Reddit reviews Dom's Guide To Submissive Training: Step-by-step Blueprint On How To Train Your New Sub. A Must Read For Any Dom/Master In A BDSM Relationship (Men's Guide to BDSM) (Volume 1)

You have your work cut out for you. Here is my advice:

• Sit your husband down and have another talk (I know this hasn't gotten you what you wanted in the past, but I have some tips here) Sit him down and explain that 1. This NEEDS to change for you. and that 2. This NEEDS to change NOW. Tell him how much you love him, how committed you are to him, how you desperately want this to work out, but that he NEEDS to get on board with this for your mental, emotional and spiritual health.
  
  Hopefully he will be on board, it actually sounds like he was open to the idea, but he probably has no clue where to start or what to do and is afraid to ask. That's where step 2 comes in.
  
  
• Educate him about what you need you and what you want, be specific! (you may have done this before, but again, let's approach it a little bit differently this time). Present him with some materials. Have him read the importance of being GGG Good, Giving and Game I'd also suggest presenting him with these two books:
  A Dom's Guide To Submissive Training
  and
  The Ultimate Guide to Kink (By Tristan Taormino)
  
  Is he not much into reading? Then both of you should watch:
  
  Tristan Taormino's Rough Sex (if you're into rough sex)
  
  or
  
  Tristan Taormino's kinky sex for couple
  
  
• Step 3, put it into practice! Pick a date in the near future, go shopping for a paddle or some rope, either online or if you have a quality sex shop near you, go there. Ideally, if you have the time and money, go out that night maybe a weekend get-away with the plan for a romantic dinner, followed by some kinky role-play with the new toys.
  
  TLDR: Tell him you need this, show him exactly what you need. Give him the tools (mental, emotional, physical) to give you what you need. Set the date, and follow through.