Reddit reviews Will I Ever Be Free of You?: How to Navigate a High-Conflict Divorce from a Narcissist and Heal Your Family

No one should have to go what you did. If my STBX had a younger twin sister, you married her.

I am so glad you are getting out. Save this post somewhere because you will want to occasionally remind yourself what you were going through, when you start to forget the bad stuff and think maybe it was not so bad. Right now it looks like you are in emotional turmoil but at least you are breaking out of the fog. You also might find http://psychopathsandlove.com/how-to-never-get-involved-with-an-abuser-again/ useful. You already found /r/raisedbynarcissists so you might also want to visit /r/bpdlovedones

Since you have recognized codependent behaviors in yourself, you can use the advice in No More Mr Nice Guy (there is a pdf you can browse first) to work on that.

Two useful books on your upcoming divorce:

Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Will I Ever Be Free of You?: How to Navigate a High-Conflict Divorce from a Narcissist and Heal Your Family

I am about a year ahead of you, and my head is a much better place now. You can do it.

My best friend is going through a nasty divorce with a narcissist and so I got this to figure him out better. It’s informative if you’ve ever had a narcissist in your life (I haven’t really other than her EX and Mark). It’s called “ Will I Ever Be Free of You?: How to Navigate a High-Conflict Divorce from a Narcissist and Heal Your Family ” by Katy McBride.

I'd suggest you also get a copy of Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Be sure you get an attorney who has experience with "high conflict personalities" in divorce.

r/bpdlovedones

r/narcissticabuse

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Edit: Will I Ever Be Free of You?: How to Navigate a High-Conflict Divorce from a Narcissist and Heal Your Family
by Dr. Karyl McBride Ph.D.

My kids are 5 and 8, but I know my son already doesn't want to hang out with his mom and has started to confide in me to protect him from her. I hope he can be as courageous in front of a judge if it can help him keep his mother away from him.

>Did you ever read Splitting?

No, but I am about to start reading "Will I ever be free of you?"

> All the lonely people, where do they all come from? - The BPDs in that equation are the architects of their own loneliness.

Chicken or the egg, are they trolls because they are lonely, or are they lonely because they are trolls? :P