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Oh I typed all this for you my dude but these dastardly bullies caused you to delete it.

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Hope it benefits you or another ENTP stoner:

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What caught my eye was the Myers-Briggs test: I also (usually) test ENTP. Just wanted to say I think the Reddit subs seem to do it a serious disservice:

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A) It is a management tool. It is not meant to enable some rando's life as a lovable eccentric. You should be shoring up the weaknesses it shows, not jerking off to how creative you think you are (not that you can stop yourself amirite? Ha!), and

B) It is not a tarot card reading of your soul. I get profiled regularly, by professionals, using whatever method is in vogue at that moment and while I absolutely see the value in the tests, it is limited, it is contextual and it will vary over time.

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It is not so much "revealing" your personality as a prediction of how your behavior will manifest in a given context. MB being particularly general. For example, all my ENTP result tells me is that RIGHT NOW, I likely have too many projects going on and/or am managing my time poorly.

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So based on your results, I would recommend you get out of your comfort zone and focus on active productivity exercises. Far from being something unsuited to you: they are likely just what you need. Anytime I dial this in tight, my life has a night and day improvement.

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7 Habits is the granddaddy of course.



Unchained Man has a great time management system. Actually he refers back to Covey's 7 habits and explains why and how he updated the principle for a digital era. The rest isn't "bad" but its pretty standard 4HWW/TRP/Digital nomad type stuff. You could literally read Chapters 8-11 and get a great deal of benefit.

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4HWW fuck I hate this book. And it's probably dangerous for lazy fucks. But Ferriss has nuggets of good advice on productivity and time management.

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More conceptual reading:

Do the Work;

The War of Art;

The Power of Habit;

Rework;

On Form - some tips, although heavily weighted to glorify salaryman life;

One Minute Manager;

Extreme Ownership has helped a lot of dudes here. Personally I despise wading through the military waffle for two or three pages of content but the message of owning every aspect of your life and not accepting low standards from yourself or others is good (Hint: that means after you quit weed, (after a reasonable interval) you can and should expect your lazy wife to too).

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Corporations have invested a great deal of time and money in training me but honestly most of the valuable things I implement are on that list.

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Atomic Habits is on my current reading list. Check out this post (and comments) with some concepts from it.

No, it's not necessarily you. RP has a distinct group of people in it who have a distinct set of opinions. And if you look online, the women who are the most vocal about sex will be the most adventurous - having had sex with lots of men, threesomes, bdsm'ers etc. They are also the women that men are most likely to have casual sex/one-night sex with, which may skew men's view of what 'most women' like.

Some women do like rough or BDSM sex. But also many don't, or don't want or need that in order to gain the maximum satisfaction. Sex comes up in convos with my girlfriends quite often, after they've had a few drinks ;) They are very varied in what they like and don't like. Hard/fast/rough can make the pelvic area go numb, but some of my friends like it anyway because it means he's getting off or/and because it feels sexy/hot to them. And a bit of that for a change can be fun. But there's generally not enough sustained contact for orgasm. Most women can only orgasm via oral (during sex) because it's slower and uses sustained contact. If they orgasm via PIV, then generally it's slow and deliberate - he has a lot of control and knows what he's doing and what she likes.

Personally, if a guy slapped, choked, pulled hair etc during sex, then I'd find that super weird and ask him to stop. Out of my friends, one said she liked it, and we know her husband and he's a nice guy, so we assumed they're into BDSM-lite. A couple of my friends are into real BDSM. So it's very, very varied.

Basically, research says women vary a lot more than men in their sexual anatomy and accordingly in what they like: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1476762090/ref=rdr_ext_tmb

Slow can be good if it's done right: https://www.amazon.com/Slow-Sex-Craft-Female-Orgasm/dp/0446567183

Bottom line is, if you want vascularity and less fat covering your muscles, you've got to shed the fat. This is where I'm at myself right now. Keep your diet tight and lift heavy. It's hard to gain muscle and lose fat at the same time....I'd say don't worry so much about muscle size while you're dropping fat. As the fat comes off, you'll look bigger despite being smaller. Keep grinding, provided your current grind is progressing.

With regard to programs after you "graduate" from SS, Variations of 531 are what I do when I'm smart enough to stick with what works. It's a great non linear program to use once you're trained enough that strength gains have plateaued and aren't progressing at the same weekly rate as Starting Strength prescribes. Don't just look up a 5/3/1 template, though. Read the book. Hell, read all of the 5/3/1 books. Wendler is a great read, and his books pack in a shit load of great training wisdom.

The Boring but Big 5/3/1 variation is a good one - although right now I'm doing [531 for Hardgainers] (https://www.t-nation.com/training/5-3-1-for-hardgainers). It's similar to BBB in that it includes a good amount of volume. But I prefer the way the work sets here use sets of 5s rather than the typical 5/3/1 layout. For me, this strikes the perfect balance of work sets, heavy volume, and accessory work.

I'm with the others here wondering how the hell you are squatting 455 and DL 305, though. You should be able to damn near clean 305 if you've got a 455 lb squat. Are you doing actual barbell squats to parallel or below? Or is it leg press or quarter squats or something? If your squat is legit, that's awesome - and I'm happy for you. But what you are describing is about as disjointed as a guy who presses 225 and benches 225.

If it's true that grip is the limiting factor to your comparatively weak DL, I'd recommend doing your Deadlift heavy sets with straps (so you get the benefit of the heavy deadlifting). And then all other sets - say, anything at less than 80% - use a clean grip. Farmer's walk suggestion was also good. And get some fat gripz and mix them in on any accessory work you do.

You are changing the course of your ship. So I'd say "Steady as she goes, Cap'n."

I have a 6 year old daughter. She and I differ on opinion on many things. She thinks that potato chips make a great healthy meal. I do not. We don't "fight" over this topic. I make dinner and we both eat it. She can voice her preferences for a bowl of sugar with a cherry on top, but we are having chicken with rice instead. My daughter respects me and accepts what I decide.

Fighting with my daughter, even if I win, hurts my position of respect. If a fight is inevitable and unavoidable, then I face it full on and I make damn sure I win, but I don't go seeking out the fight.

From your description it sounds like you are honestly on the path to a life of happiness. You're not there yet, since sex isn't plentiful yet, but you're moving in the right direction.

Recommended readings include:
http://www.amazon.com/The-Married-Life-Primer-2011/dp/1460981731
http://www.amazon.com/Sex-God-Method-2nd-Edition/dp/0557036488

There's a lot going on here. You have seven ten question marks in your post:

• What exactly should I want?
  
• I have read a lot about motivation and I think most people are motivated by social status. They are aiming to gain social rank. For me the problem is that social status only exists if you interact with people. That is, if they treat you inferior or superior, right?
  
• People cannot treat you as superior or inferior if they hardly interact with you, right?
  
• Therapy for stopping drinking?
  
• Better treatment for depression and drinking at the same time?
  
• I am at my fourth psychiatrist, just how long should I shop around?
  
• What would change if I was super obese?
  
• Similarly, what would change if I managed to get actually fit?
  
• Maybe my sex drive would return. Maybe. In which case what, divorce wife?
  
• Cheat on her?
  
  Look, I'm not sure you're going to find the right answer here on this forum. Answers here, in fact, might be dangerous. You need to be treated for alcoholism and depression. Or if you feel you can't find someone to treat you, you need to focus yourself on improving in those areas through your own study. Start to make headway there and other things will start to fall into place. Have more days sober than drunk, have a will to live, bring some hobbies, drive, and passion back in your life, and then maybe we start thinking about how to improve your marriage.
  
  I'll leave you with a book that helped me reframe my thinking about alcohol. I've recommended it here before and most men agree. This Naked Mind.
  
  Good luck.

Here grab this off Amazon.

The gift of injury your gonna love it, and you could use an inspirational story.

Dr McGill has already been mentioned to you. Hes the best there is. Do his big 3 movements the second you can perform them pain free.

Hang in there man.

5x5 is a great body of training to do as maintenance or for beginners coming in looking to move up into heavier lifts.

But as a long term program, it lacks focus and intensity for advancing past intermediate gains. There are many programs you could use, Mark Rippetoe wrote an excellent book about strength training, I suggest you check it out.

Starting Strength

Hmm, I don't remember her not answering any. We had a few drinks and were both relaxed, and it was in good fun so she didn't resist.

That author has a more game like book, maybe try that one?
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1089551703/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_mTMLDbKZF59NT

Stay busy and productive as much as possible within the constraints of your primary goal being "heal my back as quickly and efficiently as possible". You cant fight her unconscious perception so if you are a temporary invalid rest assured she is silently judging you in your weakest most painful moments. Protip: that is okay.

So four things: 1. Be attractive and don't be unattractive. 2. Prioritize healing. 3. Try to internalize that physical ability is a single puzzle piece on a very large puzzle and that you can still make a woman attracted to you and lead her while disabled/invalid. 4. Delegate.

Also, a question: How would you behave if this was your life from now on? Are you fucked? Or can you make it work? Do that.

Also I have heard people with chronic back pain say this is the shit and it cures you permanently:
https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Back-Pain-Mind-Body-Connection/dp/0446557684

I would suggest you both look over this book: CoDependent No More by Melody Beattie. A real eye opener. To me the whole process of swallowing the redpill is about recognising and removing codependent behaviours, I see real similarities here. Outcome independence. You cannot control or change others, only yourself. There are also meetings CoDA meetings, like AA but for codependents, that your gf might benefit from if she gets that far down the road.

Maybe reading "Man's Search for Meaning" will help you find the right mission for you.

https://www.amazon.com/Mans-Search-Meaning-Viktor-Frankl/dp/080701429X/ref=sr_1_3?keywords=victor+frankl&qid=1558638288&s=gateway&sr=8-3

You need to read this book right now.
https://www.amazon.com/Tactical-Guide-Women-Manage-Marriage/dp/0990686442/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1511547764&sr=1-1&keywords=women+tactical

Do not pass Go. Do not give in to her. Go monk if she withdraws sex or berates you. Read the book before you do anything.

I challenge you to read it and then post back with your analysis of your situation vis a vis the exercises in the book. Certain personality types do not age well.

Acta non verba, lets see it. I am currently kicking around the idea myself. I plan to do a 10 day juice fast at the end of the month and I want to see how I feel after. If I am significantly different after, I might continue with the trend.

/u/Rpeed suggested this book and said it helped him quit. https://www.amazon.com/This-Naked-Mind-Discover-Happiness/dp/0996715002

Also see https://www.amazon.com/What-Shamu-Taught-About-Marriage/dp/0812978080/ref=nodl_

It’s written by a woman who “trained” her husband so obviously not RP but the concept is identical.

>The psych literature seems to indicate that parents fighting is what fucks kids up, rather than parents divorcing per se.

Not all of it does. There is a school of thought that divorce is going to fuck your kids up no matter what - and the effects are long-term, not just in the years immediately after the breakup. That said, low-conflict divorce is obviously better than high-conflict divorce.