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You could get a cookbook by Ottolenghi (https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=ottolenghi); he's a master of vegetable cookery. Jetpens is a super cool site with awesome stuff for artists and stationary enthusiasts (https://www.jetpens.com). Another option is a beautiful book of an artist's work. I'm also an artist and love impressionism, and Monet is my favorite artist. My boyfriend recently got me this beautiful book with pictures of Monet's gardens in Giverny (https://www.amazon.com/Claude-Monets-Gardens-at-Giverny/dp/1419709607/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1525149442&sr=8-5&keywords=giverny+book); he's also gotten me an Impressionist and Monet textbooks. So depending on what kind of art your friend enjoys, perhaps a book about it would be a good choice. Your friend sounds a lot like me, and I have loved all of these gifts. :)

I’ve been reading Snoop: What Your Stuff Says About You by Sam Gosling and it is very interesting. I think people on this sub would like it since we all like snooping around and dissecting information haha. It’s almost like MTV’s Room Raiders but from a doctorate in psychology’s viewpoint. There’s subconscious meaning behind what types of pictures you hang on your walls and even which walls you hang said pictures on. He can go through someone’s room and paint a pretty accurate portrayal of their personality without ever meeting them. I would think it would be a good read if you’re dating around and want to get a better feel for someone haha. I’m only a few chapters in but it’s very interesting so far!!

I found out about Snoop because it was mentioned in another book I’ve been reading Some We Love, Some We Hate, Some We Eat by Hal Herzog. It’s a book on anthrozoology and talks about the history humans have had with animals, and some moral conundrums we have about them. Are we instinctually afraid of snakes or is it learned behavior? Do people really look like their dogs? (This one was interesting! Human couples that live together start to develop similar facial structures. That’s not true with dogs. We don’t start to look like our dogs but we may pick dogs that look like us. Women with shorter hair are more likely to adopt dogs with perky ears instead of floppy. And students were able to match humans with their dogs with a higher accuracy rate than they would by just random chance). Why do some cultures eat bugs but we think that’s gross, or why do some cultures eat animals that we keep as pets? They talk about the infamous trolly problem and replace it with animals and you can see your own morals start to shift and be questioned. With humans you’d think it’s better to pull the lever to save 5 lives instead of 1... but now replace that problem with 5 birds vs 1 dog and see if your answer is still the same. Very interesting.

Edit: oh oh! One more. And Then You're Dead: What Really Happens If You Get Swallowed by a Whale, Are Shot from a Cannon, or Go Barreling over Niagara. The author did an AMA on reddit which I found interesting so I bought the book and read it in a day. And the chapters are set up so you can just flip around and read what you’re interested in. My favorites include what happens if your window falls out of an airplane and you get sucked out, how many bees you’d have to get stung by at one time before you died (1,500 honeybees), and what happens if you’re in a free falling elevator (jumping won’t do anything. Lay down flat on the ground to disperse the impact... and because if you’re standing up once the elevator stops your intestines will continue to fall and impact themselves out your bottom. And then you die).

Attached is also really good if you like the Attachment Theory.

I found it pretty helpful in understanding some of my behaviours or just recognizing them and how to look for a secure person. I usually would find someone secure “boring” or too nice but looked at them differently as someone worth pursuing:)

https://www.amazon.ca/Attached-Science-Attachment-Find-Keep/dp/1585429139/ref=asc_df_1585429139/?tag=googlemobshop-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=293019384127&hvpos=1o2&hvnetw=g&hvrand=5508430617889597947&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9001627&hvtargid=pla-436644332348&psc=1

I have an anxious attachment style too, and initially I thought it was a bad thing. What I like about this theory is how non-judgmental it all is. Your needs are your needs. I NEED more security and validation from partners, so I NEED to look for someone who is capable of giving me that. Secures can do that, while avoidants cannot.

If this interests you at all, I HIGHLY recommend the book “Attached”

Yes! Their book The Magnolia Story is so sweet. They had such a humble beginning and reading about their success was incredibly inspiring. I think a few episodes of their show are available free online.

Sorry for the delay! I am traveling (and attempting the WiFi-only life). The book is by Nikol Lohr- “Literary Knits: 30 Patterns Inspired by Favorite Books”.

https://www.amazon.com/Literary-Knits-Patterns-Inspired-Favorite/dp/1118216067

Happy knitting!!

UGH I've said this in other threads about him not changing diapers but TANNER ACTS EXACTLY LIKE MY EX-HUSBAND.


Jade, girl, just please read this book and consider whether this is really what you want.

I'm obviously getting to this quite late, but had it bookmarked for a while to check out. :)

I agree with the points you made here, OP, and I think it's so important to consider these factors and influences before we judge the women. Because of how we are socialized, I am someone who has been guilty of judging Hannah B way more than I have judged Caelynn. Caelynn's way of coping has been more similar to mine and is definitely the more "socially appropriate way" even in how she didn't bring it up until she was forced to address it because Hannah B brought it up. Add to this that Caelynn is more contained and more eloquent, and I naturally sided with her in the beginning. Reading your very insightful and well-written post made me call myself out on what I've been doing recently when I watch scenes with their feud. Hannah's reactions have made me uncomfortable, but I completely agree that their (often edited!) behavior shouldn't make us believe one over the other.

I highly recommend this book if you haven't read it yet- I think it's right up your alley! https://www.amazon.com/Dance-Anger-Changing-Patterns-Relationships/dp/0062319043/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1476654196&sr=1-1&keywords=the+dance+of+anger

There are lots of online tests, but I've had the book What Color Is Your Aura?: Personality Spectrums for Understanding and Growth for years, and it is really insightful and always fun to do with new people.

I’m nearly done with my second round right now. You’ll be fine! Order this!! It’s seriously a lifesaver and so much better than aquaphor

Yes absolutely! This is the one I have:

Luxe Bidet Neo 120 - Self Cleaning Nozzle - Fresh Water Non-Electric Mechanical Bidet Toilet Attachment (blue and white) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00A0RHSJO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_8P1NDbV5YWW78

It’s great, a little intense at first but you get used to it! I miss mine when I’m not home lol

No need for power outlets or complicated setups. These bidet attachments fit on almost any toilet and simply tap into the fresh water that goes into the toilet bowl. You can add it in a rental apartment no problem. It's not warm water but that doesn't really matter. Almost all of my friends have these now and everyone swears by them.

There's this one too that I'm planning on reading soon :)

Don't Insult My Intelligence, Derek https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07X98JCB3/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apip_JSvPK1w1FuLgL
The sizes run small FYI!

Yep, saw them in sharleens blog. She also posts a lot of looks for less when the items are stupidly expensive (which luckily these weren't!https://www.amazon.co.uk/jacket-flower-earrings-simple-jewelry/dp/B07CR3DJB3

You gotta get this shit, it's chapstick gold. The only thing that keeps my lips attached to my face.

I also use this overnight lip mask every night. And I do a homemade sugar scrub (put a little bit of coconut oil on an old toothbrush, sprinkle sugar on it til it's fully coated, gently scrub lips) whenever my mouth has hella dandruff.

I've only been on Accutane for a month, but so far, so good with this routine.

Amy Kaufman! She's a film writer for the LA Times. Amazon link here: https://www.amazon.com/Bachelor-Nation-Americas-Favorite-Pleasure/dp/1101985909?tag=nypost-20?tag=nypost-20

There was an excerpt out earlier this week... https://nypost.com/2018/02/27/the-std-that-keeps-most-contestants-from-competing-on-the-bachelor/

That is not a stupid question. I had a lot of the same questions and this book was really insightful.

Also I apologize the book I was talking about it actually called I am Here Now!

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0399184449/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o02__o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

https://www.amazon.com/Diamonds-Hearts-Poetic-Chris-Siegfried/dp/0989313530/ref=redir_mobile_desktop?_encoding=UTF8&%2AVersion%2A=1&%2Aentries%2A=0

Here's the link for the US listing!
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07CR3DJB3/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_3EWBCbB99DJJW

like this?

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0989313530/

THIS. When you know your fertility cycle, you know what days are code red- risk of pregnancy. And you can avoid hormonal birth control. This book is a must read: https://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Your-Fertility-Anniversary/dp/0062326031.

I want in on this but I can t find a kindle version for Canada? Why would the versions even be different smh

Edit : here’s the book for the Canadiaaaa!! Most Dramatic Ever: The Bachelor https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1770413928/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i62EAbGTK9F17

> https://www.amazon.co.uk/jacket-flower-earrings-simple-jewelry/dp/B07CR3DJB3

"No sellers are currently delivering this item to the United States."
Bummer :(