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u/Reluctant_Achiever · 3 pointsr/loveafterporn

I can relate to the feelings of being "ruined", especially after what you have been through. My PA's active addiction led to a situation that I was sexually assaulted (not by him, but someone he was close to), and I had similar feelings for a long time. I can promise you though, you are not ruined. What happened may have changed you, but it didn't break you-- you're still here and working through it in the best way you know how. The work you are doing now will help you establish the boundaries and the "rules" for yourself in a new relationship, when it's time and you feel ready to be in one. I found a lot of help inthis book-- it has some background and some specific things to work through (with yourself or with a partner, whenever the time is right) to help with that feeling of being "ruined.

u/Hmack1 · 1 pointr/loveafterporn

You don't give much info, but I am going on the assumption that you are taking this ride by yourselves? I have some info on how to help yourselves. Trying to become sober with this addiction with out outside help is a losing game. Please check out some of these links.

If you want to explore a real life situation from a man's point of view, check out these You Tube video's from Terry Crews, there are several of them, They helped me decide to stay with my partner and work thru our problems.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I4krRkO4sHc

If you decide to stay and work on your relationship, I have several suggestions.

First try to see a CSAT counsler, a specialist in addiction therapy, for both the addict and the partner of the addict. Having someone explain the intricacies of the disease, how it effects the brain, and what it takes to beat it is they only way to understand what you both are faced with. https://www.sexhelp.com/am-i-a-sex-addict/

A recovery treatment center: http://www.lifestarnetwork.com/

There are SAA meetings for your partner if they wants to quit or control their habit https://saa-recovery.org/Meetings/UnitedStates/

On-line here is a recovery worksheet for your partner:

https://www.smartrecovery.org/smart-recovery-toolbox/

Here is a good article about 12 step programs, it talks about AA and drug programs, but sexaholism is right there with them:

http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2018/08/24/to-ben-affleck-and-other-addicts-heres-my-message-to-from-one-alcoholic-to-another.html

There are S-Anon meetings for the partners or family members of addicts, very helpful in getting you over your self doubt. http://www.sanon.org/find-a-meeting/s-anon-meeting-locations-united-states/

OR SLAA https://slaafws.org/

Also do a little reading, get the book Out of the Shadows, by Patrick Carnes. It will give you a real life view of what a sexaholic faces on the road to recovery.

Another good book:

https://www.amazon.com/What-Can-Do-About-Me-ebook/dp/B00AVBERGG

If you want to block XXX sites from your computer Here is a simple way to do so:

https://cleanbrowsing.org/for-adults

Here is an app for your partners phone:

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.androidapp.watchme

Here is a good resource for learning about stopping this in in your life.

https://www.reddit.com/r/pornfree/comments/2mfxyi/concrete_tips_for_staying_away_from_porn/

Here is a reddit sub for addicts r/pornfree

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u/Mud-covered-dog · 1 pointr/loveafterporn

I just started reading a book that is already mind-blowingly useful in this regard. It’s really illuminated a lot of my experience with a PA, and in a way that really facilitates my own sexual satisfaction in the future.

Highly recommend!
Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life

u/wallacetook · 2 pointsr/loveafterporn

well, i guess you aren't learning anything new from this post then. How about this:

The Coolidge Effect is named after President Calvin Coolidge.

President and Mrs Coolidge were visiting a chicken ranch. Mrs Coolidge asked whether the rooster copulated more than once a day. "Yes. dozens of times a day" replied the farmer.

"Tell Mr Coolidge" said Mrs C. Later in the tour, the farmer had opportunity to mention this to the president.

"Same hen every time?" asked Calvin Coolidge

"No, a different he each time" answered the farmer.

"Tell Mrs Coolidge" said the president.

Hence, the Coolidge Effect is the technical term to describe the re-arousal of a male animal by a new female.

Source: The Little Brown Book of Anecdotes, Clifton Fadiman editor, 1985

https://www.amazon.com/Little-Brown-Book-Anecdotes/dp/0316273015