(Part 2) Top products from r/cripplingalcoholism

I'm glad you posted.

Yes. The cutting out everyone is hard. I'm the only "problem drinker/alcoholic" in my social group, but every single person/friend I have in my life enjoys a glass of wine after dinner, or a beer or two at a BBQ. I already feel a criplling lonlieness trying to get sober, but to also do it in isolation would be too much. I can't understand cutting contact with say your alcoholic friends if the only thing you do is drink, but that's different.

The one I went to was small, and it was like an ole boys club of men who had all been sober for ages and knew each other for years. so it was a lot of playful insults to each other/inside jokes. I was probably by two decades the youngest person, one of only two women and clean like two days. It was not a fit.

=And yes, I would do exactly the same as you. Enjoy a pint or two with friends, then drink vodka at home alone.

So. What are you plans now. There is also a different recovery program I've been meaning to check out called Refuge that is Buddhist based? (https://www.amazon.ca/Refuge-Recovery-Buddhist-Recovering-Addiction/dp/0062122843). They have meetings in my town and a couple of the folks in my SMART group go and have positive things to say.

I own a copy of The Craft of the Cocktail and it is thoroughly amazing. I also have Bartending for Dummies and it is pretty good as well.

In my completely unprofessional opinion, the two things AA has going for it are the structure of the meetings (ritual), and the community of people who want to drink less (tribe).


However: AA’s position of hardline abstinence makes your sobriety brittle. If you fuck up and have a (1) drink, you tend to feel that you’ve committed some catastrophic fuck up, and go on a hard bender. The goal for me was to make my relationship with alcohol less neurotic. Trading “compulsively drinking” for “compulsively not-drinking” didn’t accomplish that.

Additionally, most people irritate me most of the time. So the idea of having a sponsor never appealed to me. Having to listen to people talk about their problems so I can make people listen to my problems, also did not appeal to me. If AA works for you, I’m peanut-butter-and-jealous, but it definitely didn’t work for me.

Around the third time I “flunked out” of AA and the second time I legit flunked out of college, one of the psych classes I was taking in college used This Book. It covers Experimental Analysis of Behavior, the science of getting animals to behave the way you want them to behave. Reducing behavior, your behavior, down to scientific terms helps you define what, exactly, you’re doing wrong. It taught me a lot about the process of addiction, and how to gradually change my habits and environment so as to dramatically reduce my alcohol intake.
That book was the only book that semester that I didn’t sell back to the book store, I would go down to the library every day (ritual) and be around the other library-people (tribe). We didn’t talk much, and that’s great, because I don’t really like talking to people anyway. I considered it my second job.

Granted, that was a pretty labor intensive approach, and it's definitely not for everyone... But if you’re thinking about tolerating AA for the rest of your life, you’re already past the point of fucking around.

That was a pretty nifty watch. You might also like a book called A History of the World in Six Glasses.

Im a huuuge Buk fan too. I guess you know that he was a fan of Jonathan Fante. But did you know John's son - Dan wrote a novel? Well it blew my mind: Chump Change

Amazon link for those interested.

$14.

Hobo, worth it?

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You should check out this book, think you'd like it a lot.

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I would suggest you to read this book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07ZJJ2X3R/ - it lays out everything you need to know in order to start change, with an overview and practical tips.

And yet this still has no reviews.

He has a bunch of books and publications -- and a youtube channel with his lectures (he was a professor before he got fired for taking a stand against Canada's law making it illegal to use wrong gender pronouns) most of which are about religion But I found him through a Joe Rogan podcast which was a bit less dry then the youtube videos and highlights a lot of his beliefs without sitting through a lecture.

Then I read a few of his books (his most recent one was a best seller on Amazon for weeks. It's a little wordy, but no worse then the engineering textbooks I was forced to read.

I really like his "clean your room" bit.