(Part 3) Top products from r/pregnant

I'm glad you got the help you needed! I was actually on antidepressants years ago and they made a huge difference. Eventually I got off of them and started taking a specific combo of vitamins and supplements and felt just as great. Unfortunately, I ran out of them and simply didn't buy more because I thought I was "all better", some major life events occurred and here I am again. I stocked up on the vitamins again and hope that within the next couple of weeks I start to notice a difference again along with finding a therapist. I really didn't want to share my awful thoughts with my fiance, but I did and it definitely helped. Thankfully he didn't take any of it personally and has been my biggest cheerleader through this.
Again, I commend you for getting the help you need. There is nothing wrong with antidepressants--I know firsthand that they can be a godsend. If you are interested, though, here is the book that got me on the path to understanding why my brain works the way it does and how vitamins impact mental health. You might find it interesting, too! https://www.amazon.com/Depression-Cure-6-Step-Program-without/dp/0738213888

My hubby is taking us out for a nice dinner (leaving our 3yo with grandma for the night). I'm so hungry all the time (5.mths along) he might save more with a buffet at this point lol

I got him this cute fill in the blank "Love journal" so I can tell him cute stuff about all the reasons I love him. It's probably 50 pages but easy to come up cute stuff to write about. (not just generic prompts).

https://www.amazon.com/Without-You-What-Would-Fill/dp/1452157669

We are trying to save too so I was torn about actually spending money but it was under $10 and I know he'll love it.

The pop culture reference thing is killing me right now. I love the name Elsa for a girl, but I don't want people to think I named my kid after a Disney character... And I just know that no one will believe me when I say it had nothing to do with Frozen...

Btw, we got a book called "The Best Baby Name Book In The Whole Wide World". It has any name you could think of, the meaning behind it, what culture it came from, statistics about recent popular names and a lot of good tips for naming like syllable patterns and alliteration.

I mentioned this on a similar thread the other day,but here is a link to the product too! I was obsessed with slathering this on my belly every morning after my shower and at night before bed. It feels great, has only a very very light fragrance, and I have zero stretch marks. I also used the sugar scrub from bath and body works daily in the shower (comes in a variety of scents, also runs about $15). The sugar scrub was originally a gift from a friend who had also used it during her pregnancy but the honey butter I found on my own and will definitely give to pregnant friends in the future!

Bella B Tummy Honey Butter - 4 oz https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0007V6PK6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_oHNXAbVH97ZJG

Future dad, wife is due in March, checking in. These books have helped me:

The Expectant Father

We're Pregnant!

The Birth Partner

and for a nice laugh: Man Vs Child

Also, your doctors understand that you are not an expert, and there are no such things as dumb questions at any doctor's visit. Yes, go to every visit, be in the room, take notes for your partner, and ask questions. A good rule of thumb for everything is "ask your doctor."

And... like, I understand that you don't want to stress your partner out, but at the same time open communication is really important. Take the time to listen to her concerns, make her ginger tea, and share ideas. It's OKAY to be anxious, as long as turn that anxiety into productive energy and not needless worrying.

There’s a funny cookbook my boss got for a coworker called something like “How to Boil Water” with just the basics. Might not be a bad idea to pick that up for him and have him cook 1-2 times/week with your supervision.

And this makes me so glad my DH can cook! He keeps me fed and happy with healthy meals.

ETA here’s the link https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0696226863/ref=cm_cr_othr_mb_bdcrb_top?ie=UTF8#cm_cr_carousel_images_section

The Expectant Father has been very useful for me, it breaks down the changes both mother and baby go through month by month, and offers suggestions for dealing with the fears and challenges of fatherhood.

I hope it works out and he gets more involved and supportive! Good luck!

I bought a bunch of prenatal exercise DVDs, primarily yoga, and I honestly didn't use a lot of the more intense ones that I planned on doing regularly. As the pregnancy went on, it became harder and harder to do a higher intensity workout. For most of the pregnancy, I loved Lamaze's "Yoga for your Pregnancy" (https://www.amazon.com/Yoga-Journal-Lamaze-present-pregnancy/dp/B000F6Z4L4). During third trimester, I got Spinning Babies' Daily Essentials, which helps with getting good posture for you and optimal position for baby to come out in what can be a painful end of pregnancy time (http://spinningbabies.com/product/daily-essentials/). It sounds like you're looking for more rigorous yoga workouts right now, but you might want to tuck these two suggestions away for the future. They both have postnatal stretches on the DVD as well.

I quit cold turkey, too, and it worked well for me.

OP, please check out this book: Allen Carr's Easy Way to Stop Smoking: Revised Edition https://www.amazon.com/dp/1405923318/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_BFHsDb0M70VWF

My husband and I both quit smoking using this book. No tricks, no coddling, just good facts that help make quitting an easy solution instead of a scary, daunting process.

For you:

• Show Dad How
  
• The Baby Onwer's Manual
  
  For Her:
  
  
  
• The Mayo Clinic Guide To a Healthy Pregnancy. Has a monthly pregnancy break down with what is going on, along with a "When to call a care provider" check list per month.
  
  Also you might get some more input over on /r/predaddit. This subreddit is for pregnant folks. :)

I read these and found them helpful:

And Baby Makes Four

Tell the Dog You’re Pregnant

The second one has a CD of baby sounds included to help desensitize dogs to the sounds which is such a wonderful way to help reduce their stress and anxiety.

My boss gave me this book after I told him I was pregnant. Baby Bargains
It helped narrow down some stuff and gave reassurance of what to look for with others. In general, I haven’t registered for much cute stuff- clothes, toys, books- because that’s what people like to buy whether it’s on a registry or not. I tried to go more for practical stuff so people would know what we actually need. We aren’t having a shower though, so it might be different if you are expecting tons of people to buy you stuff.

http://www.amazon.com/Healthy-Pregnancy-Book-Everything-Parenting/dp/0316187437

The healthy pregnancy book by Dr Sears! :)

Hi!! Congratulations mama! My partner and I are TTC and I’m currently reading Like a Mother by Angela Garbes Im learning SO much about my body, pregnancy and how society’s views and reactions to pregnant women have evolved.

2020 Promoted To Grandpa - Promoted to Grandma/Coffee Mug Set/New Grandparents https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07Y27FQDJ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_czsKDbKAR4X9K

To help with your decision, you should know that 30 really isn't a hard deadline (although everyone makes out that it is).

I'm 35 and 14 weeks pregnant. Whenever anyone mentions concerns about age and pregnancy, I always link to this article.

In particular:

> The widely cited statistic that one in three women ages 35 to 39 will not be pregnant after a year of trying, for instance, is based on an article published in 2004 in the journal Human Reproduction. Rarely mentioned is the source of the data: French birth records from 1670 to 1830.

That fact blew my mind!

I highly recommend reading The Impatient Woman's Guide to Getting Pregnant, as she looks at the various pregnancy stats (like fertility "dropping off a cliff after 30" etc) and goes back to the original research to find out what is real and what is scaremongering.

After 35, things can start to get more complicated, but 40 is the "now or never" time.

I got this one:

Embrace: A Pregnancy Journal https://www.amazon.com/dp/1570616817?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

The art is kinda hippy dippy (block prints), but the prompts are vague and I said f*ck it to the month guides...the lack of cartoony characters made it worth it for me.

There’s no good place for ultrasounds...I’m just pasting them over the prompts I don’t like.

Not sure if he's the reading type, but I'd recommend The Caveman's Guide to Pregnancy
http://www.amazon.com/The-Cavemans-Pregnancy-Companion-Expectant/dp/140273526X

Here are two, one for pregnancy and one for the first year.

https://www.amazon.com/Expectant-Father-Ultimate-Dads-Be/dp/0789212137/

https://www.amazon.com/New-Father-Dads-Guide-First/dp/0789211777

I bought my husband this with our first child and he loved it! He learned so much in a format that didn’t make him feel like an idiot. Highly recommend this book and we buy it for all our new dad friends when they have diaper parties! Men unfortunately just do not like researching things like this publicly. We have found that when given this book as a gift they will read it but won’t seek it out on their own. My husband was SO supportive through both our pregnancies and births and I absolutely think it was because he had this book. He asked informed questions at our dr appointments and after them at home, when we had to have an emergency cesarean with our first, I was freaking out. We had had a failed 36 hour induction, and he was like the calm in the middle of a proverbial shit storm through it all. Get “dude, you’re gonna be a dad!” And I believe there’s a follow up too called,”dude, you’re a dad!”

Edit: here’s a link to the follow up. It deals with what to expect in the first year, what to look out for as signs of ppd, and the changes to expect in your relationships and how to manage them.

https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1440541124/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_-4t7CbJ992GAK