Reddit reviews The Monogamy Myth: A Personal Handbook for Recovering from Affairs, Third Edition
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Okay, whoa whoa whoa. Hold on a minute.
From the author’s bio:
Peggy's experience with BAN led to the insights she shares in a book (first published in 1989) called The Monogamy Myth. "The Monogamy Myth" does NOT mean that monogamy is a myth; it refers to a set of BELIEFS (myths) about monogamy that make it difficult for people to sustain their intention to be monogamous. The book challenges most of the prevailing attitudes and assumptions about the issue of extramarital affairs - and helps people be better prepared to either prevent affairs or to recover if it happens. (The third edition of the book was published in 2003, with the subtitle, "A Personal Handbook for Recovering from Affairs.")
“The Monogamy Myth”
Was written by Peggy Vaughan who was a revolutionary voice and pioneer in the field of affair recovery at a time when conventional wisdom was to treat affairs as “water under the bridge”.
She was NOT an evolutionary biologist, she was a stay at home mom until she graduated with a BA in Psychology at the age of 43.
I strongly suggest that anyone who has not read the book refrain from commenting positively or negatively.
If you have read the book and disagree with some her conclusions, then fine. I’ve read nearly every modern book on infidelity and none of them are worthless (not even chumplady, although I believe that is the least worthwhile book I’ve read).
Peggy Vaughan has helped literally thousands of couples recover from the traumatic affects of infidelity and her legacy can be traced to modern experts like Janis Abrams-Spring, Shirley Glass, Esther Perel, and Brad Robinson.
OP, I strongly suggest you read “The Monogamy Myth”, especially since your husband is reading it. My WS didn’t read much during reconciliation, but I made sure I read everything she did, just so that we could have an informed discussion about it.
Cheers.
I think this book, while it may not be perfect, can be a good resource. http://www.amazon.com/Monogamy-Myth-Personal-Handbook-Recovering/dp/1557045429