(Part 2) Top products from r/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

lol. I'm an adult but I transitioned without telling my parents. I saw them all the time. We never discussed it although it was obvious. I go to dinner with them in a dress, makeup and a D cup and they still say HE to the waiter. Fuuuuuk! My therapist thought it was hilarious that we all ignored the elephant in the room. Eventually, I gave them two books to read.

Trans Forming Families: Real Stories About Transgendered Loved Ones, 2nd Edition

True Selves: Understanding Transsexualism--For Families, Friends, Coworkers, and Helping Professionals

They were more accepting after that although we never did discuss it. They bought me earrings & stuff which was nice. After my mother passed, my father went to visit his sister who is a retired wealthy doctor. When he came back he seemed more accepting. He also gave me a bunch of my mom's stuff he thought I could use. I suspect my dad and Aunt Wealthy Doctor talked about me and she explained things to him. One other thing, her kids all have mansions, yachts and shit. I don't know if I'm going to make rent this month. Boy was I born into the wrong side of the family. Life sucks then ya die. Time for bed. With my luck I'll wake up again.

Literally my parents irl, at least at first. At least they're trying and have gotten better over time. My mom actually read She's Not There of her own volition and really liked it and thought it was helpful, so we're making progress.

This book. It is a pretty good translation and the commentary is very good. Worth checking out.

The book is basically an in-depth analysis on whether or not gender classification matters in society. The author looks at things like gender markers on IDs and gender segregation in public places like schools, bathrooms, and sports.
I got the book from my local library when I was first beginning to question my gender. The title caught my eye and I thought it might be able to help me sort my thoughts and feelings. It absolutely did not. This book focuses more on gender segregation in society and how it affects and hurts trans (and sometimes cis!) people. Still a good read, just be aware it's very scholarly and factual.

Link to purchase on Amazon: Beyond Trans: Does Gender Matter? https://www.amazon.com/dp/1479855405/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_v6p4AbER143XG

It being performative and constructive doesn't necessarily signify any degree of choice by any means. Most (hardcore) constructivists concede that, though we may recognize the ways in which we socially construct concepts, that doesn't at all mean we can change them on a whim; they're not objective values, but neither are they subjective values, they're intersubjective. Which means a constructed social conception is far from implying any sort of "choice".

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I reckon you probably know it already, but this book comes very highly recommended in case you want to look more into the concept of constructivism within queer theory/gender studies, and an insight into the performativity of gender.

They don't allow people on the spectrum to fully participate in their organization, openly promote eugenics (they want a prenatal t at to eliminate all autism), and they support people who write shit like this:

https://www.amazon.com/Wish-Kids-Had-Cancer-Surviving/dp/1606720708

Stop supporting them

A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns https://www.amazon.com/dp/1620104997/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_AkhZDbXKJHZKN

Not exactly a self help book but it’s good at explaining things

Yep, I always recommend her book, Whipping Girl, to tons of people.

Steven Universe: the Tale of Steven :)

https://www.amazon.com/Steven-Universe-Tale-Rebecca-Sugar/dp/1419741489/ref=nodl_

I've read online about people having some luck with stuff in this. Never checked it out personally so I can't speak from experience.

https://www.amazon.com/Fucking-Trans-Women-FTW-1/dp/1492128937

It was written by a trans woman for transwomen and their partners.

• The Daring Book for Girls
  
• The Dangerous Book for Boys
  
  Check the "Customers Who Bought This Also Bought" section for lots of fun stuff.

Tell her it's been done

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Gravity-Falls-Legends-All-New-Adventures/dp/1368021425?SubscriptionId=AKIAILSHYYTFIVPWUY6Q&tag=duckduckgo-fpas-uk-21&linkCode=xm2&camp=2025&creative=165953&creativeASIN=1368021425

There's From Transgender To Transhuman by Martine Rothblatt

I think this is the one I got.

https://www.amazon.com/Kitten-Costume-Accessories-Cosplay-Halloween/dp/B07WVP9BB2/ref=sr_1_8?dchild=1&keywords=cat+girl+tail&qid=1574128253&sr=8-8

Read this Finding Masculinity It helped me understand that everyone experiences transness differently and there is no one overriding narrative.

She also wanted to be able to tell Evelyn (her daughter) "look, they read my book!" if peiple screamed it at her. She does use the term transsexual a lot for herself, which many younger trans people dont, again pointing to it being a generational thing.

She mentioned being inspired to title it Tranny because of Dick Gregory's autobiography, The N Word (i aint typing it yall can click the link)