thing to say. You're also criticized if you mention 13% of people committing over half of violent crime in America. There are tons of variables that come into play which can explain these statistics, but that doesn't matter because just talking about them is "wrong" in modern society. Also where are your sources to any of your claims other than trying to be in the moral right? Most of humanity is pretty predictable or conglomerates wouldn't have their power.

>If I was you, I wouldn't go expressing these opinions in public, keep it to yourself and your close friends. You seem some concrete in your ideas and I won't try to change them but it's highly recommended you keep these thoughts to yourself. I have no issues with you willingly committing suicide, just make sure you don't hurt anyone when you decide to do it.

Lmao I don't need the lecture from someone whose brain isn't even close to being fully developed. I've handled myself quite fine in life. My depression stems from society failing to meet expectations. That's my fault for guzzling the toxic knowledge of the world for a decade and placing my perfectionism on the world. Unfortunately my friends will be hurt by my suicide, but my mom would not be able to handle it so I have to wait for her to die of old age. Or did you mean hurt like physically hurt because incels are the new buzzword and are all considered violent although you're technically incel yourself?