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u/shablamniel · 14 pointsr/ftm

Hi,

I'm not a parent, but I can imagine this is, in many ways, a challenging situation to work through with your child. Let me assure you that you're already doing a great job, just by reaching out and trying to educate yourself.

I have not yet started to medically transition (take testosterone, etc.) so I can't give you too much specific information on that, although it looks like u/RigilNebula has already given you some good advice. However, I have mostly transitioned socially, meaning that I have asked the people in my life to use my real name (Daniel) and to use the correct pronouns when referencing me (in my case, I'm okay with both he/him and they/them). I'm also out to my parent(s). So, I'll mostly address the emotional and social aspect of transitioning, particularly as it relates to relationships with parents. I've also included a few resources at the bottom of my post.

But first, some more general, subjective information. I can't speak for all trans people anymore than can I speak to the specifics of the relationship between you and your child (and please note, I will be referring to your daughter as "your child" herein. I hope that's not upsetting to you, but I do this because if your child is really your son, calling him your daughter could be very hurtful. I will also use the gender neutral pronoun "they" for the same reason) The following is just my perspective, but ultimately you'll need to have conversations with your child about this, and while it will definitely be difficult for both of you, keeping lines of communication open is one of the most important things you can do for your child.

Which segues pretty neatly into my main point. If I could ask anything of my parents, it would be that they listen to me and make me feel listened to and assure me that they love me for me, not because of my gender. That's really it, for me.

For some context about my personal situation: I was raised by a single father, who I now live with, in part because he needs help with chronic health issues. My mother died when I was too young to remember her. One of the most painful truths I will ever live with is that I will never know for sure whether my mother would still love me, even though I'm transgender. This is all very personal, and not completely relevant to your situation, so forgive me for over-sharing. But I mention this because I was offered a perspective on this very issue by a therapist, which I think is one every parent of a transgender child should hear.

My therapist told me that for most parents, there's a time before you know your child's sex, or when your child is still a baby and gender roles haven't quite taken hold yet, when you love them completely, and you love them outside of gender. That's a bit abstract, but think of it this way: you loved your child before you knew they were athletic, before they got good grades, before they were popular, before you knew about all the unique and lovely things that make them your child. And it sounds like you may have loved your son before you knew he was your son.

And if that's true, your child needs to know that.

There's an awful lot more that can be said on the subject, but I'll leave it here for now so I don't bore you to death. I work semi-professionally as a diversity educator, so I'm a bit of an open book on these issues, and I'm happy to discuss this further with you if you have specific questions or want more information on anything I've mentioned here.

As promised, here are a few resources that might be helpful to you. And here's a cute picture of a panda, which might also be helpful.

Oh, one last thought: I'm not sure if you're in the U.S., but if you are, I would really recommend seeing if you have a PFLAG chapter near you. I've had great experiences with them. You can check whether there's a nearby chapter here.

Resources:

u/poesii · 30 pointsr/ftm

First off, you sound like an incredible step parent and I’m excited for you to be able to support your stepkid fully when they do decide to come out to you. Before I delve into recommendations for dealing with them, I want to suggest that you seek out your local PFLAG chapter (if there is one). They often run support groups for parents of trans kids and are great places to swap resources and advice.

As far as breaching the subject, it depends on how your stepkid is but I would advise against directly asking but it seems like you know not to do that anyway. A good subtle way to bring it up may be to find a piece of (not negative) news about trans people, or else a piece of media about trans people, and talk about it in a positive light but in a natural way. Like, if you never talk about interesting stuff you’ve seen or read then obviously it would be a weird thing to suddenly do.

You could also leave pages about supporting your trans kid open on computers/tablets if you have a shared family device, or even buy a book like this one (my mom’s favorite) and leave it somewhere conspicuous, although that may be too forward haha. I like the idea of leaving Trans Tape or KT Tape around but it’s possible that they don’t know what that is and won’t connect the dots.

Maybe you could also take them shopping for clothes and casually suggest checking out the men’s section (if they don’t already get clothes there and like to dress in masculine clothes).

Just like. Stuff like that which would make it clear that you are a safe person to come out? But also, speaking as someone who came out to my parents at 15 knowing full well that they would be accepting, it’s still really scary and hard to bring up even if you know you will get a positive reaction. It never feels like the right time, etc. If you wait for your stepkid to come to you even after you’ve done stuff to make it clear that you’re safe, you may be waiting a long time. It’s important to also give an invitation for them to come out without making it feel like you’re interrogating them, which is tricky but you seem to get that and maybe that’s why you’re here haha.

I and probably lots of other people would be happy to bounce ideas back and forth with you, and to follow up on stuff as the situation progresses.

u/sharxattack · 1 pointr/ftm

My thoughts exactly; I have an Iron Gym, and it is by far the single best purchase of my life; you can do wide-arm pull ups, close-arm pull ups, chin ups, palm-facing pull ups, stick them in a doorway for sit ups/crunches, dips, modified pushups/planks... The possibilities are endless. And you can move it to wherever you want to go, which is another benefit that you don't get with a regular bar that you have to fix in place.

My personal opinion is that the human body was designed to get in shape on its own and also develop a level of muscle that correlates to its own bodyweight; equipment is nice and all (especially for those hard-to-work-out areas like lats), but bodyweight exercises are hands-down my favorite kind of workout. Other equipment is superfluous.

The same goes for supplements/powder; if you eat a good diet with enough protein in it (especially things like nuts and eggs; those are pretty much the food of all good muscle), the supplements become sort of just an added expense. Sure, they help you get built super quickly, but why bother? Why not just have a good diet? Just my opinion; I'm a big fan of all-natural.

Now if anyone has any tips to get rid of this damned beer gut... It seems I do cardio and ab workouts like none other and this fucker still refuses to let go of my abdomen.

u/first_decoy · 1 pointr/ftm

these get a lot of hate, but I have found them to be very comfortable & breathable. I wear a 34DD (ish) and they're super effective, so I imagine they'd look really good on someone smaller. They look good on their own, too:

front

side

I wouldn't recommend the underworks binders if ventilation/breathability is an issue. I have this and I'm always too hot in it.

I also have this one and it's way tight. It undoes easily and it looks great, but it's pretty uncomfortable to wear for more than like an hour.

u/amadeoamante · 5 pointsr/ftm

Forget that expensive shit, get mepitac. Same stuff, a quarter of the price. Here's the one that I used: https://smile.amazon.com/Mepitac-298300-Soft-Silicone-Tape/dp/B002VE9AL8

The strips stay on for about a week. At that price I didn't bother trying to wash and reuse them, I just put new ones on when the old ones wouldn't stay anymore. I did find it helpful to cut several smaller strips for my chest scars because it doesn't adhere as well when you curve it, so I just overlapped the ends of 2 straight pieces. That'll depend on how curved your scars are though.

I can't say how well they work because I put them on both sides so have nothing to compare to. But you're supposed to wear them 24/7 for as long as you can. It's pretty easy to put them on and forget about them. I actually continued wearing mine because my scars were really red at first and it covered them up so they didn't stand out as much. They're silicone and stick to you without needing anything else. They don't hurt coming off, but you will want to peel them slowly. Shaving might make them adhere better, but I didn't really bother. Then again my chest hair isn't super dense. If it is, you probably would want to shave. And yes, you can put them on whenever you want before/after your revision, although you'll want to wait until the incisions heal before putting it on where you have the revisions. It won't look mismatched, you'll be fine. :)

Another benefit of the strips is not needing to worry about sun exposure on your scars if you go out shirtless. And for me it felt reassuring to have something over the scars, as well as kept them from rubbing on my shirt. I used them for about a year and a half (I had a revision too) before I got tired of messing with them.

u/APestilentFuture · 2 pointsr/ftm

Consult with your doctor first, but i would focus more on caring for your scars for the long term than hiding them in the short term. Take care of the scars so they heal more thoroughly. Things like scar away work pretty dang well (but are expensive because of the size of top surgery scars.

Scar Away on Amazon

u/evendeathmaydie · 3 pointsr/ftm

The longer you bind, the more your breast tissue will break down. Your breasts will get less firm and if you bind too tightly you could bruise. Trans guys generally don't care about the fact that their breasts go from firm to soft and easily flattened, but you might care. I suggest getting a binding bra, or a minimizing bra intended for females, not males, if you're spending a significant amount of time wearing a binder. Unless you're ok with your boobs getting flat, soft, and breast tissue breaking down over time. If you're just presenting as male a small amount of the time in comparison to how much you are presenting as female, you might be ok.

There are some girls who cosplay as men or cross-dress for performance purposes and I have not heard them complain of damage, but I don't know how often they are doing it. Maybe talk to female-to-male crossdressers, they probably know more about preserving their boobs than we do. However, I heard of older women soaking their breasts in ice water every night to persevere their "perkiness" as they age. Maybe try that? LOL idk.

Don't wear ace bandages or tape or anything that wasn't intended for binding.

EDIT: I used to use sports bras before I came out, I have some other links if you want them! (:

u/AlexaviortheBravier · 3 pointsr/ftm

No problem.

I had some issues where I kept changing something in it and messing all my progress up. Been doing much better now that I realized I was the problem. Seems like a lot in writing, but it really isn't much.
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AM:

  • Wash hands

  • Wash face with Cetaphil gentle skin cleanser gently using kojac sponge

  • Pat dry with washcloth

  • Apply Thayers Rose Petal Witch Hazel with Aloe Vera with a cotton square/circle

  • After shaking to mix, pat on CeraVe Moisturizing Cream to which I had previously added almost .5 fl oz/15mL of 100% pure tea tree oil. (I think I read that it should be no more than 10% tea tree oil.) Last time I used Now tea tree oil but I have also used Jason.

  • Wait a while and sunscreen before going out, added to help scarring. Not sure if the one I had been using was good for my skin though so I won't put a brand here.

    I mainly use the kojac sponge because it cuts down on me picking the flacky skin off my face which tended to be the gateway to me picking acne or peeling off scabs.

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    PM:

    (I do my face wash last step in the shower even though places tend to recommend against it because of the heat; if I turned up the heat a lot during my shower, I turn it down to wash my face. It seemed to me that I used more heat in the sink after showering since my hands can stand heat better than the rest of my body.)

  • Wash face and neck with Hado Labo Rohto Gokujyn Hyaluronic Acid Cleansing Foam (Harsher so I prefer it at night.)

  • Pat dry with towel before drying any other part of my body. (I go face, hair, upper back, rest of me and don't lay a towel on my back after showering since that seemed to cause acne.)

  • Apply Thayers Rose Petal Witch Hazel with Aloe Vera with a cotton square/circle

  • After shaking to mix, pat on Differin Gel

  • Pat on same CeraVe Moisturizing Cream as above to face and neck.

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    Shower details:

    I use shampoo/conditioner that doesn't contain sulfates. I know my one friend realized that sulfates in her shampoo were likely what was causing her back to break out. I use this which is expensive but it lasts me a year even though I tend to overuse it.

    I also wash in the following order: shampoo, conditioner (leave in), private areas with water, wash my hands with my body soap (Dr. Bronner's), then my shoulders/back before any other part since that seemed to cut down on back acne as well. Last, in order, I wash my armpits, groin (not the inside of genitals, I mean my groin pit?? [Where my leg bends] I cover my genitals to keep soap out of that area.), feet. Then I rinse out the conditioner and do my face wash routine.

    Edit: Also forgot to mention that I avoid letting soap sit on my skin. Trial and error seems to show that that causes me to breakout as well so I rinse it off as I go.

    I don't change my pillowcase every night but I flip them. I have two pillows I sleep on and I sleep once on each before changing the pillowcase.
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    I would definitely recommend changing one thing or adding one thing at a time and patch testing if you can.
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    ETA: If your acne is severe, I'd still recommend a dermatologist when you can go. Or maybe talking to your primary doctor even. My HRT prescriber, for my acne, prescribed me Doxycycline and Tretinoin at one point. I don't use either, currently, but you can try using a non-dermatologist if you don't have any other option.

    Edit2: Clarified some minor things.
u/beckdrop · 5 pointsr/ftm

Whoa, what kind of therapist is this? You shouldn't have to do anything (any gendered thing) you don't want to do. I mean, I think working out is definitely a good idea, but you shouldn't be forced into it if it's not something you want to do.

But if it is something you want to do, I highly recommend getting a pull-up bar that fits onto your door frame (like this one - they have them for like $18 at Walmart (assuming you're from the US and if you're not I'm sorry for assuming :S)) and just starting with chin-ups. If you can't do a full one yet, use a chair to help support some of your weight (with your feet/foot) so that you can get all the way up, then very slowly lower yourself back down without using the chair. You'll be able to do one unassisted in no time if you keep practicing.

If you just do that and some push ups and squats, you're pretty much set, unless you're trying to be a body builder or something. And the good thing is these are all things you can do alone in your room so you don't even have to worry about binding or sports bras or anything (unless you feel too disphoric not binding to some extent).

u/dollarstorecoffee · 1 pointr/ftm

I use these. I'm only 4 months post op, so I can't speak for their long term, but they're cheap, and as someone who's got a fair amount of hypertrophic scarring going on, I can tell that they're definitely flattening them. They also feel mad soft every time I change them.

I also use Alex Haney's DIY scar cream in between. I like it a lot, and it's super easy to make!

u/DracoSpirita · 1 pointr/ftm

While I love the idea, I agree with Fluff's assessment. If you're someone like me that likes to read books with similar themes to my idea, I read a trilogy recently called Skin Hunter in which a girl enters a contest which requires her to upload her consciousness into a Skin. Skins were bioengineered with a cybernetic skeleton with organic material grown overtop. When the main character is in her Skin, all of her senses are enhanced and she feels alive for the first time in her life.

u/hibernatingbears · 3 pointsr/ftm

Awesome, and congrats on all the work you're doing! Good luck moving; I always find that process really stressful, but then settling into a new place is great.

Self-Reliance really helped me out early in transition, and so did the book Nobody Passes, in case you want to check it out once you're in your new place.

u/maybebenji · 1 pointr/ftm

I have these. They're 3.5 inch total boost but come apart. I separated the pieces and have 1 in each of my shoes. I'm not super short but an extra inch boost gives me confidence.

I wear them with converse high tops if you use 1, you don't need a bigger shoe size but 2 gets a little tight and 3 is really tight.

I put them under regular insoles because they're pretty hard and after some time make my feet hurt.

u/queerinRI · 2 pointsr/ftm

I just use amazon. I like [this] (http://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B001BMDQSO/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o06_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1) harness a lot. Amazon also has a variety of strap-on penises in a variety of levels of realism. Good luck!

u/SharkAttackDat · 1 pointr/ftm

Try buying an underworks binder if you can afford it. G2bc binders aren’t as comfortable as the underworks ones I own. I pretty much exclusively wear underworks now.

This one is very comfortable.

u/BigestMarvelTrashcan · 3 pointsr/ftm

I would go for a high compression underworks binder. I am not a big chested person but I have seen the pics on the Amazon reviews and it will make you pretty darn flat. I am in between sizes so I bought a XS and a S, the XS makes me almost completely flat like I never had a chest in the first place which is really helpful when I have a bad dysphoria day.

Extreme compression (5/5 compression)
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01M35KHB9/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_mMAADb84TF2YF

Firm compression (4/5 compression)
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01EKN749M/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_OLAADbVEGQHST

u/Seburstian · 1 pointr/ftm

Ah, yeah, that's a bit of a problem. Do you have some cash saved up, by any chance? You could buy a PayPal gift card and then use it to buy the binder. Might be annoying if your parents are super paranoid though.

Beyond that, any chance you're a sporty type? You could ask your parents to get you this, which is probably about as close to a binder as you can get without actually being a binder.

u/manowar88 · 3 pointsr/ftm

The Underworks binding bra is probably your best bet, though it likely won't be quite as effective as a normal Underworks binder.

u/albatrawesome · 1 pointr/ftm

I think everyone else put it well, there are plenty of short cis men. Last night at the bar I was lol'ing and comparing myself to all the short cis dudes around me. You have to remember that confidence plays a big part in others' perception of you. Stand up straight and look people in the eye. Also, something I'm thinking about grabbing are shoe inserts that apparently can give you up to 2.8 extra inches which is kinda wild. Here's the link.

u/gatsbythegerbil · 1 pointr/ftm

I have some binders I want to give away, not sell. Is that okay? :T

  • I was given a white Underworks 947, size Large. I don't like the feeling of the fabric, so I'd like to kick it forward to someone else who can use it. Lightly used. Claimed!

  • I have a moderately used Ancient Fish King binder, XXL in gray. It's a bit small on me now, and I wear a L in Underworks and XL in gc2b. This was my first kind of binder and while it's not great at its job, it is safe to use for 8-ish hours.

  • I have a quite heavily used XL gc2b half binder in gray. It's not nearly as effective as a new binder would be, but it's still as safe, and still does its job somewhat. Claimed!

    I'm in the US, and willing to pay shipping (to within the US). PM me for photos, more info, or to claim one!

u/rensidtrav · 1 pointr/ftm

Gotta agree with everything said here. I use Cerave "in the tub" as my moisturizer with a pump lid. It can be found at stores like Walmart or on Amazon. It's for normal to dry skin, so if you have oily skin I wouldn't use it as it's fairly thick. That being said, Cerave also sells lighter moisturizers. Here is their website.

u/AustinTheGrouch · 6 pointsr/ftm

Try Underworks. They have a something they market as both a sports bra and a binder if that helps your dysphoria any. They use a female model for the picture so your parents won't suspect anything and they sell them on amazon so they're easy to get. I know a lot of guys who use them. Just use the size chart on their website and not Amazon.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00I54XBWM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_MQsPCb5EZRQ9C

u/aust1nthegr0uch · 1 pointr/ftm

Oh and underworks sells a binding "bra" with a female model if that helps with your parents.

u/constantinoplejones · 1 pointr/ftm

Underworks has a binder which is $20 and available on amazon. I got the longer full tank one and it did the job well.

u/Throwawaytransftm · 3 pointsr/ftm

Jamison Green's Becoming a Visible Man and Max Wolf Valerio's The Testosterone Files might be up your alley. Both transitioned later in life and both spent a fair amount of identifying as lesbians before transitioning. You might also find Matt Kailey's Just Add Hormones illuminating, he's a gay trans man who transitioned in his 40's. Also, not a book, but I always personally found that Romeos resonated with me more than anything else and somewhat outside of the typical trans narrative.

u/ConfidentMachine · 3 pointsr/ftm

i have the same one, its an underworks sports bra-binder https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00I54X1B8/ <-- here

u/ChampignGlass · 1 pointr/ftm

I was thinking more along the lines of any packer if possible but the harness is a Latigo Leather Strap On. Ill put it in the thread edit as well for others to give more on an input

http://www.amazon.com/Sportsheets-SS696-05-Latigo-Leather-Harness/dp/B001BMDQSO

u/bearily · 4 pointsr/ftm

Here's my list so far. It's a mix of FTM-specific, general trans, and gender studies books, including essays, memoir, and more academic works. In no particular order:

Gender Trouble by Judith Butler


Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us by Kate Bornstein

Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation by Kate Bornstein and S. Bear Bergman


Nina Here Nor There by Nick Krieger

Female Masculinity by Judith Halberstam

Nobody Passes - Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity edited by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore


Whipping Girl by Julia Serano


How Sex Changed: A History of Transexuality in the United States by Joanne Meyerowitz

Becoming a Visible Man by Jamison Green

Queer Theory, Gender Theory: An Instant Primer by Riki Wilchins

PoMoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality edited by Carol Queen

Genderqueer: Voices From Beyond the Sexual Binary edited by Joan Nestle

From the Inside Out: Radical Gender Transformation, FTM and Beyond edited by Morty Diamond

Second Son by Ryan Sallans

Why are Faggots So Afraid of Faggots? by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore

and the must-read fiction:

Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg

I'll edit this if I can find any others, I'm probably missing a couple. Been a big non-fiction reading year for me!

EDIT: Edited to add links, and a few more on my wish list I haven't picked up yet.

Letters for my Brothers: Transitional Wisdom in Retrospect edited By Megan M. Rohrer, M.Div. & Zander Keig, M.SW.

That's Revolting!: Queer Strategies for Resisting Assimilation edited by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore

Transgender Voices: Beyond Women and Men by Lori B. Girshick

Just Add Hormones: An Insider's Guide to the Transsexual Experience by Matt Kailey

The Testosterone Files: My Hormonal and Social Transformation from Female to Male by Max Wolf Valerio