(Part 2) Top products from r/aznidentity

Kinda sounds like me as an Asian dude but only because I got burned by my Chinatown community, if not for my Borderline Personality Mother/Narcissistic Personality Father (like many TRP fellas complaining about haven fallen victim with the Achilles’ Heel for “Cluster-B” Personality Disorders girls...therefore becoming all-encompassing misogynistic) doing the BPD/NPD ‘V-Spot’ Winnocott True/False Self dance—sandwiching me with their enmeshed-role-reversal-parentification as an only child where I became psychotic.

If only my parents could read The Search for The True Self by James F. Masterson—a simple layman entry that triumphs any ‘5 Love Language in Loving Each Other’ type of garbage psuedo-self-help/pop-psychology/self-development books by X English con artist that are reappropriated by PUAs. Probably would help many other cucks from not having to read and follow empty platitudes and conjured artificial phoniness of PUA instruction and utilizing false cognitive-behavioral “tips and tricks” from said books too.

I’d make /r/asianparentstories proud..but I got over most of it with non-CBT insight-oriented psychoanalytic psychotherapy and intense introspection with now discontinued adjunctive psychiatric medication (Ablify, Depakote, plus Cogentin for auxiliary anti-Parkinsonism).

I have no problems with most of my ethnic identity just that sometimes insecure Asian bros try to sabotage, undermine, cockblock me and everyone patronizes thinking I’m a legit autist retard because I dropped out of school...and as I’ve lamented to my counselor the other day on the topic of romance, I probably didn’t have much emotional availability or attraction to Asian chicks because of this, if at all. But I think I’m beginning to find light at the end of the tunnel? Unfortunately there are more Whites here than Asian Mecca’s elsewhere though with a larger degree of separation..

http://www.apadivisions.org/division-39/publications/reviews/narcissistic.aspx

https://www.amazon.com/Narcissistic-Borderline-Couple-Approaches-Marital/dp/0415934710

edit: “...why couples stay in painful, conflictual, never-ending relationships (traumatic bonding). The new chapters, case illustrations, and updated treatment sequences are invaluable to both beginning and experienced clinicians. The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple is an essential text for every marital therapist, offering an improved understanding of marital pathology within the framework of our changing world.”

‘Traumatic bonding’ awefully sounds like our inter-Asian community relations interwoven with introspective identity politics to scapegoat our inner childhood torments of an overbearing mother and pain of an emotionally unavailable scolding father, while we all confide pseudo-anonymous to soul-search aka find ways to amend our collective Erik Erickson arrested identities development issues, if not for the Mahler ‘seperation-individuation’ or Bowlby insecure disorganized attachments for truly healthy intimate bond and healthy relationships.

I’m intellectual New England by greater upbringing to which I find a lot of phoniness in trying to vilify and find a savior in a celebrity-god-worship through a Hollywood hero complex that y’all West Coast types seem to do. Joseph Campbell...Jungian archetypal psychology stuff for me here

I honestly don't think college is necessary. You could actually learn about this history on your own. This sub is a good place to start. There are also books like Ronald Takaki's Strangers from a Different Shore: A History of Asian Americans.

>Let's be honest all the things you mentioned that Asians do to 'contribute' to western society are smokescreen bullshit points, you don't do those things out of the goodness of your heart you do them for the same reasons as everyone else. Self interest.

Which immigrants in Western nations are the most favored immigrants and why? Who is everyone else? Are you implying all immigrants are equally productive, law abiding, and well-educated? The point of this section was not to say we're so benevolent, but rather, we do our best when we're in your country, yet we're mistreated. Meanwhile, White immigrants to Asia do far less and get treated better. The unfairness is obvious.

 

>Education, integration, learning the culture, getting stem jobs etc. you WANT these things, noones forcing you (family pressures not withstanding).

Why don't Western immigrants do the same if everyone wants those things? There are Europeans living in Asia for 10+ years and they still need translators and insult the locals, and cry about racism yet they never went through http://www.zakkeith.com/articles,blogs,forums/anti-Chinese-persecution-in-the-USA-history-timeline.htm

 

How do you explain that?


 

>All the other dating stuff I can see where you are coming from, but you can't logic women into liking you. It's biology mate, you have to go out there and meet women and compensate for these things with experience and a superior lifestyle. Maybe start taking testosterone and experimenting with different supplements and working out, if you want something you have to try different things out until you find something that works for you.

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>We're not born equal despite what people say, both environmentally and genetically, a significant portion of our personality including socialbilty, intelligence, mental health, mood, emotional reactivity, sex appeal, even our motivational levels is determined by our genes, and if you don't like your lot in life you have to figure out a way, you can't just whine at the world to change

This response is built on the faulty assumption that Asians are just inferior. See

● Internalized Gendered Racism in Asian American Women's Accounts of Asian and White Masculinities

http://citation.allacademic.com/meta/p_mla_apa_research_citation/1/0/9/4/3/p109437_index.html

● https://np.reddit.com/r/CIWO/comments/3pj0d6/small_penis_stereotype/?ref=search_posts

● Racialized Desire among Asian American Women

http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/07256860903477704?journalCode=cjis20

 

If you don't want to read, Asian females, and other females see Asian men as stereotypes. Who created them? Now, I will admit that there are a large number of Asian men who need to improve their looks, but the discrepancy between results between two roughly equally attractive men (Asian and White) is excessive.

 

>Also dude, your historical perspective is completely warped when it comes to white genocide in the east, there is none, just your average pockets of massacres, skirmishes and temporary power plays. The real body counts were at the hands of your own race. Pol pot, rape of nanking, great leap forward, Burma junta, just to name a few.

 

This would take an extremely long time to fully address, but I will try to give you a summary version:

● Pol Pot - See secret bombings of Cambodia by America during Vietnam War. See http://www.counterpunch.org/2014/08/01/cambodia-and-western-fabrication-of-history/

 

See the book http://www.amazon.com/Killing-Hope-C-I-Interventions-II--Updated/dp/1567512526/ for a long expose on all the crimes committed by the CIA throughout the world during following WW2

 

● Rape of Nanking - Imperial JApan was armed, trained, and encouraged to brutalize Asia by the Anglo-Americans. See http://www.amazon.com/Imperial-Cruise-Secret-History-Empire/dp/0316014001/

 

● Great Leap Forward - Some fuck ups but lots of context-less propaganda. You are probably referring to the so-called Mao's Greatest Genocide in Human History which was a famine See https://np.reddit.com/r/CIWO/comments/3qyqpg/evil_communist_mao_committed_the_greatest/?ref=search_posts

 

You do realize that a lot of the Chinese tragedies would never have happened without the British Opium Wars and the 8 Nation Alliance (7 White nations + Imperial Japan), right? But, that event is excluded from western "history" lessons.

 

● Burma Junta - I am unfamiliar with this.

 

Hopefully you are now beginning to understand my other thread about how Asians learned Self-hate and White-worship now. You provided examples of supposed Asian crimes yet they're examples of western propaganda. Yes, Asians committed crimes, but the reason (Western Imperialism) they occurred is left out. BTW, the same applies to Philippines, Korea, Vietnam, Laos, and Vietnam.

A lot of white people will definitely treat you poorly if you defy their expectations of you. Unfortunately, you're going to run into this a lot, since most corporate environments are dominated by whites. You shouldn't run away from them.

Try to make it into a game and see if you can befriend them, without losing your self-respect. This is a book that I enjoyed:

https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153

Are you looking for academic or journalistic articles? If its the latter, you could check out the following authors:

Wesley Yang

Jay Caspian Kang

Viet Thanh Nguyen

E. Alex Jung

The Autobiography of Malcolm X: As Told to Alex Haley https://www.amazon.com/dp/0345350685/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_cLo3xbX00XN4T

It's based on a book called The Chinaman so idk how they're going to address it since his codename is Chinaman in the book? https://www.amazon.com/Chinaman-Stephen-Leather-Thrillers/dp/0340580259

I don't have to argue this, it has long been settled in genocide debates whether Jews are the only ones to have experienced Holocaust. Your roughly 6 million Jews pales in comparison to the 17 million Native Americans in the Americas at the dawn of November, 1492, when the first European reached the shores of Aztec empire, and the hundreds of millions that have died since that time.

It is not asinine, you need to be better educated on this stuff. It is not Holocaust denial. It is about giving representation to people who have been denied because they are not seen as white (or adjacent to whites).

Your education starts with reading these comments.

Democrats vs Republicans is largely a conflict between liberal and conservative whites, who are very culturally different. They use minorities as a pawn. I read a book called American Nations that discussed this.

Love it!

Elementary:

Pepper Zhang - Artist Extraordinaire - https://www.amazon.com/Pepper-Zhang-Artist-Extraordinaire-Jerry/dp/0999087703

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Elementary / Middle:

American Born Chinese: https://www.amazon.com/American-Born-Chinese-Gene-Luen/dp/0312384483

Boxers and Saints: https://www.amazon.com/Boxers-Saints-Boxed-Gene-Luen/dp/1596439246/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_t_0?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=BXV52AHCYEFMJJCD3800

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High School:

Making of Asian America: History - https://www.amazon.com/Making-Asian-America-History/dp/1476739412

Unlikely liberators: - https://www.amazon.com/Unlikely-Liberators-100th-English-Japanese/dp/0824810813/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

Thread of Silkworm - https://www.amazon.com/Thread-Silkworm-Iris-Chang/dp/0465006787/ref=pd_sim_14_2/144-0076638-4640964?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0465006787&pd_rd_r=ad8c5d33-7907-11e9-a48a-7140e5d87a3d&pd_rd_w=ktZAa&pd_rd_wg=RsV9k&pf_rd_p=90485860-83e9-4fd9-b838-b28a9b7fda30&pf_rd_r=TZ2GX9JPAXD830B3XHN9&psc=1&refRID=TZ2GX9JPAXD830B3XHN9

The Chinese American: Narrative History - https://www.amazon.com/Chinese-America-Narrative-History/dp/0142004170/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_t_2?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=S6BSS5PB3VBNZZ38R2YY

Yellow Peril!" An Archive of Anti-Asian Fear - https://www.amazon.com/Yellow-Peril-Archive-Anti-Asian-Fear/dp/1781681236

New York before Chinatown: Orientalism and the Shaping of American Culture, 1776-1882 - https://www.amazon.com/New-York-before-Chinatown-Orientalism/dp/0801867940/ref=pd_bxgy_14_3/144-0076638-4640964?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0801867940&pd_rd_r=ebece189-7908-11e9-9511-65a57d25cf2b&pd_rd_w=IAkAV&pd_rd_wg=A0Twr&pf_rd_p=a2006322-0bc0-4db9-a08e-d168c18ce6f0&pf_rd_r=GXCC4HV5GNP5A9XX9ZM4&psc=1&refRID=GXCC4HV5GNP5A9XX9ZM4

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On the distorted view on American Perception of China:

The Chan's Great Continent: China in Western Minds - https://www.amazon.com/Chans-Great-Continent-China-Western/dp/039331989X

The China Mirage - https://www.amazon.com/China-Mirage-History-American-Disaster/dp/0316196681/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=China+mirage&qid=1558141355&s=books&sr=1-1

The Problem of China - https://www.amazon.com/Problem-China-Bertrand-Russell/dp/0851245536

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Of course, Presidential Candidate Andrew Yang's Books:

Smart People Should Build Things: https://www.amazon.com/Smart-People-Should-Build-Things/dp/0062292048/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=andrew+yang&qid=1558141081&s=books&sr=1-2

War on Normal People: https://www.amazon.com/War-Normal-People-Disappearing-Universal/dp/0316414212/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=andrew+yang&qid=1558141121&s=books&sr=1-1

For third party accounts on the splits in Vietnamese thought during and immediately following colonization, see:

• Misalliance: Ngo Dinh Diem, the United States, and the Fate of South Vietnam (https://www.amazon.com/Misalliance-United-States-South-Vietnam/dp/0674072987/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1491375687&sr=8-2&keywords=ngo+dinh+diem)
  
• Ember's of War: The Fall of an Empire and the Making of America's Vietnam (https://www.amazon.com/Embers-War-Empire-Americas-Vietnam/dp/0375756477)
  
  For first party accounts from the South Vietnamese who actually fought the war, and their reasons for fighting, see:
  
  
• The Twenty-Five Year Century: A South Vietnamese General Remembers the Indochina War to the Fall of Saigon (https://www.amazon.com/Twenty-Five-Year-Century-Vietnamese-Remembers/dp/1574411438/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1491375844&sr=1-1&keywords=the+twenty-five+year+century)
  
• Steel and Blood: South Vietnamese Armor and the War for Southeast Asia (https://www.amazon.com/Steel-Blood-South-Vietnamese-Southeast/dp/1591149193/ref=pd_sim_14_17?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1591149193&pd_rd_r=J4VPFGVBA417KNR11DVM&pd_rd_w=C89QH&pd_rd_wg=LoxSx&psc=1&refRID=J4VPFGVBA417KNR11DVM)
  
  You will see that it's not as black and white as you make it out to be, and they weren't serving simply to be slaves to the white man. Many of the South Vietnamese army officers previously fought against France during the war for independence, but then fought against the communists, particularly because of the 'land reforms' that the communists implemented right after independence.
  
  See "Paradise of the Blind" https://www.amazon.com/Paradise-Blind-Duong-Thu-Huong/dp/0060505591
  
  Regarding the women, there aren't any hard statistics on how many date or marry white men, but a few years ago there were around 100,000 marriages to foreigners per year (http://www.thanhniennews.com/society/100000-vietnamese-women-marry-foreigners-each-year-556.html). This isn't broken down by nationality or race unfortunately.
  
  In my own personal experience, I worked in Saigon for 2.5 years and many of the local Vietnamese female lawyers in my office were daughters of Northern communist government officials and/or veterans, and a few of them dated WM expats. A good friend of mine, whose father was a North Vietnam army veteran, is currently engaged to an Italian guy. So it's not just the 'losers' of that war who will date or marry whites.