Reddit reviews When Good People Have Affairs

OP, I know exactly what you are describing. ^^This is how most of us deal with this situation if we feel guilty, by repressing it. /u/Philandrasarus has it right down below, try to calm yourself down, but if you are as worked up as you sound, you should probably not wait nearly that long to find a therapist to speak to. A good therapist will be completely unbiased, unjudgemental, and will help you talk through what YOU want. I can also recommend this book, someone very close to me actually recommended it to me when my shit started started to go down.

And then there's the community here. You will get lots of answers for how we all deal with adultery, no one of them will work for every person or every situation obviously, I think it's important to bring that up every once in a while.

Here's the article that got me thinking this way:

http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2012/01/10/hookinguprealities/the-eat-pray-love-divorce-trend/

My ex was a big fan of Eat, Pray, Love, as she was also a big fan of this piece of self-justifying bullshit:

http://www.amazon.com/Good-Leave-Stay-Step-Step/dp/0452275350

By the same author? Cheating is GOOD, don't you know!

http://www.amazon.com/When-Good-People-Have-Affairs/dp/0312563442/ref=sr_1_4?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1374344138&sr=1-4



I will admit that I'm bipolar, have ADD, take high-powered narcotic analgesics for pain daily, have sleep apnea, and smoke like a chimney; so, I'm not the most reliable of narrators nor am I much of a "catch." I should not, however, be pessimistic about the possibility of others finding ways to stay together and experience all of those positive things you mentioned above. In other words, you're right and I stand corrected: get married if you want! I still believe the man shoulders the majority of the risk but that's just how it is.

By the way, though I can't speak for golf or NASCAR, you really should give ballet a chance.

There is a book devoted to this whole topic. I recommend you read it. It is nonjudgmental. I suspect the advice you receive on here will be largely judgmental.

http://www.amazon.com/When-Good-People-Have-Affairs/dp/0312563442