Reddit reviews The Right to Innocence: Healing the Trauma of Childhood Sexual Abuse: A Therapeutic 7-Step Self-Help Program for Men and Women, Including How to Choose a Therapist and Find a Support Group

We need to recognize how much of a burden trying to overcome things can be. We need to recognize that some people need more time than others before they can go head on into a fix. So patience is key. Many people going through what she is, will experience a conflict between wanting to feel their emotions and not wanting to.

Sometimes people use the doubts and guilt to blame themselves, as sometimes this gives them the “illusion” of control.


There is really no training for when rape happens and many people freeze up. Especially when its someone close to them or someone they love. That love can help betray their real emotions, and nullify the ability to “fight back”, since you don't naturally hit those ones you love.


Being able to deal with it on your own sounds good, but many times you need a third party to catch when the wrong mentalities are subbing in for a healthier one.


“She says she doesn't feel like she knows who she is anymore.”
Dissociation or “splitting off” is a way to control the pain of the abuse. In addition...
Time and memories can also be “lost”. But this is just another reason to attempt recovery.


Why should she aim for recovery? Higher Self-esteem. Improved relationships. Improved sexuality. Greater sense of control. Increased ability to understand , express, and release your emotions. Heightened Self-awareness. Staying grounded in the present. Developing healthier defenses. Peace of mind...


One of my favorite books on this subject is The Right To Innocence by Beverly Engel.

http://www.amazon.com/Right-Innocence-Childhood-Therapeutic-Self-Help/dp/0804105855/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1302560826&sr=8-1

They say its for children who were abused. But this book is one of the best ones with dealing with self-gilt and the feeling of helplessness. Only a penny + shipping.

Best of luck....