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My son doesn't display everything you've described, but some of it is similar. Kids would yell all the time "Hi, John!" and he wouldn't say anything back. This started when he was fairly young (4-5 years old). I would always whisper to him, "Say 'hi'." Because I knew how it looked. I knew he was just shy or unsure about how to react, but it looked like he was being rude. So, I sat him down and was very specific. "When kids say hi to you, you say hi back. It's friendly and you can make more friends that way and keep the friends you already have. When they say hi to you, it means they like you."
I don't try to be vague: "Treat others how you want to be treated." That can mean a million different things to a 5-7 year old.
I tell him to play with his friends when he's with his friends (birthdays, at the park, at school, soccer, etc.). It shows that he appreciates them being there with him.
He's 8 years old now and is doing much better. He says "hello" and "goodbye" to anyone who says it to him. He loves going to school and never complains about "not having friends."
I recommend this book:
How to Make & Keep Friends: Tips for Kids to Overcome 50 Common Social Challenges
It's very specific and simple enough for young kids. It lists out actions kids can take to make friends.
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These actions are secondary nature to you and me and other adults, but not to a lot of young children. And no, you don't have to be autistic to miss these cues. Some kids are just in their own little world when they're young.
I have a feeling you'll need this
Try How To Be a Friend or Growing Friendships. There's also How to Make & Keep Friends and Speak Up and Get Along, aimed at slightly older kids.
http://www.amazon.com/How-Make-Keep-Friends-Challenges/dp/1456313460/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1341646040&sr=8-2&keywords=how+to+make+friends