Reddit reviews The Everyday Parenting Toolkit: The Kazdin Method for Easy, Step-by-Step, Lasting Change for You and Your Child

This might be a good place to start. Kazdin is prolific in the field and this is his guide for parents of kids who don't necessarily have any real behavioral issues. I haven't read it, but one of my professors recommended it a while back.

https://www.amazon.com/Everyday-Parenting-Toolkit-Step-Step/dp/0544227824

Also, resources intended for positive parenting of disruptive kids are great because they're really just amped up positive parenting most of the time. :)

No, Love and Logic very strongly supports time outs. It is also terrible, IMO.

Some of the suggestions in the book are solid, but very much of it clearly not evidence-based and contradicts or ignores the research - FFS, until the 2006 edition came out they were still advocating spanking (their excuse is "we didn't know better in the 90's, but now the research is available" - sorry, research settled that one by the 70's). Rather than pointing to empirical evidence, every chapter starts with a bible verse.

There are suggestions to expel your kid from the vehicle and drive away to abandon him in the street of he misbehaves in the car (it's fine because you're secretly watching from outside of his view, right?), physically locking away your child, and all sorts of unseemly and harsh outdated recommendations. To be honest I couldn't even finish it - to date it's the only parenting book I've literally tossed in the garbage.

Read books that are actually evidence-based or at least thoughtful and noncontradictory with the current research. There's an incredible amount of research into parenting methods so there's no excuse for a book to recommend techniques that are ineffective or damaging.

If you want to parent using behaviorist techniques (reward/punishment methods, of which time outs are one), Dr Alan Kazdin is a former president of the American Psychological Association, current head of Yale's Parenting Center, and is a behaviorist researcher who knows his stuff - try one of his books. If you would prefer deeper problem-solving methods over surface-level behavioral manipulation (I'm in this camp in case my wording didn't make it obvious), I'd suggest Raising Human Beings (more useful outside the toddler years) and any of the How To Talk books (the original is almost 40 years old and still a solid classic, but I linked you to the newly released updated version written by the original author's daughter).

I just finished reading this book: http://www.amazon.com/Everyday-Parenting-Toolkit-Step-Step/dp/0544227824

The guy is a psychologist who runs the Yale Parenting Center and he writes about evidence-based approaches to fixing problematic behaviors. His basic point is that punishment doesn't actually work. Like it might work in the short term (yell at the kid, kid does what you want), but it doesn't stop the behavior from repeating. And if you do punish, anything more than a day or two of grounding a kid doesn't work at all and can in fact make things worse. His advice really goes against a lot of what we tend to think works. I've found it really eye-opening. It doesn't help you in the short term but it might be worth checking out!

Edit: I should have included what he says does work, which basically boils down to praising the shit out of the kid when he does something right. So like he listens 10% of the time? "Yes, thanks for doing what I asked, I really appreciate it, give me a hug," or just whatever works for your kid. Toddlers respond well to tons of over-the-top praise, teenagers tend to hate it, so you know what your kid likes. Rewards charts can work too. In general, reward good behavior and you'll tend to see more of it.