(Part 2) Top products from r/niceguys

Yes this is true but if you think about it the way the system is set up affects these outcomes. Bullying in schools for example is affected by wealth inequality. Why? Because people's status is either implicitly or explicitly related to their level of wealth. When I was growing up I felt marginalized, spent a lot of my time playing video games, and as I grew older it was difficult to make up for the necessary social skills and how to talk to women I hadn't developed as well as more extroverted peers as a result.

More people would have all of those things if the society we lived in wasn't so massively imbalanced. As wealth equality gets better within society, so does every other indicator of happiness, including in relationships. That's why places like Denmark is considered one of the happiest places on earth along with Sweden.

It's true that someone will always lose - but how much do they lose by and by how much is dependent on how the society is stratified. In a hyper competitive capitalist society the "winner" however you define that is the one with the most wealth period - and the way to win the game is not always about providing what people need in a system, merely what is profitable. And if you're a "winner" you'll have an enormous piece of the pie while someone who is arguably nearly as skilled but lacking in opportunities statistically ends up with far far less.

https://www.amazon.com/Success-Luck-Good-Fortune-Meritocracy/dp/0691167400

The individualistic language of "self care" makes a broader societal and social issue your fault:

https://thebaffler.com/war-of-nerves/laurie-penny-self-care

This applies to all aspects of life, and certainly in relationships. In more egalitarian counties, gender roles are more balanced for men and women and studies show this leads to more happiness:

http://www.economywatch.com/economy-business-and-finance-news/gender-equality-key-to-wealth-and-happiness-in-nordic-countries.27-03.html

In a hyper capitalist society, incentives are more skewed by monetary gain. So the one who makes the most money attracts a much larger share of attractive or or otherwise desirable women. In other words, it's like a pyramid shape -- dating also becomes much more competitive than it actually need be, and this leads to a lot of misery as people are more lonely.

Then the solution people tell you is well stop focusing on it so much and focus on this instead -- but that's just a slogan. It's not reality -- people have real human needs. But in terms of strategy being able to train oneself to be more social is what helps a ton. It's a skill like any other -- and it's true that those of us who began life as introverts may have a certain ceiling we can hit relative to others but ultimately socializing is a skill and can be vastly improved with practice.

Bit of a rant I went on there but I'm kinda high hahaha

It's of course exaggerated here, but the central idea in this pic, that many things are viewed as unappealing when the person is unattractive but are viewed as appealing when they are attractive, is correct. Attractiveness dramatically changes how you are treated and viewed, and changes how things that you do are treated and viewed.

Your attractiveness can even drastically affect your employment and earnings potential. There's a good book on that topic titled "Beauty Pays: Why Attractive People Are More Successful." It's amazing how our physical appearance can so radically shape our lives.

Anyways, the important thing to note is that treating and viewing others differently based on their attractiveness goes both ways. Men to women, and women to men.

A man could easily see a fat and ugly woman who likes a lot of nerdy stuff and think "man, what a socially awkward weirdo" but then see an attractive woman who likes a lot of nerdy stuff and think "that's so cool that she likes those sorts of things, I love nerdy gamer girls!"

I didn't think about it either until I read the book Factory Girls, which is about all the women in China who are leaving the countryside to work in factories in the city. One of the effects of this is that women are choosing to get married later. They enjoy having their own independence and money. And since many of them are sending money home to support their families, they now have a lot of power in the family dynamic that they didn't have before because they were female. It's a really interesting book.

I was thinking that the same thing has happened here too. More women are choosing to have careers and financial independence. I didn't get married until I was 33. And like you, I worked full time and owned a home. I didn't have to rely on a man to support me. I really didn't expect to get married either. But I had the freedom to marry or not marry based on my career and my financial situation.

You could grow your own. As an alternative, you could get some that's already prepared. There's just no excuse to be without eggplant - heck, even your dog should have one! Oh, and be sure your hair is cut, styled, and colored nicely.

Once you've lured m'lady home, be sure to have the right kitchen accessories and the right sheets on your bed (you might want to fortify yourself before any "bedtime activities", though!).

I hope this comment hasn't stressed you out a lot. As you can see, it's pretty easy to get all the eggplant you might need to impress any m'lady out there!

ACTIVE sonar is sending out a ping and mapping the return.

PASSIVE sonar is the hydrophone array - specifically matching heard radiated sound against a database to ID a vessel.

Dig out some Tom Clancy.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Submarine-Nuclear-Warship-Military-Referenc/dp/0425183009

It acts as a reference sourcebook alongside Hunt for Red October.

One of the BEST descriptions of the AN-BQQ1000 array on the 688-class hunter-killer nuclear subs...

If you remember in HFRO and Crimson Tide - once a sub is detected, the array listens to propeller sounds and other noise signature to match the vessel type.

In dating/seduction - the guy has to pattern-match inbound IOIs. But when having to do that consciously - he needs to know what to look for...

For those that don’t know - Humans of New York is about a guy that goes around the city every day and finds one person to talk about their life. It’s almost always eye-opening, and an absolutely incredible Facebook page to follow.

He has also written a book, which can be found here for $16.
https://www.amazon.com/Humans-New-York-Brandon-Stanton/dp/1250058902


I can’t express how incredible this page and book are. For what it’s worth, this redditor gives it a 10/10 and recommends it to EVERYONE!


Edit: For those of you without Facebook, here’s a website! http://www.humansofnewyork.com

He just needs a copy of The Deeper Meaning of Liff to help him lighten up.

This might then however we both are aware you have no interest in challenging your point of view so why bother?

See my comment above.

I was surprised, too. I'd heard of Charles' and Buckingham's adventure in France but didn't realize it included marriage negotiations in Spain, or his little "surprise" for Maria Anna. When I read this book I instantly thought of r/niceguys.

I bet that the DSM-VI will have "media overexposure personality disorder" in it, because that's what these guys (and girls) have. They consume so much media that they lack experience and examples of real relationships, and they don't know how to reprogram themselves to get out of it.

It's been a problem since we started having widespread media access, and a great book that delves into the origin of this is "We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love" by Robert Johnson

Shirt in question. Ya know... if you wanted one.

Find your own fedora.

The Communist Manifesto

For those who havent seen this guy. It's a trip.

Or read his book!

Almost everything happens, except for this.

Check this out though, for next time. https://www.amazon.com/Creative-Writing-Dummies-Maggie-Hamand/dp/0470742917

Looking for Alaska - one of my favourite books of all time

Buy the book The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect Us From Violence. Highly recommend it.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0440508835/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_c_api_sbD8BbPSYA3ZW

Humans have evolved certain mating strategies due to sexual selection. If you want to know more, read for instance this:
https://www.amazon.com/Evolutionary-Psychology-New-Science-Mind/dp/0205992129

This thread is ridiculous. Most people have absolutely no clue about human mating, and live in some fantasy world where they - consciously or unconsciously, reject human biology and evolution. Human instincts are far deeper and more influential on our behavior than current cultural trends.

I think the message that women are angels who can do no harm is through ingrained in men's minds. Mgtow is an awakening to these men. If it we're simple stated that women are not that great the message wouldn't get across. So they go overboard stating that women are evil.

Now that has it's own downsides, which is that men become misogynystic.

Is this the handbook you were talking about? https://www.amazon.com/How-Found-Freedom-Unfree-World/dp/0380004232/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1478934969&sr=1-1&keywords=how+i+found+freedom+in+an+unfree+world

What about this book? https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/7xy3p4/how_to_destroy_a_man_now_damn_a_handbook

My point is that there are extremes on both sides of the argument. The core message of mgtow is on their website. https://www.mgtow.com

Do you disagree with anything on the website?

Only the nicest guys blame the murder victim. That's how you can tell they're old timey gentlemen! It's straight out of Debrett's:


"If a young lady has been murdered by Chad, call her out for the dumb slut she is. Make sure you do it where everyone will see. Manners maketh man, after all!"