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Be the Person You Want to Find: Relationship and Self-Discovery
Gosh. So very sorry.
To just highlight a few of the points other posters make:
Here's the fantastic news: you don't have to get a divorce. You don't have to go to therapy. Your wife doesn't need to be confronted or medicated or fixed. These are, of course, options, but none of these options will get you back to the way things were.
Getting back to the way things were isn't actually an option.
Let that sentence percolate for a minute. You're likely to have a lot of emotional response to that fact, and, if you're anything like most people, you'll spend most of your life denying that fact. But you're different than you were when you were a kid. You're different than you were before you had kids. You are growing and changing all the time. It makes sense that your relationship needs to grow and change too.
Getting back to the way things were isn't actually an option.
But, that fact can set you free. You CAN find new ways to love your wife, live your life, and you CAN address some of the things that have cropped up in your relationship.
It's incredibly powerful to realize that you have the power to change your relationship dynamic by changing how you respond to her, how you respond to yourself. Having love and compassion for your wife starts with having love and compassion for yourself. And from a place of love and compassion, real growth and change can happen. You are worth it. Your family is worth it. Your wife is worth it.
Check out "Feeling Good Together" by David Burns. https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0767920821/ref=sxts_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1527002252&sr=1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65
And "Be The Person You Want to Find" by Cheri Huber. https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0963625527/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1527002335&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=be+the+person+you+want+to+find