Reddit reviews A Special Mother is Born: Parents Share How God Called Them to the Extraordinary Vocation of Parenting a Special Needs Child

I'm sort of responding to you and the user below me.

I personally wouldn't say I fear having a special needs child, but just a nervousness about it. Them having a handicap doesn't make them less of a human... I see them as blessings in the sense that they're people who challenge us to genuinely love another person. Think about it: I work at a nice hotel on a lake, and have had some seemingly well off couples come in with their handicapped children, most of whom I can see being side-eyed by the other 'uppity' guests. I think the challenge to love the children even from far away scared them, and I'll be honest, the challenge sometimes scares me, too.

Or another example, I just saw in my gym the other day a couple of trainers giving physical therapy to a non-responsive, handicapped little boy, and I admired the way I could see the trainers loving him. So in this way, I'm responding to when you say "stuck with that person".. I'm not at all saying it's not difficult. But if they do have a handicap, then yes, I'd mourn their health, but it also isn't the end-all. At that point, it's, "Okay, what can we do now? What are the resources?"

I won't lie to you that what really impacted my opinion on this topic, along with these children and their parents was reading, "A Special Needs Mother is Born." I have a family member with disability, but he is mostly able to care for himself, however, after reading these written personal accounts of parents with special needs children, it totally flipped me upside-down. Parents with handicapped children have my utmost respect.

Here's a link if you were interested: https://www.amazon.com/Special-Mother-Born-Extraordinary-Parenting/dp/1449724167

Sorry I didn't mean to write so much, but there's my thoughts.