Top products from r/survivorsofabuse
We found 47 product mentions on r/survivorsofabuse. We ranked the 19 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
1. Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 2
Used Book in Good Condition
2. The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control and Becoming Whole
Sentiment score: 2
Number of reviews: 1
3. Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You
4. Invincible: The 10 Lies You Learn Growing Up with Domestic Violence, and the Truths to Set You Free
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
5. The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Expanded Third Edition: How to recognize it and how to respond
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
6. Wild Republic Jumbo Wolf Plush, Giant Stuffed Animal, Plush Toy, Gifts for Kids, 30 Inches
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
Realistic fur makes this playful plush wolf one of the more lifelike stuffed animals, and its soft cuddly filling keeps this giant plush toy huggable.Approximate size of this wolf plush is 30 inches; these large stuffed animals are easy to clean and surface washable.Made of high quality fabrics, all...
7. The Validation Breakthrough: Simple Techniques for Communicating with People with Alzheimer's and Other Dementias
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
8. Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents How to Heal from Distant Rejecting or Self Involved Parents
9. Mind-Body Workbook for Anger: Effective Tools for Anger Management and Conflict Resolution (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook)
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Mind-Body Workbook for Anger: Effective Tools for Anger Management & Conflict Resolution
10. Life After Trauma, Second Edition: A Workbook for Healing
Sentiment score: 2
Number of reviews: 1
11. What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl's Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
12. Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder
Sentiment score: -1
Number of reviews: 1
Stop Walking on Eggshells Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder
13. Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Used Book in Good Condition
14. ACT on Life Not on Anger: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Guide to Problem Anger
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Used Book in Good Condition
15. She Can Fly: A Domestic Violence Survival Story
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
16. The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
17. Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in their Struggle for Self
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Personally, I'm very indebted to self-help books. It may sound silly, but that was seriously more helpful than any therapist has been for me. They give me a way to process new information without having to feel vulnerable in front of someone right that minute, you know? The most useful to me, that relate to your post at least, was The Verbally Abusive Relationship. It helped me to wrap my head around what happened, and helped me feel strong enough to give new relationships a shot. For me at least, that book helped to draw me out of the fear and other symptoms that I was living with.
I think, in the end, the struggle we go through will eventually make us stronger people; more empathetic, more able to see the difference between subtle bad signs and good ones, and more equipped to support other survivors. It just takes a lot to turn us into those people... But the future is there. Eventually, this will all be just a story that you'll tell about the life experiences that gave you your wisdom and strength.
Oh my Goodness what you went through is straight up torture I am SO sorry wow. I have a couple ideas, I get free treatment through the county I live in, so mabye theres a county program you can go through? i had to jump through some hoops but it was worth it and i was placed in a TREM group, which is a trauma recovery group. if thats not an option you might want to look into groups that meet and talk about their abuse mabye on meetup.com? I just looked it up and there are a lot of trauma and abuse groups. Hopefully theres one near you. And third if both these options wont work it might help to do a workbook on trauma such as https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Workbook-Mind-Body-Regaining-ebook/dp/B01NCIA00Q/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?crid=1NUEGB2JZIKZE&keywords=trauma+workbook&qid=1555598892&s=gateway&sprefix=trauma+work%2Caps%2C139&sr=8-1-spons&psc=1
or https://www.amazon.com/Life-After-Trauma-Second-Workbook/dp/1606236083/ref=sr_1_5?crid=1NUEGB2JZIKZE&keywords=trauma+workbook&qid=1555598931&s=gateway&sprefix=trauma+work%2Caps%2C139&sr=8-5.
A combination of all three methods would probably be ideal!
I am so sorry for all you've been through truly is horrific. I applaud you for moving forward and focusing on the solution ecspecially at such a young age. It really says a lot about you. Once you get health insurance look into EMDDR I've had lots of friends and my sister have great results with it. HUGS.
It is really scary. Try to take deep breaths before a date to control the anxiety. Yes, you have to just take it VERY slowly. You need to establish some trust with the person before considering anything physical. With that trust in place, you can confide that you need to take it slow. You don't have to be explicit, you can just say "I have a complicated past, and I really need to take it slow as far as intimacy, even with just kissing. Is this okay with you?"
If they're in a rush, they're probably not a good fit for you. I know it's really frustrating.
Reading this book also helped me.
Best of luck!
Well. While we do not diagnose here, I will suggest looking into C-PTSD because that is a) pretty likely what's under all your other symptoms at the level of physiology, and b) what we would treat for to deal with all the symptomatic upshots of it. Suggested:
Nina Brown's Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents
Eleanor Payson's The Wizard of Oz and other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family
Lindsay Gibson's Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
Elan Golomb's Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in the Struggle for Self
Susan Forward's Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life (a bit long in tooth now, but still useful) and Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You
Kimberlee Roth & Frieda Friedman's Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem
(I was raised by crazymakers, and got a lot of clarity about how I imitated my abusers and/or compensated with all manner of defense mechanisms for the effects of having been in-struct-ed, programmed, conditioned, socialized and/or normalized to the state of learned helplessness in which I lived when my defenses failed me.)
To find the clinicians who know how to use these psychotherapies, look here, and here, and here, and (for DBT specialists in particular) here. If you dig a little on each page, you will be able to see which therapies they use. Most MD / psychiatrists, btw, are not therapists themselves (they are medication specialists), but can refer you to those who are, and are often -- though not always -- excellent sources of referral.
No you are NOT a whiner. And that's the thing. That pain, that drives us nuts, that drove our parents nuts, and their parents--it does not stop. Not until we face it and release it. <3
Have you read the book "Invincible", by Brian Martin? I think it'll shed a lot of light on what is going on. At least it did for me.
Also try the book Emotional Sobriety by Tian Dayton, and The Shack by William P. Young.
The last one, especially helped me with forgiveness. I hope these books give you what they have given me. A path to peace. And there are more, if you want. I read self help books like they were the life-raft and I was the shipwrecked.
http://theshackbook.com/
http://www.tiandayton.com/signs-of-emotional-sobriety
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00INIXS28/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&amp;btkr=1
God I'm sorry. You didn't deserve the awful shit that happened to you.
I recently read The Gift of Fear. It should be at your local library. It's a fantastic book for breaking down exactly what the signs of violence are so that you can escape a situation early or avoid it altogether. I can't recommend it enough. I've found it much easier to relax around people when I have that information clearly defined in my consciousness.
I would be more than happy to discuss Kerry Keyes' story in my book She Can Fly
I feel the EXACT same way right now. You're not alone.
Someone recommended me this book called Healing Sex but I haven't read it yet... maybe it's helpful for you too.
Following this thread.
i can relate and i’m working through the same things. unfortunately i don’t have advice because i’m still in this mess but someone recommended me this book that i have been reading parts of and i’ve found it comprehensive and insightful.
This has been my cuddle buddy. It is big enough that if you hold it from the front the forepaws can wrap around your neck/shoulders and is really comforting. Sorta big enough to be big spoon in bed too.
I'm going to recommend something that will seem out of left field that I've recommended before to someone here who was in a situation similar to yours. A lot of sexual abuse survivors wind up with borderline personality disorder due to their experiences. There's an excellent book for people in relationships with borderline personality disorder sufferers. Part of it deals specifically with the issues you are likely dealing with. It's full of practical advice and tips. This isn't to say that your partner has borderline personality disorder, of course. Take what's useful and relevant for you, and disregard the rest. The book is called Stop Walking on Eggshells by Mason & Kreger. https://www.amazon.com/Stop-Walking-Eggshells-Borderline-Personality/dp/1572246901