Reddit reviews Bare Reality: 100 Women, Their Breasts, Their Stories

I feel you. I didn't grow breasts until I was 13 or 14, and when I did, they were A-cups. When I was a teenager, I was insecure about them and wished they were bigger, and throughout high school and college I exclusively wore push-up bras to try to hide how flat-chested I was. It didn't help that I dated people who weren't nice to me about it: one girl I dated made fun of me for having smaller breasts than her, and a guy I dated made sure to tell me that my breasts looked "small and lopsided."

I can honestly say that I love my breasts now. I wear what are basically training bras: two layers of fabric to make my nipples less visible, but no uncomfortable wires or padding to try to look like I have a body type that I don't. They're super comfy. I wouldn't have agreed at 18, but now at 23, I feel like my breasts are elegant and convenient. As far as plunging necklines, you sure as hell can wear them if you want. Look at this picture of Keira Knightley, dude. With small breasts, you can pull off even lower necklines than most women while being perceived as elegant and classy.

My #1 recommendation to you, which helped me a lot, is to get yourself a copy of this book. The author photographed 100 women's breasts, from ages 18 to 101, and interviewed them about their lives and their relationships to their bodies. The best thing you can do for yourself is to get a sense for what real women's breasts look like, outside of media and porn. See how breasts of different sizes change with age and how almost all women have something to dislike about themselves. It really helped me change my way of thinking about my body.