Reddit reviews The Dissociative Identity Disorder Sourcebook (Sourcebooks)
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The reason why people like us don't tell the people around us is because we fear that it will change how they treat us. I've been called a liar and unfriended sure but the worst is when people pity us and treat us not as people but as a condition. So when he says that he doesn't want to see a therapist that should be his choice, I agree with you that he should seek out any help he can but it won't matter if he isn't into it (something something you can't make a horse drink).
If you want to help then sit down with them and offer to listen to what they have to say, it might take years and you might not ever hear about everything but that's okay because we multiples sometimes take a long time to open up.
When different parts come out treat them as friends with open arms and not as a burden as they are just as important as your husband and even though they might be a pain in the ass they exist to fullfil a role that may or may not be relevant now.
Buy and read this book, it's the only DID book we've read that we agreed with 100%.
The Dissociative Identity Disorder Sourcebook (Sourcebooks) https://www.amazon.com/dp/0737303948/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apap_eA3PRDUuKCURG
ngl i wouldn't trust youtubers like this. There's a huge issue with that right now, and something about the entropy system really rubs me the wrong way. A lot of youtube videos that are very..."entertainment" centered like "SWITCH CAUGHT ON CAMERA :O" are extremely voyeuristic and fetishistic of us and our struggles.
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I would recommend this DID sourcebook, that can be bought on amazon, as a ways to learn about the others and about yourself. It was made for therapists and DID systems alike.
I also recommend some autobiographies. Though these can be triggering and graphic, the few i've read have helped me understand my selves better. Truddi Chase, Kim Noble, Christine Pattillo... Three different people with 3 starkly different experiences and ways their disorder works with them.
I also recommend TV segments and documentaries. Kim Noble's artwork, Kim Noble's Interview (though not as good), this Netflix Doc (though outdated and slightly misinformational as well as talks to abuse apologists at the "false memory institute".), Truddi's Interview, and this old Documentary from the 90's about 3 different DID systems (old but informational, though triggering so please be careful).
I also recommend Special Books By Special Kids, an incredibly heartwarming group on youtube where a man goes and meets with people with disabilities / disorders and lets them talk about their life and experiences.
I've at least skimmed a ton of them, some are better than others. The ones I'd recommend are:
I too had been diagnosed with DID and worked with a therapist who had never encountered it before. It definitely was a learning experience for both of us. Fortunately my T was willing to learn and stick with me as we work through a lot of my sh*t. It definitely was a rough ride at times, and my T didn't always make the best or most helpful decisions over the years, but what I ultimately learned was to trust my gut and to speak up when something in the therapy or in the relationship didn't feel right for me.
Have you asked your T how much experience that her supervisor has had in regards to working with DID clients? Do you feel comfortable that your T will be getting some good support and input from this super? I would encourage you to have that conversation with her if you are not feeling good about this.
Also, in regards to your fear of having to address your trauma, you don't have to necessarily do that at this time. I would hope your T is focusing on getting you and your system to be more connected and co-concious so that you and your alters/parts are learning to acknowledge and except each other and their particular roles so they can work together as a unified system. After this is achieved, you may feel more comfortable about facing your particular traumas. And who knows, the trauma may naturally come up and be worked through as you get to know each of your alters/parts better.
Also, don't be so quick to write off other modalities or alternative therapies just yet. Body centred therapies are quite helpful for addressing complex traumas. When I got stuck in a rut with doing talk therapy and wasn't improving, but in fact slipping backwards in progress and worsening in my trauma symptoms, I started doing neurofeedback therapy in conjunction to my talk therapy and it was incredibly beneficial. It helped to calm many of my trauma symptoms, including my overall anxiety, emotional dysregulation, and dissociation unlike anything else to where I could finally start doing my talk therapy without becoming severely dissociated or triggered. I started to make a lot of positive progress in therapy and my healing after I started neurofeedback. Neurofeedback also helped me internally to become more connected with my system.
Also, if you haven't read these books yet, I highly recommend you get copies of them. You may like to share them with your T:
https://www.amazon.com/Dissociative-Identity-Disorder-Sourcebook-Sourcebooks/dp/0737303948
https://www.amazon.com/Coping-Trauma-Related-Dissociation-Interpersonal-Neurobiology/dp/039370646X/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?keywords=dissociative+identity+disorder+books&qid=1562834073&s=gateway&sprefix=Disociative+&sr=8-3