(Part 2) Top products from r/seduction

I am obsessed. Here is my current collection:

Most of these you can find on thepiratebay / etc, but I own a hard copy of all of these except for The Mystery Method, which I read probably 5 times before I found Magic Bullets (actually don't own that either, just the pdf). I'll add to this list if I think of more.

Must Reads:

Magic Bullets - Savoy ==>> [Torrent] it's expensive!

• This book is so excellent. It's like a PUA encyclopedia. It walks you through the process, and cites every major text along the way.. none of this "my way works best" crap, but not afraid to make judgments either. For pickup books that employ some form of the M3 Model (however loosely.. which I think means: everyone except Ross Jeffries), this is the authoritative text. If you have an approach that is proven, important, and credible, then it is probably cited in this book.
  
  Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion - Robert Cialdini
  
  
• I got this book because it is #1 on this list. Turns out, it is the modern version of Dale Carnegie's How To Win Friends and Influence People (see review below).. only this time, it's by someone who knows a thing or two about applied psychology (which either didn't exist back then, or was too under-developed to matter). This guy freaking went undercover as a used car salesman, working with fundraisers, etc. Interestingly enough, I bought this book in the same order as The Game, and in chapter 1 Strauss mentions reading Cialdini's book to prepare for a trip to Belgrade with Mystery, which was his formal introduction into the PUA community.
  
  The Art of Seduction - Robert Greene
  
  
• I'm not done with this one yet, but I will say this: if you have a conscience, don't read this. It really is a fascinating study of seduction, but it does focus on seduction as a tool to victimize people.. That said, unlike your typical pick-up type book which does not bother to categorize gamers' personality types, this book categorizes different "types" of seducers. This is extremely helpful because you can figure out what type of seducer fits you best, and what things you need to focus on to improve your game.
  
  How to Win Friends & Influence People - Dale Carnegie
  
  
• This book has sold over 15 million copies. It was originally written in 1937, but has been revised once or twice since it became the best selling self-help type book of all time, which it probably still is. He walks you through the basic principles of how to motivate people.. what works, what doesn't.. etc. Fun, easy, captivating read. It looks thick, but I think I unintentionally read it cover to cover in one sitting the first time I read it in college.. so it's a quick read.
  
  
  Should reads:
  
  The Game - Neil Strauss
  
  
• I think this is one of the best selling pick-up type books. I liked reading it, but it was less of a tutorial book and more of an autobiography.. it does get the job done though. It also is a very entertaining read, and if you doubt that PUA stuff actually works, this will prove to you otherwise because Strauss was a very timid and ugly mofo, but he fucked Jenna Jameson.
  
  The Mystery Method : How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed - Mystery, Chris Odom, Neil Strauss
  
  
• This introduced me into the world of PUA my senior year of college when I inadvertently stumbled upon a torrent of it (I was probably looking for something to jerk off to. How poetic). I downloaded it just to skim through it skeptically, but this book eventually introduced me to a whole new world. This is an excellent staple / beginner's text, even though I now recommend Magic Bullets because it is so much more objective and inclusive of alternate styles and approaches along the way.
  
  How to Get the Women You Desire into Bed - Ross Jeffries
  
  
• Not done with this yet, but Ross Jeffries is a freak (not meant to be insulting to him). I have no doubt that his methods are effective, but they are very different. And he really seems a bit evil, as opposed to merely mischievous like most other PUAs are. I haven't decided how incompatible, if not just different, his methods are with the Mystery / Strauss crowd.. but then again, I have never field tested any of his methods myself.
  
  Truth in Comedy: The Manual of Improvisation - Charna Halpern, Del Close, Kim Johnson
  
  
• A close friend of mine who studied improv in New York lent me this, and I forgot about it until recently -- but it is a very short but brilliant book about comedy. I'm listening now to David DeAngelo's Cock Comedy series, and I realized that almost everything he's saying is straight out of this little text. It's not really something essential for pick-up, which is why I wouldn't put it in Must Reads, but it is excellent nonetheless.
  
  
  Meh, they're alright:
  
  The Pickup Artist: The New and Improved Art of Seduction - Mystery, Neil Strauss
  
  
• You can definitely get some good stuff out of this book, but the whole thing comes across as an excuse for Mystery to brag about how awesome he is. He seriously spends an entire chapter (maybe more) telling a story about him bragging to other PUAs. He does deserve it though, the man is the single most influential PUA ever, if not the most successful in the field.
  
  Rules of the Game - Neil Strauss
  
  
• This is one of those books that you read once a day for 30 days, and write down statements of intent right in the book like "it is my goal to lose my virginity before my next birthday in 3 months." Probably good for beginners, but I skimmed through this after having been gaming in the field for several months.
  
  Haven't read yet:
  
  What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People - Joe Navarro, Marvin Karlins
  
  
• This looks really good.
  
  NLP: The New Technology of Achievement - NLP Comprehensive
  
  Easy Mind-Reading Tricks - Robert Mandelberg, Ferruccio Sardella
  
  Palm Reading for Beginners: Find Your Future in the Palm of Your Hand (For Beginners (Llewellyn's)) - Richard Webster
  
  There are also some good videos out there (links are to torrents. these are all several hundred $$):
  
  
  Excellent Videos
  
  The Annihilation Method - Neil Strauss
  
  
• I met a guy who said he was looking around his apartment for things to sell so he could afford the $375 this costs. apparently he didn't think to check thepiratebay ;)
  
  Mystery and Style
  
  
• The videos of Mystery in here are just excellent. It's very interesting to see Mystery actually interacting with other people (not in a set), since he is the god of pick-up.
  
  Decent Videos
  
  Psychic Influence - Ross Jeffries
  
  
• This is interesting.. I'm not much of a Jeffries guy though, mostly because he's the most oddball of the group, and I haven't studied his material enough.

Here are some exercises from The Charisma Myth, one of the best non-seduction books on seduction I have ever read:

Presence

Set a timer for one minute. Close your eyes and try to focus on ONE of the following three things: the sounds around you, your breathing, or the sensations in your toes.

Responsibility Transfer

Sit comfortably or lie down, relax, and close your eyes. Take two or three deep breaths. As you inhale, imagine drawing clean air toward the top of your head. As you exhale, let that air woosh through you, washing away all worries and concerns.
Pick an entity - God, fate, the Universe, whatever may best suit your beliefs - that you could imagine as benevolent.
Imagine lifting the weight of everything you're concerned about - this meeting, this interaction, this day - off your shoulders and placing it on the shoulders of whichever entity you've chosen. They're in charge now.
Visually lift everything off your shoulders and feel the difference as you are now no longer responsible for the outcome of any of these things. Everything is taken care of. You can sit back, relax and enjoy whatever good you can find along the way.

The next time you feel yourself considering alternative outcomes to a situation, pay close attention. If your brain is going around in circles, obsessing about possible outcomes, try a responsibility transfer to alleviate some of the anxiety.

Destigmatizing Discomfort

The next time an uncomfortable emotion is bothering you, try this step-by-step guide to destigmatizing:
Remember that uncomfortable emotions are normal, natural, and simply a legacy of our survival instincts. We all experience them from time to time.
Dedramatize: this is a common part of human experience that happens every day.
Think of others who've gone through this before, especially people you admire.
See it as one burden shared by many. You are part of a community of human beings experiencing this one feeling at this very moment.

Neutralizing Negativity

Use the techniques below anytime you'd like to lessen the effects of persistent negative thoughts. As you try each technique, pay attention to which ones work best for you and keep practicing them until they become instinctive. You may also discover some of your own that work just as well.

• Don't assume your thoughts are accurate. Just because your mind comes up with something doesn't necessarily mean it has any validity. Assume you're missing a lot of elements, many of which could be positive.
  
• See your thoughts as graffiti on a wall or as little electrical impulses flickering around your brain.
  
• Assign a label to your negative experience: self-criticism, anger, anxiety, etc. Just naming what you are thinking and feeling can help you neutralize it.
  
• Depersonalize the experience. Rather than sayign "I'm feeling ashamed," try "There is shame being felt." Imagine that you're a scientist observing a phenomenon: "How interesting, these are self-critical thoughts arising."
  
• Imagine seeing yourself from afar. Zoom out so far, you can see planet Earth hanging in space. Then zoom in to see your continent, then your country, your city, and finally the room you're in. See your little self, electrical impulses whizzing across your brain. One little being having a particular experience at this particular moment.
  
• Imagine your mental chatter as coming from a radio; see if you can turn down the volume, or even just put the radio tot he side and let it chatter away.
  
• Consider the worst-case outcome for your situation. Realize that whatever it is, you'll survive.
  
• Think of all the previous times when you felt just like this - that you wouldn't make it through - and yet clearly you did.
  
  Rewriting Reality
  
  Let's imagine that traffic is making you late for an important meeting and your anxiety level is on the rise. Ask yourself: What if this delay is a good thing? Repeat the question a few times, and watch how creative your mind can get with its answers.
  
  When you're dealing with a more serious situation, sit down and write out a new reality on a piece of paper. Writing accesses different parts of our brain and affects our beliefs in ways that other modes of expression do not. The act of committing things to writing has been shown to be critical both in changing a person's mind and in making imagined stories feel more real. Write in the present tense: "The speech is going well..." Or, even better, in the past tense: "The speech was a complete triumph..."
  
  Getting Satisfaction
  
  
• Think of one person in your life who has aggrieved you.
  
• Take a blank page and write that person a letter saying anything and everything you wish you had ever told them. Really get into this - you have nothing to lose. Make sure you write it out by hand.
  
• When you've gotten absolutely everything off your mind and onto paper, put the letter aside.
  
• Take a fresh sheet and write their response just the way you WISH they would respond. You might have them taking responsibility for their actions, acknowledging and apologizing for everything they've ever done that hurt you. You don't need to find any justification in their actions, just an acknowledgment and an apology. It's your imagination, so you get to decide exactly what you'd like to hear.
  
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  That's most of the exercises through Chapter 4. There are tons more, and the book is excellent, so I would recommend you pick it up.
  
  I also remember an exercise from Models (at least I think it was Models...) where you make a list of all the traits you are looking for in a partner, no matter how shallow. Wait a few hours or a day and go back through the list circling the ones that are most important to you. You can make a new list and narrow it down, or keep narrowing down the existing list as often as you'd like. The idea is that when you're done you have a pretty solid list of the things that are really actually important to you in finding a partner.

Man, I wish I were more impulsive, creative, witty, and funny/goofy.

The Art of Seduction: I haven't read it (except the intro).
http://www.amazon.com/Art-Seduction-Robert-Greene/dp/1861977697

What the intro says is there many types of personalities and seductive personalities. So if you're goofy, make it work for you. Don't try to be the Ryan Gosling (who by the way I've heard does not have nearly the charming personality that you may have, but yes if I were of a certain persuasion I would totally bang him based on his looks.). Be goofy and charming.

Secondly, girls aren't fawning over Ryan Gosling's and Channing Tatum's personalities. They're fawning over their looks. Now unless you have the right genetics and epigenetics, you're not going to look like them. But you can look the best you can look. Get a nice haircut, and start dressing nicer. Hit the gym and get the Gosling/Tatum muscles.

As for things you enjoy, keep enjoying them. I think you can separate your worlds pretty well.

Listen bud, being in shape brings about many more things than just looking good. Looking better OBVIOUSLY will help you attract more females - but it's the confidence and success that training hard brings.

You build character when you train. You've set a goal towards something. No one is making you do it, you are doing it yourself. You are building the quality of persistence. This quality carries over into ALL aspects of your life: work, school, girls, goals, etc. When you hone your qualities of persistence and perseverance, every aspect of your life is likely to improve. Your confidence grows as a result. As your confidence grows, you realize how trivial all of the bullshit you used to worry about is.

long story short, getting in shape carries over into your life. Every improvement in your life shows through in social situations. Women pick up on this - women love when men are confident and comfortable with their lives and themselves. I'd say getting in shape could be the first link the chain of building some important qualities that you apparently don't have. The first being self respect (referring to your comment about getting exes back).

ADVICE:
go here and buy this:
http://www.amazon.com/Starting-Strength-3rd-Mark-Rippetoe/dp/0982522738/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1333906091&sr=8-1
FOLLOW IT TO THE LETTER AND DON'T QUESTION ANYTHING IN IT.


Being out of shape is not your problem, being a man is your problem. Become a man and things become clearer. Becoming strong is a very logical step in this process.

Try this one:
https://www.amazon.ca/You-Are-Not-Your-Brain/dp/1583334831

It helped me a lot, and at the same time I was starting to use Headspace, an app to learn mindfulness meditation.


One good trick I did: AudioBooks while training. I train for marathon so that means I have a lot of time to listen to those kind of things, might as well use this time to grow!

I've seen "Influence" recommended by someone else, it is a great book also! A lot of book on influence, selling tactics and the ilk are really good, as long as they are used in the right way; It’s not meant to “manipulate” someone into something, but for you to put yourself in the shoes of the “potential client”, understand her needs and try to fulfil them. It’s all about getting a win-win for everyone (sometimes, a win-win situation is also not wasting your time with someone!)

I also read a lot about the difference in male and female. The psychology of both genres differs in some key points that are real logical when you understand them! Like the need to feel safe, for instance, before a woman will “connect” and before you even think of escalating.

One last book I highly recommend, “Emotions Revealed” by Paul Ekman, about recognizing emotions (in yourself as well as the others). Dr Ekman is well renowned on the subject of psychology and the research of emotional intelligence.

Last one, for the road, cause I tought of it while I was writing: The Emotional Life of your Brain By Richard J. Davidson. A neuroscientist approach on how you can take control of your brain, how you can shape it for your needs and reprogram your “filter” to enable you to go further!

Hope this helps!

Read this! There are free PDFs available if you know where to look as well (I had no qualms against downloading; Dale Carnegie died in 1955). The title kind of makes it sound like a sleezy self help book, but it is actually excellent and extremely useful. His number one step for "Twelve Ways to Win People to Your Way of Thinking" is the only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. Numbers eight and nine? Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view. and Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.

It can be developed. Phil was just born into a great situation in terms of charisma. His family and early teachers knew enough about it to teach it to him young. Same with any other "natural" at anything.

Ok, you need to read this book. The Charisma Myth.

The general conclusion is that charisma is the product of 3 things. Power, Warmth, and Presence. Power is the ability to change the world around you. Warmth is how willing you are to use your power to help others. And presence is being in the moment, focused on who you're with, making them feel important and understood.

I think the necessary ingredient for any charisma is power. And there are many forms of power in many different situations. But if you don't have power, then warmth and presence are not enough to give you hard-hitting charisma. It's absolutely learnable though and I wish you all the best.

I really recommend Eckart Tolle's Practicing The Power of Now (http://www.amazon.com/Practicing-Power-Now-Essential-Meditations/dp/1577311957). The practicing version is simply a practical, easier to understand version of his original book, from what I've gathered.

I haven't read ANY spiritual books before this one, and I simply cannot leave it alone. It's enlightened me in so many ways. From lifting weights, to be charming, to explore life, to sit home alone, to SLEEP BETTER (yess!). It's given me a new outlook on life that I can explore whenever I feel like, and it is great!

Ok, but I'm wary of you. Your post is very academic, in every sense of the word. I expect field reports from you in return for what I'm about to give you.

A great book on improv was written by a legendary man named Del Close. He's not famous, but his students are very, very well known.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Del_Close

The book is Truth in Comedy.
http://www.amazon.com/Truth-Comedy-Improvisation-Charna-Halpern/dp/1566080037

It will teach you quite a lot about improv, but also about humor in general. It's short, practical, and accessible - but it will make more sense when you've actually tried to do it. Let me know what you think when you've read it.

Have you seen this book?

It’s a best seller. For almost two decades.

Surprise!

Women and men aren’t too different.

We’re all just people.

And we all want the same thing: sex, love, companionship.

Understand that powerful desire and your game will be good.

To be honest: I'm not a great fan of weed. It amplifies psychological problems like anxiety or depression. I had my fair share of them and one important step to recovery was to quit (If you are interested r/leaves).
If it hinders the process? I don't know to be honest and frankly there could be no answer on this question, because it could depend on the person.

What you could do about your thoughts is pausing Transformation Mastery for a while and reading this book: Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy .
This book will help you get rid of these thoughts and will give you a jump start.
Another one, which is not nearly as important as this amazing book is: You Are Not Your Brain.
And if you're really really ambitious this one The Happiness Trap too.

If you can't afford these books pm me.

Are you talking to lots of girls?

Until you've talking to lots of girls and getting some field experience under your belt, your feelings have nothing to do with girls nor Seddit, it's just a reflection of your emotions. Take small steps and don't be unfair to yourself.

If you are talking to lots of girls and still have this scarcity mentality about women, then I recommend one or more of the following:

• Read The Way of the Superior Man for some guidance about where women should fit in for you.
  
  
• Work on being more positive (google Positivity Challenge)
  
  
• Get therapy
  
  If you are talking to lots of girls and only are feeling this way momentarily, I know that feel, bro. Picking up girls can be frustrating. You stay in it because the payoff is better than the sacrifices you make along the way.

Don't. Just show up; she'll be there. If she's not text her and tell her you're there already. If she says "I didn't think you were coming because you didn't confirm" say something like "of course I'm gonna come, I'm a man of my word." Most guys text before dates and it makes them weak and insecure "just making sure I'm good enough for you to still want to come.", if you don't text it'll set you apart from other guys and will make you seem confident. If you have a definite date, time and place; that's all you need. I have a Tinder date setup for tomorrow 7:30 in OB (San Diego). After I setup the date I said I was busy (I did get busy at work), but looking forward to meeting her tomorrow; that's it. I'm not gonna call to confirm.


Good luck my friend.

Also, read this book:

https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Man-Corey-Wayne/dp/1411673360

>Seduction implies a me vs her mentality,

How? I think we're simply disagreeing on terms now. Seduction is giving her a fun dream to enjoy. But in the semantic argument, we've now entered into philosophy.

> She becomes an object

We're all objects to each other via our perspective. This is the nature of consciousness until you cross over into Enlightenment.

I see what you're trying to say, and I agree, but you're simply changing terms. I doubt I'm going to persuade you to see seduction as a cooperative act, but here's my best shot.

You can't trick people. It's really impossible. People trick themselves. You never "seduced" a woman by your definition of seduction. She decided to play along in the role of "the seduced."

However, in my definition, it is a cooperative act because in order to seduce, you must first be seduced, i.e., attracted enough to care to seduce her. It's a mutual act of dreamweaving. She bats her eyes at you, you approach, spit some game, she laughs and touches your chest, you two go home together, you both open your bodies to each other.

At no point was one person doing anything to the other exclusively.

If seduction is manipulation, then you're manipulating each other, so really neither of you is being played as you're both being played.

Your definition cancels itself out. And even if you do switch over to my definition, the same thing is still happening, you're simply seeing it differently.

This is getting very close to becoming a Zen koan....

"What is the sound of a man seducing himself?"

I think you would enjoy Zan Perrion's book, The Alabaster Girl. I've actually met Zan, too, and can confirm he knows his shit.

> I’ve got my life on track, in terms of academics, career and social life.

You're doing great, then. These are more important than bedding drunk chicks at parties.

I believe you'll benefit greatly from Corey's 3% Man book. He gives it away for free. Direct link: http://d-f.scribdassets.com/docs/8csal3wi805xskrp.pdf

It's concise and suitable for men who already have a life, rather than schmucks like me.

Wrote that from my mobile. To spell the links out, what can be helpful for you are those:

https://www.amazon.com/New-Rules-Attraction-Keep-Make/dp/1402266529/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=arden+leigh&qid=1554639308&s=gateway&sr=8-1

https://www.amazon.com/Art-Seduction-Robert-Greene/dp/1861977697/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=art+of+seduction&qid=1554639377&s=gateway&sr=8-1

https://www.amazon.com/Introducing-NLP-Psychological-Understanding-Neuro-Linguistic/dp/1573244988/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=introducing+nlp&qid=1554639402&s=gateway&sr=8-1

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Besides those, a lot of the knowledge base in PUA comes from stuff like

https://www.amazon.com/Evolutionary-Psychology-New-Science-Mind/dp/1138088617/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=evolutionary+psychology&qid=1554639453&s=gateway&sr=8-1

There's probably some more books for both genders, but there's also quite a market for books just for females (like the one by arden leigh), where you can find all sorts of things, like even exotical stuff like

https://www.amazon.com/Ho-Tactics-Uncut-Spending-Sponsoring/dp/0692258841/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=ho+tactics&qid=1554639560&s=gateway&sr=8-1

but the issue is pretty much the same one as in the dating / seduction / pickup niche for us guys, you stand in a huge pile of crap and have to search for the gold nuggets on your own.

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> Could you share how you got over your own personal racial mental block?

Your issue is race and maybe height. Some guys are fat, some are bald. Start by realizing that everyone has some issue. Which issue is irrelevant. The technique that works for one issue works for the others, too.

The good news is that most PUA material is designed for you. Instead of saying "sack up", it's broken down into step-by-step material. Imagine a psychiatrist with a depressed patient. Instead of "get it together" he'll give specific steps like "list 3 good things in your life".

The Rules of the Game is very detailed and step-by-step. It's 30 days of missions, each mission is 5 minutes of reading and then you go do something. It's all very specific, stuff like "smile at 5 people" and "talk to a stranger for at least 1 minute".

The book was too beginner for me so I can't comment on how effective it is but might be right for you. Just trust that there are people out there that know more about this stuff than you and that if you follow their advice, you will succeed.

I read Why Men Love Bitches. The advice was pretty solid. I hear the Rules is good too, although at this point it's a little old-school.

If anyone is interested, there is a book outlining many of these suggestions and how to practice them so they become second nature. It has been a fantastic resource for me so I thought I would pass it along. The book is entitled: The Charisma Myth and is available on Amazon for under $12.00. Here is a link for those interested. http://www.amazon.com/The-Charisma-Myth-Personal-Magnetism/dp/1591845947

only confident people click, or at least, topically confident. you took the movies too personally and your lost in a delusion. Do spontaneous clicks happen? yes,same way anyone can be president or drop out of school and become a billionaire. unlikely (very, very unlikely) but possible.

i dont know who told you you need to be an asshole, what you need to learn to do is actually go out there and get what you want."Closed mouths dont get fed"

Read this book.Pirate it if you must and then buy it later if it works for you.

Rules of the game

Take the book day by day, it makes a difference. you dont need to know all this "PUA" shit.

Another book that tailors specifically to your issue

the rational male

practically word for word from what your saying to what the books saying. outside looking in PUA doesn't make any logical sense but we are not creatures of logic, we are creatures of emotion. if we werent, you wouldnt feel shame, guilt or even love.

There are many books on comedy wrting including http://www.amazon.com/Comedy-Writing-Secrets-Best-Selling-Edition/dp/1582973571/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1406897234&sr=8-1&keywords=comedy+writing and http://www.amazon.com/How-Write-Funny-Step---Step-ebook/dp/B00K9PI7AQ/ref=sr_1_10?ie=UTF8&qid=1406897250&sr=8-10&keywords=comedy+writing. They might help.

Which comedians do you personally think are funny? Which sitcoms? Which RomComs?

-Cuisine, www.daygamer.net

it's not just about having a gym membership, make sure you use it! The biggest obstacle for me was ignorance of what to do, how to do it, and when to do it.

Read this so you understand the what and why.
http://www.amazon.com/Starting-Strength-3rd-Mark-Rippetoe/dp/0982522738/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1395930051&sr=8-1&keywords=starting+strength

Watch these so you understand the how.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tMAiNQJ6FPc&list=PLNhFKPjedRnRrgZbcM1TbI7YTD0pxqMgH

Never let yourself NOT go to the gym for more than 3 consecutive days. Put in the work for just a couple weeks and you'll see great results!

And remember, "learn before you load". Don't be that guy who tries to do too much too soon.

Good luck!

A few, in no particular order:

The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire
http://amzn.com/1591792576

Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion (Collins Business Essentials)
http://amzn.com/006124189X

Mastering Your Hidden Self: A Guide to the Huna Way (A Quest Book)
http://amzn.com/0835605914

My Secret Garden: Women's Sexual Fantasies
http://amzn.com/0671019872

Introducing NLP: Psychological Skills for Understanding and Influencing People (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)
http://amzn.com/1573244988

What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People
http://amzn.com/0061438294

The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature
http://amzn.com/0060556579

Outliers: The Story of Success
http://amzn.com/0316017930

Iron John: A Book About Men
http://amzn.com/0306813769

• The Comic Toolbox by John Vorhaus <-- Learn to make jokes
  
• The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle <-- For inner game
  
• The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey <-- Not necessarily pickup-related, but it's good overall life advice.

It's one of those personality quizzes/tests. It was pretty popular back in the day.

Unless I'm not remembering right, some of the interpretations were related to how the person answering the quiz viewed sex. Instant introduction to sex as a topic.

http://www.amazon.com/books/dp/0062512668

have you heard of starting strength before?

nothing like heavy-ass squats and deadlifts to improve your appearance :-)

The attitude you wrote is not alpha. Search books on becoming an alpha male. I personally read this one and started implementing to my life (http://www.amazon.com/How-Become-Alpha-Male-Successful/dp/1411636600 - there is a torrent for it too) and I see a lot of success (e.g I get opened all the time), so I will recommend this for you. But any other one you find will work too. Its all the same.

Watch this video. To reiterate PowerBroFist's point, if you can't be happy by yourself, you can't be happy with her. You must deal with your depression, my friend. Know that you aren't alone in that battle. Many people, myself included, battle depression daily. Believe it is a battle that you can win. And I don't mean to peddle pop psychology but reading The Power of Now helped me. Everyone is different but you may give it a shot. Good luck to you.

Is the book you were thinking of The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida? The cover matches your description - it's an image of the Vitruvian Man by da Vinci.

Well, after I read the sample chapter on his website, it is almost a direct rip-off of this guy: The Alabaster Girl

Not sure if the entire book is like this, but it sure doesn't seem original or new.

Make friends first, then find a girl.

If you want an actual book, here's some gold for ya.

Used to have a bunch of audio files (he [I believe it was him EDIT: **Wrong, meant RSD] did presentations on this stuff) back when I wanted to learn more about interactions and such, I'd have to do some heavy searching for em now.

This is from a book I read when I was young: The Cube

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1582973571

The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1591844568?pc_redir=1410152966&robot_redir=1

http://www.amazon.com/Cube-Keep-Secret-Annie-Gottlieb/dp/0062512668

Did you go through Neil Strauss' Rules of the Game?

http://www.amazon.com/Rules-Game-Neil-Strauss/dp/0061540455

Arden Leigh is what you'd be looking for:

http://ardenleigh.typepad.com/blog/2009/07/a-girls-guide-to-seducing-johnny-depp.html

She's working on a book, but unpublished as of yet:

http://www.amazon.com/New-Rules-Attraction-Keep-Make/dp/1402266529

I'm guessing he is talking about this:

http://www.amazon.ca/Rules-Game-Neil-Strauss/dp/0061540455

There isn't really one right now; the Mating Grounds is probably as close as it gets.

Edit to add, Rules of the Game is also good, and it has more of "do this activity, then that one" feel.

Finally, go sign up for salsa classes. Make yourself do it and keep going, at least once a week, no matter what and no matter how stupid you might feel at first. Get a pair leather-soled dancing shoes. Wear jeans that fit you to class.

I know this is slightly unrelated, but it's really not.

You have massive 'inner perception' problems. Everybody here is going to talk about inner-game, but I'm going to take it a step further.

A psychedelic experience.

What is the Psychedelic Experience?

A floatation tank, meditation, psilocybin, LSD, DMT or ayahuasca will ALL make you confront yourself, the egoic filter is literally BLASTED away, there's nothing left but you and raw emotion and you can work through a ton of stuff, such as getting validation from deep within yourself, and another- that in this moment, everything is actually okay, and you already have anything you could possibly need. (It's possible, I promise!)

People will throw game books at you, but since you have read models and no more mr nice guy, you should really check this one out.

The power of now

At least you have somewhere to work from now! Before you can fix it you had to know it was there, ya?