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u/tripostrophe · 18 pointsr/asiantwoX

I'm still trying to get through this book in my spare time so bear with me, but Kumiko Nemoto's Racing Romance: Love, Power, and Desire among Asian American/White Couples has had some really amazing insights so far in just the introduction and Ch. 1 alone.

She examines how popular portrayals of Asian females as hypersexual and sexually accommodating beings in romantic relationships with benevolent white men following colonial wars led to increased sexual capital and their current status as a 'sexual model minority,' standing in for traditional white femininity which was corrupted by the rise of feminism (citing heavily from Susan Koshy in Sexual Naturalization: Asian Americans and Miscegenation).

She then goes on to cite Palumbo-Liu in Asian/American: Historical Crossings of a Racial Frontier when he argues that interracial relationships between AF and WM also serve as a salve to mitigate white anxiety around multiculturalism and immigration by serving as a highly visible symbol of what white people imagine a multicultural, 'post-racial' society to look like, that simultaneously masks historical racism and white hegemony.

She also talks about whiteness as an object of desire resulting from colonial relationships, and internalized racism and how it affects Asian American women and men in different ways, and later cites Rachel F. Moran's idea in Interracial Intimacy: The Regulation of Race and Romance that "the idea of romantic love 'permits individuals to rely on love to explain their marital choices without ever thinking very hard about the characteristics that make their partners loveable.'"

That's about as far as I've gotten, but so far I've found the book to be incredibly elucidating and thought-provoking. It, combined with an intriguing quote in M. Butterfly by David Henry Hwang ("[W]e seduce ourselves. Sometimes when you have the desire to fall in love or you desire to have someone to be some kind of ideal, you can make that person ideal in your own mind whether or not the facts correspond to the reality."); recent reactions by non-Black folk (both white and POC) to Ferguson; Lipsitz' excellent article on The Racialization of Space; and recent conversations with friends about APA masculinity, male feminism (for lack of a better term), sexuality, + dating has me thinking about the politics of dating and how desire has been constructed in my own life.

So no, I don't think it has hardly anything to do with certain phenotypical characteristics, and more to do with the latter -- though I don't think 'stereotypes' goes quite deep enough to explain it, after dipping my toes into Nemoto and the folks she cites.

edit: I should probably clarify that this is no more advantageous than the model minority myth in any other form, in that its primary function is to subject and seduce Asians of all gender identities into performing sexuality within a narrow set of acceptable behaviors in order to assimilate into a White multiculturalist society (through romantic relationships with white men, in this case). It denies us the diversity of our selves and our experiences within the community, and marginalizes anyone who does not participate (see how straight Asian males and outspoken Asian feminists are treated). I also find it interesting in that it allows white men of all sexual orientations to regulate the bounds of their sexuality by further partitioning POC into a hierarchy of desirability and creating a safe zone (the sexual model minority) that they can penetrate and consume for their pleasure, on their own terms -- somewhat related article.

u/popsiclesky · 1 pointr/asiantwoX

>Q: What’s the ethos behind your eyeshadow?
A: When I was writing The Incendiaries, I was drawn to people who had smokier eyes, so I started experimenting with it myself. I remember my mother-in-law — who’s so funny, and who I’m very close to — asking, ‘Why do you do that with your eyes? It makes you look sad.’ I said, ‘Well, yeah, I’m quite often sad, actually.’ And she thought about it, then said, ‘Sometimes it makes you look tired.’ I was like, ‘Well, I’m pretty much ALWAYS tired.’ I told her, I want to look the way I feel! Plus, in general, I think I do present as happy and nice. Women are often conditioned to try to put people at ease, to make sure everyone’s comfortable. That niceness can make it seem like I can be stepped all over. I think this look is partly my trying to counteract it.
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>Q: Do you find that you make a different first impression now? Do people see you as tough?
A: Yes, I think people do see me differently. And one of the most meaningful things is when I hear from other women about the ways they costume themselves. They’ll say, ‘That’s why I dye my hair purple, because I want to change the world’s assumptions of me’ or ‘That’s a big part of why I have tattoos!’ But on the other hand, I’m still — one wants to be kind, you know? I mean, life is so hard, and it just feels better not to be a dick when I’m out in the world.
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>Q: You’ve also publicly addressed the specific stereotypes you confront, not just as a woman but an Asian-American woman.
A: Yes. I wrote a piece for the New York Times about this. My initial spark was the public reaction to Marie Kondo’s show, Tidying Up. As it got more and more popular, I noticed many people — who identify as progressive — talking about her in ways that felt increasingly racist. They referred to her as ‘fairy-like’ and ‘pixie-like,’ and other very traditional China Doll stereotypes about Asian-American women. That’s happened to me a lot as well, since my book came out and I’ve been traveling around talking about it. There have been so many times when strangers, usually in front of an audience, will get up to ask a question and say, ‘You’re so cute,’ or ‘You’re adorable.’ The vast majority of my Asian-American writer friends have experienced the same thing. It’s a kind of racism that maybe people don’t realize is racism — because it’s a compliment! You’re being called cute and adorable! But these are words reserved for children and puppies. I just couldn’t imagine a straight white man being praised for his appearance while talking about his work.

Also liked her essay Why I Wear Black Eyeshadow.

u/cheshire26 · 1 pointr/asiantwoX

for something great and angst-inducing, check out shortcomings by adrian tomine. it's a graphic novel and its totally great! I loved it. :)

u/AlwaysRight777 · 11 pointsr/asiantwoX

Thank you for this balanced comment. I do agree that Eliza's original post wasn't very nuanced.

But to be fair, within the "Anglo-Asian" community (U.S., Canada, Australia, New Zealand, U.K.), this issue is the proverbial elephant in the room. It's there, but within the mainstream Anglo-Asian media nobody dares to speak about the White fever of Asian women, which is just as prevalent as Yellow Fever of White men (if not more so).

The funny thing is, other people of colour have observed White fever among Asian women, especially Black women. Hell, there's even a book written by a Black woman named Lisa Marble entitled: How to be Irresistible to White Men: Interracial Dating Secrets of Asian Women Black Women Who Swirl Should Know.

So to her credit, Eliza has opened up the proverbial genie in the bottle and this will hopefully lead to an honest and productive dialogue within the Anglo-Asian community.

u/simplythere · 1 pointr/asiantwoX

Do yourself a favor and stop using St. Ive's scrub. They used crushed walnut skins which are shard-like literally tear into your skin tissue instead of just sloughing off the top layer. Try a sugar scrub like this one that smells like fresh orange zest (don't try to taste it cause it's pretty gross... spoken from experience >.<) or a microdermabrasion scrub with fine sand-like crystals. If you want a really effective, cheap exfoliator and are blemish-prone, I really liked the aspirin mask. It really cleans out some of those sebaceous filaments.


It's possible that the abuse you're doing to your skin is creating additional redness. I know I had a lot of additional redness when I had acne because I thought exfoliating and scrubbing it everyday would make the pimples go away. :(

u/thatsbloodybrilliant · 1 pointr/asiantwoX

My husband got Wisdom of the Chinese Kitchen as a gift from his great uncle and it seems pretty legit. I haven't tried any of the recipes yet because honestly they're a little intimidating, but just flipping through it, the recipes looked "right" if that makes sense.

u/RaezK · 2 pointsr/asiantwoX

Nope. Yellow fever is in relation to Asian fetishes. There is a connection to colonialism and exoticism in which Asians are portrayed negatively. Asian women are seen as submissive, docile, delicate, ect. while Asian guys are typically seen as "less male" than those of other races.

People can and do have preferences for body shape, hair color, facial features ect. and there is nothing wrong with this. What's wrong is when people want to be in relationships with others because they like the concept of a stereotype, and not the personality of a specific person.

You just mentioned that your mother is more into personality than appearances so there isn't exactly a "white" fever going on. She might prefer white guys looks but she takes into account actually personality above a stereotype.

Also there isn't a narrative or negative power dynamic when it comes to dating white guys. See this book if you really want to learn more about Asian exotic stereotypes that people of Asian descent have to deal with everyday. http://www.amazon.com/Asian-Mystique-Dragon-Ladies-Oriental/dp/1586482149

u/[deleted] · 2 pointsr/asiantwoX

thanks everyone! i was looking through some of the old threads on this and some people suggested using this product. So since I don't have a lotta money to burn (I'm a grad student), I'm gonna try that first.

u/farfarawayS · 6 pointsr/asiantwoX

Being white and asian, I'd say whats helped me with identity issues the MOST is expertly knowing the history of the places my ancestors came from. Language was good too but in my area, schools for both my sides' language were readily available. My white half was super connected with the old country still and asian half was born in the old country, so that's why I learned both - grateful I did. Im actually reading this book right now on the Philippines. HIGHLY recommended to learn the REAL history of what America did over there with primary documents! Surprise - its pretty racist. http://www.amazon.com/The-Philippines-Reader-Neocolonialism-Dictatorship/dp/089608275X

But if you're insisting the kid learn Tagalog and not, for example, German or Swedish (or whatever you're descended from) then that's kind of racist b/c you're saying when you're Asian American, you're not 100% American, so you should know the language of your REAL home.

And that kind of IS how America is for Asian people (so you're excused for wanting your kid to be fully accepted while living in this racist system) - Asian Americans, if they don't speak their "native" language are given shit by some of their fellow Asian Americans and fellow non Asian Americans, and from both its kind of BS. White Americans arent shamed for not speaking German or Gaelic. English is ENOUGH because they're All-American. End rant on hyphenated Americans being held to a different standard

u/egzeth_vs_beake · 5 pointsr/asiantwoX

I like how you listed your picks in descending order of radicalism.😉 (Edit: like NWA to Public Enemy to MC Hammer...)

Yuri Kochiyama was a firebrand. Whatever you think about her politics, everyone should read her autobiography Passing It On where she talks about how she went from "Mary Wong" (the name she used to pass) to Yuri, her father's persecution by the government and death, her meeting with people like Hung Wai Ching and Daisy Bates and Malcolm X, her advocacy for Japanese internment survivors and prisoners like David Wong and others too many to count, her love for her children, oh, and teddy bears.

u/SquirrelPhotographer · 2 pointsr/asiantwoX

Other titles I like, but read long enough ago that I really ought to re-read these with a new set of eyes:

Nectar in a Sieve by Kamala Markandaya - India

Children of the River by Linda Crew - Cambodian/Khmer-American

u/Chocklatesoop · 3 pointsr/asiantwoX

You could try this brand Liese It's a foam that you massage into your hair.

u/Aeroflight · 1 pointr/asiantwoX

My mom had trouble with her knees until she started using a gel kneeling pad, like this http://www.amazon.com/Tommyco-GEL818-Garden-Translucent-Kneelers/dp/B0001Q2W04 .

Maybe get one for your mom, if she doesn't have one already?

u/Sharkus_Reincarnus · 4 pointsr/asiantwoX

I am not sure whether this book will be helpful to her, but if her attitude problems originate in depression or mood problems, then the book that my big bro recommended to me ages ago may help her: You Can Be Happy No Matter What.

Big bro and I both suffer from depression, and this was a definite lightbulb turner-onner for both of us, as it really puts moods, feelings, and emotional responses to things into better perspective, allowing us to regulate our emotions much more effectively. Plus, it's short. I don't have the patience for long self-help books; I found it concise and powerful.

u/countercom2 · 25 pointsr/asiantwoX

You and other activists who think throwing Asians under the bus is en vogue.

 

I just showed you a list of problems. Are you and other activists on the streets protesting anti-Asian violence from Blacks? Thank you. You listing what whites do to Blacks is precisely my point. It's whites who have a racial problem against everyone and that includes Asians so more focus on their misdeeds instead of pinning stuff on Asians as if Asians invented http://www.amazon.com/New-Jim-Crow-Incarceration-Colorblindness/dp/1595586431/
would help.