Top products from r/entj
We found 22 product mentions on r/entj. We ranked the 41 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
1. Was That Really Me?: How Everyday Stress Brings Out Our Hidden Personality
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2. David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits, and the Art of Battling Giants
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3. Jordanetics: A Journey Into the Mind of Humanity's Greatest Thinker
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4. The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking
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5. Ain't No Makin' It: Aspirations and Attainment in a Low-Income Neighborhood, 3rd Edition
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Westview Press
6. Meditations: A New Translation
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Modern Library
7. Genghis Khan and the Making of the Modern World
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8. Mindless Eating: Why We Eat More Than We Think
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9. The Science of Evil: On Empathy and the Origins of Cruelty
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Basic Books AZ
10. The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom
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The Happiness Hypothesis Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom
11. Naked Statistics: Stripping the Dread from the Data
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12. Freakonomics: A Rogue Economist Explores the Hidden Side of Everything (P.S.)
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13. Soul Keeping: Caring For the Most Important Part of You
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Zondervan
14. Dog Whistle Politics: How Coded Racial Appeals Have Reinvented Racism and Wrecked the Middle Class
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Oxford University Press USA
15. The Origins of Totalitarianism
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The Origins of Totalitarianism
16. Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity
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17. Discourses and Selected Writings (Penguin Classics)
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Penguin Classics
18. Crucial Conversations Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High, Second Edition
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McGraw-Hill
I had this exact same problem when I was your age. At that stage in my life, I read a lot of books on body language- which helped SO MUCH! Realize that 80% of communication is NONVERBAL (including tone of voice). If you are experiencing social anxiety, these books will help make you look more confident- and from there you kind of fake it until you make it. If you don't necessarily have anxiety, they will help you to correct some of the ways in which you are communicating to come across a little better.
Going from there, I realized if I read books specifically about seduction body language- my social skills overall would immensely improve. I know it sounds silly, but as ENTJs we need to learn how to be more "playful" or whatever and these books actually changed my life- at school, work and dating.
http://www.ebay.com/itm/like/381871335170?lpid=82&chn=ps&ul_noapp=true
Anything by Tracey Cox is good. She has three books: Super Flirt, Super Date and Super Sex (the last one is basically just sex tips- so use at your own risk).
Also, this book was amazing and did wonders on communicating in general: https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Anyone-Success-Relationships/dp/007141858X
Again, start out with basic body language and move up to seductive body language- even if you're not trying to seduce. I know it sounds crazy crazy but it totally helped me. You'll definetely develop the social skills you need. Hope this helps.
>I've tried the ginger ale and lime in a highball glass trick before
I hadn't heard of this, will try it. Thanks. You may have just made 'vendor cocktail mixers' much more tolerable.
>l-theanine
I've had a lot of success with this. It does a great job in taking the shaky edge off caffeine. I have since cut out all caffeine but green tea.
In high-stress times I find that one caplet of l-theanine provides very subtle but effective relief.
>For the sake of context, what do you do for work?
I'm an infrastructure architect and technical consultant specializing in virtualization and storage... i.e. I'm a few layers lower in the OSI model than your guys. Note that I'm not in management - you'd probably be my boss.
>What do your daily high-energy habits look like? First thing to fall off for me is exercise.
Exercise ceases first, followed rapidly by cooking, hanging out with people outside work.
Fortunately I'm good at faking it.
>Do you use some sort of personal task management system? I tried to replace my to-do lists with a Scrum board. It was overkill.
Scrum is overkill. Great for teams though, depending on the project... we had one go south on Scrum actually. I use ActiveInbox, which is really just a vehicle for GTD. I don't adhere to it perfectly, but a lot of the philosophy has stuck and I do in fact get things done.
• "Genghis Khan and the Making of the Modern World" (Jack Weatherford) is my all-time and all-categories favourite. Temudjin is a turbo ENTJ, the books reads like a thrilling novel and provide great insights at every page, and there is wisdom in every episode of the Khan's life and even after his life (the chapters of how and why the Mongol empires collapses are a serious lesson to be considered at all times). This book just has everything in it: a catching history, a great writing, emotions, lessons for life, insights of a great man who happens to have been "like us" and even if it's quite long, you dread for the end to happen every page you turn, and that is a feeling I rarely had.
• "How to Make Millions Without a Degree" (Simon Dolan) is the best fuel for my confirmation biases. Basically an anthem to self-made people and believing in yourself. Dolan is a funny guy and his motorsport career is more than acknowledgeable. Another proof that when there is a will, there is a way, inspiring guy and inspiring book. Only book so far I bought twice (physically and on Kindle).
• "To Hell and Back" (Niki Lauda) is my model for being bold and having balls, which I
cruelly lackwork toward developping. Lauda is the definition of boldness. The guy is crazy and the book relates a very unique story of a career. If you enjoy everything with an engine, it's a must-read. For all others, it's a lesson on boldness.• "The Power of Habits" (Charles Duhigg) made a lasting impact on my life. I believe it's the best "neurosciences for everybody" book ever. It crunches a ton of important concepts and informations about our brains into the "simple" idea of habits.
• "Mindless Eating: Why We Eat More Than We Think" (Brian Wansink) is actually a scam. Wansink was dismissed from his university for falsifying researchs and his "food psychology" thing was recently debunked for having little or no academic basis. This book is full of these made up stuff, most information it contains are probably wrong or manipulated. But... it works. It worked for me. It triggered little changes in my relationship to food (mostly about quantity and not tricking myself into eating stuff I'll regret later) and I can see my fat diminishing from these newly formed habits. So I don't know, this scam book was the one that made me end up bad habits with food when some more academic works didn't help a lot. I'll let that to your own judgement.
The Happiness Hypothesis - More or less a "best of" of self-help and positive psychology that focuses on tried and true stuff that actually works and not mystical mumbo jumbo. Haidt deliberately draws on a combination of modern psychology and ancient philosophy and does a great job of it. This is actually my go-to book to recommend to people for self-development.
The Antidote - A great book on how to cultivate happiness without denying the negative or unpleasant aspects of life and experience.
Happiness is a Serious Problem - Politically I often disagree with Dennis Prager but this book has fantastic practical advice on living a happier life.
Interesting question! I've been thinking about this a lot lately.
ENTJ male here. Age 37. Christian.
Specifically, I've been diving a lot more into what it means to develop our inferior function, Fi.
Remember that Fi isn't emotions, but an internal (subjective) deep moral and ethic value. It's about establishing and maintaining congruity between your actions and the values you have internally but may not even know you possess. Some literature would say you can't really "develop" your inferior function until about age 35 or so...I'm not sure I buy that, but it's a thing to note. Regardless, I'm not at a place and surrounded by people who strongly encourage developing the "whole" you, and piggybacking off of a couple books (notably Soul Keeping by Ortberg) I've been digging in a lot on this.
And let me tell you, you stir up a LOT of stuff when you do. But ultimately I feel like I've been able to more clearly define (A) what my core ethic is as defined by my Fi and (B) how and when to utilize and act on it.
Totally understand where you're coming from! I do agree, it's something to work on, but you obviously know that or else you wouldn't be asking for advice! I personally took some communication classes (while in college) that helped me out a lot with my harshness. Don't get me wrong, I still have my moments (usually face to face) but I'm a lot better than I use to be.
Also, there was a professional development training I took a while back and the trainer suggested reading a book for professional conversation. Can't tell you if it's helpful since I never read it but maybe it's also something to look into :)
Crucial Conversations Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High, Second Edition https://www.amazon.com/dp/0071771328/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_1BMLDbSRX8T5B
Discourses by Epictetus
A truly amazing book by a slave-turned-philosopher on having a mindset to face any challenges one might face.
Fun fact: The teachings of this philosopher bore a significant influence on Marcus Aurelius and his writings in The Meditations; as well as further Christian scholars down the ages as they adapted Epictetus' teachings to their own by replacing Epictetus' view of "fate" or "destiny" with one of "God".
There are also psychopathic ENTJs... ;-)
When I was looking for information about the "evil" psychological disorders, there was no way around “The Science of Evil”. It deals with empathy and what people with a lag of it are like. It's awesome!
https://www.amazon.com/Science-Evil-Empathy-Origins-Cruelty/dp/0465031420/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1491643106&sr=8-1&keywords=the+science+of+evil
Besides that, I totally agree. Whenever I have a goal in mind, there is nothing I am not going to break through!
If you've got the time, you'll get the best understanding of the concept by reading Naomi Quenk's Book Was That Really Me?
https://www.amazon.com/Was-That-Really-Me-Personality/dp/0891061703/
...of which you can read an excerpt here:
http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin/content.php/135-MBTI-Form-of-the-Inferior-Functions
The core idea is that when you get stressed out or stuck in a rut, you may find yourself stuck in the behavior patterns of your inferior function, but in a clumsy or maladjusted way. Basically what redditingfromthevoid said.
'David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits, and the Art of Battling Giants" by Malcolm Gladwell
Ain't No Makin' It: Aspirations and Attainment in a Low-Income Neighborhood
Naked Statistics: Stripping the Dread from the Data
Fablehaven
The Origins of Totalitarianism
Freakonomics: A Rogue Economist Explores the Hidden Side of Everything
Inferior Fi users "in the grip"/under extreme stress can be highly emotional, irrational, and prone to blow-ups. Basically, the opposite of what they consider to be normal behavior. I can relate.
When I was younger I had a lot of stress things happening and would blow up at people that were close to me all the time. I changed my diet (long story - it's related to sugar intake, etc) and realized that I was so on edge all the time, I didn't even know I could feel "normal". I didn't even know what normal was.
This book, Was That Really Me? by Naomi Quenk (here's the amazon link), does a great job of discussing inferior functions and their role in extreme stress situations. It definitely made a lot of sense to what I was feeling.
So it's possible he may just be an ENTJ in the grip. of course, he could also just be an asshole :(
Edit: link formatting and extra commentary
Maybe someone will clone him. He is loaded now.
> what are his other flaws?
So I smelled his farts and he very much smells like a human.
I like him overall but ...
In how many ways does he stink? Let me count the ways ...
While his verbal ability is undoubtedly high, his tech skills/thinking is limited by his own admission. He tried to answer a question on Quora about the speed of light using the verbal part of his brain and it was painful to read. He confused very fast with instantaneous. I can't give a good answer on the spot either and I have taken more physics classes than Peterson did, but something I would not do is talk out of my ass on the subject. The internet is full of answers to at least some answers. I would just link to a good one if I could find it within a reasonable amount of time.
By the same token I would not trust his knowledge of statistics. I would suspect that he knows just enough of it to get a paper published. Psychology students take a class called stats for psych majors or something to that effect and it is a horrible memorization fest that is hard for an NT to get through. Take one step into the unknown territory and you are lost because you never understood it in the first place. Lots of people don't really get statistics, even engineers sometimes. I suck at it right now but I could get better if necessary. Though Peterson himself admits that much of psychology is quackery, he does have faith it psychometrics - things that you can measure. Problem is - you have to be aware of the limits of your knowledge. Peterson praises the IQ test highly. It has a high correlation - like .5 or something like that which by psych standards is very high. First of all, that's not high at all. Secondly, it is just correlation.
Nassim Taleb took a shot on the IQ tests recently. While he uses plenty of logical fallacies, his overall message stands. https://medium.com/incerto/iq-is-largely-a-pseudoscientific-swindle-f131c101ba39
If Peterson is happy with relatively low correlations in general, I wonder just how much of his academic work is useful. I do not have the time to try to figure it out. Got better things to do with my time.
He likes to use metaphors like "the eagles are all eyes" (while teaching human psych to undergrads). This is a bullshit artsy-fartsy statement, not a matter of fact. Nothing against artists or comedians or otherwise creative people BUT you have to separate the metaphors and fucking around from trying to build an argument. Sneaking metaphors into a cause and effect kind of conversations should generally be an illegal move.
Vox Day, the author is a self-styled genius (and so is Owen) who runs a social media echo chamber (and so does Owen, well sort of). They "got" Peterson on the "Jewish Question" (as in no - Jews aren't smarter than the rest, they are just conspiring and prefer their own). Of course they are loonies but if an entire book was written about him, then maybe there is some truth to it, even if it is 10 or even 5%. I have not read the book though.
I am sure there are other things. Peterson once congratulated a leftist attempt to appeal to the working class when they made some moderate propaganda video. I can't find a video now. I thought it was lame. It was still shit propaganda, but a milder form of it. The enemy is trying to adapt and to look more palatable and less threatening. Their trick is so fucking transparent. Fuck that! 30% shit is still shit. Peterson should have called their bullshit but he did not.
Also some of his arguments start in a weird place. To quote/paraphrase Doug Stanhope, let's start the argument where it starts.
It should be: you can't have my freedom to speak, my freedom to protect myself with a gun, you can't have my stuff because ... go fuck yourself! That's where the argument starts. Not - well if you aren't free to speak then how can you develop sophisticated ideas? Yeah like that argument works with Stalinists. Why try to negotiate with someone who plans on doing the immoral? Peterson kind of does that. I understand that persuasion matters and raw power can be off-putting but he sometimes starts in a weird place.
I've written enough. I think I covered the most important points.