Reddit reviews Book of Questions: Revised and Updated
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Great product!
Got the idea from this book, http://www.amazon.com/The-Book-Questions-Revised-Updated/dp/0761177310 one of my favorites for thought provoking questions, it's worth a checkout at the library.
I like The Book of Questions and Instant Discussions for high level students.
Books like The Book of Questions and If... might have some questions you can use to spark a conversation. There's a good chance you'll be able to get them from your local library, so check that out. Otherwise, browse some of the stuff that gets posted to r/askreddit and use what seems appropriate. You could do a search for 'best icebreakers' or 'get to know someone' type posts to narrow the subject matter down a bit, too.
Depending on how favorably she takes to it, maybe ask some questions about her childhood. "Did you have/want any pets when you were younger?", "What did you like the most about your elementary school best friend?", "What class did you enjoy the most?", "Who was your favorite singer/group in middle school?" etc.
That is a great tip! I feel like names are something I let fall to the wayside myself.
I read a great post on /r/hntgaf about taking more than 39 seconds to ponder your message so I tried to implement it with a few people I was casually talking with. One person commented "You don't seem like you're lacking in self confidence by the way you speak." I'm usually pretty composed and reserved, so it felt good saying the first thing that came to mind. Obviously, YMMV and don't say some outlandish shit if you're trying to pursue someone.
Also, something that's always worked for me is having an unusual question ready. Play a variant of an ice breaker game, so it doesn't seem so forced. I own The Book of Questions and a few other versions. Don't make it an interview, but having a spontaneous creative question shows you aren't just waiting for them to lead the conversation.
Referring to them as "Friend 1", "Friend 2", and so on seems a bit dehumanizing/clinical, no?
I any case, I think lists of questions are great under the right circumstances -- I've made ample use of them on long road trips and hiking trips on occasion, and they've provided a springboard for plenty of 10-15 hour long conversations. I think one issue with the ones you're using is that a lot of them are really boring and don't really provide fertile ground for followup discussion. I've probably most enjoyed going through Greg Stock's books (e.g. 1, 2, 3, which you can pick up used for a few bucks each), as well as the "If..." series and books of thought experiments. Each question usually provides 5-120 minutes of conversation, with median time being, I dunno, 15ish minutes.
And I'll second recommendations on getting out and doing other things while conversing with people in person. It doesn't have to be too active -- a walk will do.
The Book of Questions?
https://www.amazon.com/Book-Questions-Revised-Updated/dp/0761177310
I'm sorry. :'(
What helped us is the app Couple (it's free). It's all the best features of every messenger all rolled into one, plus doodling, location sharing, and Snapchat all in one app. We still use it because it's fun.
Talk each other to sleep, and fall asleep on the phone. This helped me when I couldn't sleep without him - it was like a stepping stone being able to fall asleep alone again. Have your visits planned at least two ahead, instead of just one at a time. That helped me feel like I had a better handle on things. Somehow knowing the date of the next time you'll see them makes it a little less horrible to leave. Also, we loved (and still love!) The Book of Questions so that our conversations could be exciting and thoughtful when we were in the mood. In person you have lots of moments when both of you are in the mood to be deep, but from a distance, keeping a balance of meaningless and meaningful conversations is a conscious effort.
Also, keep your chin up. If you want to make this work, you totally can. <3
Sure! As mentioned, I do think the book I linked before is the best one, but here are some others that I personally own:
And there's this one, which I don't own but it might also be good:
Lastly, I have the Q&A a Day journal and enjoy filling it out on my own. There's a Q&A a Day for couples that might be fun to fill out with your SO, among many other couples' journals.
I think it'd be cool to have one copy of whichever journal for each person; they could be filled out independently and you could compare answers with your SO!