Reddit reviews Essence of Shibari: Kinbaku and Japanese Rope Bondage
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I also thank you very much for the effort putting together the resources.
 
Sorry for being such a nit-picker and please, don't take me wrong, I don't want to be rude or anything, quite opposite, I just want to friendly let you know (and possibly help) that:
 
Okay, that must look very nitpickingly:D Sorry for that, I don't really mean it. And it gets even weirder because the main reason I'm writting this comment is completely different. I've found this archived thread - A Beginner's Guide to Kinbaku (#10 from the list) - where there're a four recommendations for a books on the topic, suitable for beginners.
They seem lil bit older (10+ years) but I don't mind that at all. On top of that, it seems to me there are many many others. (From what I've quickly skimmed so far - this one looks interesting. But as I said, just from a quick Amazon search of the term "shibari" there is a whole lot of others. Also, this piece called The Beauty of Kinbaku somehow got my attention... that it might be very profound or something. (But I suppose not much suitable for completely newbie looking just for how-tos for tying and (a lot of:)) introductory-type of information.)
So as myself being hopeless bookworm (and admittedly a paper/e-ink dinosaur) could you recommend - or anybody from the whole community - the best (in your opinion) 1-3 books suitable for beginners? Or do you know if there's a good (curated ideally) list of beginners books on shibari/kinbaku (short descriptions with an evaluation, pros and cons, etc)? Or just which one would you recommend the most to start with?
(My goal is to learn as much as I can on my own... maybe later try some entirely safe basics with my (uninterested) friend(s)... before I get involved IRL in the community. In short, at the moment I'm just doing my research:) I don't haste anywhere, it may take me months or even years, I don't have any special intention, just a pure interest or fascination of your amazingly beautiful art:))
Thank you in advance.
> I honestly have never set any boundaries with her.
This is very common with heterosexual couples, I find. Men typically don't worry about boundaries as much because we often have the physical strength to stop most times someone would cross the line.
I think more dialogue about finding out what she likes about this kind of sex would do you both some good. Because maybe your boundaries are so far down the road that the only ones you need to be more concerned about are hers. That's kinda what my wife and I have. Also, I'm the more dominate one, so I'm the one restraining her, not the other way around.
And yes, you should definitely shop for sex toys together. It's fun and it makes sure you both can get something that excites you.
She didn't like the hitachi wand?! I've honestly never heard of that. Every woman I've ever talked to about acts like it's Chris Hemsworth in a thong, holding chocolates. I know this sounds stupid, but is she using it right? Maybe someone else can chime in with some advice because I don't know.
And yes, I have recommendations. First off, cheap handcuffs. Idk what equipment you have now, but find something comfortable and cheap. My motto for equipment for home repairs is always buy a cheap one first, use it til you break it, then upgrade to something you'll know you like because you've got experience with that piece of equipment. And we've found the same logic works with sex toys.
Her first vibrator was fun, but rigid in an uncomfortable way, sometimes. I had to be careful when using it. Then we got the wand and she fell in love with it. And now we have a new one that's better for penetration.
So with the handcuffs, start cheap and comfortable. I even recommend not getting real handcuffs, but instead get fabric ones. With velcro. Just as secure, and relatively easy to remove by herself if she needs to.
I definitely recommend this book as well: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1942733852/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o03_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
It takes some practice working your way up to more complicated ties, but my wife finds this practice endlessly sexy. And if you go this route, get a 25 ft cut of this kind of rope: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0751VTMZQ/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o04_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
25 ft should let you do most of the basic ties, and then you can get more and longer ropes when you want to try the harder ties.
It's soft and durable and cheap. Great starting rope until you guys figure out what you want. You can achieve secure ties without causing rope burn (unless she wants that sort of thing).
Also, back to boundaries for a second. Safewords are important. 99% of the time you'll never need to use them. But it's better to have them and not need them than need them and not have them.
I don't recommend picking something weird and funny. Just go simple and effective. Yellow or Orange for "slow down" and Red for "hard stop". Again, we never use them, but we know them.
Good luck! Be safe!
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Well its mineral oil which is (as far as I understand it) one of the better things to use because unlike natural oil it can't go rancid...
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Hey,
Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage by Midori is a delicate way to introduce someone to the pleasure of rope bondage especially if they have no prior experience in kink. The techniques introduced in the book are easy to follow and honestly, the style of the author is truly enjoyable and erotic. The ties are fairly simple so if you know how to tie a double column tie you probably will get more benefits of the next book.
Essence of Shibari: Kinbaku and Japanese Rope Bondage by Shin Nawakari provides a less entertaining but way more professional/technical focused approach. It still starts from the real basics but by the end of the book, intermediate ties are introduced. I recommend this book from my heart to someone who already knows that they are into shibari.
The static picture-based guides might be hectic in the beginning but luckily https://crash-restraint.com/ has plenty of high-quality videos for free.
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For intermediate and above progression I was studying from https://vimeo.com/ondemand/shibaristudy. Superb content with advanced techniques and bondages mostly for suspension. (In this level, it might be also good to join your local shibari community and learn directly from more experienced people.)
Yep:
https://www.amazon.com/Essence-Shibari-Kinbaku-Japanese-Bondage/dp/1942733852/
https://www.amazon.com/Shibari-You-Can-Use-Japanese/dp/0977872726/
https://www.amazon.com/dp/193116049X/
He's starting with:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Essence-Shibari-Piez-Jeng-Nawakari/dp/1942733852/ref=mp_s_a_1_2?keywords=shibari&qid=1557581145&s=gateway&sr=8-2