(Part 3) Top products from r/melbourne

The negotiation course I took at business school was awesome. It was based around a technique called "getting to yes", which sounds contrived and bullshitty but which tries to find positive aspects of a negotiation that the two sides are looking at.

For example, you may want more money, but do you only want more money? That may be a total showstopper for the other guy due to hard budget limits, so maybe there's other forms of compensation (training, holidays, etc.) that are more valuable to you, where the other guy can give.

Similarly, the whole thing focused on the phrase "where does that number come from"? Basically trying to find out why there is a limit. And if you can identify that (e.g. HR policy, my boss says so), then try to engage your negotiation counterpart in a constructive approach to changing that number. For example, let me help you convince your boss that I am worth more. Let's figure out what I can deliver to make you more comfortable - an evaluation period, salary contingent on clear, objectively measurable goals, that kind of thing.

You must also learn to understand what your value is, in a close to objective manner. For example, figuring out what similar jobs pay elsewhere, what you have contributed, what value you have added, etc. This is unfortunately something a lot of women in business do not do nearly enough, and is part of Sheryl Sandberg's whole point about being more assertive (it does not make you a bitch to be assertive in a civil manner about your value and your place in an organization). This is something where you can keep in mind "hey, please understand that what you are offering me is not fair value based on this, this, and this evidence." Part of this is also being willing to insist that anything you negotiate be measurable and put on paper (i.e. no vague horseshit promises of "we'll discuss that in the future").

Lastly, there's a ton of nifty little psychological tricks - for example, never feel compelled to fill silences, never feel pressure to set an "anchor" sum around which a negotiation will revolve, remain calm.

Does that help for a start?

Not sure about that, but in the meantime, if you want to start learning the script, I can recommend this book: https://www.amazon.com/Arabic-Script-Hacking-learning-alphabet/dp/1473679699

I got it from a friend who didnt want her copy, just to give it a try, and it is brilliant. If you want you could smash it out in a weekend and end up with a good ability to sound out Arabic words, even if you don't understand them. I have used it to impress and make friends with the owners of the local middle eastern grocery :)

I see saw in and out of this emotion, some times it just feels like I'm too far behind in my ability to razz, like having gone to a single sex school for all of my high school years has just set me back too far.

Recently clicked that keeping this mindset will never get me anywhere, would highly recommend this book https://www.amazon.com/Find-Your-Happy-Daily-Mantras/dp/1452523665
it has helped me kick start into having a more positive mindset.

Currently enjoying But What If We're Wrong?

Super interesting.

Yup, the driver is a jerk, but I don't want to spoil the tale for you :) is for kids though, but very fun! http://www.amazon.com/The-Driver-Wanted-Other-Stories/dp/1592641059

here's a book by a bloke who writes about some pretty interesting gritty melbourne/williamstown laneway scifi. its his first book (well, collection of stories), so for a first publish i think there's some gems in there. recommended.

https://www.amazon.com/Stories-Awkward-Size-Slipstream-Anthology/dp/1505582601

Software dev that has worked at many enterprise companies. I don't recommend you study any language or technology other than what you can't use right away. There is so much out there that is niche/obsolete/ever changing/saturated. I have studied so many things that I have never used and quickly forgot.

You need to study design concepts/dev methodologies/software architecture/design patterns/best practices.

Nothing beats working under a mentor.

Courses teach you what to think as a developer but you need to learn how to think as a developer.

If you are interested in architecture (in a java context), have a read of this book. https://www.amazon.com/Java-Architects-Handbook-Second-applications/dp/0972954880

Well then! Have I got a book for you 😁

It's not new, and I didn't read it recently, but you can always read Hyperion if you haven't, because it's probably my favourite novel ever, sci-fi or otherwise.

https://www.amazon.com/How-Google-Works-Eric-Schmidt/dp/1455582344

I don't think it's a technical book, it's described as "an entertaining, page-turning primer containing lessons that Eric and Jonathan learned as they helped build the company. "

ok, not Australian BUT fucking hilarious:

Cory O'Brien's Zeus grants stupid wishes.

Alternately: History Lessons by Dana Lindaman and Kyle Ward. Basically it shows how textbooks around the world portray US history. You ever wanted to see how Best Korea and soviet russia taught about the Korean war?

This book is American but the same problems apply here, it's well worth a read.
https://www.amazon.com/Evicted-Poverty-Profit-American-City/dp/0553447432

Get help

https://www.amazon.com/Crenshaw-Katherine-Applegate/dp/1250043239

you should tell her about the hot guys and baby animals calendar

a quick google found this book which i doubt is what you refer to? maybe it was this guy? i've read enough of the anti-nazi stuff to think i don't need to be tolerant of the intolerant, and i realise the irony there but i just want people to get along, not genocide each other. there's lots of people who can agree to disagree without wanting the other people to disappear/be migrated against their will etc

First, read this. The author makes the point, plenty of girls express interest in testing their sexual waters, but don't treat a woman who is seriously into other women like she's just a distraction because you're fed up with men.

Secondly, check out DnM Bar on Commercial Road in South Yarra.

Just watched this video and damn it I need to lose my body fat (nearly 40% fuck me) BMI super close to obese from overweight

So they mentioned taking two supplements: branched chain-amino acid-capsules and melatonin.

My question is, do we have to take it? Will this really speed up the process? Does anyone know a more local alternative that's more or less similar so it's more affordable for me haha

Also in the beginning the trainer says "each person is going to have a different cardio routine. a different workout routine and a different nutrition program because everybody has a different body type"

Did he calculate it how /r/fitness does or probably some other way via his book hot point fitness?

"Workout - it’s not about doing the weight/throwing their entire body it’s about the correct form and isolating those individual muscles"

I need a personal trainer won't I or else I might mess myself up... any recommendations?

How to Destroy a Man Now

>In How to Destroy A Man Now (DAMN), Dr. Angela Confidential (a business psychologist, consultant, and human resource professional) empowers women with a step-by-step guide for destroying a man’s reputation and removing him from power.

>In easy to understand terms, the handbook reveals and explains the fundamental dynamics between allegations, the media, and authority as they relate to male misconduct in today’s society. It also unveils and details practical real-world methods for leveraging allegations, media, and authorities to dethrone a man from power.

I'm not making any claims about this case, but I too share your concerns regarding unsupported allegations.

Good men need to distance themselves from the women they work with and ensure they never spend any time alone with them. Never have a closed door meeting one on one with a woman. Never share a taxi ride alone with a female colleague. Never put yourself in a position where someone could make allegations against you for things allegedly done months or years ago.

If it comes down to your word against hers then you will be fucked.

Since #MeToo, the Number of Men Who Are Uncomfortable Mentoring Women Has Tripled

>A new set of findings from women’s empowerment non-profit LeanIn.Org and online survey platform SurveyMonkey reveal that, since the media reports of sexual harassment first emerged last fall, male managers are three times as likely to say they are uncomfortable mentoring women and twice as uncomfortable working alone with a woman. The hesitation to meet with women outside of work is even more pronounced: Senior men were 3.5 times more likely to hesitate having a work dinner with a junior female colleague than a male one–and five times more likely to hesitate to travel for work with a junior woman.

And for the few asshole men out there, keep your damn hands to yourself.