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u/questionsnanswers · 1 pointr/dbtselfhelp

I'm sorry to hear that you had a bad evening and that you felt the way you did. Certainly those are difficult emotions to deal with, and can cause a lot of problems.

I applaud your choice of giving the situation some distance and looking for some help. It's great that you recognized and were mindful of your situation. Not everyone can identify and express what they are feeling and why, so good job you for knowing yourself.

So lets go thru what you said, and I'll try to give you a different perspective.

"When i tried to sing, she sang over me with her improv and everyone just played & laughed a long with her."

I think a lot of people would feel invalidated if someone else monopolized the room. Especially if they were trying to contribute and share. Did you ever try to actually speak with her directly, or to the room in general, and say, 'Hey, I'm trying to sing here too, could you not sing over me? I'd like a chance as well." (check out DEARMAN in order to communicate what you want/need) Now I understand that social anxiety can block you from addressing this (which would be something you'd have to practice and work on.) It's possible 'robot girl singer' didn't realize that she was doing. People tend to be focused on themselves, their own experiencences and are not always paying attention to others. It's very probable that everyone there had no idea that you felt that way, or if you left abruptly, why you left. You need to communicate your feelings, which I know can be hard. Practice is the only thing that makes this easier.

'I feel like, why don't he just leave me & spend his life jamming with this person who is confident & talent since he's obviously not bothered by my absence any way??"

Again, your fiancee may have no idea why you left if you said nothing to him about how you were feeling and why you were feeling that way. You need to start challenging those automatic negative thoughts about yourself.

Again, I'd like to congratulate you some great things you did.

  1. You recognized that you were having these thoughts about being invalidated, and feeling insecure and jealous. (some people can't do this so, it's great that you did!)

  2. You recognized and thought, "I don't want to burn bridges by making a scene." (again, great job here, because you were mindful to recognize, 'Hey, I might be acting impulsively and these feelings aren't going to last forever.")

  3. You took action. You removed yourself and then you looked for help. You were skillful and engaging in self care.

  4. You followed through. You took a break, wrote it all out on your phone, distracted and calmed yourself down.

    All of these are positive things that YOU did. You obviously have some negative feelings about yourself, and you need to start challenging those. You must have some great qualities. Try to think about what those great qualities are and own them. Sure, other people may be better at some things but that doesn't mean that what you bring to the table is worthless. Practice some self compassion and self love.

    A friend of mine who struggles with social anxiety, found this book to be helpful, you may too! (your mileage may vary!)

    The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life The author, Mark Manson, also has a website with some articles as well.

    You may also find these links about overcoming jealousy helpful.

    And remember, for any change to work, you need to work it. It will take time and practice for you to change those thoughts and beliefs.

    -hugs- take good care!

    *edit - grammar - spelling (it's monday)
u/where2cop123 · 1 pointr/dbtselfhelp

I finally realized the ideal book. It's Another Chance to be Real - I would recommend buying the hardcover, because you'll timelessly cherish it for decades to come. Google Books may have more to preview than Amazon however.

u/uhtt · 2 pointsr/dbtselfhelp

Nice video. I only knew this as a book, it's really easy to understand and helpful for anyone who suffers from depression, and their relatives. I can really recommend it. It's on amazon: "Living with the black dog" by Matthew Johnstone

u/egglentine · 2 pointsr/dbtselfhelp

I'm in a DBT group and we learn skills from this book https://www.amazon.com/Skills-Training-Handouts-Worksheets-Second/dp/1572307811/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1495915692&sr=8-1&keywords=dbt.


I learn the skills more in a group than from the book itself. But I've never encountered anything spiritual.
Part of DBT treatment is learning to accept things as they are (as opposed to how you think they should be) ... so perhaps choosing to ignore the spiritual aspect and focusing on the parts that work best for you is a DBT skill in itself.

u/Yas-Qween · 4 pointsr/dbtselfhelp

THIS book has everything you need. I would recommend starting with mindfulness (the book has all of the skills and handouts as well as the worksheets/homework associated with them). Then work through the other modules (Emotion Regulation, Interpersonal Effectiveness, and Distress Tolerance) in any order. If you're in a bad place now I recommend starting with Distress Tolerance because that is the most immediately useful.

Most DBT classes introduce one skill per week and assign the associated worksheet(s) as homework. You can work through the skills at any pace you'd like but I like having a whole week to focus on practicing and using a single skill.

u/shamefestival · 1 pointr/dbtselfhelp

This is the book I wish everyone would read about BPD. It describes the experience of having it well and is based on the latest research.

http://www.amazon.com/Borderline-Personality-Disorder-Reasons-Hopkins/dp/1421403145

u/Grohl_ · 1 pointr/dbtselfhelp

Nancy McWilliams has written an incredible book on personality structures which covers the Borderline structure. It's aimed at trained mental health professionals so it's very dense, but also very well written.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1609184947?pc_redir=1409108898&robot_redir=1

Otherwise, James Masterson writes a lot about BPD, some writings are more accessible than others.

u/ThrowMeAwy1996 · 2 pointsr/dbtselfhelp

My therapy group uses DBT Skills Training Manual by Marsha Linehan

I asked my therapist for the name so I could see about getting a copy for myself.


Edit, there's also a companion book that's just the worksheets that are used. These are activities and homework we get assigned. link

u/Marianzillaa · 2 pointsr/dbtselfhelp

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & ... (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1572245131/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_FE7wDbDKW29TK

u/yuletidetail · 3 pointsr/dbtselfhelp

I recently started The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook by Matthew McKay, and I’m following it so far.

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & ... (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1572245131/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_QmHvCbTFN7A5T

u/android2420 · 3 pointsr/dbtselfhelp

You can just google it but here it is

There could be cheaper options but that’s the price I paid for mine.

u/FireRabbit1337 · 1 pointr/dbtselfhelp

I’m a bit late to this thread; I had the same Abandonment schema for the longest time. I did a schema worksheet with my therapist and my abandonment fears were off the charts. I recently have filled it out, and the abandonment schema has definitely moved to the back burner.

These are the steps that I had taken since I took the schema assessment:

  1. DBT group and individual therapy (of course)

  2. My therapist suggested I read “Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin” by Anne Katherine

  3. She then discussed values and introduced this cute animated clip to me: Values vs Goals - Dr. Russ Harris

    The fear of abandonment sucks. It was a big part of why I was self-harming and experiencing panic attacks before I started DBT. Perhaps these will help you take steps in the right direction. Please let me know what you think!